Wtf is wrong with me?!

I met this Capricorn man. He's very handsome. Nice complexion, gray eyes... He has a nice personality. We connected instantly when I met him. Maybe it my Mars in cap? Anyways, after he asked me out and we exchanged numbers. I wanted to cry, because I started thinking about the last guy that I was dating. The cap called me the next day, and he noticed that I was very short with him. He asked what's wrong. He said that I was very pleasant with him and I laughed at all his corny jokes the previous day. I told him I was okay, just a little tired. He continued talking saying that he wanted to hang out with me and do this and that. He had plans.. But I felt bad. That's the last time I heard from him. *sighs* wtf is wrong with me?! And where did the tears come from?

jfc .... it's because of emotionally insecure and weak women like you as why good men can't find a partner.

How did I know that you're bitter rat face ass would be the first to comment? You stay on my shit? Get a life bitter bitch.

I can't stand bitter human beings. I can take Crisitism all day long, but you really have a problem. Seek professional help, please. That's all that I'm saying to you. Enjoy yourself. _—

You're so full of emotional baggage that you can't even manage to meet a nice person without you attempting to hold him responsible for your bullshit.

Don't worry, so long as you remain this stupid about yourself, this incident will be quite frequent .... as you gain experience in being ignorant to yourself, it will become easier, until one day, it won't bother you at all, and you won't have any qualms going to forum and writing to random people that you are clueless as to why you have no control over yourself.


Look this day arrived.

Lol! _— and you realize the bullshit that you do? When you can get your shit together and realize the things that you do, then give me advice. Until then, stfu. You should be the last person saying that someone is not a nice person. Have you looked in the mirror lately?.... Guess not. At this moment, I do give a care about what you have to say. Take your negative energy to another thread. Thanks for your advice anyway. Have a nice day. Enjoy yourself...again. ??

Don't give* ewwww typo

Momentary lapse of reason - we've all been there. Call him.

Posted by Noreallynow
I met this Capricorn man. He's very handsome. Nice complexion, gray eyes... He has a nice personality. We connected instantly when I met him. Maybe it my Mars in cap? Anyways, after he asked me out and we exchanged numbers. I wanted to cry, because I started thinking about the last guy that I was dating. The cap called me the next day, and he noticed that I was very short with him. He asked what's wrong. He said that I was very pleasant with him and I laughed at all his corny jokes the previous day. I told him I was okay, just a little tired. He continued talking saying that he wanted to hang out with me and do this and that. He had plans.. But I felt bad. That's the last time I heard from him. *sighs* wtf is wrong with me?! And where did the tears come from?

You do realize that no one else can honestly answer this question but you, right? Perhaps take the time to actually figure this out on your own and you will be better off going forward with any person. Is there a reason you have trouble doing this (e.g. difficulty processing your feelings, afraid to really look at yourself/past behaviours that led you here)? I have difficulty sitting with my feelings for too long for a number of reasons, but I still put forth the effort to self reflect.

PS, the hint may be in the very words you wrote above right after "I wanted to cry because..."

Posted by SingASong41
Why don't you take some time to really heal and be with your self so it doesn't happen again? Build your self esteem and self love.

Was the last relationship recent?

I don't think it would be fair to the cap if you're still feeling this way, tbh.

I don't think it would be fair either. That's why we're not speaking. We only had one conversation after I gave him number. As far as healing go, getting over the guy, yes. i love myself. I don't have self esteem issues. I just miss the guy. I think that made me realize that I really loved him.

Hmm, I got the impression that you were over your ex. If you're not or if something else is bothering you, then ofc you need to heal from that first.

Maybe I got this pre-concieved notion from a discussion I had with a friend the other day about just suddenly starting to cry without even knowing the reason for it. Maybe there was a tiny trigger, but surely not enough for a crying session. I've had two. In my case it actually served me at the time, while being completely awkward since I really don't want to get my way just because I'm crying. Just saying it could happen.

But only you know how it really was in your case, so I guess you need to figure that out. Good luck!

