first date with saggy man-need to vent

he-saggy sun, VIRGO moon[which i find pretty difficult]
i-aqua sun, aqua moon

we found each other online half a year ago, so it is a long distance thing. so far, so bad
we've decided to meet. so far, so good.
i'll fly there because i want to see him in his environment. i'll stay in a hotel, not because i don't trust him, but because i need my own space.

he was pretty flirty...now he's talking only about "technical" data of the meeting[flight, airport picking up, etc]
when i booked, i was very enthusiastic and carefree...now i am pretty nervous. i also distanced myself a bit to cope with my own emotions...

anything you say will be welcomed[or not... 😄 ]

Dont plan the abortion before your even pregnant.

Has anything bad happened that makes you so down trodden about things? From what youve written, I cant gve you an answer.

"i also distanced myself a bit to cope with my own emotions..."
you distanced, I distanced, he distanced, she distanced, we distanced.
It is the effect of "omg, things are gonna get serious".


His Virgo part feels himself responsible for stuff (practical details) not allowed to be imperfect.

His other parts may be emptying the "imagination part" to make place for reality.

There has always been communication examples which died at face-2-face meeting.

He may be planning surprises or buying tickets for a game. ----- ----- -----
(worst case: sending his wife on a trip?)
I know from my Virgo-Gem-sister she would change the whole decoration of her appartment if she were waiting a very important guest.

Lots of possibilities.
You'll have a hard time anyway. I hope you have some Capricorn placements. That'd be helpful.

dwellingonmove, i thought he might be stressed a bit[or a lot more]...

my ascendant and venus are cappy...so...i am very well grounded as far as my deeds and whom i date are concerned. my mars is in saggy...so i am not afraid to go after what i want.

i wish i could tell him to fucking relax otherwise he will stress me too...i don't need a baby sitter there[maybe a driver 🙂 as i know where i want to go and what to visit]...we'll date...if it works fine, fine...if not, that's life

as about his ex wife...she'll be taking care of the 2 kids who are at his place right now...😄

bnr7013...i can't have fun if he doesn't let it be spontaneous[my aqua placements]

can you, virgo moons, understand that somebody can be veeeeeeeery independent and self confident that they do not stress at all even if they are in a foreign country and that you don't have to stress for every minute of their trip?! besides...it's not my first trip to that country...

there are 2 more weeks till i go...if he keeps on like this...he'll drive me so crazy that i'll tell him i've missed the flight and i'll enjoy a short holiday by myself...[ but he is so damn cute and sexy 🙂) ]

i think he's just stressed out.and this is his way to cope with it.as DWELLINGONMOVE said..."OMG, things are gonna get serious"...i started flirting with him tonight.and we kept like that for more than 3 hours.

i suppose he'll be in charge with organising and worrying, while me with "de-stressing" him.

my aqua moon may be in conflict with his virgo one, though

everything will be all right. you are doing well.

Posted by ela1973
he-saggy sun, VIRGO moon[which i find pretty difficult]
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Im a Sag with moon in Virgo, why do people find this to be difficult?

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Posted by ela1973
he-saggy sun, VIRGO moon[which i find pretty difficult]
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Im a Sag with moon in Virgo, why do people find this to be difficult?

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it's like two personalities in one person...now he's all flirty and warm and and funny and amusing[like a sag]...next time he can be very serious, earnest, distant...

he never says what he likes about me[as if i were supposed to know that], he shamelessly tells me when he doesn't like something[eg nail polish colour]

i am aware that emotionally we might have a problem 😢

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Posted by SagTheArcher17

Posted by ela1973
he-saggy sun, VIRGO moon[which i find pretty difficult]
]

Im a Sag with moon in Virgo, why do people find this to be difficult?

it's like two personalities in one person...now he's all flirty and warm and and funny and amusing[like a sag]...next time he can be very serious, earnest, distant...

he never says what he likes about me[as if i were supposed to know that], he shamelessly tells me when he doesn't like something[eg nail polish colour]

i am aware that emotionally we might have a problem 😢

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Uh oh, you just described me to a T, lol. Yeah, I'm very about things I do not like. I don't give too many complements a guy I like because I'm not a subscriber to his fan club, I don't feed egos.
I can be very warm and loving one minute, then quiet and distant the next. My family describes me as hot and cold, lol.

If it helps, use Sag with Virgo moon are not very vocal about our emotions (except anger), but we show you how we feel by the things we do for you. So when you are around him in person, pay close attention to what he does for you. I would steer clear of long distance anything with someone from online, especially a Sag male.

richie8813 has a Sag gf with VirgoMoon.
At 1-2-3 places he says how he misses more signals from her. She is very focused on school...

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships-astrology/cancer-man-and-sag-woman-5154977/#5154978<BR> https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/sagittarius/something-from-my-observation-5217787/
He also appreciated the good things in her behavior:

Posted by richie8813
... We all both love watching YouTube, and she always shares her favorites with me. Once we watched a video on my laptop, it couldn't show up English subtitles (the video is made by french, and she is a french.) due to some problems. She tried to use her cell phone to play it. Although I could see subtitles, the whole video was black. Then what she did really surprised me, every time the guy in that video said something, she immediately paused it and play the same video on her phone to show me subtitles. We didn't finish that video, but she could be doing this for me for almost 6 mins. 6 mins may sound really short, but you have to pause and play every few sec. I don't think many people can do this. It's enough. I was really appreciated, because I haven't ever seen someone so patient like her, and she could do this just for me...

Posted by SagTheArcher17
If it helps, use Sag with Virgo moon are not very vocal about our emotions (except anger), but we show you how we feel by the things we do for you. So when you are around him in person, pay close attention to what he does for you. I would steer clear of long distance anything with someone from online, especially a Sag male.

i am an aqua...which means that i don't need displays of emotions and feelings as that would scare me away...

but i find confusing[and tiring at some point/in the future] the fact that i don't know who i'll have to deal with tomorrow...the witty sag or the distant virgo. will see if i can handle that.

thank you for your concern, but i've known him for almost a year now...so i am not worried about whom he is or my safety. he doesn't seem to be worried about who i am either...the rest is to be seen face to face or/and in the future.

anyway...i suppose this somehow triggers that virgo moon sometimes in him..."i actually don't know her. i should keep myself logical till i meet her"...or sth like that...and i understand that becouse of my cappy and aqua placements.

thanks for your imput