Issues with hopping around and emotions

Maybe it's just me...or maybe it's other sags, but I've been hopping around recently with males. Nothing physical/sexual, but I get attached to one then go to the next.

Anyone else dealing with this? It's an emotional roller coaster :S

Yeah this has been happening to me aswell. Since last October would you believe it (?) I met a Leo in the gym and on paper he was dreamy.I was so fixated on him, probably a bit too much that I gave him false hope of a future that he so desperately wanted, with me (his perfect girl according to him) HA! It was all done unintentionally but he became quite cold towards me when I told him I was getting with someone else (I wasn't) I was just too coward to tell him I wasn't feeling him anymore!

I'm still mad about my Scorp sweetheart, but his game playing got too much and it actually made me question if he really 'liked' me or just wanted me as his 'just in case girl'. I long to be with him still, CRAZY!!!

And now, I'm excited about this Cap. Hopefully it doesn't fizzle so quickly but then again what do I expect, he's 21, realistically where is it gona go?

I'm still pining for my Scorp so hopefully he'll call me for a marriage proposal and that's me! LOL! Obviously I'm slightly delusional 😄

Posted by SagChick411
Yeah this has been happening to me aswell. Since last October would you believe it (?) I met a Leo in the gym and on paper he was dreamy.I was so fixated on him, probably a bit too much that I gave him false hope of a future that he so desperately wanted, with me (his perfect girl according to him) HA! It was all done unintentionally but he became quite cold towards me when I told him I was getting with someone else (I wasn't) I was just too coward to tell him I wasn't feeling him anymore!

I'm still mad about my Scorp sweetheart, but his game playing got too much and it actually made me question if he really 'liked' me or just wanted me as his 'just in case girl'. I long to be with him still, CRAZY!!!

And now, I'm excited about this Cap. Hopefully it doesn't fizzle so quickly but then again what do I expect, he's 21, realistically where is it gona go?

I'm still pining for my Scorp so hopefully he'll call me for a marriage proposal and that's me! LOL! Obviously I'm slightly delusional 😄

Haha I feel like I'm right there with you. Still wishing the scorpio I dated last will call me saying he made a mistake. Wishful thinking on my part.

Right now I'm made kinda an uh-oh (I was lonely last night) and so now I'm torn between my bff taur and a virgo who enjoys the same things I like.

Wishing I just knew who I wanted to be with from the start

Yea I don't like men that much but I know what you mean. I do that too when their is gaping holes in my life

Posted by Sag89
Yea I don't like men that much but I know what you mean. I do that too when their is gaping holes in my life

You know the sad thing is I have no voids in my life. Family life is good, I'm getting closer to God, School is running smoothly (I will be graduating soon).

I think the thing here may be that I'm missing the scorpio and have no idea what to do with myself since I promised I would not contact him first. He keeps contacting me tho...they are spaced texts/msgs on fb, but they still tug at my heart strings a little.

I'm like a mix between being horny and wanting someone to cuddle with

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by Sag89
Yea I don't like men that much but I know what you mean. I do that too when their is gaping holes in my life

You know the sad thing is I have no voids in my life. Family life is good, I'm getting closer to God, School is running smoothly (I will be graduating soon).

I think the thing here may be that I'm missing the scorpio and have no idea what to do with myself since I promised I would not contact him first. He keeps contacting me tho...they are spaced texts/msgs on fb, but they still tug at my heart strings a little.

I'm like a mix between being horny and wanting someone to cuddle with

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I mean do you ever like to be totally single? Like no hang ups or male attention? I mean when I get out of this current relationship I'm in I wanna try and have no romantic entanglements at all and see if that doesn't tell me some things about myself. You know?

I don't know. Maybe it's different. But that sucks about the scorp. Are you guys just friends or just friendly talking every now and than? I miss my ex still at times because I just moved to the city he lives in. It's been alright tho. I told him yesterday and he said he missed me too. I don't think anything will ever amount there again tho. I think he secretly hates me still.

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Yea I don't like men that much but I know what you mean. I do that too when their is gaping holes in my life

You know the sad thing is I have no voids in my life. Family life is good, I'm getting closer to God, School is running smoothly (I will be graduating soon).