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Posted by Noreallynow
I met this Capricorn man. He's very handsome. Nice complexion, gray eyes... He has a nice personality. We connected instantly when I met him. Maybe it my Mars in cap? Anyways, after he asked me out and we exchanged numbers. I wanted to cry, because I started thinking about the last guy that I was dating. The cap called me the next day, and he noticed that I was very short with him. He asked what's wrong. He said that I was very pleasant with him and I laughed at all his corny jokes the previous day. I told him I was okay, just a little tired. He continued talking saying that he wanted to hang out with me and do this and that. He had plans.. But I felt bad. That's the last time I heard from him. *sighs* wtf is wrong with me?! And where did the tears come from?

You do realize that no one else can honestly answer this question but you, right? Perhaps take the time to actually figure this out on your own and you will be better off going forward with any person. Is there a reason you have trouble doing this (e.g. difficulty processing your feelings, afraid to really look at yourself/past behaviours that led you here)? I have difficulty sitting with my feelings for too long for a number of reasons, but I still put forth the effort to self reflect.

PS, the hint may be in the very words you wrote above right after "I wanted to cry because..."

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I self reflected. I sat and thought about it. I have no problem looking at myself. I'm always the first to admit when I'm wrong and when I have a problem. I'm very in tune with my feelings. The tears just came all of sudden. It just surprised me.

You are not over your last disappointed, its simple.

Are you thinking *how dare i let this handsome cap man go!?* cause i don't see the big deal here. It happens. Usually you realize you are not ready before the date, but even after, it happens.

Posted by Noreallynow

Posted by PhoenixRising
You do realize that no one else can honestly answer this question but you, right? Perhaps take the time to actually figure this out on your own and you will be better off going forward with any person. Is there a reason you have trouble doing this (e.g. difficulty processing your feelings, afraid to really look at yourself/past behaviours that led you here)? I have difficulty sitting with my feelings for too long for a number of reasons, but I still put forth the effort to self reflect.

PS, the hint may be in the very words you wrote above right after "I wanted to cry because..."

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I self reflected. I sat and thought about it. I have no problem looking at myself. I'm always the first to admit when I'm wrong and when I have a problem. I'm very in tune with my feelings. The tears just came all of sudden. It just surprised me.

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Try being more patient with yourself then. Something isn't quite settled and you may be rushing to "make" yourself feel okay. I don't think anything just happenes out of no where. I think your body (or spirit) was telling you that you missed a step on your way to "moving on from the ex", something you were trying to ignore. There's no shame in crying. Beating yourself up for having that type of response will only prolong whatever needs to be worked out. The real shame will be if you ignore what happened (which you don't seem to be doing) to "be okay" sooner than you really are.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Noreallynow

Posted by PhoenixRising
You do realize that no one else can honestly answer this question but you, right? Perhaps take the time to actually figure this out on your own and you will be better off going forward with any person. Is there a reason you have trouble doing this (e.g. difficulty processing your feelings, afraid to really look at yourself/past behaviours that led you here)? I have difficulty sitting with my feelings for too long for a number of reasons, but I still put forth the effort to self reflect.

PS, the hint may be in the very words you wrote above right after "I wanted to cry because..."

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I self reflected. I sat and thought about it. I have no problem looking at myself. I'm always the first to admit when I'm wrong and when I have a problem. I'm very in tune with my feelings. The tears just came all of sudden. It just surprised me.

Try being more patient with yourself then. Something isn't quite settled and you may be rushing to "make" yourself feel okay. I don't think anything just happenes out of no where. I think your body (or spirit) was telling you that you missed a step on your way to "moving on from the ex", something you were trying to ignore. There's no shame in crying. Beating yourself up for having that type of response will only prolong whatever needs to be worked out. The real shame will be if you ignore what happened (which you don't seem to be doing) to "be okay" sooner than you really are.

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Yes, I miss him and I actually realize that I'm the reason that we may not be speaking. We both did our share of bad things, but above anything, he did respect me, but because he didn't appear to be as perfect as he made himself seem or how I saw him. I started being critical and jumped on him. It wasn't my right to do some of the things that I did. I walk around here like whatever. The saying that you don't realize what you have until it's gone, is true.

Posted by Noreallynow

.... he did respect me, but because he didn't appear to be as perfect as he made himself seem or how I saw him. I started being critical and jumped on him.

