Does the bluntness go away when you're in love?

When you like someone are you usually nicer to them than you would be to anybody else? Do you hold back blunt remarks about that someone because you don't want to hurt their feelings? Or is it that you just love that person so much that you don't have anything blunt to say? The reason that I am asking is because I keep hearing that Sags are blunt and say things that hurt people's feelings. But the Sag guys that I know don't say mean/blunt things toward me. They always compliment me and are super courteous, kind and cool. Does the bluntness go away when you like someone?

Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
When you like someone are you usually nicer to them than you would be to anybody else? Do you hold back blunt remarks about that someone because you don't want to hurt their feelings? Or is it that you just love that person so much that you don't have anything blunt to say? The reason that I am asking is because I keep hearing that Sags are blunt and say things that hurt people's feelings. But the Sag guys that I know don't say mean/blunt things toward me. They always compliment me and are super courteous, kind and cool. Does the bluntness go away when you like someone?

To be totally frank with you I would say the answer is a big fat NO. The reason I say this is because sometimes we are not aware that what we say offends some people deeply to the point where they think about it for days and make mental note to self (sometimes even when they know you well I have found this happens).

I was with my ex for 6 years and 'apparently' I have said things to him that have cut him like a knife but he brings this up at the end of the relationship, WTF? I was never even aware I was rude or blunt towards him OR left him feeling down sometimes due to my insensitive remarks. BTW this wasn't the reason the relationship ended-LOL!

I would have liked him to have told me when things bothered him (when bluntness occurred) cause if I wasn't aware then does he expect me to have special powers and read his bastard mind? Pssshhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

If something a Sag says upsets you, then the best thing would be to bring it to their attention because they will probably be beside themselves because it was perceived wrongly and they actually never meant any malice. They will make a conscious effort to 'evole'. The last thing a Sag would wanna do is hurt their loved ones feelings. Sags WANT you to be happy which makes them happy which equals FUN TIMES!

naw..in either like or love, the mercury in scorpio or the sag bluntness does not turn off. i just have a softer tone with the person, but im still the same. NOW, if i feel intimidated by the other person, i am a mute.

Posted by DMV
naw..in either like or love, the mercury in scorpio or the sag bluntness does not turn off. i just have a softer tone with the person, but im still the same. NOW, if i feel intimidated by the other person, i am a mute.

Maybe that's what it is. My Sag friend stutters around me and sometimes just says, never mind because he can't get his words out right. Maybe he is intimidated.

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Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
When you like someone are you usually nicer to them than you would be to anybody else? Do you hold back blunt remarks about that someone because you don't want to hurt their feelings? Or is it that you just love that person so much that you don't have anything blunt to say? The reason that I am asking is because I keep hearing that Sags are blunt and say things that hurt people's feelings. But the Sag guys that I know don't say mean/blunt things toward me. They always compliment me and are super courteous, kind and cool. Does the bluntness go away when you like someone?

To be totally frank with you I would say the answer is a big fat NO. The reason I say this is because sometimes we are not aware that what we say offends some people deeply to the point where they think about it for days and make mental note to self (sometimes even when they know you well I have found this happens).

I was with my ex for 6 years and 'apparently' I have said things to him that have cut him like a knife but he brings this up at the end of the relationship, WTF? I was never even aware I was rude or blunt towards him OR left him feeling down sometimes due to my insensitive remarks. BTW this wasn't the reason the relationship ended-LOL!

I would have liked him to have told me when things bothered him (when bluntness occurred) cause if I wasn't aware then does he expect me to have special powers and read his bastard mind? Pssshhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

If something a Sag says upsets you, then the best thing would be to bring it to their attention because they will probably be beside themselves because it was perceived wrongly and they actually never meant any malice. They will make a conscious effort to 'evole'. The last thing a Sag would wanna do is hurt their loved ones feelings. Sags WANT you to be happy which makes them happy which equals FUN TIMES!