I think the thing here may be that I'm missing the scorpio and have no idea what to do with myself since I promised I would not contact him first. He keeps contacting me tho...they are spaced texts/msgs on fb, but they still tug at my heart strings a little.

I'm like a mix between being horny and wanting someone to cuddle with

I mean do you ever like to be totally single? Like no hang ups or male attention? I mean when I get out of this current relationship I'm in I wanna try and have no romantic entanglements at all and see if that doesn't tell me some things about myself. You know?

I don't know. Maybe it's different. But that sucks about the scorp. Are you guys just friends or just friendly talking every now and than? I miss my ex still at times because I just moved to the city he lives in. It's been alright tho. I told him yesterday and he said he missed me too. I don't think anything will ever amount there again tho. I think he secretly hates me still.

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I was actually fine with being just single for a month after me and the scorp split. Now I'm getting lonely again. I go through the "what will being single tell me about myself" process very fast. I've learned a lot and know where I wanna go in life. And I am heading the right direction. But now I want someone to share it with...but at the same time I'm torn between too many people that aren't exactly what I want...so I'm also wanting no one. I am so confused.

Idk, I just texted him a picture of this dolphin project i was working on. He loves dolphins and he really liked this one.
He probably does hate you, but at least thats better than indifference. He still cares about you in a way

I beleive and correct me if I am wrong girls-that Sag females can do this when we are single with ease. When we still feel for another it is quite hard. Then again, for me there is the saying that does ring true. "Lay under another to get over the other." When my heart was not really into it with an ex, I could do this! As I have gotten older not so much. Being a Sag female I am quite happy with out a relationship or a tie that binds me to any one man! I have my fun! 😉 In the end it gets old, we mature, wake up and open our eyes and we WANT love. Prob is we don't realize we need it in ourselves first!
How did I do? 🙂

Posted by Sag89
Yea I don't like men that much but I know what you mean. I do that too when their is gaping holes in my life

Okaaaay.....

I personally don't mind since I don't like men either - not because I'm straight but because I simply don't need male companionship in any form - I just thought it was funny the way that came out. haha

Posted by NikkiMse1978
I beleive and correct me if I am wrong girls-that Sag females can do this when we are single with ease. When we still feel for another it is quite hard. Then again, for me there is the saying that does ring true. "Lay under another to get over the other." When my heart was not really into it with an ex, I could do this! As I have gotten older not so much. Being a Sag female I am quite happy with out a relationship or a tie that binds me to any one man! I have my fun! 😉 In the end it gets old, we mature, wake up and open our eyes and we WANT love. Prob is we don't realize we need it in ourselves first!
How did I do? 🙂

This definitely holds true for me. I've had my fun, and this has been the only guy who I have not used someone else to get over him. I'm trying to having fun with dating, but it's difficult. I'm maturing and I find I just want someone to love

YEH! "We all want somebody to love, we all need somebody to love, don't you want somebody to loooooooo-hoveee-eeeee!"~ Cher
I know she sings it better but great for seeing what it is YOU really want 🙂

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I guess Sag89 only ment she relates better with women which is totally understandable. 🙂

Do you think you could follow my posts P and explain me 😛 lol I seem to talk in a tone only a certain amount seem to get.

Kits:

Hmm well maybe your just being picky! Which is good because that means you have an idea of what you want and your not settling. Yea it's like they say " anyone can be in a relationship but not everyone can be in a good one " so I'm sure thats a lonely process trying to find another person who is where you are at.

Plus I know you said the scorp had qualities you said you wanted in a person. I'm sure it's hard.

Yea ex scorp is very hot and cold. We'll sometimes talk or other times he'll just stop answering in the middle of the convo or flat out ignore me. It's interesting to see what and what he doesn't respond too.

But I at least got all my stuff back now ( except kitty 😢 ) so we don't really need to talk anymore.

Posted by Sag89
Kits:

Hmm well maybe your just being picky! Which is good because that means you have an idea of what you want and your not settling. Yea it's like they say " anyone can be in a relationship but not everyone can be in a good one " so I'm sure thats a lonely process trying to find another person who is where you are at.

