Can someone please explain this behavior?

Why does a Sag guy send you pictures showing what he is doing out of the blue through FB Messenger, but when you reply, he either takes hours to reply back (even if he is active on Messenger), or does not reply at all. Then, send you another picture the next day. This is driving me nuts. We are just classmates. He went home for Christmas last Friday and began to do this weird shit since he was on the flight. Yesterday, I got a picture of a Korean bbq menu from him. WTH? And today I saw him on Messenger and asked him if he has the phone number of another classmates cuz I want to invite her to do something over the holidays. He ignored me again. That's really annoying. Can someone please explain? Thank you!

So far I have got pictures of the Costco, the gloomy skies in Atlanta, bubba tea, TV screen from a doctor's office playing some stupid advertisement, busy traffic on the highway, and the Korean bbq menu. He took all the pictures himself. Ugggg. Why does he take random pictures to send me but not say a word.

Posted by Seleukos
He is bored.

Don't overthink it.

I guess he IS bored. But don't you think it is kinda rude of him to ignore my reply?

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Posted by Seleukos
He is bored.

Don't overthink it.

I guess he IS bored. But don't you think it is kinda rude of him to ignore my reply?

Sure but Sagittarius isn't known for its politeness.

Besides it's somewhat working isn't it. 😛

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Uggggggggg ture.

But I don't like to be ignored for no reason, especially if it is the other person who initiated the contact =.=

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Posted by Seleukos
He is bored.

Don't overthink it.

I guess he IS bored. But don't you think it is kinda rude of him to ignore my reply?

Why do you respond if he ignores you?

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That is a good point. Maybe I will ignore him back.

Posted by UnicornSag
You did something lol

I ignored someone only cause I was mad at him...yes I know he can't read my mind lol but he did something so I did it yo him for that reason. Why that guy does that is cause it's working, he's annoying you

I don't know what I did wrong! Why were you mad at the person?

Whatever the cause is, I guess it is working. I AM annoyed.

It’s probably by accident. Butt dial senerio. Maybe his phone is fucking up.

Posted by LadyNeptune
It’s probably by accident. Butt dial senerio. Maybe his phone is fucking up.

If this is the case, he def needs to get a new phone asap before all his friends are mad at him lol

I think your not responding right away. When he is sending them he isn't busy and yes, could be bored and thinking of you.

By the time you get around to responding he's busy again until the next time he does the cycle all over again.

People get so offended when someone contacts them when they are bored. Lol. It's hilarious. When was the last time you were in the.middle of having fun or on some adventure and stopped in the middle of it to text or make a phone call??

Everyone communicates when they are bored lol

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Posted by LadyNeptune
It’s probably by accident. Butt dial senerio. Maybe his phone is fucking up.

If this is the case, he def needs to get a new phone asap before all his friends are mad at him lol

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Lol just a hypothesis. It is weird af.

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You did something lol

I ignored someone only cause I was mad at him...yes I know he can't read my mind lol but he did something so I did it yo him for that reason. Why that guy does that is cause it's working, he's annoying you

I don't know what I did wrong! Why were you mad at the person?

Whatever the cause is, I guess it is working. I AM annoyed.

We talked every day,he wasn't online that night so I just left message to when he sees. In the morning I see he read it ut no response. Later he's online,still no response. So he sees me talking in group and then writes to me and I ignore him and keep talking in group. That was what happened in my case

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Ahh I see. Yea, I think you were being reasonable there haha.

The only thing I can think of that is of similar nature is that he's supposed to be my best friend in my cohort but since he's gone for the holiday, I have been inviting other classmates to do things together. Maybe he considers it as a lack of loyalty? I don't know. Would that bug you? I mean, if you are out of town and then your friend tells you he/she invited someone else to go to dinner parties together, that sort of things?

Posted by saggurl88
I think your not responding right away. When he is sending them he isn't busy and yes, could be bored and thinking of you.

By the time you get around to responding he's busy again until the next time he does the cycle all over again.

People get so offended when someone contacts them when they are bored. Lol. It's hilarious. When was the last time you were in the.middle of having fun or on some adventure and stopped in the middle of it to text or make a phone call??

Everyone communicates when they are bored lol

Yea, I can see that if he's in the middle of a group dinner (I mean, who'd go to an All You Can Eat Korean bbq alone, right?), even if he sent me a picture, he probably didn't really want to talk right at that time. I don't always see his message right away, but I did see that Korean bbq picture right away and responded right away cuz I was online. But I guess you just explained his behavior. Haha thanks. I just checked the time stamps and he texted me back in 2 and a half hours after he sent me the Korean bbq menu. I guess if he texted me at the time he got the menu then it makes sense that he ate for 2 hours and then took another 30 minutes to get home before he texted me back.

