I JUST DON'T GET IT

Hi saggs I have not be on here in awhile, I have spoken on this site before about a sagg men that I have been knowing for almost 4 years, dating off and on. Well for the last year is has been mostly off, I had a couple of events that happen in my life where we spoke by phone or text and we meet up in early November only for him to get upset at me again. well back in the summer I met another gentlemen and he has been making me happy which is my main goal in 2014, I met this guy in the summer but things didn't really get off the ground till Oct, I figure things were going no where with the sagg so why not move on. In the back of my mind I knew he would be back but I figure maybe this time it is really over and he is tired of all of the back and forth like myself. Not! so guess who txt me on New Years Day, yes the Sagg saying "I wish you had good sense" This is how he talks like an asshole. I replied that I do and then he start saying how our relationship could have been something special but the way I think and the way my mouth operates (his words) is the issue. I just don't get it, after this last time I just said the hell with it and I just don't understand why he can't let it go, I am me and for him to ask me to change is selfish.

is there ANY truth to what he is saying>?

I feel like thats why sag n scorpio is so hard. Both wanna be in charge.

Posted by DMV
is there ANY truth to what he is saying>?

The only thing I can agree with him on is sometimes I take things to the extremes, however I calm that down to keep the peace between us two.... I just don't understand, if he can't deal with my mouth as he says and attitude why keep contacting me, I speak my mind and apparently sometimes he feels disrespected because of this, but believe me I have tried to meet him half way. Another thing is when I do pissed him off with my words I try to communicate with him afterwards and he shuts down and I told him before if something I say upset you let's discuss it so I can know what no to do next down, like why did those words effect you so much type of thing. it's crazy...

I applied for a job bck in November and had a phone interview and I am waiting for the call anyday so I have been holding off changing my number, but something has to happen to break the chain.

Posted by Sag89
I feel like thats why sag n scorpio is so hard. Both wanna be in charge.

I agree, but when I try to let him take the lead he doesn't and then the arguments start cause I just have to voice my opinion, the older I get the harder it is to hold things in plus my mercury is in sagg doesn't help.

Posted by Impulsv
U should not have to change ur whole being. It sound like new guy is more of a fit for u. Cut the cycle n don't respond to this guy. Enjoy ur new relationship

Tks Impulsv, the new guy he actually spoils the shit outta me lol, he is a pisces which they say is my match but idk yet..it's still early and I don't want to hurt him to end up back at square one with the sagg. The only thing I have to admit is the sagg is the best lover I ever had but even that can't make up for all the other bull shit I gotta deal with.

is there any part of you that whats to give it another go?

Posted by DMV
is there any part of you that whats to give it another go?

Yes! and that's the problem

Posted by scorpdiva

Posted by Sag89
I feel like thats why sag n scorpio is so hard. Both wanna be in charge.

I agree, but when I try to let him take the lead he doesn't and then the arguments start cause I just have to voice my opinion, the older I get the harder it is to hold things in plus my mercury is in sagg doesn't help.

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HAHAHAHA I've so done that 😛 gotta admit

Posted by scorpdiva

Posted by DMV
is there any part of you that whats to give it another go?

Yes! and that's the problem

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if u want it to work, let him lead. i dont know if youll be able to do it.

@ScorpDiva:

How have you been? I see you two may be up for another round lol. I'm pretty familiar with this situation.

Let's be honest here. I don't know if you're just frustrated, but this thread screams of mirroring. One of you must break the cycle, that's if you want him. Sit back for second and take a look. You creating this thread implies you want him to change but you want him to accept you for who you are. How is that fair...to both of you? What I mean by that is if you know what you do hurts him, change it. If he were here, I'd tell him he needs to change as well. I know, he's hard headed and stubborn. That's what he has to learn. But we Sag also like someone to show us something. Perhaps if you show him you've changed, that will be his cue to take the lead, come back, and change/adapt.

You can't fight fire with fire. You know what they say in that regard. Its difficult because it could be seen as weakness. But people go by sight to see the difference. Show him by actions and don't even say a word. Be positive. _??_

@beautifulsoul..thanks for your comment and I agree I need to show and not lead with my big mouth, lol. I actually haven't talk to him since his txt but I wanna let him take the lead and let me know exactly if this is what he want normally I would be like you need to do this and that and I can be very demanding.

Posted by scorpdiva
@beautifulsoul..thanks for your comment and I agree I need to show and not lead with my big mouth, lol. I actually haven't talk to him since his txt but I wanna let him take the lead and let me know exactly if this is what he want normally I would be like you need to do this and that and I can be very demanding.

You're welcome. Have you thought about inviting him to sit and talk?

That's a good idea, I mean we do need closure one way or another so having an talk would be perfect..to get all our feelings out and see what the outcome could be. I will keep you posted.

Well we talked all day yestetday and I should be seeing him saturday when we meet up...This should be interesting I will keep you guys/gals posted.

Posted by scorpdiva
Well we talked all day yestetday and I should be seeing him saturday when we meet up...This should be interesting I will keep you guys/gals posted.

I hope it goes well diva!

Posted by scorpdiva
Well we talked all day yestetday and I should be seeing him saturday when we meet up...This should be interesting I will keep you guys/gals posted.

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Posted by scorpdiva

... the Sagg saying "I wish you had good sense"

I replied that I do ...

When in fact, you don't have good sense, at all.

I remember several years ago, you made a thread in the Scorpio room to talk about how you flipped the fuck out at work because you thought you were being discriminated against ... when in reality, you admitted that you were just having a bad day, so took it out on someone else.

Well, this "taking out on someone else" amounted to you using the race card at work to create a horrific situation .. when you knew full well that you weren't being discriminated against.

Then it got even worse, if anyone could imagine that to be possible ... you said that you didn't care if another person got discriminated against, so long as it wasn't you.

That ^^^^^^^ is indeed, a serious lack of good sense.

I'm not surprised in the least that you've spent the past several years in here crying about how you can't seem to keep a man

ouch P angel with the cold ether LOL

Right I can't keep a man and you still a crazy bitch, stay off my post dumbass.