Oh, so of course I was right, as usual.

You dumped your bullshit on him.

Because you can't handle the weight of your emotional baggage, you attempted to make him responsible for you.


It's because of cunts like you that nice men can't find a decent woman.

How did I know that this bitter bitch would comment again? Damn. You can't help yourself, can't you? You comment on every thread that I post. Stop stalking me! Damn. Dxp really needs to do a better job with blocking someone. This shit is ridiculous.

You are maybe alittle scared to open up..
So step back away from this guy. Just distance yourself for a couple weeks. Gather your thoughts, calm down, listen to music(bjork), and chill and relax.. And just think about what you want in a guy or yourself. You're crazy to have treated him like that.. and you'll push the best thing away.... if you don't know how to change. Ask him what he doesn't like about you, and fix it within your self...

Even I as a bullette, is hard to make changes.. but it is doable and change is sometimes better..

But really jot down some things that are positive and negative ..like soul searching, erase the memories of your past relationship and start over fresh...Work on your self...and then apologize..

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
You are maybe alittle scared to open up..
So step back away from this guy. Just distance yourself for a couple weeks. Gather your thoughts, calm down, listen to music(bjork), and chill and relax.. And just think about what you want in a guy or yourself. You're crazy to have treated him like that.. and you'll push the best thing away.... if you don't know how to change. Ask him what he doesn't like about you, and fix it within your self...

Even I as a bullette, is hard to make changes.. but it is doable and change is sometimes better..

But really jot down some things that are positive and negative ..like soul searching, erase the memories of your past relationship and start over fresh...Work on your self...and then apologize..

I wasn't afraid to open up. He introduced himself and told me where he was from and I started the conversation. I'm a sociable person. I stated earlier that I missed the guy that I was dating previously. I thought about him a lot before the cap and I still think about him now. It has nothing to do with soul searching or working on myself. I know exactly who I am and I'm very happy with myself. I wasn't crazy to do him like that. I actually did the right thing. I wouldn't want to date anyone else when and not be over another guy. That's selfish. I want that individual to have all of me, not part of me. Missing someone doesn't mean that you have issues. It's natural.... Common. The cap and I only had two conversations... That's it.

Posted by Noreallynow

It has nothing to do with soul searching or working on myself. I know exactly who I am and I'm very happy with myself.

I wasn't crazy to do him like that.

I actually did the right thing.

I wouldn't want to date anyone else when and not be over another guy. That's selfish. I want that individual to have all of me, not part of me. Missing someone doesn't mean that you have issues. It's natural.... Common. The cap and I only had two conversations... That's it.

It full of excuses. No matter what anyone says to you .. you have excuses lined up to justify to yourself how fucked up you are for doing that to the guy.

In fact, it was actually ... the wrong thing to do.

Bu, you aren't going to accept that you did anything wrong. But, you are going to make damn sure you reiterate over and again that you didn't do anything wrong ... when in reality, you targeted this innocent man, when the only thing he did wrong was not live up to your unrealistic expectations.

You're more fucked up than I originally thought. Now, it becomes obvious that you refuse to hold yourself accountable for your own actions.

Hopefully, you won't close this thread, so the next time you come in here crying, I can tag this so that everyone responding realizes that you are the problem.

Do as you please. I don't care. I don't give a fuck about you, but I feel so sorry for you. Does coming online and talking down to people make you feel good about yourself? You a miserable, bitter woman. It's so sad. You're so quick to point out the issues that other people have, but you never take a look at yourself. You're just so negative. You never said anything nice to anyone. The reason why you always come to my thread is because you love that I give you the attention that you seek.... Not only from me, but from others. what's crazy is that you speak as if what you say or how you feel is suppose to change how someone lives or how they feel. For you to even think that you have that much impact on someone's life, is ridiculous. Most people don't even pay attention to what you say because you're a nasty bitch. It's funny because now you want to tag my thread. Go ahead. I don't care. It feels good to know that I'm the highlight of your day and that you are constantly waiting for me to post something so that you can respond. You're pathetic. Again, seek professional help. I won't respond to you anymore. This is the last bit of attention that you will be getting from me, troll. I have you on ignore. Have a nice life. _??__—