Would you be suspicious if...

Your partner didn't have any same sex friends? OR any friends at all?

Like the guy who has all female friends only OR the guy who doesn't have any male buddies at all?

Personally, I find both scenarious highly suspicious!

Posted by DazedScorp
Does that go for women with all male friends also?

I would say no. And I only say that because most of my friends are women. And although I have slept with the majority of them, it hasn't kept other women from dating me. If I had a problem with a woman having all male friends, I'd be a hypocrite.

Well you said the magical words. You've slept with most of them, therefore most of your friendships with them are hardly platonic.

It's the notion that if you just so happen to coincidentally have all male/female friends, that you probably are or have used them for more than "Friendship benefits" if ya know what I mean. And this can really mess up a new relationship.

Someone like me likes to know that my partner can be honest about who/what he considers a "friend." But moreso, I get suspicious of individuals who have NO friends. Their reasons for why they don't almost always never add up or make sense.

And this discussion isn't just limited to the guys. Women too. I'm not saying there's anything technically "wrong" with a woman having all male friends, BUT for the fella dating that particular young lady, I'm sure he'd appreciate if most of her friends WEREN'T all guys she boned!

Posted by LeFruitDeMonImagination
Suspicious of what?

Moreso of a person who doesn't have any friends

I dont have any female friends. I cut them all off because they were idiots. Nothing suspicious about it. I prefer male company. Im single at the moment but if I was with a guy who was suspicious then I would explain the above to him and if he still had a problem it is easily solved by him not being with me.

I have also at some point fooled around with most of my males friends, once again if the guy had a problem with that then he shouldnt be with me. A guy with all female friends doesnt bother me, A guy with no friends would not make me suspicious but I would hope that doesnt mean he thinks he's going to be hanging out with me all day every day lol

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Posted by krysrenee7

Posted by LeFruitDeMonImagination
Suspicious of what?

Moreso of a person who doesn't have any friends

You are repeating yourself, what's your point?

Someone doesn't seem to you to have friends, so = ..... for you (in your arrogant opinion)?

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Screw you. I answered your question, now didn't I?!

I'd be suspicious of someone who has no friends at all b/c there's a high probability that something may be wrong with them. It's b/c there's probably a reason (negative) that no one on the globe wants their friendship; that's not normal or in my eyes, a good thing.

I'm not saying that we all oughta have 500 friends, but having NO one at all indicates that the person has issues relating to others or vice versa & in terms of seeing that person as long-term potential, I'd naturally question if he even had the social skills or willingness to relate to me

Posted by LeFruitDeMonImagination
why are you asking ppl here, not yourself?

You're not making any sense. Most of the questions we ask others on this site are technically questions we can ask ourselves. Sorry to break it to ya, but the whole point of this site is to get OUTSIDE opinions & points of view on certain things.

I wouldn't want to be suspicious, but I would be lol. The majority of my close friends are men, but I only had sexual contact with one of them. This makes me say don't be suspicious. However, with a man, I would think he did something sexual with the female friends so I'd be suspicious. But I couldn't speak on it, because then I'd be a sexist lol.

Posted by LeFruitDeMonImagination
I'm not sure what the point of this site is, you don't own it, so it's just your perception, for me it's more of a fun & hook up thing, ahahaha .. really, do you know much about Astrology, krysrenee7?

Why phony it up then?

Oh damn, you're right! I forgot one other "purpose," of this site. IT's also for people like you who come to posts & answers all the poster's questions with questions...for people who change the subject or try to knock the poster for posting certain topics (which is odd considering if this topic didn't interest you, you could've just as easily skipped over it), but instead people like you come to pick a part everything someone says all just for the purpose of starting an argument or a war of words.

Thanx for reminding me!

Yes because I tend to see men who have alot of women friends have alot of women issues and I see women who have man friends alot of man issues.

I'm not saying it's like that all the time but its pretty often.

I think it's important to befriend your gender. You have alot in common. Idk just saying.

I just don't think your full of shit krysrenee I totally get why your asking that

Posted by Sagittarius89
Yes because I tend to see men who have alot of women friends have alot of women issues and I see women who have man friends alot of man issues.

I'm not saying it's like that all the time but its pretty often.

I think it's important to befriend your gender. You have alot in common. Idk just saying.

Yeah I agree. I think girls who friend only guy friends are seeking attention they can only get from the opposite sex. This usually equates to daddy issues. Same goes for men with only female friends. These people aren't always the best to get in a relationship with because they seek a lot of attention and can be either needy or they could possibly cheat on you.

