Ex texts after 2 years of no contact, what do you think?

So I have this Sag guy, we had been on and off for 2 years till 3 years ago I realized he is no good in my life and broke it off. There was some phone call and email bickering lasting for about a year, then we both got sick of it and never spoke again.

This past weekend, he texted me out of blue "hi, how are you?". I asked who it is. We exchanged about a few brief texts. He asked what's new with me and we should chat sometime soon, to which I asked chat about what. Then he haven't replied in 2 days.

1. Have any Sag girls had this kind of exes?

2. How did you deal with it?

3. What are their intentions?

We live in different continent since our relationship fell out, so I would rule out he texted me for one night thing or whatever that sort of stuff. Let's exchange experience!

I am a sag guy.

We still think about the ones that got away. its hard for us to picture someone we love with someone else so we disappear. we'd rather have no contact than pretend to have a friendship. He was hoping time had healed enough issues to reach out or hopefully maybe you missed him and lost his information. Maybe he ended a relationship and realized he missed you.

now the missing you could honestly just be friendship(especially because you are super long distance)... it would take a lot to bring you together.... since you fell out of touch, maybe he doesn't know you left the continent...?

we don't do bickering on the phone or through text (I actually hate it with a lot of passion). so he definitely had some feelings when you were going through the drama part you described.

Posted by hellosaggy
I am a sag guy.

We still think about the ones that got away. its hard for us to picture someone we love with someone else so we disappear. we'd rather have no contact than pretend to have a friendship. He was hoping time had healed enough issues to reach out or hopefully maybe you missed him and lost his information. Maybe he ended a relationship and realized he missed you.

now the missing you could honestly just be friendship(especially because you are super long distance)... it would take a lot to bring you together.... since you fell out of touch, maybe he doesn't know you left the continent...?

we don't do bickering on the phone or through text (I actually hate it with a lot of passion). so he definitely had some feelings when you were going through the drama part you described.

Interesting insight. I thought he had no heart because what he had done in the past, lol.

Well, he was the one moved away, not me. And from the timing he messaged me, he must be still living in that country. I don’t know his intention, so I was very neutral in reply and never asked anything about his life.

I normally don’t do that either, but we live in different countries, phone and email are the only way to communicate. I was decisive to cut him off at that time and he wouldn’t leave me alone, that’s why we bickered a lot.

let me tell you what it really is. this is nothing but him thinking he can come back and get in touch with you like nothing happened. sags like to leave people and think they can just pick up where they left off. while they are off doing who and whatever, they do not think about all of the stress and strain one goes through in moving on with their life. if they do, they damn sure do not communicate. you have to be a skilled mind reader with them. they expect you to just know. it is not easy to forget someone you cared about once, but it must be done, especially when the opposing party leaves, wordless. no explanation. no communication. all of the doubt rushes in, and the self blaming starts. we go through hell to move on.

a self centered, thoughtless asshole waltzing back into your life after all of this time means one thing - they want to come back. maybe you missed them enough to change. maybe you will be different for them this time. maybe somehow his absence has taught you a lesson. or maybe he just doesn't want anyone else having you so he's come back to claim you. these are their thoughts, mind you. people like this do not mind taking liberties with other people's lives and time. if you let them, they will treat you like a revolving door. they think super highly of themselves and have this air they can do what they want to who they want and live life unscathed. i speak from experience. i had my share of sag women, over 10 of them. all of them pulled this same shit. yet all of them acted like I "had" to talk to them again whenever they decided to come back. they could not understand that when I move on, I do totally. i do not offer friendship. i simply want them to prance back where they came from. once you gallop off into the sunset from this scorp, bitch stay there. i have done everything to get you totally out of my system. you're not welcomed here at all anymore.

@Mona_Machiavelli

We aren't all like that.... smh.. but I understand the hurt caused.

sometimes you have to make selfish life changes to better yourself. communication has to happen though.

@freespirits

we grow up differently. we don't know what we want half the time other than not being trapped and having a good life. We don't realize what we have until after dust settles or we obtain our desires and realize its not what we really wanted.

Ahhhh damn... you a sag woman? that explains it. we expect you guys to understand us the most out of everybody. sorry about that. Me and my ex sag fiance couldn't agree on a path to take...so we took two separate ones. hurt each other and then it was too late.

@Earthgoddess

But Sag guys are amazing! we are fun in life and bed and tell great stories and make you laugh. Love us!!!

Posted by hellosaggy
@Mona_Machiavelli

We aren't all like that.... smh.. but I understand the hurt caused.

sometimes you have to make selfish life changes to better yourself. communication has to happen though.

@freespirits

we grow up differently. we don't know what we want half the time other than not being trapped and having a good life. We don't realize what we have until after dust settles or we obtain our desires and realize its not what we really wanted.

Ahhhh damn... you a sag woman? that explains it. we expect you guys to understand us the most out of everybody. sorry about that. Me and my ex sag fiance couldn't agree on a path to take...so we took two separate ones. hurt each other and then it was too late.

i never said all of you are like that, but each and every one i have experienced was. so kind of hard to believe that's not sag memo. younger, same age, older = all were alike. i simply don't have time for the bullshit anymore. my scorpio knows the deal.

my son's father emails me once in awhile and I just answer him - he's been married for a long time and lives in another state - I guess he still considers us friends - whatever ...

until you talk to him you won't find out what he wants if anything - perhaps he was just wondering how you were doing - so talk to him or don't - no one but him knows why he contacted you

Posted by RooSagicorn
Well he was checking on you, you were on his mind. Who knows? You won’t find out, when you ask chat about what 😂😂

My first husband found me on FB 25 years later. 😳 damn FB! Well he needed to resolve some things. His dad had died and Mom wasn’t talking to him. I guess he remembered the caring person I am and wanted to resolve things in his mind. Idk I don’t have s problem chatting, we were something to each other once.

he realized you were the only one he could turn to. that's a form of using someone. like don't come back to me because you think i'm your last option to run to. i don't care who died, nor do i care of your personal problems. when you leave, all of your baggage goes with you. i am not subjected to caring anymore. i don't believe in keeping ties with people who can just up and walk so easily. because i'd never do that to anyone i loved. dead to me. especially when you go years without giving me closure. by the time i moved on, i simply do not care anymore.

Posted by hellosaggy
@Mona_Machiavelli

We aren't all like that.... smh.. but I understand the hurt caused.

sometimes you have to make selfish life changes to better yourself. communication has to happen though.

@freespirits

we grow up differently. we don't know what we want half the time other than not being trapped and having a good life. We don't realize what we have until after dust settles or we obtain our desires and realize its not what we really wanted.

Ahhhh damn... you a sag woman? that explains it. we expect you guys to understand us the most out of everybody. sorry about that. Me and my ex sag fiance couldn't agree on a path to take...so we took two separate ones. hurt each other and then it was too late.

please don't try to justify the bullshit. i've been through hell and back, and if i need time alone to better myself, i let my people know. i don't just run off for years then pop up like, hey i want you again. don't make excuses for being a shitty person. never any excuses for putting that stress on a person. there is never any need to be selfish in love. i see we think two different ways about this, but i will not be moved. let's just drop this shit. i said what i had to say.

DOnt give up on us 😢