Why I As A Man, Have No Balls In Dating Women

Hi all, this is my first post here on DXP. Been lurking for a short while cause I had nothing to say or add till now.

I saw this article online and thought I would share and respond to it -

http://elitedaily.com/dating/men-pssies-women-need-start-asking-men-dates/746965/<BR>
Before I start, I would like to say I know there are great women out there. Any guy who says they're are not, have been staying inside playing World of Warcraft or jacking his beanstalk online too much.

But sadly there are women like the writer of this article who exist. And it is to these women this response goes out.

Hi Laura (Writer of Article) Let me tell you why I am less than manly when it comes to courting women. One, women send ambigious signals of interest.

You think a girl is interested then you approach and get the vibe she was only being friendly and not wanting to be rude. Or you think they are interested then they cut the conversation short and walk away.

They send the signal you're essentially being a creeper. There are guys who love the chase. And there are guys like me who are old and rusty who have no time for long distance running.

I like it when a woman who approaches and is direct about her attraction to me. Versus a woman who approaches but gives off the vibe of just being friendly and social. Essentially not knowing where you stand with her in terms of interest of being a friend or a potential to be something more.

I take care of my appearance. I try to be well groomed and dressed but not drifing into metrosexual Ed Hardy douchebag mode. Cliche, but I was a massive ugly duckling in school. I knew I wasnt much to look at. I never complained about it. I made the change to improve myself in appearance.

So I feel justification in wanting a partner who is attractive and emotionally healthy. Sadly you have women who work on their appearance but not on their character. To Be Continued...

Why I As A Man, Have No Balls In Dating Women

Just going by the topic title..you can always date men, as the safer of the two options.

Yeah Tiz but the topic title is very self-deprecating.

And "long distance running" is what life is made of in the end.

But unfortunately you have these type of women like the writer of the article who dont and are instead acting entitled being all about them.

BTW when I talk about attractive women (i dont mean just hot girls including cute girls as well) I am getting close to my mid-thirties now and know nothing is black and white.

Not all hot girls are mean, selfish, materialistic women (I'd say 100 % of models though are) But not all cute girls are nice. They can be just as bad as the hot girls.

That said. A lot (NOT ALL MIND YOU) of attractive women like the chase. They get approached by men all day long regardless of what this writer says.

They like men who are unavaiable. I can tell you from experience and my other guy friends we became more attractive to single women once we were in relationships.

Now sometimes girls dont know someone is taken. But a lot of these girls do as well. And they chase these men to get their ego validated.

Then there is us the single men who say once every 3 to six months gets genuine interest from a single girl. But yet, we are getting more interest from women who are taken.

I bet you if you asked half of the guys on DXP the percentage of women who were interested even though they were taken is much higher than the single ones.

A lot of single attractive women seek unhealthy relationships. EX: adulterous men, or ones who are emotionally or physically abuse women.

And then the ones who arent get the message we will never be seen as boyfriend material even though we are in their words "great guys".

Again not all women think like that but a high amount do. And why is it these women like the writer who expect the men to woo, have no problems doing so if a guy has the following.

Money, social status. I see so many of these "traditional" women act non so when they see a professional athlete, known musician, writer, and actor by themselves. Then they make a play for them.

Dating for women like the writer seems to be a way to validate their ego and a chance to play mental chess.

I used to be gentleman like (opening doors for women, flowers on the 2nd or 3rd date) but then I kept getting looks or responses that I was out of line for doing so.

So I gave up. Just as I have given up dating cause I am fed up with the bs involved. Instead if it just being simply "I like you, you seem to like me, so let's have fun and see where it goes with us. No pressure or expectations" it is

"hey, can you

Posted by NoOther74
Money, social status.

What is the difference between this and you thinking you deserve an attractive woman?

Posted by NoOther74
I used to be gentleman like

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A gentleman will still be a gentleman no matter how many feminazis he ecounters. You being gentleman "like" is a game in itself.

I don't disagree with a lot of things you say about mixed messages with women.

However I see people from both sexes just assuming they "deserve" without making a real effort. With women it's "he wasn't persistent enough", with men it's "i can't figure out if she's just friendly or not". We all find excuses to suit our agendas.

There will always be game players on both sides and people who play it for their ego..why concern yourself with those? That behavior will never disappear for some.

Anyway, I still believe good people find each other 🙂

"hey, can you go a little more on the Chris Brown tip please? I prefer emotional manipulation and a pimp smack when being courted"

So writer, it is women like you who scare guys off. Men dont want a TMZ Real Housewives type of life. And women like yourself makes men think they are all like that.

So yeah I will take my balls and promptly put them in the chair so I can get a happily ever after while watching "I'm Banging My Stepmom"

Pathetic? Absolutely. But no more so then engaging women like you in the last crusade for money and an upper cut to the face.

