Help! I'm a sag, he's a cancer.

Hello, I'm a sagittarius woman and I've been dating my cancer man for 9 months now. He's told me before he's depressed and that he cuts himself. I've seen all the scars, I know he does this. And we've talked about it and everything. He also gets angry very easily. He's 100% a cancer --- very, VERY moody. Thursday night, we were on the phone and we were fine and happy. We were making plans for Saturday. His friend, my friend, him, and myself were going to all get together Saturday and just hang out like normal people! Bonfire, movies, food, talk, music -- all that. and so, Friday comes and I ride home with him from school and everything is fine. We're just playing around. And Thursday night he told me on the phone he wants to be happy and start to do stuff with people again so he was so excited for Saturday to come!

His parents are very lazy. They make him do EVERYTHING for him. It's pretty bad. They don't really care for anyone except them selves. So, his parents always go up a few hours to see the USC football games--every home game. And he's always gone to them with them because they've always made him. Well, this weekend he didn't think he was going to go. His mom calls and tells him to take me home because he's going to the game. BOOM. He gets so upset and moody and angry. I try to talk to him about it and everything but he won't speak to me. He drops me off, I get out of the car. Nothing I can really do. Well, his parents end up not even going to the game. So, Friday night he calls me and we don't really speak. He ends up saying "goodnight, talk to you tomorrow" out of nowhere and im just there saying "no no no stay no dont go" and he hangs up. and then saturday comes and i text him asking whats up for today! and he says nothing.
He stayed home all saturday in bed doing nothing and that made me so mad. Last weekend, he did the same thing all weekend. he stayed in bed, ignoring me, not choosing to be with me. you don't know how much that makes me upset and mad. so, i lost it and i told him it's stupid and rude and that i hate when he does this shit. because i do. and i am never mean to him, i never even express my anger to him. im so nice to him all the time. and then he texts back and sends me this:"Well im so fxcking sorry that you actually had to get out of your fcking bed and get dressed because God forbid your lazy ass does something for once in this god damn world so fck you youre the one who's stupid why dont you go fcking do something with

someone else besides me and your little fkcing computer because i dont fcking care."
i didn't reply. he texts me again a few hours later saying "I think we need to take a break brooke"

i never texted back yesterday until this morning and i said "i don't agree with the taking a break thing. if you want time alone and everything then you can just tell me and i won't bother you about hanging out and i'll understand. i was just frustrated and i never really even get mad at you or if i do, i never really show it. i don't think taking a break would be the most appropriate thing to do because Friday morning you said we were happy and just Thursday and all of last week we were good and happy, I'll stop bugging you if that's what i did but i think taking a break would fck stuff up. you should just call me so we can talk about this all because i'm not really into everything thats going on right now. just call me or text me"

i'm so confused.

A word of advice, leave him because it doesn't get any better

All the cancer guys, I've know had serious addiction issues and were really weird in one way or another. If he doesn't respond to that maybe just disappear for a while.

Or be there for him but have stricter boundaries around it. You don't wanna get sucked into his shit.

Posted by Sag89
All the cancer guys, I've know had serious addiction issues and were really weird in one way or another. If he doesn't respond to that maybe just disappear for a while.

Or be there for him but have stricter boundaries around it. You don't wanna get sucked into his shit.

for reals, some water signs can be an emotional wasteland. The longer u wait around the more intense this shit will get.

u can stay if u like that shit, but your just bored.

i know..cancers are so confusing

Posted by sagittarius843
i know..cancers are so confusing

He will take you on an emotional roller coaster. He will make feel like you're the most precious thing in the world. Say the most beautiful things and do some really great stuff. But then, he will withdraw and leave you cold and clueless. When you reach out, he will either ignore you or do as he did and drive you into the ground. They will have you crazy.

What will keep you around? The whole love hate thing. He will use your wanting to love him and being patient against you. . He knows you're attracted to his "good side" and that is exactly how he'll manipulate you. Why? Because you need to develop confidence and self worth. He is a reflection of you. What you need to do in order to be better. So man that loves or cares for you would ever speak to you in that manner...period. So, my suggestion is that you leave him. Yes he'll come running. But Cancers, male or female never change.

:/ Omg... What is this?

Sagittarius/ Cancer Season?.....

Girl, you should never let him talk to you like that.
Don't be this nice always. He has to respect you. Don't let him walk all over you.
Love doesn't mean to be treated like Shit.

Cancers do try to manipulate you with your feelings. They think they can treat you like Shit just because you have feelings. Don't let that happen. Stay true to yourself - Always.
Never change yourself for anyone.

He has to love you the way you are. If he doesn't - he better get lost!

DOn't confuse yourself with his Problems- Don't try to feel his Pain - You will lose yourself in it.
You will forget your OWN PAIN AND YOUR OWN PRIDE.

You don't have to slap the shit outta him, although I think some People deserve it now and then 😉
But stand up for yourself and show him you are an Independent Women who doesn't need him to make herself happy. Don't let him play games with your Mind.

Sister, I know this all too well, I love a Cancer too and it fucks me up big time, sometimes.

I know he loves me too, but its hard.... for us.
Fight for your love, like we sags do, but DON'T EVER lose yourself and your Pride and your Strength.

I feel like Cancers are always trying to "dominate" you. It's about Power. OK, thats the Problem with all Watersign -People.

Hahahahaha, dominating a Sag 😄 Isn't that Funny and Cute? To think anyone could dominate us? :-)

The Problem is, we Sags are sometimes soooooo naive that we need longer to realize that People are using us and our Love. That we just please their selfish Needs instead of pleasing ourselves.

there has to be a certain equality.

Posted by sagittarius843
someone else besides me and your little fkcing computer because i dont fcking care."
i didn't reply. he texts me again a few hours later saying "I think we need to take a break brooke"

i never texted back yesterday until this morning and i said "i don't agree with the taking a break thing. if you want time alone and everything then you can just tell me and i won't bother you about hanging out and i'll understand. i was just frustrated and i never really even get mad at you or if i do, i never really show it. i don't think taking a break would be the most appropriate thing to do because Friday morning you said we were happy and just Thursday and all of last week we were good and happy, I'll stop bugging you if that's what i did but i think taking a break would fck stuff up. you should just call me so we can talk about this all because i'm not really into everything thats going on right now. just call me or text me"

i'm so confused.

If you're frustrated - show it.
If you're mad - show it.
If you're pissed - say it.
If you want to yell at him - do it.
If you're angry - act on it.

Don't repress your own feelings because of him,
Don't give him Power over yourself.


You need to show him that he is not in the Position to talk to you like that.

He will regret what he said.
And thats a nice little thing about cancers too.. They need drama first before they realize their mistakes and admit it. They won't admit till Drama happened. They need Drama like Air.
Like we need Happiness, Laughter and Action.

Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by sagittarius843
i know..cancers are so confusing

He will take you on an emotional roller coaster. He will make feel like you're the most precious thing in the world. Say the most beautiful things and do some really great stuff. But then, he will withdraw and leave you cold and clueless. When you reach out, he will either ignore you or do as he did and drive you into the ground. They will have you crazy.

What will keep you around? The whole love hate thing. He will use your wanting to love him and being patient against you. . He knows you're attracted to his "good side" and that is exactly how he'll manipulate you. Why? Because you need to develop confidence and self worth. He is a reflection of you. What you need to do in order to be better. So man that loves or cares for you would ever speak to you in that manner...period. So, my suggestion is that you leave him. Yes he'll come running. But Cancers, male or female never change.

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