Need Advice

First and foremost let me introduce myself...
I'm a 22 year old sag.. In school, graduating soon for architecture, and working hard to establish my first business that will eventually become a non-profit organization ... Hoping to be a future millionaire and a CEO ... Have fought a lot to get where I'm at right now.. And my biggest thing I'm working on keeping is peace ... I'm truly a genuine person and caring... We all have our negative aspects, but I try to improve on those because I'm aware if I'll be running multiple businesses and having people livelihoods in my hand, I have to make sure that I'm right.

I'm writing because I'm trying to understand why I attract the type of people I do in my life ... Especially the ones I romantically am attracted to or that's attracted to me.


I'm a Sag sun
Leo moon,
Mars in cancer
Venus in Aquarius ...


It's either .. They don't want me until they see me with someone else ...
They intentionally try to hurt me...
Or they expect for me to wait until "they get them right" and get mad when I meet someone new...
It's to the point where I'm not letting anyone in the door anymore because it's the same cycle ...
My friends say that I'm bold and can have any chick that I want etc, because a lot of girls (dudes also) are attracted to me...
I am attracted to women... Everything about them, and I'm a lady myself ... But I'm just wondering ... Have or do you guys have any of these problems as far people not seeing your true worth? When you're direct and genuine and only want what's best for them...

Yes all the time. Truly is a cycle

Men act like im disposable and theres a fair share of disrespect. UNTIL I move on and another guy is in the picture, they come back full force and they still arent all the way nice nice. They get so mean because I dont want to put up with their disrespect anymore. Im not sweatin them and ivd taken my smiles elsewhere.

imo, you had my full attention and you didnt do anything with it. They get surprised when im dating around, yet you never had a conversation where you stated you wanted more.

ive chosen to focus on work.

I dont know what aspect keeps bringing the same guy. Guys who only communicative negatively.

A few women admirers act the same way toward me.

This is what confuses me the most ... And I used to trip off of it but now I'm really focusing on myself and my brand... Because I just don't have the energy...


It's like, what do you expect me to do? I think maybe because when I meet someone new ... I don't carry old baggage from anyone with me... I don't expect you to... I just want to have a great time and make memories. If I say that, I'm keeping my word...


I guess people don't do that. Because the women are looking at me crazy when I actually keep my word, take them out, etc... People can't handle real from what I'm learning, they like games.

Posted by DMV
A few women admirers act the same way toward me.

I've been told.. You talk slick.. You're charming... You seem like you don't care.... And I'm thinking maybe on the surface, people feel like we don't care? But I'm like how don't I care? Lol.. I'm here.. And I used to let that keep me around, but as of lately ... I'm just letting people go. I'd rather be alone than be played with. I need someone to understand that mental games doesn't have to be negative ... I need that intensity and passion.. I need that great sex and great laughs and space and genuine spirit man... People becoming so Wack to me .... Especially girls that I've encountered lately. I took a girl out and she said, "I'm a dog a** female." Who tries to purposely hurt people lol?

@OP:

Male Sag w/leo moon, mars in scorp and Venus in sag and I have the exact same problem...don't see me until I'm gone.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
@OP:

Male Sag w/leo moon, mars in scorp and Venus in sag and I have the exact same problem...don't see me until I'm gone.

Maybe people feel we will always be there... Because, when I choose to leave them alone; they truly be mad. Like they hate me for it lol...

It's just Wack to me.. Lol. I'm not about to stick around for too long, especially when I don't see improvement. Time flies... I feel like people don't want to see the real us. Lol... I see the good in everyone (one of my major problems) and how hard is it for people to see the same in me? You know?? Maybe, I do give up too fast but I feel that, it's supposed to be roses and fun... And natural. Not supposed to be a headache.

Posted by arose32

Posted by beautifulsoul74
@OP:

Male Sag w/leo moon, mars in scorp and Venus in sag and I have the exact same problem...don't see me until I'm gone.

Maybe people feel we will always be there... Because, when I choose to leave them alone; they truly be mad. Like they hate me for it lol...

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Look at it this way, would you rather play the same game they do and cloud the picture up or simply be that kind and loving person and find out quicker who somebody really is by what they do with it? I do the latter and I'm ok with that because I made peace with it. Instead of taking multiple shots hoping to hit the target...learn to improve you aim. Change what you look for.

We want someone who's different. Just have to wade through the crowd of people wearing the same mask and find the person who's separated themselves by standing on the wall and they've been waiting for you 🙂

Okay. I thought I found that, and she turned out to be the worst lol. First relationship and got cheated on and lied to in my face without a blink. But, I'm willing to be patient and let that one person come... I know there's hope. I'm young, but wishful thinking... Everyone wants someone, but I refuse to settle anymore. And I feel with the rightvperson, it will be natural.


Question: does all relationships have problems? I feel once it's a problem, I'm supposed to leave them alone.

Posted by busyeyes88
Sorry to interrupt guys, I know this is for sags and I don't want to "troll " your thread or your board, but my sister is also a sag and you guys don't seem to realise what other people see and how you guys act are very different!! I believe sags are genuinely misunderstood, but you guys and gals don't seem to hang around long enough for people to get to see the real you but because you are multifaceted with many layers people don't take the time to fully see what is underneath your layers.

