Do you see caps as controlling?

I have a close sagi/cancer moon who alway tell me that I am black and white. I helped her get an apartment with her daughter when she was evicted due to her husband (sagi sun/aries moon)petty ways. I moved in with her and then the problems started. I told her that her husband shouldn't park in our parking spot since he lost the apartment due to being a douche. She always take it as a sign of control, but the way I see it is that her husband let her and their daughter become homeless, therefore he doesn't deserve to park in the parking spot. In addition, He doesn't take care of his daughter, he doesn't want to pay child support. She is kin to me so I always helped her with her daughter needs before they got evicted and now that I am living with her the help is double. I paid the rent in full for the past eight month, I baby sit her daughter all the time without compensation. In my cap view I've earned the right to see him as an a**hole because I helped her through thick and thin and I am basically doing what her husband was supposed to be doing. However, in her sag view, she thinks that she looks like an idiot and she feels controlled. I just don't know get her. Is this normal for sags to just focus on the "don't force boundaries on me or someone I am in relationship with" or is it just her? I tried to compromise my opinion many times, but I really feel strongly about her having boundaries with her estranged husband, because He is really unfair in the way he treats her and their daughter. He basically is a dead beat dad, I just don't know any other way to put it.

Thanks Honne, but how do you communicate to a sag what you mean without coming off controlling? I thought sags say it like it is. as a cap I do appreciate that too. It isn't necessarily being blunt, more about being upfront, but that doesn't seem to work with this sag. I'd appreciate any ideas.

Suggesting > Controlling.

thanks for you input everyone 🙂