I think you may have just solved the puzzle there. thank you so much! 🤗

Posted by SpaceBird
You are not on his mind when he doesn't reply.

I guess so LOL

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You are not on his mind when he doesn't reply.

I guess so LOL

Well don't worry about it..like who is he? It's not like his life is so interesting. 🙂

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I like the way you think haha.

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Posted by saggurl88
I think your not responding right away. When he is sending them he isn't busy and yes, could be bored and thinking of you.

By the time you get around to responding he's busy again until the next time he does the cycle all over again.

People get so offended when someone contacts them when they are bored. Lol. It's hilarious. When was the last time you were in the.middle of having fun or on some adventure and stopped in the middle of it to text or make a phone call??

Everyone communicates when they are bored lol

Yea, I can see that if he's in the middle of a group dinner (I mean, who'd go to an All You Can Eat Korean bbq alone, right?), even if he sent me a picture, he probably didn't really want to talk right at that time. I don't always see his message right away, but I did see that Korean bbq picture right away and responded right away cuz I was online. But I guess you just explained his behavior. Haha thanks. I just checked the time stamps and he texted me back in 2 and a half hours after he sent me the Korean bbq menu. I guess if he texted me at the time he got the menu then it makes sense that he ate for 2 hours and then took another 30 minutes to get home before he texted me back.

I think you may have just solved the puzzle there. thank you so much! 🤗

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He's a Sag so you can be blunt and tell him to stop sending you random ass texts if he's not gonna answer any of yours. It will make him a little more mindful to text back.

Or it will have the opposite effect and he won't text randomly and send them to you. Lol.

Next time he sends you something just reply “lame”

sometimes people have a recipients list and send photos to several addresses.

did he mention your name in the body of the post? in case you're talking about emails.

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You did something lol

I ignored someone only cause I was mad at him...yes I know he can't read my mind lol but he did something so I did it yo him for that reason. Why that guy does that is cause it's working, he's annoying you

I don't know what I did wrong! Why were you mad at the person?

Whatever the cause is, I guess it is working. I AM annoyed.

We talked every day,he wasn't online that night so I just left message to when he sees. In the morning I see he read it ut no response. Later he's online,still no response. So he sees me talking in group and then writes to me and I ignore him and keep talking in group. That was what happened in my case

Ahh I see. Yea, I think you were being reasonable there haha.

The only thing I can think of that is of similar nature is that he's supposed to be my best friend in my cohort but since he's gone for the holiday, I have been inviting other classmates to do things together. Maybe he considers it as a lack of loyalty? I don't know. Would that bug you? I mean, if you are out of town and then your friend tells you he/she invited someone else to go to dinner parties together, that sort of things?

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If it bothers him - there is something wrong with him!

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Posted by saggurl88
I think your not responding right away. When he is sending them he isn't busy and yes, could be bored and thinking of you.

By the time you get around to responding he's busy again until the next time he does the cycle all over again.

People get so offended when someone contacts them when they are bored. Lol. It's hilarious. When was the last time you were in the.middle of having fun or on some adventure and stopped in the middle of it to text or make a phone call??

Everyone communicates when they are bored lol

Yea, I can see that if he's in the middle of a group dinner (I mean, who'd go to an All You Can Eat Korean bbq alone, right?), even if he sent me a picture, he probably didn't really want to talk right at that time. I don't always see his message right away, but I did see that Korean bbq picture right away and responded right away cuz I was online. But I guess you just explained his behavior. Haha thanks. I just checked the time stamps and he texted me back in 2 and a half hours after he sent me the Korean bbq menu. I guess if he texted me at the time he got the menu then it makes sense that he ate for 2 hours and then took another 30 minutes to get home before he texted me back.

I think you may have just solved the puzzle there. thank you so much! 🤗

He's a Sag so you can be blunt and tell him to stop sending you random ass texts if he's not gonna answer any of yours. It will make him a little more mindful to text back.

Or it will have the opposite effect and he won't text randomly and send them to you. Lol.

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That's good to know. Most of my friends have a "glass heart"-- I mean, super sensitive to criticism.

I will make sure to let him know when he annoys me again 😆

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You did something lol

I ignored someone only cause I was mad at him...yes I know he can't read my mind lol but he did something so I did it yo him for that reason. Why that guy does that is cause it's working, he's annoying you

I don't know what I did wrong! Why were you mad at the person?

Whatever the cause is, I guess it is working. I AM annoyed.