Plus I know you said the scorp had qualities you said you wanted in a person. I'm sure it's hard.

Yea ex scorp is very hot and cold. We'll sometimes talk or other times he'll just stop answering in the middle of the convo or flat out ignore me. It's interesting to see what and what he doesn't respond too.

But I at least got all my stuff back now ( except kitty 😢 ) so we don't really need to talk anymore.

Picky...standards...After dating the scorpio I just know what I want from a man.. he was a good standard to hold to (with his good points of course). I'm sure there are others like him...and I'll find them eventually. But I still do miss him as a person. Can't replace a person. My pride just wont let me fall into that friend category. At least not yet

I do the "stop answering in the middle of the convo thing", but more so when they just say something vague...and it's cus it hurts to talk to him sometimes. Just keeping myself sane is all. And maybe this is just what your scorpio ex is going. I'm tellin ya. There is some unfinished business there.

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Kits:

Hmm well maybe your just being picky! Which is good because that means you have an idea of what you want and your not settling. Yea it's like they say " anyone can be in a relationship but not everyone can be in a good one " so I'm sure thats a lonely process trying to find another person who is where you are at.

Plus I know you said the scorp had qualities you said you wanted in a person. I'm sure it's hard.

Yea ex scorp is very hot and cold. We'll sometimes talk or other times he'll just stop answering in the middle of the convo or flat out ignore me. It's interesting to see what and what he doesn't respond too.

But I at least got all my stuff back now ( except kitty 😢 ) so we don't really need to talk anymore.

Picky...standards...After dating the scorpio I just know what I want from a man.. he was a good standard to hold to (with his good points of course). I'm sure there are others like him...and I'll find them eventually. But I still do miss him as a person. Can't replace a person. My pride just wont let me fall into that friend category. At least not yet

I do the "stop answering in the middle of the convo thing", but more so when they just say something vague...and it's cus it hurts to talk to him sometimes. Just keeping myself sane is all. And maybe this is just what your scorpio ex is going. I'm tellin ya. There is some unfinished business there.

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That makes sense. Right, at least you found someone to makes you see what you want. Than I bet it'll be easier to notice in others from then on.


Yea those could be true. I never understand what the business is I guess.

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Kits:

Hmm well maybe your just being picky! Which is good because that means you have an idea of what you want and your not settling. Yea it's like they say " anyone can be in a relationship but not everyone can be in a good one " so I'm sure thats a lonely process trying to find another person who is where you are at.

Plus I know you said the scorp had qualities you said you wanted in a person. I'm sure it's hard.

Yea ex scorp is very hot and cold. We'll sometimes talk or other times he'll just stop answering in the middle of the convo or flat out ignore me. It's interesting to see what and what he doesn't respond too.

But I at least got all my stuff back now ( except kitty 😢 ) so we don't really need to talk anymore.

Picky...standards...After dating the scorpio I just know what I want from a man.. he was a good standard to hold to (with his good points of course). I'm sure there are others like him...and I'll find them eventually. But I still do miss him as a person. Can't replace a person. My pride just wont let me fall into that friend category. At least not yet

I do the "stop answering in the middle of the convo thing", but more so when they just say something vague...and it's cus it hurts to talk to him sometimes. Just keeping myself sane is all. And maybe this is just what your scorpio ex is going. I'm tellin ya. There is some unfinished business there.

That makes sense. Right, at least you found someone to makes you see what you want. Than I bet it'll be easier to notice in others from then on.


Yea those could be true. I never understand what the business is I guess.

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Mhm, exactly.

The unfinished business could be the things left unsaid... tho he has to be able to talk it out with you for the air to be finally cleared. He may not want to cus he's scared of being hurt. You have a bf now so of course he's going to feel like he's gna get hurt

^ interesting. I never thought of it that way. Whenever I've been around him since we broke up he always seems like hes holding things back. Or even when we talk. I don't know it's hard to know.

