Why does

helping people out make them hate/disrespect or be disgusted with you?

so there's this case about this socialite ms. choi (cancer) who was murdered by her ex-husband and his family (skinned, dismembered and her remains/body parts were refrigerated/scattered/placed in soup). but even at the fallout of their relationship, this woman had been generous and continued to financially support the ex's family. it's almost like their dependence on her fostered hatred against this woman. another reason to get rid of her is to have her 2 kids with this evil ex inherit all she had.

another is actress tangmo nida (virgo) who gave a struggling mom the opportunity to become her manager, lets her live in her mansion and even adopted her daughter but this 'manager' (and someone she considers a long-time friend) exposed her to these powerful, well-connected men supposedly for sex and monetary gain (tangmo drugged, beaten, sexually assaultedthen left to drown with all these 'friends' in this small boat surrounding her for their own evil intents). another reason to get rid of her is to get the insurance associated with adopting the manager's daughter.

but even in ordinary circumstances, isn't this the natural order? if someone was more of an ahole, people would overcompensate with kindness like a child trying to get parental approval but the opposite, fosters disgust?

Money makes people greedy. The ex husband probably didn't mean to kill her or was in some kind of blind rage, but the whole family getting involved to cut her up and hide her is CRAZY!!!

Influencers can make a lot of money and their husbands can't say anything about it, they may feel helpless, especially in places where women are supposed to be subservient or submissive.

It's a recipe for greed and jealousy.

What makes a husband put his wifes head in a soup pot!?

Posted by Bumboklaat
Idk if its kindness at that point. I notice this with Virgo energy especially. Its like Jesus type sacrifice, I'll never understand it. I believe in balance so that people can be strong.


Not to mention the whole Cancer/Cap suicide mentality. Dark energies I'll never understand.

all signs i think come in 2 forms and you can see other sides of each of them too. but personally, i may not always be sympathetic but in practical matters, i can be kind to the point of disgusting. and i've never really had good experiences with that as i've complained about here multiple times. safer to be stuck-up than accommodating.

but now there's this person whose family's having a hard time and i'm turning into ms.

choi. maybe it's my pneumonia + these cases but it's making me look into the possibility that all those bad experiences were my fault. i lost control of those situations coz i'd let them go too far. then i feel like like a victim for what i refused to see as commom human nature. i think i'm more reasonable now tho and able to say 'no' when it gets too much. but i just can't stop myself completely, even when i'm not obligated. these people can take care of themselves up to now before me. but sometimes i think: 'i guess i was just useful and that's all there was to it.'

Posted by MonaLisa26
WHY are you even TRYING to understand cultures you know nothing about?

They still mostly undeveloped yet.

Thus crimes are horrific. On the level of their development…

🤡🤡

I don’t believe in life insurance

It just a reason for others to kill you

Being a doormat makes u a target for users and abusers. So no it’s not so much it’s human nature but more of that is what you will attract.

A criminal looks for easy victims period

So harden up so you don’t look like a good victim say no and set your boundaries

I’ve learned from consuming far to much true crime that if you don’t want to be horrifically murdered then avoid

a)being a beautiful person who lights up the room

b) taking out a life insurance policy

c) being a woman

I think we should wait and learn about individuals before we place them in places higher than what they are used to. Positions 'higher' or 'easier' require us to know and understand certain things first. Like, to be 'rich' or be in any particular status, there are lessons that must be learned or understood to be there.. Im not saying you necessarily have to earn it but you must definitely resonate first. If not, some people, if they are not taught those lessons and instead relocated or 'gifted' higher before they are ready, they can* dissipate and they can harm others. They can self-sabotage and maybe not appreciate it. They could continue to see things through a lens that is no longer appropriate nor recommended to even be there because frequency wise they are not a match and they are sent back

I think the word is resentful. Deep down, it's not the person they actually resent, but the situation they got themselves into. Some people project these feelings onto the person. If they don't make their resentment known, a lack of gratitude could be easily noticed.

It could also be that some people tend to offer money to adult family/friends/partners without being asked. It makes one ask if they are trying to "buy them" or "pay them back" or assert their (monetary) superiority, or have no idea how to spend their money...

For some reason, kindness attracts people who take advantage. So the kind person needs to be strong or else bad things happen.

In my opinion, people don’t truly want help and resent you if you do. It’s as if you are telling them that they aren’t good enough. In the end , it always backfires on you. But it’s too bad because we do need more kindness in the world.

Posted by PuzzlePieces
For some reason, kindness attracts people who take advantage. So the kind person needs to be strong or else bad things happen.


In my opinion, people don’t truly want help and resent you if you do. It’s as if you are telling them that they aren’t good enough. In the end , it always backfires on you. But it’s too bad because we do need more kindness in the world.

i suppose people react differently to certain things depending on how they'd gone about their own lives. personally, i'm thankful to people who help me out but also kind of embarrassed and want to evade them like 'this my personal problem alone.; but i don't think i've ever really hated them.

i've read this online too:

"In order to reduce the pain of this dissonance, the receiver may choose to vilify or denigrate the giver. By lowering the status of the giver, the receiver can reduce their sense of shame and recover a sense of self.:

Posted by Undine
I think the word is resentful. Deep down, it's not the person they actually resent, but the situation they got themselves into. Some people project these feelings onto the person. If they don't make their resentment known, a lack of gratitude could be easily noticed.


It could also be that some people tend to offer money to adult family/friends/partners without being asked. It makes one ask if they are trying to "buy them" or "pay them back" or assert their (monetary) superiority, or have no idea how to spend their money...

now that i had time to think,

wouldn't resentment come from a perceived injustice? like someone who committed some wrongdoing against you?

is coz of the disparity that it creates?