Busy I get that, but really what is it they need to "see?" To "figure out?" When something good comes along, you simply accept it for what it is.

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Posted by DMV
A few women admirers act the same way toward me.

I've been told.. You talk slick.. You're charming... You seem like you don't care.... And I'm thinking maybe on the surface, people feel like we don't care? But I'm like how don't I care? Lol.. I'm here.. And I used to let that keep me around, but as of lately ... I'm just letting people go. I'd rather be alone than be played with. I need someone to understand that mental games doesn't have to be negative ... I need that intensity and passion.. I need that great sex and great laughs and space and genuine spirit man... People becoming so Wack to me .... Especially girls that I've encountered lately. I took a girl out and she said, "I'm a dog a** female." Who tries to purposely hurt people lol?

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most ppl are disillusioned from dating. not really their fault. If you keep meeting bad apples, thats what you expect.

i do think the nonchalant behavior could be the culprit. they dont believe that we actually mean what we say.

Posted by arose32
Okay. I thought I found that, and she turned out to be the worst lol. First relationship and got cheated on and lied to in my face without a blink. But, I'm willing to be patient and let that one person come... I know there's hope. I'm young, but wishful thinking... Everyone wants someone, but I refuse to settle anymore. And I feel with the rightvperson, it will be natural.


Question: does all relationships have problems? I feel once it's a problem, I'm supposed to leave them alone.

All of them do have problems. Even the most "perfect" ones. Thing is, what do you do when they come? I know it's not that simple but do you quit because of problems at work? Relationships are more or less about how you work with that person. It is a path that one can travel to grow themselves.

And I've shown them.. I remember the little things.. Recently was involved with a Leo chick and it was super intense and passionate ... Almost perfect .. She got carried away, afraid, and ran lol... Took her out after six months of us talking and having s** and she was worried about "why I wanted to take her out. And what were my intentions" ... What does that even mean? I've already did everything ... We are supposed to be friends and cool, I just want to see you smile man..


I've also heard thatnits easy to fall in love with us, and some fight the feeling...

Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by arose32
Okay. I thought I found that, and she turned out to be the worst lol. First relationship and got cheated on and lied to in my face without a blink. But, I'm willing to be patient and let that one person come... I know there's hope. I'm young, but wishful thinking... Everyone wants someone, but I refuse to settle anymore. And I feel with the rightvperson, it will be natural.


Question: does all relationships have problems? I feel once it's a problem, I'm supposed to leave them alone.

All of them do have problems. Even the most "perfect" ones. Thing is, what do you do when they come? I know it's not that simple but do you quit because of problems at work? Relationships are more or less about how you work with that person. It is a path that one can travel to grow themselves.

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My thing is this.. Right now, my goal is to get my company off the ground... And I'm always working for school.. I'm really passionate about becoming the next Oprah and people can see it on me. They say my drive and ambition and hard work paying off. And I can see it coming.. My whole thing is I need someone to understand that IF you are b's'n me I will not give you that attention. So sometimes girls feel I don't care .. When I truly do. But I can get carried away with my brand and my work and forget to text or call.. It's just because why should I waste negative energy on anyone. ? Idk... Smh.

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Posted by busyeyes88
Sorry to interrupt guys, I know this is for sags and I don't want to "troll " your thread or your board, but my sister is also a sag and you guys don't seem to realise what other people see and how you guys act are very different!! I believe sags are genuinely misunderstood, but you guys and gals don't seem to hang around long enough for people to get to see the real you but because you are multifaceted with many layers people don't take the time to fully see what is underneath your layers.

Busy I get that, but really what is it they need to "see?" To "figure out?" When something good comes along, you simply accept it for what it is.

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exactly. however, if your disillusioned by life and the media...your going to be more inclined to "wait and see"

but i agree with you. I dont need to spend alot of time to figure someone out and for interest.

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Posted by arose32
And I've shown them.. I remember the little things.. Recently was involved with a Leo chick and it was super intense and passionate ... Almost perfect .. She got carried away, afraid, and ran lol... Took her out after six months of us talking and having s** and she was worried about "why I wanted to take her out. And what were my intentions" ... What does that even mean? I've already did everything ... We are supposed to be friends and cool, I just want to see you smile man..


I've also heard thatnits easy to fall in love with us, and some fight the feeling...

That's very leo. She sounds as if she may have a scorpio moon. As my leo bff would be the same way and she has a scorpio moon.

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It sucks because for a minute ... I thought we were good. What I noticed about the chicks I encounter is, they're damaged on the inside .. Lot of pain and a lot of insecurities. But to the world they're "in control." That's why when they act all high and mighty I just look at them because I'm like girl I know you are a marshmallow lol. Her emotions run so deep though, like she sulks and stuff and very sentimental and she always comes back but I find myself wanting more... So I'm taking a step back, because I feel so unappreciated. She's too prideful to speak up... So I guess it's over with...