Hi Tiziani, thanks. I noticed Damata is in her mid 20's. She will know more about what you and I mean when she gets our age. Being older doesn't just bring wisdom, it brings diapers, viagra, and duck lips.

Heh... here's her problem:


"After too many nights spent in bars ... "

"Why Women Need To Start Asking Men Out??_Because Men Have No Balls"

I absolutely agree with noother...this broad sounds like some of the women here in dxp..a disgrumpled feminist bitch whose been burned, feels entitled as a result, and probably is pro friends with benefits to fix that nasty ego she's got going on only to get burned again and again.

It's these women that men need to stay away from or didn't know better and already had their balls cut off in a divorce courtroom. So yea...men are guarded as a result and I don't blame them one bit! It absoluely sucks for women like me who were raised old school and know that you let the man wear the pants when it comes to dating. I'm not at all surprised when I'm being sized up by a guy whose thinking "is she a feminist bitch or is she a keeper"? I feel what those eyes are saying and what the guy is thinking. Again, I can't blame him. Not to sound like a broken record, but until women start behaving like a lady and drop the she-man bullshit, they might just be approached. Until then..you will have pissed off entitlement articles from dim wits like this.

Posted by NoOther74
"hey, can you go a little more on the Chris Brown tip please? I prefer emotional manipulation and a pimp smack when being courted"

So writer, it is women like you who scare guys off. Men dont want a TMZ Real Housewives type of life. And women like yourself makes men think they are all like that.

So yeah I will take my balls and promptly put them in the chair so I can get a happily ever after while watching "I'm Banging My Stepmom"

Pathetic? Absolutely. But no more so then engaging women like you in the last crusade for money and an upper cut to the face.

Hi Tiziani, thanks. I noticed Damata is in her mid 20's. She will know more about what you and I mean when she gets our age. Being older doesn't just bring wisdom, it brings diapers, viagra, and duck lips.

lol....

Posted by LetltB
"Why Women Need To Start Asking Men Out??_Because Men Have No Balls"

I absolutely agree with noother...this broad sounds like some of the women here in dxp..a disgrumpled feminist bitch whose been burned, feels entitled as a result, and probably is pro friends with benefits to fix that nasty ego she's got going on only to get burned again and again.

It's these women that men need to stay away from or didn't know better and already had their balls cut off in a divorce courtroom. So yea...men are guarded as a result and I don't blame them one bit! It absoluely sucks for women like me who were raised old school and know that you let the man wear the pants when it comes to dating. I'm not at all surprised when I'm being sized up by a guy whose thinking "is she a feminist bitch or is she a keeper"? I feel what those eyes are saying and what the guy is thinking. Again, I can't blame him. Not to sound like a broken record, but until women start behaving like a lady and drop the she-man bullshit, they might just be approached. Until then..you will have pissed off entitlement articles from dim wits like this.

Yes......

I love you.

Posted by LetltB
feminist bitch.

That's pretty much what I picked up from the article.
Plus, she probably gives off an unapproachable vibe, and guy is going to pick up on that. Thus, no dates.

Just looking at the responses, I think a lot of people seem to be seeing the —blame?? for the from opposite confusing sides.

I'm a 33 yro healthy woman, I guess I'm attractive as I get considerable attention regarding my appearance. I'm kind, definitely not a feminist, and slightly old fashioned in how I think men should behave/relate to me and vice versa. Yet I struggle. Everyone asks why I can't find someone etc. Men in this country are don't seem well rounded/normal/sane. I can't seem to meet an equally attractive man, with principles in my age range that doesn't just want a FWB arrangement, one night stand, or extra maritalish sort of affair.

You get the city/stock market/banker types that have an UGLY Ego the size of Iceland and too much money to know what to do with. Their self-centred attitude stinks so bad it's repulsive. Yet females run after these...

There are the online dating/socially retarded males that complain they can never meet a nice pretty woman, its women that are crazy/difficult etc. but then behave like sexually frustrated creeps and predators

Then you get the Good looking player. And why not right he has a handsome face nice gym body. So he's in his mid-thirties and is not —ready for a relationship??. Which I guess this translates —I just want to have casual sex with lots of different women and invest absolutely NOTHING in getting to know them as humans beings, give them affection and understanding, or treat them like anything other than a disposable sex toy??. Apparently these types and now called Spornosexuals? Yet again females run after these...

Then you get the average/regular guys that are so intimidated by females (rightly so in a lot of instances) that they just don't bother and play X-box all night and get drunk every weekend

I'm generalizing to make a point. I know not all men are like the above. NoOther, good women struggle with finding the right fit too. As Impulsv said saints shouldn't be punished for sinners. Just be the best man you can be. When you meet a woman don't be led by her outward appearance. Focus on knowing her soul and mind. Be clear of your intention and believe her actions as well as her words. If you??re not happy move away from the situation with Integrity. Be a kind person no matter what. This is the best action any good person man or woman should take xx

Posted by CapTenn

Yes......

I love you.

