Do You Guys Ever Get Jealous?

OK, I did post this in a comment to another thread; but I've known this Sagittarius(Dec 10) for over 15 years and we're right where we were 15 years ago. Amazingly, feelings are still as strong as they were then...Me? Leo(Aug 21)! So, I'm trying really hard to maintain a friendship with great "physical benefits", but he's being so freaking accommodating, nice, sweet, attentive and patient as you could imagine almost four months later.

He's said to me that if I was married or dating or in a relationship that it wouldn't matter he would take whatever I'd give him. I've never given him a reason to get jealous, never said anything about other dates and he gets most of my free time-hell almost all of it! Strategic Planning - He does that better than me! If I mentioned I'm going out I always offer to tell him its with my girlz.

This last time I didn't tell him who I was going out with and he calls the next day asking what am I doing Saturday evening? He could stop by...blah! blah! blah! I almost screamed because I felt he was asking whom I was going out with without asking the question.

Really! Sags never forget sh@t! So, I know he remembered me saying I'm completely unavailable on Saturday...Is this how you handle being jealous? Or is that jealousy? Or just being nosy? Or wanting to know without feeling vulnerable and just asking?

one of are greatest gifts is aloofness and whats makes it so great, we know how to play the aloof card and no one cold ever tell the difference.

cold = could.

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by DMV
one of are greatest gifts is aloofness and whats makes it so great, we know how to play the aloof card and no one cold ever tell the difference.

AKA: Yes we do but are always too proud to admit it.
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I don't get jealous in the same sense other girls do. I'm not really possessive or competitive (though in some sick way I kind of appreciate this quality in a man.)
I'm not bothered if he talks to/hangs around other girls, honestly

I just don't really appreciate rejection. (Who does?)
So if he's giving other girls more attention than me, I will assume he's just not that into me and I will withdraw myself from the situation and just remain friendly with him in a way where I don't expect anything from him.
It's not that I'm jealous of the attention he's giving other girls, I'm just not going to make someone a priority if I'm just plan B, or a fun way to pass time, etc.


& yes, I remember EVERYTHING.

I don't even give a shit if I see him checking out/flirting with another girl...

I don't worry about them, I'm not going to compete with them anyways.
If that's what he chooses, so be it.

Posted by LeoGal4Real

Really! Sags never forget sh@t! So, I know he remembered me saying I'm completely unavailable on Saturday...Is this how you handle being jealous? Or is that jealousy? Or just being nosy? Or wanting to know without feeling vulnerable and just asking?

I think that's just his way of saying he wants to see you.
He MAY be suspicious you might be hanging out with another guy...and that is his way of finding out.
But if you admitted you were, don't expect any real kind of reaction from him.

to the date?

Posted by WynterBourne
Ewww! A Leo/Virgo cusper!

The poor Sag 😢

WHAAAAATTTT—? I'm sweet...I think...

He was just wanting to see you and being 'I want what I want right now!!' , which is kinda nice if you think about it.

NOPE! Not falling for that one...he was already getting Friday Night and Suckered me into Sunday too! I came straight out and said "I'm not available Saturday at all, what's your time like this weekend?" So, getting me the entire weekend? Can't happen unless we're on a vaca or something!

He wanted to know who his challenger was for the weekend. Come on...tell the truth...LMAO!

I must admit, you guys are really good at hiding disappointments and sadness and hurt feelings, etc. All my years of knowing him and I've only seen him respond to something I've done ONLY ONCE. And I'm sure he's sure I didn't see him because it was in my rear-view mirror as I drove by him and I didn't stop/honk/smile/wave. Which is not my character as he knew me then. I can laugh about it still...he-he!

Yes Wynter, CANCERS are tough...I couldn't shake them for years...they came from everywhere!

I'M NOT A VIRGO-I Think only in Mercury!!! UGGGHHHH!!!!!! NO! NO! NO! I'm claiming my dominate side!!!!! LMAO!!!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
You could be on vacation though, if you use your imagination, and he fills his bedroom etc with palm trees and sand.
Be creative ! Use your imaginnation !🙂

I can see his corny side doing the trees and sand in an odd setting, but he loves to travel so I won't have to use my imagination on destination; just when I get there! AHH! Challenger— Yes, his competition for my time and...He-He!

I take it you're very fond of Leos...huh?

You just gotta love us right? Mu-wah!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
It's the dudes that are pointless.
Most women tend to agree too 🙂

As much to my chagrin? Yes, I reluctantly must agree!

Meh, I get jealous, but I won't come out and say it...usually. Unless I know that what they are doing is wrong. Like purposely trying to make me jealous hanging with another girl. Even then I'll pretend like it doesn't bother me unless they keep at it then I'll address it and question why they are being so immature. I like keeping a good hold on my emotions so I don't usually express how I'm feeling

I once heard jealousy only happens when you are lead to believe that you own "something"

OK! You do get jealous, but you're so cool with HIDING it that if I'm not paying very close attention it will go straight over my head lightning speed.

Aloofness is what you called it? Nah! I call it having your emotions so d@MN controlled that I'm green with envy. I don't normally show when I'm jealous with responses, I get quiet & pouty. Which is probably louder than my voice. LMAO!

So I gave him a hypothetical with a name "Jordan". He says "so is that his name". Ding! Ding! Ding! WOW! First time in years it didn't go over my head. I cleared it up "Michael Jordan". We laughed...

But he did notice a table of co-workers checking me out all evening and as we exited he managed to come up with something to say to them that made them all laugh. Now this act would be that "going over my head in lightning speed". The aloofness I think you call it.

A lightbulb came on over my head. I said wait I've seen this before. Is this the peeing on his territory or thinking he owns me? As if they didn't see his constant PDAs which was more than our norm.

Before we left for the night he said "tell Jordan I said hi" and laughed. He knows there's no real threat for what we have...so I think he handles the incidents with a coolness that I wish I had. Makes me sick!

Oddly enough your "not getting jealous" (and I say that with sarcasm) does force me to keep my emotions under control. Along with your frankly being honest and candid definitely dissolves the roar everytime. I guess it tames me...darn! Did I just admit that?