getting my Sag girl back?

Curious if this is even possible being she's a Sag. I'm a Virgo, but not the typical. Not controlling. I let her have independence, but too much I guess. She broke up because she thought that we'd be in the same spot in our relationship 2,3,4,5 years down the road. She's 29 and I'm 41. We had great times together, always had her out doing new things. I know she wants to be married and eventually have kids. No problem, though I have 2 of my own (7 and 9).

Quickly, we started dating last February and she broke up with me in October. True, I did not progress it very far as we were at about the same stage in month 3 of our relationship as we were in month 8. All the while she had no problems with my age or with me having kids. The ease with the kids may have stemmed from her babysitting since she was a teen even up til this day.

I loved her liveliness and willingness to learn and do something different every time we got together. Anyway, we got intimate once (I pushed it) about a month after the break up and still got together every couple of weeks since, though only a few times in the past 2 months. None of those were sexual, rather but lunches and walks. Of course, like a dummy, I tried reasoning with her, but no begging or pleading. Each time she would say that "it"s hard to get it back".

If I stop contacting her, then she starts contacting me. I'm sure there is too much damage already, but curious still how I can ever get her back. I absolutely adore her person. And she's good-looking to boot.

Any chance of getting her back for good? I don't believe she has seen anyone since we broke up and would like to know how to play to get my Sag back. Any help from Sag ladies would be great.

Thanks

Posted by tzr191

Quickly, we started dating last February and she broke up with me in October. True, I did not progress it very far as we were at about the same stage in month 3 of our relationship as we were in month 8.

What exactly does this mean?

We were seeing each other about the same number of times per week, at both times in the relationship. So, at 4 months in, I was probably seeing her twice a week and the same at 8 months

Posted by tzr191
We were seeing each other about the same number of times per week, at both times in the relationship. So, at 4 months in, I was probably seeing her twice a week and the same at 8 months

what about the sex— was that still the same at 8 months as it was at 3 months?

whats her chart look like?

sex was the same. she seemed very reserved and I didnt want to press her into anything she was uncomfortable with. she's a very smart girl (UVA grad) and I figured she was just a bit non-experimental.

As far as charts, I have no clue. All I can say is she was born on November 23rd...not sure what time as she wasn't sure. Her parents didn't ever tell her.

If it didn't make sense in her head she probably won't budge. But never say never.

Poor Virgo. 😢 (sorry)

No worries Wynter. Honestly it would have been nice taking the relationship beyond what it was, but I was concerned she may have wanted the marriage and kids because she seemed pressed. All her friends (girl) are pretty much married with kids or at least married. At her age, I know what is going thru women's minds and I myself was battling what went down in the way my divorce came about. At the end of the day, I pick myself up, dust myself off and keep on trucking. Lot more life to live and women to meet. She was one of my favorites though.

She's kinda funny to me, or maybe a lot of Sag are like this, but I felt her need for freedom. And I gave it to her. Yet, there's this strong urge for commitment. But, maybe a commitment on her terms. Seems like she has conflict within herself about freedom and commitment.

what year was she born?

1982.

I am a Sag female and usually when I let a guy go, I let him go all the way but will be somewhat of a friend to him unless I don't sleep with anyone else. Meaning, if the a guy was the last person I slept with and I haven't been with anyone else then, there is a possibility of getting back together with that person. But, if I sleep with someone else then I am done with that person and will only have them in a friend zone. I don't go backwards.

Virgos seem to do this. They try and act in the way they "think" the woman wants instead of how they really feel. Why were you worried about giving her "freedom"? How did you know that's what she wanted? You sound like you didn't give your all into the relationship. If a Nov 23rd Sag girl is "reserved" in bed, you gotta show her. There is great passion under her exterior. Do not be hesitant or she will get frustrated and look for the guy who will come in and sweep her off her feet.

TLS,
You may be right about what you started off saying. What you're saying in another sense is that Virgos tend to like to please their partners, even if it's at expense of the way they want things. Personally, I try and compromise and maybe a bit too much. Did I give my all to the relationship? No and you're right. I felt a strong urge on her part for marriage and kids, as well as sensing previous disappointments in her life where she thought she'd have those things. So, I was a bit leery that she was wanting that so much, that it was a very motivating factor. Quite simply, I wanted us together because she wanted me, not because she was at the "I need to be married age, because all my friends are". At the same time, I didn't want to suffocate her because I knew she had so many interests. I figured we would grow in that area together at a reasonable pace we could both set.

If you're saying she was very passionate (in bed) underneath and it just needed unlocked, I don't know what I would have to do rather than use physical force. I could give an example of when something wasn't reciprocated, though I did for her regularly. My guess was she never had performed this act in her life and thought it was gross. Excuse the TMI