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I feel you. All of what you said. If a Sag does say something to me or does something that might be offensive I will tell them immediately. At that point I wish that I hadn't because he is doing all that he can to make it up (so sweet). I never mean to get him to kiss my ass but being the gentleman that he is it always ends up happening. I've never met someone so nice. But I feel like if you don't tell someone

^^^^^^^^^^^^^Argh! I'm not doin' it over! LoL

lol...NO

Posted by SexySadge
lol...NO

The bluntness might not go away but are your words nicer to someone when you love or care for them?

If something a Sag says upsets you, then the best thing would be to bring it to their attention because they will probably be beside themselves because it was perceived wrongly and they actually never meant any malice. They will make a conscious effort to 'evole'. The last thing a Sag would wanna do is hurt their loved ones feelings. Sags WANT you to be happy which makes them happy which equals FUN TIMES!

^^^^SO TRUE....Because i hurt ppl feelings not knowing i did...i swear some ppl take things i say the wrong way all the time...especially cancers(the crybaby) they so fucking sensitive believe me i know i live with one

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lol...NO

The bluntness might not go away but are your words nicer to someone when you love or care for them?

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actually YES...I'm the nicest person until i feel you trying to take my kindness for my weakness or betray me...and please dont do that...i will treat you as if i never known you...now love ones I'm very nice to I'm always helping when needed....NOW OUTSIDERS...I'm very hard on them dont know you and dont want to know you...when I'm in a crowd of ppl i dont know i can be very shy i just sit and observe feel the room out listen to ppl conversation...listening to a person conversation you can tell what kind of person they is (well atleast with me) but actually I'm really a nice person if you nice to me🙂

Sags are most definitely very nice people. Their energy is so electrifying! Most of them are kind of shy if they really don't know the people that they are among, or especially if they like someone (just in my experience). SexySadge, I like how you said that you listen to what a person says and based off of that you can tell what kind of person they are. It took two years for my Sag friend to talk to me on a different level (actually I knew that he liked me but also knew that he'd never approach me on that level, so I took the initiative). Once I invited him out he then spilled his soul out to me telling me that he liked me from the moment he saw me and that he liked how I conversated. He said that he felt that I was genuine. All the while, those whole two years he acted so shy that he couldn't look me directly in the eye and he rambled when he spoke. I thought it was so precious. He's sweet as can be to everybody in his family too.

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lol...NO

The bluntness might not go away but are your words nicer to someone when you love or care for them?

actually YES...I'm the nicest person until i feel you trying to take my kindness for my weakness or betray me...and please dont do that...i will treat you as if i never known you...now love ones I'm very nice to I'm always helping when needed....NO OUTSIDERS...I'm very hard on them dont know you and dont want to know you...when I'm in a crowd of ppl i dont know i can be very shy i just sit and observe feel the room out listen to ppl conversation...listening to a person conversation you can tell what kind of person they is (well atleast with me) but actually I'm really a nice person if you nice to me🙂

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''I'm the nicest person until i feel you trying to take my kindness for my weakness or betray me...and please dont do that...i will treat you as if i never known you...now love ones I'm very nice to I'm always helping when needed....NO OUTSIDERS...I'm very hard on them dont know you and dont want to know you''

''i just sit and observe feel the room out listen to ppl conversation...listening to a person conversation you can tell what kind of person they is (well atleast with me) but actually I'm really a nice person if you nice to me🙂'

The above is sounds EXACTLY like me.

If anyone tries to get the better of me on a serious level then you better run boy cause there's only so long I can let someone get away with the same fucking shit! REAL TALK! I have difficulty controlling my anger if this happens (not good) lol!

No. I just say stuff my caringly. But that's why I have issues with sensitive men. They're always pissed at me, and I'm always like, "WHAT? WHAT!".

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No. I just say stuff my caringly. But that's why I have issues with sensitive men. They're always pissed at me, and I'm always like, "WHAT? WHAT!".

Hahaha! Do you attract sensitive men or is that you just attract them? Being around a Sag people have to just know that they are in for something. It's cool with me though.

