Your best friend flirts with your ex......

what would you do? Especially if he/she knows that it hurts you and they continuously do it. In the past they've been asking you question about your ex. Asking what is it about him/her? How is the sex? Would you flag it? Or pass it? How would you deal with the situation...

I'm surprised you would call someone with no regard for your feelings and just a lack of moral boundaries, in general a friend!?!

That would be a serious conversation had with said 'friend' very soon!

Posted by Ssupes
id tell them to go for it. hes an ex for a reason.

Was thinking the same.

Posted by Noreallynow

... it hurts you ...

How would you deal with the situation...

You're carrying baggage around, that's not her problem.

You're not a very good friend, apparently.

If she's been alone for a long time so I could say she has had little luck with love, then I'd say let them try it. Love is a good thing after all.

Otherwise
it is of course a big burdon to have the ex in your face.
I am good with my exes but I don't see them regularly.

We answered this on the Scorpio board. Go to Burger King.

Posted by Noreallynow
what would you do? Especially if he/she knows that it hurts you and they continuously do it. In the past they've been asking you question about your ex. Asking what is it about him/her? How is the sex? Would you flag it? Or pass it? How would you deal with the situation...

you still have very strong feelings for your ex??

if you do, any one dating him would hurt you very much. but it is more criminal if it's your gf doing it.

i wonder why your friend doesn't feel you are hurt by it. Does she not feel how hurt you are??

or maybe she is trying to let you get over him? Heck i dont know.

This person is your ex. You need to obliterate him from your life/soul. It's gonna kill you.

this reminds me of the "Drop Dead Diva" episode, where Stacy and Owen (Owen is the main character's ex-fiance,)
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but the thing is, is that she has Always loved Grayson, so the feelings for Grayson was never gonna go away.

now if Stacy had gone after Grayson that would be indeed criminal. And unforgivable. In this case, while Owen was still an ex, almost married him, she was not that much in love with him in the same depth as Grayson.

While in a relationship with the guy, why is it even cool to ask how he is in bed? And ask what it is that people like about him? He was a nice guy. If She was speaking to her friend and he walks by, she stares at him and ignores what the friend is saying. Then pays attention to everything he does or wears. In the past when the girl and her boyfriend had arguement a and the girl friend stops speaking to him for days, he would walk up to her and her friend while they were together and say things to the friend to get a reaction out of the girlfriend. He would flirt, stare, and walk up on the friend and look at the girlfriend and smirk. He then came back with a friend looked at his girlfriend and him in his friend started laughing loudly. The girlfriends-friend was pissed then, because she realized that she was just a pawn in a little scheme. After that happened, she went to her friend and talked to her friend about it and the friend would say it's okay. He's acting out. Don't even pay him any attention.

I'm sorry, but a true friend would've said something to him. You don't do your friends like that. They were in a relationship when this happened. Everytime he got pissed at her, he would do that. So, she left him. After, the relationship ended. He would say something to the friend. She would flirt, but he went on after that. Doesn't even look at her friend anymore or speak to her, she said she told him hey once and he ignored her.

She still speaks to her friend, but they're not as close as they use to be. I don't blame her. Why would you hurt your best friend? If you knew what his intentions was, why did you go a long with it? That shows that you didn't give a fuck about her. And while she was in a relationship with the guy. Sorry, I would've beat her azz and cut her off. Then after it was over she told the girlfriend that he tried her, saying he was staring at her. I told the girlfriend that the friend was lying. If he wanted her, he would've approached her and asked her out. He never did, even after yall ended the relationship. In fact, he ignored her after yall broke up. Where the fucc do these people come from? I told her she need to cut her off.

Posted by starlover
It just goes to show how desperate some women are to get a man

Very sad

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Especially when you're going after your friends leftover.

Posted by starlover

Posted by Noreallynow

Posted by starlover
It just goes to show how desperate some women are to get a man

Very sad

+1

Especially when you're going after your friends leftover.

Yes indeed, doesn't that just reek of a very desperate woman ~ any old dick will do


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The ex girlfriend and boyfriend are in their 20s, the friend is in her 50s.... Wtf! Smh..