We talked every day,he wasn't online that night so I just left message to when he sees. In the morning I see he read it ut no response. Later he's online,still no response. So he sees me talking in group and then writes to me and I ignore him and keep talking in group. That was what happened in my case

Ahh I see. Yea, I think you were being reasonable there haha.

The only thing I can think of that is of similar nature is that he's supposed to be my best friend in my cohort but since he's gone for the holiday, I have been inviting other classmates to do things together. Maybe he considers it as a lack of loyalty? I don't know. Would that bug you? I mean, if you are out of town and then your friend tells you he/she invited someone else to go to dinner parties together, that sort of things?

I doubt that's the reason. I don't mind really that much. I mean I can be possessive about my friends but won't go crazy over them hanging out with other people too lol I did have once some rage about that to my bff but it was literally only time I ever did something like that and actually am too much forgiving sometimes, all for the sake of peace. Maybe he wanted something more than friends? Maybe he's not even mad or think he's ignoring you and has some weird things going on his mind, who knows lol

but saggurl gave you good advice, be blunt with him and confront him about it. Sags don't mind it and actually like that

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I don't know what's going on on his end for sure. In person, he is always happy and friendly towards everyone. He didn't send me any random things today so I guess I will let it go this time 😆

I will confront him if he begins to do this weird thing again.

Posted by Moonbutter
Next time he sends you something just reply “lame”

Are you sure I won't get yelled at by sending that? 😆

Posted by DwellingOnMove
sometimes people have a recipients list and send photos to several addresses.

did he mention your name in the body of the post? in case you're talking about emails.

It's FB messages. But you bring up a good point. If he's sending pictures to many people on FB, it's probably hard for him to track who he has responded to and who he has not.

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You did something lol

I ignored someone only cause I was mad at him...yes I know he can't read my mind lol but he did something so I did it yo him for that reason. Why that guy does that is cause it's working, he's annoying you

I don't know what I did wrong! Why were you mad at the person?

Whatever the cause is, I guess it is working. I AM annoyed.

We talked every day,he wasn't online that night so I just left message to when he sees. In the morning I see he read it ut no response. Later he's online,still no response. So he sees me talking in group and then writes to me and I ignore him and keep talking in group. That was what happened in my case

Ahh I see. Yea, I think you were being reasonable there haha.

The only thing I can think of that is of similar nature is that he's supposed to be my best friend in my cohort but since he's gone for the holiday, I have been inviting other classmates to do things together. Maybe he considers it as a lack of loyalty? I don't know. Would that bug you? I mean, if you are out of town and then your friend tells you he/she invited someone else to go to dinner parties together, that sort of things?

If it bothers him - there is something wrong with him!

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AWWWW thank you! 🤗

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Posted by DwellingOnMove
sometimes people have a recipients list and send photos to several addresses.

did he mention your name in the body of the post? in case you're talking about emails.

It's FB messages. But you bring up a good point. If he's sending pictures to many people on FB, it's probably hard for him to track who he has responded to and who he has not.

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If he is involved in many actions, he will most likely set priorities and dedicate time only to respond to family or at least mother. and let friends for a later time or even after everything has settled.

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Posted by DwellingOnMove
sometimes people have a recipients list and send photos to several addresses.

did he mention your name in the body of the post? in case you're talking about emails.

It's FB messages. But you bring up a good point. If he's sending pictures to many people on FB, it's probably hard for him to track who he has responded to and who he has not.

If he is involved in many actions, he will most likely set priorities and dedicate time only to respond to family or at least mother. and let friends for a later time or even after everything has settled.

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We are good now. Thank you! haha

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You did something lol

I ignored someone only cause I was mad at him...yes I know he can't read my mind lol but he did something so I did it yo him for that reason. Why that guy does that is cause it's working, he's annoying you

I don't know what I did wrong! Why were you mad at the person?

Whatever the cause is, I guess it is working. I AM annoyed.

We talked every day,he wasn't online that night so I just left message to when he sees. In the morning I see he read it ut no response. Later he's online,still no response. So he sees me talking in group and then writes to me and I ignore him and keep talking in group. That was what happened in my case

Ahh I see. Yea, I think you were being reasonable there haha.

The only thing I can think of that is of similar nature is that he's supposed to be my best friend in my cohort but since he's gone for the holiday, I have been inviting other classmates to do things together. Maybe he considers it as a lack of loyalty? I don't know. Would that bug you? I mean, if you are out of town and then your friend tells you he/she invited someone else to go to dinner parties together, that sort of things?