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by Sagittarius89
Yes because I tend to see men who have alot of women friends have alot of women issues and I see women who have man friends alot of man issues.

I'm not saying it's like that all the time but its pretty often.

I think it's important to befriend your gender. You have alot in common. Idk just saying.

Yeah I agree. I think girls who friend only guy friends are seeking attention they can only get from the opposite sex. This usually equates to daddy issues. Same goes for men with only female friends. These people aren't always the best to get in a relationship with because they seek a lot of attention and can be either needy or they could possibly cheat on you.

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Bullshit. I like men because they do not bitch behind your back, they tell you straight how it is, they arnt secretly trying to steal your boyfriend, they can take a joke, they do not constantly ask if their ass looks fat etc etc. I am not friends with them for sexual attention. I have guy mates so that must mean my daddy never loved me? *eye roll* Speaking of my dad he has mostly female friends, guessing someone had better run and tell my mum (who he has been happily married to for 25 years) your comments so she can realise that that he is a needy attention seeking cheat haha

Posted by Let*It*Be
"Assumptions are like termites...ever hear that expression? You are (since you are here for opinions) one judgemental person in my opinion as well as assuming, and need to examine some of the stuff you put "out there" in these forums and ask yourself WHY. Don't you ever wonder why people here give you flack? ?

So I'm not judgmental when I agree with what everyone says, but yet the min. I disagree, I'm all of the sudden judgemental? Rightttttt.

I thought you knew me well. If there's 1 thing you oughta know about me it's that I could careless how SOME people feel about my posts. I'm just like everybody else on this site who posts a question, gives my own personal opinion on the matter & then asks everybody else for their opinion. This is not a popularity contest, nor do I care that I catch alot of "flack."

You're damn right I "assume" sometimes. You'd be a liar if you claimed that you never do. Me "assuming" that someone with no friends is suspicious is NO DIFFERENT than me "assuming" that someone whose cheated on all of their ex's will probably do it again in the future.

@LibraSun: I can identify. I have lots of male friends, but I also have an equal amount of female friends too. Sure, females can be petty & caddy, but in my experiences, there's nothing that ladies will do that men aren't also willing to do too. However, I do tend to have longer, stronger & better friendships that are based on understanding & loyalty with my male friends.

If the majority of the people on this earth could have platonic friendships with the opposite sex, that'd be 1 thing. But 1 thing I find interesting is that most people don't/can't. And I can totally understand why a new partner coming into that kind of person's life would be a little skeptical or atleast observe more closely who that person calls their "friend."

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Posted by happykitsune

Posted by Sagittarius89
Yes because I tend to see men who have alot of women friends have alot of women issues and I see women who have man friends alot of man issues.

I'm not saying it's like that all the time but its pretty often.

I think it's important to befriend your gender. You have alot in common. Idk just saying.

Yeah I agree. I think girls who friend only guy friends are seeking attention they can only get from the opposite sex. This usually equates to daddy issues. Same goes for men with only female friends. These people aren't always the best to get in a relationship with because they seek a lot of attention and can be either needy or they could possibly cheat on you.

Bullshit. I like men because they do not bitch behind your back, they tell you straight how it is, they arnt secretly trying to steal your boyfriend, they can take a joke, they do not constantly ask if their ass looks fat etc etc. I am not friends with them for sexual attention. I have guy mates so that must mean my daddy never loved me? *eye roll* Speaking of my dad he has mostly female friends, guessing someone had better run and tell my mum (who he has been happily married to for 25 years) your comments so she can realise that that he is a needy attention seeking cheat haha

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Sounds like I touched on a sore subject for ya

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by libra sun

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by Sagittarius89
Yes because I tend to see men who have alot of women friends have alot of women issues and I see women who have man friends alot of man issues.

I'm not saying it's like that all the time but its pretty often.

I think it's important to befriend your gender. You have alot in common. Idk just saying.

Yeah I agree. I think girls who friend only guy friends are seeking attention they can only get from the opposite sex. This usually equates to daddy issues. Same goes for men with only female friends. These people aren't always the best to get in a relationship with because they seek a lot of attention and can be either needy or they could possibly cheat on you.