1. either you're talking about yourself in the 3rd person, so you can continue to wallow in your self pity, AND so you have an avenue to give more of your energy to an asswipe. Which is actually typical of an insecure woman, who is so desperate to have a man that she talks about exes, as if they have value.

or


2. this is about someone else, and you're gossiping about someone else's business. I doubt this scenario though, because you know too much about the intimate details.


or


3. you are the friend who was moving into another woman's territory (which would explain why you know the specific and intimate details), and you just wanted to set up the scene for your audience to believe your plot when you lay it out in here.

Tell your friend to enjoy the sloppy seconds. It's always great to donate used toys to the needy. Then close with "by the way I'm on an a'hole diet so we're done here. Have a nice life."

That's not a friend.

Wait this isn't you? I'm so confused here. Are you one of those attention hookers?

Posted by kissmygrits
Tell your friend to enjoy the sloppy seconds. It's always great to donate used toys to the needy. Then close with "by the way I'm on an a'hole diet so we're done here. Have a nice life."

That's not a friend.

Lol!!! I'll tell her.

Leftovers and sloppy seconds.

Really?

Unless you are a virgin, you are sloppy seconds, or leftovers, for the rest of your life.

Those terms are butthurt language.

My best friend is an Aries chick. We have completely different tastes in people.

We talked about this once, and neither of us would have any problem with the other dating an ex.

What if one of my exes and my friend would be a really good match? Why have an issue with it?

Posted by CapTenn
Leftovers and sloppy seconds.

Really?

Unless you are a virgin, you are sloppy seconds, or leftovers, for the rest of your life.

Those terms are butthurt language.

You're right, but I wouldn't be sloppy seconds... I also wouldn't do my friend like that.

No problem.. I have nothing to do with my ex's or their lives,more power to my buddies.

I think you know that your friend & your ex crossed boundaries & lines that weren't supposed to be crossed. You didn't need us to tell you what your mind, heart & instincts already told you.

As for next time...
It's inappropriate for ANYONE to ponder about your intimate sex life with your partner. When you're young, you talk about that stuff with your 'girls' but you'll learn quickly as you start to grow just how bad of an idea that is...not b/c telling them will guarantee that they'll want to love or sleep with them...but b/c you should already get in the habit of allowing your relationship & partner the dignity of keeping some things b/w the 2 of you only, anyway.

So the next time you get a new boo, let anyone, especially friends have only their imagination & not front row seats to your sex life b/c you feel the need to tell your business. Let them be curious, and not in 'the know.'

Secondly, the fact that she picks the 1 guy on earth out of billions of men she could flirt with or ask questions about, she picked the 1 who just so happens to be your ex AND to have issues with boundaries too. She's not your friend. I don't believe your poker face is that good that she can't tell it's bothering you.

If someone knows that something bothers you, then they will do whatever in their power to make sure they give you no legitimate reason to feel that way, once it's been known or obvious that it bothers you. And if she sees the discomfort in your tone & the uncomfortable look on your face, then she should get the hint.

She knows it's inappropriate. So don't lie to yourself by thinking she must not know any better. She knows exactly what she's doing honey. It's just that when someone isn't really that loyal to you, they really don't care that they're crossing boundaries at your expense.

Even if this about those 2 didn't bother you, you still only deserve the kind of friends who would know better anyways.

Do yourself the favor & let both of them have each other. In the mean time, get you a new boo & a new friend =)

Posted by tiziani
I saw her first.

Love it




but to answer to OP...I wouldn't try to stop her-she's free to do as she pleases...but there's so many people in the world, is it really necessary? I would question the motive there.

Posted by size zero superhero
Does dating someone afford us a lifetime proprietary mandate over said individual--which as their ex, requires your pre-approval for whom they enter subsequent relationships with, flirt with or fvc.k post-breakup?

I think not. JFC, behold this unwarranted sense of entitlement.

Do yourselves a favor: let go & butt out already. Obsessing over who, your ex associates with after the relationship has ended is an unhealthy fixation, not to mention totally creepy.

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