I doubt that's the reason. I don't mind really that much. I mean I can be possessive about my friends but won't go crazy over them hanging out with other people too lol I did have once some rage about that to my bff but it was literally only time I ever did something like that and actually am too much forgiving sometimes, all for the sake of peace. Maybe he wanted something more than friends? Maybe he's not even mad or think he's ignoring you and has some weird things going on his mind, who knows lol

but saggurl gave you good advice, be blunt with him and confront him about it. Sags don't mind it and actually like that

I don't know what's going on on his end for sure. In person, he is always happy and friendly towards everyone. He didn't send me any random things today so I guess I will let it go this time 😆

I will confront him if he begins to do this weird thing again.

Ah who knows what's going on in Sags minds sometimes 🙂 we tend to look so open like nothing is behind and can also keep a whole shit load to ourselves lol this summer I shocked my friends when I opened up to talk about my feelings after years of keeping it to myself, they literally starred at me lol and all could only say "Whaaaat?But I thought everything is perfect and clam with you and ..."

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Yea, I still cannot read his mind. However, I sent him a LONG message (several paragraphs) just to tell him how much I appreciate his friendship and him as a person. I think he was pretty happy about it and sent me a long message back. This morning he sent me a message to wish me merry Christmas when I was still asleep lol Also, he responded to messages within 10-15 minutes today so I guess even if I still have no idea what was up with him, we are good now. haha. Thank you so much for your help!

BTW, what made you open up to talk about your feelings? Any particular triggers? Him and I are good friends but he usually just keeps the conversation light hearted. He did tell me a little bit about his family and that his dad had a fall and is not working now, that sort of things.

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You did something lol

I ignored someone only cause I was mad at him...yes I know he can't read my mind lol but he did something so I did it yo him for that reason. Why that guy does that is cause it's working, he's annoying you

I don't know what I did wrong! Why were you mad at the person?

Whatever the cause is, I guess it is working. I AM annoyed.

We talked every day,he wasn't online that night so I just left message to when he sees. In the morning I see he read it ut no response. Later he's online,still no response. So he sees me talking in group and then writes to me and I ignore him and keep talking in group. That was what happened in my case

Ahh I see. Yea, I think you were being reasonable there haha.

The only thing I can think of that is of similar nature is that he's supposed to be my best friend in my cohort but since he's gone for the holiday, I have been inviting other classmates to do things together. Maybe he considers it as a lack of loyalty? I don't know. Would that bug you? I mean, if you are out of town and then your friend tells you he/she invited someone else to go to dinner parties together, that sort of things?

I doubt that's the reason. I don't mind really that much. I mean I can be possessive about my friends but won't go crazy over them hanging out with other people too lol I did have once some rage about that to my bff but it was literally only time I ever did something like that and actually am too much forgiving sometimes, all for the sake of peace. Maybe he wanted something more than friends? Maybe he's not even mad or think he's ignoring you and has some weird things going on his mind, who knows lol

but saggurl gave you good advice, be blunt with him and confront him about it. Sags don't mind it and actually like that

I don't know what's going on on his end for sure. In person, he is always happy and friendly towards everyone. He didn't send me any random things today so I guess I will let it go this time 😆

I will confront him if he begins to do this weird thing again.

Ah who knows what's going on in Sags minds sometimes 🙂 we tend to look so open like nothing is behind and can also keep a whole shit load to ourselves lol this summer I shocked my friends when I opened up to talk about my feelings after years of keeping it to myself, they literally starred at me lol and all could only say "Whaaaat?But I thought everything is perfect and clam with you and ..."

Yea, I still cannot read his mind. However, I sent him a LONG message (several paragraphs) just to tell him how much I appreciate his friendship and him as a person. I think he was pretty happy about it and sent me a long message back. This morning he sent me a message to wish me merry Christmas when I was still asleep lol Also, he responded to messages within 10-15 minutes today so I guess even if I still have no idea what was up with him, we are good now. haha. Thank you so much for your help!

BTW, what made you open up to talk about your feelings? Any particular triggers? Him and I are good friends but he usually just keeps the conversation light hearted. He did tell me a little bit about his family and that his dad had a fall and is not working now, that sort of things.

Ah yeah, we and our long texts lol I send them all the time too lol

Opening up for me I'm not sure really. I felt the need to finally talk to someone about how I feel, when I started talking with this guy it was somehow overwhelming and made me feel alive again that I just had to talk to someone about it. And as I was in really long relationship before and never complained about things that bugged me in it, everyone was surprised to hear how I feel and they actually thought it was a done deal and I will marry that guy eventually. So did I think to, but then this happened and opened my eyes about what I was missing in that relationship.

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Thank you so much for sharing 🙂

Yea, relationships are the hardest. I thought I was for sure going to marry my most recent ex as well, but it just did not work out... 😭