I am massively having withdrawal from my Scorp, it gets me pretty down when I think about it! I relapsed on sat night, same night I met my Cap and text him 'Hi, just on a night out and wanted you to know I was thinking of you'. BIG mistake as I was doing so well. He replies to me on the Monday saying 'So you DO remember me then'.

WHAT A TREETRUNKER!! Needless to say I didn't reply (although I want to)

I now KNOW what I want in a man due to my treetrunking butterhead Scorp.............SOrry for my rant!!

I know, I know, I'm a FOOL. I have the tiniest glimmer of hope he will come back casually admitting his doings and how I'm the perfect girl for him............................OK maybe he won't but a girl can dream (sad times)

I can honestly say, all I done was be there for that man, when he was in trouble, when he was down, when he (and me) wanted sex but ALL on his terms. The only mistake I probably made was emotional overkill and that might have scared him? I've dealt with his 'no contact' (while I suffered quietly) BUT the thing is he done/said things to provoke my emotional outbursts, its like he enjoyed the emotional conflict he caused, of me hating him, secretly loving him. He was a mind reader!!

I miss him deeply *sob sob*

Posted by SagChick411
I am massively having withdrawal from my Scorp, it gets me pretty down when I think about it! I relapsed on sat night, same night I met my Cap and text him 'Hi, just on a night out and wanted you to know I was thinking of you'. BIG mistake as I was doing so well. He replies to me on the Monday saying 'So you DO remember me then'.

WHAT A TREETRUNKER!! Needless to say I didn't reply (although I want to)

I now KNOW what I want in a man due to my treetrunking butterhead Scorp.............SOrry for my rant!!

no apologies needed. speak your mind.

i feel like im falling in love with every man i see. neptune has an influence on me and so does pluto at the moment.

Awww thanks DMV...... SAD times😢

No man can match my Scorp, even though he was such a treetrunsker. I secretly loved him bringing all the emotions out of me, negative and positive. I think I'm a weirdo. It's like I 'know' how to 'feel' my emotions better, like I'm more in tune with them. Strange.....

Posted by SagChick411
Awww thanks DMV...... SAD times😢

No man can match my Scorp, even though he was such a treetrunsker. I secretly loved him bringing all the emotions out of me, negative and positive. I think I'm a weirdo. It's like I 'know' how to 'feel' my emotions better, like I'm more in tune with them. Strange.....

i hear ya

Posted by DMV
i feel like im falling in love with every man i see. neptune has an influence on me and so does pluto at the moment.

I've been having weird sex dreams about this aqua guy I use to know. He's a younger and I feel weird :o

I had a sex dream about J cole (yes the rapper) Oh what fond memories, I feel like I know him now....He's an Aqua

Posted by SagChick411
I had a sex dream about J cole (yes the rapper) Oh what fond memories, I feel like I know him now....He's an Aqua

Exactly! lol whys it always like that?

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Posted by DMV
i feel like im falling in love with every man i see. neptune has an influence on me and so does pluto at the moment.

I've been having weird sex dreams about this aqua guy I use to know. He's a younger and I feel weird :o

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I've been having weird sex dreams too... about the strangest people...and doing the strangest things... wtf is up lately?!

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Posted by DMV
i feel like im falling in love with every man i see. neptune has an influence on me and so does pluto at the moment.

I've been having weird sex dreams about this aqua guy I use to know. He's a younger and I feel weird :o

I've been having weird sex dreams too... about the strangest people...and doing the strangest things... wtf is up lately?!

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I don't know! Maybe it's the stars ahah

OH my goshhhhh, it's occurring in all our lives, def something in the air!! I feel like I'm falling in love with every guy I meet too. Maybe cause I want 'love' so badly I'm confusing 'attachment' to what I 'think' could' be 'love' but clearly is NOT.

Something is up with me, I am not understanding my own emotions at the moment, it's making me question If I ever have??

Whats up with that butter?

Oh you guys I totally forgot to mention I went an saw an astrologer a few weeks back and he told me a load of butter and load of stuff I totally agreed with/on. I think the reason we are feeling this way is due to whatever planet in Jupiter, something to do with love, it's going to remain there till Sept 2013 (apparently)

He said I will have a marriage proposal by Sept this year and my Scorp will start opening upto me in April. Apparently he is still mentally attached to his ex (the pisces) but emotionally attached to me (?)