Bullshit. I like men because they do not bitch behind your back, they tell you straight how it is, they arnt secretly trying to steal your boyfriend, they can take a joke, they do not constantly ask if their ass looks fat etc etc. I am not friends with them for sexual attention. I have guy mates so that must mean my daddy never loved me? *eye roll* Speaking of my dad he has mostly female friends, guessing someone had better run and tell my mum (who he has been happily married to for 25 years) your comments so she can realise that that he is a needy attention seeking cheat haha

Sounds like I touched on a sore subject for ya

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Nah your just a prime example of why I dont like women 😛

Ive only noticed females with only male friends, not so much the other way around. The reason is always the same, they get along better with men. If im dating someone and thats the case i do notice it, i dont know if it makes me suspicious. If they are flirty maybe, they way i see it if they are your friends then you would treat them the same regardless of gender. My point being wouldnt flirt with a female then why would you flirt with a male? There shouldnt be a difference.

i make few friends or none at all. from high school, there were only few i hanged out with like two, and at work, now none at all. you meet people, but they come and go. i'm just busy with work. i don't have the time. im really a loner.

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Posted by libra sun

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by Sagittarius89
Yes because I tend to see men who have alot of women friends have alot of women issues and I see women who have man friends alot of man issues.

I'm not saying it's like that all the time but its pretty often.

I think it's important to befriend your gender. You have alot in common. Idk just saying.

Yeah I agree. I think girls who friend only guy friends are seeking attention they can only get from the opposite sex. This usually equates to daddy issues. Same goes for men with only female friends. These people aren't always the best to get in a relationship with because they seek a lot of attention and can be either needy or they could possibly cheat on you.

Bullshit. I like men because they do not bitch behind your back, they tell you straight how it is, they arnt secretly trying to steal your boyfriend, they can take a joke, they do not constantly ask if their ass looks fat etc etc. I am not friends with them for sexual attention. I have guy mates so that must mean my daddy never loved me? *eye roll* Speaking of my dad he has mostly female friends, guessing someone had better run and tell my mum (who he has been happily married to for 25 years) your comments so she can realise that that he is a needy attention seeking cheat haha

Sounds like I touched on a sore subject for ya

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Right...I didn't mean to offened. Anyway yea kits

Posted by libra sun

Nah your just a prime example of why I dont like women 😛

If that's your way of coping with the truth then that's just your way. I won't hold it against ya

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by libra sun

Nah your just a prime example of why I dont like women 😛

If that's your way of coping with the truth then that's just your way. I won't hold it against ya

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you have spoken no truth, only given your opinion which I disagree with.

Posted by dreamer23
Im always baffled when women say they dont like other women. Yes, SOME women can be catty, gossiping man stealers. But those women wouldn't be the type one would choose as friends anyway. Hard to believe that a woman cant find ONE female that would be a suitable friend. As to the original question, I wouldn't date a man with ALL female friends because the probability of fuckery would be considerably higher IMO.

I agree 100% . There's nothing wrong with a woman relating to mostly/only males, BUT having literally NO female friends at all?! Oh please! When I hear women say this, I think, um no YOU are probably the one that's petty, jealous, caddy & all about drama! It's a 2-way street! What these women leave out is that the majority of women stay away from them TOO & the reason(s) for that can't be good reasons!

Who you surround yourself around says alot about yourself. So what do we say about those who have no one? I find it hard to believe that the average & normal human being is perfectly fine w/o any friends. Even loners have freakin' friends! If you have no friends, chances are it's b/c YOU are the problem, moreso than everyone else. I find it hard to believe that out of 9 billion people on this earth, a woman can't find ONE female that would be a suitable friend! I don't buy it!

Posted by Let*It*Be
" BUT having literally NO female friends at all?! Oh please! When I hear women say this, I think, um no YOU are probably the one that's petty, jealous, caddy & all about drama! It's a 2-way street! What these women leave out is that the majority of women stay away from them TOO & the reason(s) for that can't be good reasons!"

Really?...how many women do you personally know who have not one female friend? I've been around for a bit, I don't know of any. The same with guys..everyone I know has a friend.

Ha! I've met a few people that have literally NO friends. We all live in the same world, but we all know different people & live through different experiences.

To say that all women are 1 way (negative) is the same as saying that YOU must be the same way too! But I bet you'd disagree & dispute all of those things. So I have to give credit to other women & assume that while yes, there are plenty of fakes, that NOT every woman is that way.

Same with guys. I've seen guys do the very same thing to their female friends that women complain about their female friends doing to them. Guys aren't excempt from being petty, all about drama, fake, etc. Guys can be deceptive, fake & not genuine in their friendships too just like they can be in relationships.

It's 1 thing to relate mostly to men b/c you grew up around them, but it's another thing to have exposure to both genders & yet purposely put down your OWN gender. Technically if "all" women are something, that includes YOU too. But when people turn that back around on us, we never wanna hear it & we always deny it!

female with all male friends= code for shes a ho

"i dont get along with other females"

LOL