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lol...NO

The bluntness might not go away but are your words nicer to someone when you love or care for them?

actually YES...I'm the nicest person until i feel you trying to take my kindness for my weakness or betray me...and please dont do that...i will treat you as if i never known you...now love ones I'm very nice to I'm always helping when needed....NO OUTSIDERS...I'm very hard on them dont know you and dont want to know you...when I'm in a crowd of ppl i dont know i can be very shy i just sit and observe feel the room out listen to ppl conversation...listening to a person conversation you can tell what kind of person they is (well atleast with me) but actually I'm really a nice person if you nice to me🙂

''I'm the nicest person until i feel you trying to take my kindness for my weakness or betray me...and please dont do that...i will treat you as if i never known you...now love ones I'm very nice to I'm always helping when needed....NO OUTSIDERS...I'm very hard on them dont know you and dont want to know you''

''i just sit and observe feel the room out listen to ppl conversation...listening to a person conversation you can tell what kind of person they is (well atleast with me) but actually I'm really a nice person if you nice to me🙂'

The above is sounds EXACTLY like me.

If anyone tries to get the better of me on a serious level then you better run boy cause there's only so long I can let someone get away with the same fucking shit! REAL TALK! I have difficulty controlling my anger if this happens (not good) lol!

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LOL...thats is so me it's like you feel like they trying to punk you...and thats a no no with a SAG its not going to happen...I also have a anger problem but I'm learning how to controll it..now that I'm older i tend to let some things pass...lol SOME THINGS.. NOT ALL...i hate being passive cause it makes me look like a punk..and i actually be mad with myself when i let ppl slide...lol..but sometimes it be for the best...(well for them)🙂

@Sexy Sadge

Yeah when I was a kid, people told my parents I was the devil child-HA! Even at pre school apparently I was the silent assassin, lol! I'd go up to the kids on their tricycles, (which I believed to me all MINE) and bite their face with my jaw locked until a teacher had to prize us apart.

I had anger issues growing up but now I just take the moral high ground (well sometimes) I just think sometimes people do need to be taught a lesson-maah

I'm like an angel now obviously though-hehe

^^^Wow, biting the face in preschool...interesting. SexySadge and SagChick you two are firecrackers. Your personalities seems so strong. I have yet to meet sags like you two. Maybe it's just that I haven't gotten on their bad side.

hey cancergirl, as an Aries who dated several Sag men and knows quite a few Aries and Sag women, I'll have to disagree with you on that account. Both Aries and Sag, of both sexes, tend to be blunt and suffer from the foot in the mouth syndrome, but it seems like Sags still have the upper hand in that. And yes, the bluntness does go away, for both Aries and Sags, when they're dealing with someone they like or love, but mostly because that someone has made some mention of being hurt by previous outbursts of bluntness... In my case, this was actually a problem when me and my hubby got into arguments, as we'd hurl pretty hurtful things at each other and then regret it almost immediately...So the bluntness is not a myth, but as with all things related to astrology, it's a trait that can be and is often educated in more "evolved" specimens, lol.

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hey cancergirl, as an Aries who dated several Sag men and knows quite a few Aries and Sag women, I'll have to disagree with you on that account. Both Aries and Sag, of both sexes, tend to be blunt and suffer from the foot in the mouth syndrome, but it seems like Sags still have the upper hand in that. And yes, the bluntness does go away, for both Aries and Sags, when they're dealing with someone they like or love, but mostly because that someone has made some mention of being hurt by previous outbursts of bluntness... In my case, this was actually a problem when me and my hubby got into arguments, as we'd hurl pretty hurtful things at each other and then regret it almost immediately...So the bluntness is not a myth, but as with all things related to astrology, it's a trait that can be and is often educated in more "evolved" specimens, lol.

I think that Aries and Geminis are the most blunt signs with Geminis leading majorly. Aries are really sweet people but they wear this tough outer shell. If you piss them off then they just don't give a f&*#! They are going to get you! I've seen it first hand because my mother is an Aries, From my understanding, Sags don't mean it when they are being blunt but like I said, I haven't met a blunt Sag.