Right back at you..

Posted by NoOther74
A lot (NOT ALL MIND YOU) of attractive women like the chase. They get approached by men all day long regardless of what this writer says.

Hi Tiziani, thanks. I noticed Damata is in her mid 20's. She will know more about what you and I mean when she gets our age. Being older doesn't just bring wisdom, it brings diapers, viagra, and duck lips.


Damnata may be in her mid 20's but she's a smart young lady with a ton of common sense and wise for her years. Wit like a sharp knife too so be careful! She can take care of herself but I feel like I have to stick up for her 🙂
P.S.
I'm part of the rusty and old club too but I don't wear diapers nor do I have duck lips and I love a gentleman 😉

I don't know why it posted like that. First paragraph is OP's words

Posted by jeannegrey

The movements intention was never for women to TAKE CONTROL and dominate men, it was for the two to exist together in a complimentary, yet equally valuable way.

I say bullshit ^^ to that notion. (no offense to you..I've heard this ^^statement before). Many women are out of control (outside of equal opportunity in jobs) when it comes to relationships, dating and and ACTING like a lady. The bra burning got carried away, and the only thing left in these same women is ashes of what was once self respect. The sloppy, bitchy entitlement and high demanding attention ho bullshit is now starting to backfire. These same women find themselves alone time and time again and wonder why. No sympathy at all.

Men are figuring this out...slow but sure and it takes more time to make sure the women they are courting aren't one of those women.. who can blame them?

Posted by jeannegrey

Posted by starlover
It is about women and men having equal rights

This. This is all it is. It is not about submission or domination or control of one sex or group over the other.

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That was the INTENT, not necessarily the result.

To be clear.

Posted by jeannegrey

Posted by CapTenn

Posted by jeannegrey

Posted by starlover
It is about women and men having equal rights

This. This is all it is. It is not about submission or domination or control of one sex or group over the other.

That was the INTENT, not necessarily the result.

To be clear.

EXACTLY. Well said.

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Yeah, well .... I meant it in the way that you wouldn't approve of. 😉

Black and white, night and day, up and down, woman and man...can't have one without the other, both equally important, both must be provided for balance.
So simple...smh

You have issues if you feel like writing such a detailed response to some random on the internet and their strange views.

Posted by lcrc
Just looking at the responses, I think a lot of people seem to be seeing the —blame?? for the from opposite confusing sides.

I'm a 33 yro healthy woman, I guess I'm attractive as I get considerable attention regarding my appearance. I'm kind, definitely not a feminist, and slightly old fashioned in how I think men should behave/relate to me and vice versa. Yet I struggle. Everyone asks why I can't find someone etc. Men in this country are don't seem well rounded/normal/sane. I can't seem to meet an equally attractive man, with principles in my age range that doesn't just want a FWB arrangement, one night stand, or extra maritalish sort of affair..


.....I'm generalizing to make a point. I know not all men are like the above. NoOther, good women struggle with finding the right fit too. As Impulsv said saints shouldn't be punished for sinners. Just be the best man you can be. When you meet a woman don't be led by her outward appearance. Focus on knowing her soul and mind. Be clear of your intention and believe her actions as well as her words. If you??re not happy move away from the situation with Integrity. Be a kind person no matter what. This is the best action any good person man or woman should take xx

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+1

It also amuses me that when a woman writes an article about her dating woes, she's at fault, but if a guy does, everyone backs him up and gangs up on the moron women he comes across.

Both genders come across some real assholes and both are guilty of being retarded in who they choose to date/where they choose to find dates. I hear guys whine about their lack of love life, yet they frequent clubs and bars. I hear women complain about theirs and they frequent clubs and bars. Yet neither seem to realize that clubs and bars aren't exactly known for being prime quality relationship oriented places.

Sure, dating is all about seeking options and weeding them out til you find an adequate partner, but some places/individuals are just going to keep you running around in circles as long as you keep frequenting them.

And for those who go the route of condemning an entire gender for the faults of a few by turning into a 5 year old with their own behavior- they're no better than those who they whine about.

Unless of course one has read the entire article the OP shared to conclude, she's simply a pissed off feminist bitch. It is what it is.

Posted by starlover
I wouldn't call any other woman a bitch ~ we are in trouble if we don't support each other

Some women just have more to learn i guess (don't all of us)



🙂

If you won't call bullshit on you own gender (when warranted), then you cannot possibly be taken seriously.

Posted by starlover
I have noticed you follow me around and even go into threads you are not interested in like the strap on one, so you can take a pop at me

Can you stop if please....it is quite weird

Don't flatter yourself.

I was in this thread before you -- and SEVERAL days ago to boot.

Besides that, you participate in every thread. It's kind of hard not to be where you are at some point. It's not my problem that you are full of shitty, misguided opinions.

Posted by starlover
Then ignore me if you find me so annoying and find my opinions not pleasing to you


lol

Nah.