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my sagittarius cannot stop bothering me about things such as i always have to be around him and i cannot talk to anyone else. He gets hurt if i talk to someone else at the moment more than i do with him. He gets hurt by his own thoughts. Him thinking i'm cheating on him when there is no relations to a particular situatoin where it would lead to him speculating, i cannot talk to another guy without him questioning me. "so how are you and what are you doing? cheating on me lately?"

I have no clue why he is this way. He wasn't like this before, but now he seems to be attached to me. I feel that i cannot even move, feel alittle suffocated. I always try to reassure him but he's always worrying. He says he loves me so much that he doesnt want to lose me, but how is he going to go to the step of trusting when he's so stuck with being paranoid? I dont know what to do?

I am surprised at Mr. Saggitarius being a little cling-on-ish and jealous...they are not known for that - they ususally love to party, meet new people etc. etc. I think the bottom line is your Mr. Sag. is lacking in self-confidence...something has happened to knock his belief in himself and to see himself as second to nobody, which everone of us are...as there really is nobody else like us in the world, past, present or future - but to get to nuts and bolts of how you might help him and help yourself in the process....if it's over-the-top stuff, maybe counselling....or maybe you taking yourself out of his world for a short while might make him see how things really are...encourage him to go out with his friends and I suppose maybe the best thing is to try to get himself to laugh at himself big-time...next time he says something like "you cheating on me" - repeat it back to him in a silly voice - keep repeating it - till maybe he sees how silly he is being.....it's frustrating and tiring and draining for you to be in this situation all the time too Luz - but you be true to yourself, do what you have to do kid. Good luck.
alana x

Yes, you're right alana! very much so, he has been lacking in confidence, he wasn't like this before, before he was this guy who went with the flow, and had this 'not give a treetrunk' attitude about him. I think everyone worries at some point, regardless of their sign. But he's going over the limit in my opinion. Last night, i talked it over with him and told him he's being silly, that there's nothing to worry about. I hope he got the message and relaxes for a bit?

I think maybe this has to deal with his step dad and possibly some insecurities that have grown into something huge. I dont think anyone can be 100% confident or 100% insecure. Nobody is really perfect in any area, it all varies. But i guess the only thing i can do is be there and keep trying? but he has to try also.

well good luck.

thanks o_O

If I were you Luz, I would ask him "how would you feel if I constantly interrogated you, made you feel guilty for nothing, and implied you were cheating on me?"...hold up the proverbial mirror and make him contemplate the effect his words are having on you and the relationship. It is unfair to you, to have to constantly basically defend yourself, and it is unfair to him to constantly worry about you being unfaithful. The problem is...if you haven't given him any reason to mistrust you, then it's basically his fault that this issue even exists. I've dealt with interrogative/jealous boyfriends before, and the best thing you can do is size up whether or not "it's worth it" to be put under a microscope all the time. It's either worth it, or it isn't...but there is a chance that he'll curb his interrogative tendencies if you hold up a mirror to him and ask him to refrain. This doesn't have to be fatal to the relationship, but it could be if he doesn't relax.

he does feel bad for it and is trusting me more these days, but everyone does it once in awhile but he just used to do it like...everyday. But i'd rather want this because it shows how much he loves me instead of finding out that he is losing his interest for me because he really is something special. He's gradually lessened the constant attacks of paranoia. But you know what? it's funny when i get worried at times and yet he acts as if he has never even been like that before when he has done it 10 times more and 10 times worse. So like you said pheonix, i hold that mirror right up to his ass(because he might just turn his back again) and he realizes what a jerk he's being at the moment 🙂

Things are going fine though these days. We're going good once again 🙂 ups and downs, there's no cross overs ne?

saggitarians are known for going to extremes..aren't they?

mosty involving sex.

a virgin here.

i don't know sloane, had any experiences with them?

Well Luz, I just ended a frienship with a Saggie or rather--he ABRUPTLY ended it with me--not wanting to "talk things over". But--this person has deep, dark emotional problems, is neurotic, hateful--a bonafide misanthropist and possibly a sociopath! He was a very negative, criticising person and as I am telling you this--you are probably wondering what the heck was i dojng with this guy? I don't blame you. I gave this a "second chance" after having a fall out with him 3 years ago...anyway, to cut to the chase...I have another Saggie friend who tends to be a little extreme in his perceptions of people, ethnicities and races but altogether a very smart, friendly guy. I once was best friends with a saggie girl in high scholl-- the WORST friend I ever had next to the sociopath. I want to like Saggies but...I guess there are some doozys out there...

I live with one they can be a bit tring at times, she gets on the cheating kick now and agian, mostly if were at the pub and I talk to another woman. It also depends on how much drink is involved. She gets pissed I think of it as forplay.

that sucks sloane, i think i knew a sag like that once, he was REAAAAAAAAAALLY emotional and he took things WAY out of line. but i guess we cant expect all sags to behave the same way.

well...most women would probably react that way in that situation james. i think.

for just talking to someone. I mean its not like I am asking her to shag me or anything. Its not even flarting its just talk about weather work stuff like that. I think she is just keeging me in check.

most likely! she must not want to lose the tate, how sweet.

I have also noticed that some Saggies can't make up thier minds--very wishy-washy--and the books say that Librans can't make up thier minds!!! Au contrare. Enough to make you nuts.

hahaha that's so my boyfriend, he cant seem to make up his damn mind about things!! and i get fustrated because i ask him what he wants to do because i dont want to do something that wont make him have fun, since i like everyone around me to have fun and them having fun makes me have fun because either way, anything is amusing to me.

they say that sag's are generally not jealous folks. But most sag's ive known seem to possess a jealous streak. I think they just generalize that for them because they place sag's as careless with relationships. But i think anyone would be jealous in certain situations and what not if they took the relationship seriously. Because i knew that before his past relationships, he didn't really care for it as much, so he didn't really care what happened.

speaking of his dad(who is an aquarius) let me just say, he takes things way out of line for no apparent reason. Infact, i dont even think he has a good one. Just yesterday, me and him were talking on the phone and my boyfriend locked the door since he didn't want anyone to bother him. His dad kicks the door numerous times and breaks the lock and tells him to come over to where he is to help him with something. Whatever happened to knocking?

"His dad kicks the door numerous times" - Hey luz...I think this is an aquarian thingg about kicking doors!!...see my post to Freebird on the Aquarius site re. me and kicking doors!!! Oh god!!!!

Oh my God Luz... the jealousy factor---Okay now--it's true! So my Saggie friend really IS envious! I guess it's true.

I have been going out with a Saggie for the past few weeks and he is SOOOOO analystical and always wants to hang out. That is so cool, but I do go out with other people, have other interests, commitments. He is so sensitive too, I feel like if I am not careful I might break him. I have always heard LEOs and SAGs are a good match, but I don't know about this one..........I am probably destined to be the weird auntie with 89 cats 😛

heh so with that said, maybe our rising sign does play a lot in our personality!(well that's what espernaut showed me) about how our sun sign is our ego and how we would want to be. And our rising sign is our true personality, but most of the time we show it to our closest buddies.

but then again, maybe astrologers should think about changing the info on sag's a bit..

Yeeaahh. I would have to go along with that after what I had experienced with one a few weeks ago.