Posted by SagChick411
Oh you guys I totally forgot to mention I went an saw an astrologer a few weeks back and he told me a load of butter and load of stuff I totally agreed with/on. I think the reason we are feeling this way is due to whatever planet in Jupiter, something to do with love, it's going to remain there till Sept 2013 (apparently)

He said I will have a marriage proposal by Sept this year and my Scorp will start opening upto me in April. Apparently he is still mentally attached to his ex (the pisces) but emotionally attached to me (?)

Yea something like that! Hmm I should get on hay house!

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Awww thanks DMV...... SAD times😢

No man can match my Scorp, even though he was such a treetrunsker. I secretly loved him bringing all the emotions out of me, negative and positive. I think I'm a weirdo. It's like I 'know' how to 'feel' my emotions better, like I'm more in tune with them. Strange.....

i hear ya

Gotta love meeting people that make you grow. Even if it goes horribly south, you know (in time at least) that you're better for it.

And SagChick I am SO sorry, but your mini breakdown on the other page had me totally cracking up. So relatable!

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Can't beat a mini breakdown!!! Got to be done!! LOL

Posted by SagChick411
OH my goshhhhh, it's occurring in all our lives, def something in the air!! I feel like I'm falling in love with every guy I meet too. Maybe cause I want 'love' so badly I'm confusing 'attachment' to what I 'think' could' be 'love' but clearly is NOT.

Something is up with me, I am not understanding my own emotions at the moment, it's making me question If I ever have??

Whats up with that butter?

Yeah I'm just kinda turned off by the idea of dating men for now because I'm at that desperate point and don't want to slip and dating a "meantime guy". Also I think that may be why I msged the scorpio that picture so I could get a response and once again my mind would be on him and not on these other guys who I shouldn't be dating at all.

Defense mechanism I guess, cus I know if the right guy came along I could just drop the scorpio like that...so where is that right guy?!

haha i currently am watching this show called Infested and this lady's house is infested with scorpions!

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OH my goshhhhh, it's occurring in all our lives, def something in the air!! I feel like I'm falling in love with every guy I meet too. Maybe cause I want 'love' so badly I'm confusing 'attachment' to what I 'think' could' be 'love' but clearly is NOT.

Something is up with me, I am not understanding my own emotions at the moment, it's making me question If I ever have??

Whats up with that butter?

Yeah I'm just kinda turned off by the idea of dating men for now because I'm at that desperate point and don't want to slip and dating a "meantime guy". Also I think that may be why I msged the scorpio that picture so I could get a response and once again my mind would be on him and not on these other guys who I shouldn't be dating at all.

Defense mechanism I guess, cus I know if the right guy came along I could just drop the scorpio like that...so where is that right guy?!

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Do you know what, that's the same reason I messaged my Scorp on Saturday night. I miss him dearly! I hate myself for it! My mind is back focused on my Scorp, it never left, I just tried to occupy myself with a whole load of work related butter and pointless outings (which btw didn't work)

So has your Scorp been in touch? I wish mine would 😢

Posted by DMV
haha i currently am watching this show called Infested and this lady's house is infested with scorpions!

LOL

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OH my goshhhhh, it's occurring in all our lives, def something in the air!! I feel like I'm falling in love with every guy I meet too. Maybe cause I want 'love' so badly I'm confusing 'attachment' to what I 'think' could' be 'love' but clearly is NOT.

Something is up with me, I am not understanding my own emotions at the moment, it's making me question If I ever have??

Whats up with that butter?

Yeah I'm just kinda turned off by the idea of dating men for now because I'm at that desperate point and don't want to slip and dating a "meantime guy". Also I think that may be why I msged the scorpio that picture so I could get a response and once again my mind would be on him and not on these other guys who I shouldn't be dating at all.

Defense mechanism I guess, cus I know if the right guy came along I could just drop the scorpio like that...so where is that right guy?!

