leo girl seeking advice!!!!

Hello everyone my name is mallory and I never posted on the sag board but I'm desperately seeking advice from you sagittarius.

ok here goes.Im a leo and my so called friend is a sag.We were getting along good untill she reconnected with her cousin.Now mind you I have always been the one to call my friend.I always was the one who offered to take her to dinner in which everytime she always said yes.When she started her new job she asked for a pair of shoes and shirt to borrow and I gave it to her with no problem.Now she hardly ever calls me unless she wants me to go with her somewhere or if she calling to blab about her life.If it's benefiting her thats when she calls.Now out of our six year friendship she never mentioned to me that I was so called doing things to hurt her.Her cousin starts hanging out with us and all of a sudden all this ish about me being indirect with her and me treating her bad comes out.Now im saying to myself why you wait six years to tell me about myself.I said "real friends dont do that".Her reply was "I didn't say anything because I figured that the way you are".And I'm saying to myself bs pure bs.Why would you take a persons crap?I know that if someone is treating me bad I won't hesitate to bite my tongue.I put everything on my life when I say I trusted this girl and she shocked when she tried to play victim as we were arguing.Now I don't know if this is a sag trait is it?Do you guys hold things in and then explode when you can't take it anymore!!!I have a high self-esteem and think highly of myself very proud and my friend knows this.So how the hell could she think I'm always tryin to hurt her when I always do things for her.Mind you I never got an "let me take you to dinner friend".Never get that!Never get a phone call from her and when I do The calls are either 2 weeks or a month apart now anit that some sH*t!So now my friend has a new boyfriend.Before her boyfriend she always kept a distance between me and her and now that she got a man I never see her!And I feel so bad because I love her and I really thought she was my friend!Then on top of that her and her cousin would make plans and don't even invite me and then when I come around talk about how much fun they had.Just recently my so called friend told me that she going on a trip with her cousin and im like ok if I anit invited what are telling me for just to throw sh@T in my face.I sent my friend a text message friday to see how she was and she replied "im food shopping my sis asked about you".and basically didn't respond anymore.Im like what is her problem. please help

Hi cherieamour21!!

My best friend of 9 years is a female leo, our relationship is alot like yours but vise versa, I'm usually the one who calls her, the one to take her out to dinner (our favorite pastime), buy her gifts, etc.. She married about a year ago, and getting ahold of her is a nightmare, out of the dozen or so numbers I have of hers, there's still a very slim chance of getting her on the phone, and when I do get her on the phone I'm lucky if the call lasts more than 20 minutes. But when we do talk or make time for each other it's awesome, I have never felt so comfortable with anyone else, she's like the sister I never had. Our life style s have always been opposites, I married young and moved around alot with the military, she lived at home with her parents until she was 26. So we've never spent a great deal of time together, we both seem to be busy with our lives.

Most Sagittarian's do not like Clingy friends and will become very irritated if one is constantly calling or invading their privacy. This irritation will cause them to become very distant. I say this because when I first met my friend she practically moved in with me, she was always showing up or calling. This of course caused me to back away from her for a while. Well then I hadn't heard from her in a while and realized I missed her terribly, and of course I couldn't get ahold of her then!! LOL

Maybe you should try to back away a bit and see if she comes back. You know the old saying "if you love something set it free, etc,,) this has always worked on me, took my hubby years to learn that trick!!

As for why she didn't tell you that you were hurting her, some saggi's will keep something like that in to keep from hurting someone they love, well eventually it will blow up. My friend and I learned a long time ago that we are both strong people who would rather honesty over staying quiet. So that hasn't been a problem for us.

I hope you can get things figured out because this is honestly a lasting friendship, I havn't found the same comfort level with anyone else. And as much as we annoy and irritate each other from time to time, we still love and admire each other a great deal.

Hope this helps...

Thanx proud sag but the thing is I never smothered her.Actually when she first started hanging out with me she used to cling to me.And she had another sag bestfriend whom she no longer friends with and right after that all of a sudden I became her good friend.While she befriended her other friend whom is the sag me hurting her never came up.So all the while im thinking im a good friend.I can't deal deal with her,but when she wanted something she knew how to ask for it.It used to be times when I used to make her come outside she used to be depressed.I was the one encouraging her to be better and now im the antagonist?Well that broad got some nerve im gonna disappear as well,because popular to contrary belief leo's can also be aloof.I think my friend is also jealous of me because I grew up with my parents and she didn't.And she even told me she gets jealous of people who are fortunate.I understand her pain but dam.I can't deal with her im still licking my wounds.