Do you know what, that's the same reason I messaged my Scorp on Saturday night. I miss him dearly! I hate myself for it! My mind is back focused on my Scorp, it never left, I just tried to occupy myself with a whole load of work related butter and pointless outings (which btw didn't work)

So has your Scorp been in touch? I wish mine would 😢

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Damn that loneliness :/

Yeah he actually texted me tonight asking what was up. Apparently he couldn't sleep.

still haven't talk to mine!

Do you think you guys will get back together kits?

Posted by Sag89
still haven't talk to mine!

Do you think you guys will get back together kits?

No clue. Not wanting to get my hope up. Don't wanna get hurt again.

I'm debating shift conversation to more on the flirty side just to see if he takes the bait. I would enjoy a night of cuddling, but if he still didn't know what he wanted I'd go right back to shutting him out. This time with very little to no communication if he tried to msg me

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still haven't talk to mine!

Do you think you guys will get back together kits?

No clue. Not wanting to get my hope up. Don't wanna get hurt again.

I'm debating shift conversation to more on the flirty side just to see if he takes the bait. I would enjoy a night of cuddling, but if he still didn't know what he wanted I'd go right back to shutting him out. This time with very little to no communication if he tried to msg me

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makes sense

Posted by DazedScorp
This thread makes me want to vomit.

Go ahead

^ I will agree with you on that with my ex scorp. I was always unsure in that relationship.

My current one I'd have to say is " alright " in that sense it's relatively healthy for where we are both at with our personal issues.

Posted by DazedScorp
Why can't y'all see that you're the ones, both playing, and allowing the games to be played against you?

All of your are emotionally unready to be in a relationship. And you wonder why you jump around from man to man? You can't be honest with yourself, with want you want, and what you expect from your partner.

Expecially dealing with these Scorp men. Give me a woman who knows what she wants. And if you can't do that? Fake it. Fake it until you actually have the courage to be honest, and tell me.

You're playing with sharks here ladies...

They smell your fear and uncertainty. This is when we play games. We want to know what you're made of. But since you don't know what you want, you lose us. And in turn, you keep jumping around from man to man.

Fake it until you make it.

In my defense I know what I want now. I didn't before, but I have my standards set out now and I know the guy I want to be with. Hopping around like I did was me in my lonely state, but I knew right when I started talking to any of the guys I couldn't be with them.

In that sense yeah I don't need a relationship right now. At least not until I find another one I genuinely like that upholds to my standards so that I won't feel the need to run. As long as I don't feel that nagging pain of loneliness I'm fine. But when I do it's the worst and I have to keep to myself or I will hop like crazy

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Posted by DazedScorp
Why can't y'all see that you're the ones, both playing, and allowing the games to be played against you?

All of your are emotionally unready to be in a relationship. And you wonder why you jump around from man to man? You can't be honest with yourself, with want you want, and what you expect from your partner.

Expecially dealing with these Scorp men. Give me a woman who knows what she wants. And if you can't do that? Fake it. Fake it until you actually have the courage to be honest, and tell me.

You're playing with sharks here ladies...

They smell your fear and uncertainty. This is when we play games. We want to know what you're made of. But since you don't know what you want, you lose us. And in turn, you keep jumping around from man to man.

Fake it until you make it.

In my defense I know what I want now. I didn't before, but I have my standards set out now and I know the guy I want to be with. Hopping around like I did was me in my lonely state, but I knew right when I started talking to any of the guys I couldn't be with them.

In that sense yeah I don't need a relationship right now. At least not until I find another one I genuinely like that upholds to my standards so that I won't feel the need to run. As long as I don't feel that nagging pain of loneliness I'm fine. But when I do it's the worst and I have to keep to myself or I will hop like crazy

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Oh Kits I hear you. I may have lost my Scorp but I do feel I now know what I want in/from a relationship so waiting for that special someone *says I while I barf into my hat* (no, but seriously I wana meet someone special) Until then I happy hopping around till I meet someone on my wavelength. Somethings gotta give! HA

Anyhow I feel in a much better place now, things are looking up finally!!!! wahoooooo