Shyleo21
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rollercoaster ride with my sag.. heeelp
yes thats the comment that threw me off cause its something i would expect from my shitty ex. however I'm not sure if it was just because he was mad id been snooping on his things and seen that OR if he was just being brutally honest. i haven't brought up that topic again cause its a bit tense right now and i kind of want to see how he will handle this without me saying anything..... trust right -.-
"Things are great when you're together but when you're apart, that's when it gets weird"
Think maybe it's in your head? and when he is away it fuels your doubt and creates bigger insecurity issues?
Because there is insecurity. That's normal. But you need to find out why you feel that way. Then tackle the situation.
Focus on your thought patterns when he is gone. What do you think about and what do you do?
Think maybe it's in your head? and when he is away it fuels your doubt and creates bigger insecurity issues?
Because there is insecurity. That's normal. But you need to find out why you feel that way. Then tackle the situation.
Focus on your thought patterns when he is gone. What do you think about and what do you do?
Posted by busyeyes88he did drop the other girls for our entire relationship.. thats why i got worried because it just popped up. before this incident i would say our relationship was close to perfect, he was REALLY good to me and wasnt afraid to let people know he loved me.. we've had a couple of issues in the past but always overcame them. i was thinking it was maybe he was feeling suffocated with me at his house (we literally saw each other 12+ hours of most days) and then the issue of me going through his things would make him feel even more suffocated. most of our issues started after that incident so thats why my assumption... anyways i wouldn't say I'm giving up but I've just been caring a little less.. this morning he texted me first for the first time since everything happened and also asked me to come over soo we will see how it goes. i know he has a good heart deep down and that he loves me, I'm the only girl he's ever let into his life this much but he also has a bad side to him... just not sure which one is stronger.
Sorry OP, but sag men have a reputation of being "whores"!! I have a sag male aqauaintance who is cheating on his long term partner ; and the woman whom he is having an affair with (who he claims to be in love with you the way), he can't even be "faithful" to her as he also had a fuck buddy he was having sex with once a week! So I managed to persuade him to give up the fuck buddy but I'm having difficulty getting him to give up his mistress and to give his relaxa chance as he.has two small children!!
I'm sorry OP, but longer you stay with him the more unsure and insecure you will become. If there was any trust in the first place you would not have looked in his fb account (not that that is a good excuse - it's wrong to snoop into someone else personal affairs).
He is stringing you along and keeping his options open which is what sags do all the time!
Gurl would you move on from this loser...sheesh do we really have to tell you this?
ons. I accidentally hid it.
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by MohiniWe she feels the way she feels? He's showing her all the red flags n even voiced it out.
"Things are great when you're together but when you're apart, that's when it gets weird"
Think maybe it's in your head? and when he is away it fuels your doubt and creates bigger insecurity issues?
Because there is insecurity. That's normal. But you need to find out why you feel that way. Then tackle the situation.
Focus on your thought patterns when he is gone. What do you think about and what do you do?
This isn't a wrong thought he's supporting with actions her thought processclick to expand
I'm more concerned with her thought process. Should she not notice his? Duh. So let's look past the first and frees and find some roots.
So I back tracked and found it.
What I mean is, SHE should notice things for herself, yes? The root of her problem is more of concern.
Posted by libraqueenPosted by DMVWhat did he do to deserve a breakup?
Gurl would you move on from this loser...sheesh do we really have to tell you this?click to expand
You are one bright eyed individual.
Posted by busyeyes88Apparently so do Taurus men... I thought I was alone until I came to this site. Lol
Sorry OP, but sag men have a reputation of being "whores"!! I have a sag male aqauaintance who is cheating on his long term partner ; and the woman whom he is having an affair with (who he claims to be in love with you the way), he can't even be "faithful" to her as he also had a fuck buddy he was having sex with once a week! So I managed to persuade him to give up the fuck buddy but I'm having difficulty getting him to give up his mistress and to give his relaxa chance as he.has two small children!!
I'm sorry OP, but longer you stay with him the more unsure and insecure you will become. If there was any trust in the first place you would not have looked in his fb account (not that that is a good excuse - it's wrong to snoop into someone else personal affairs).
He is stringing you along and keeping his options open which is what sags do all the time!
Maybe in his mind what he's saying is true. You just have to think if a guy like this is worth it.
Sounds like he is young and still sowing his wild oats. After a few rounds of BS, he'll be ready for something stable.
Question is, do you want to be there waiting for him to see how he feels about other women? What exactly does that mean? How far is he allowed to go?
If this were me, I'd either leave or join (go out and see how I "feel" about other guys too). Otherwise, I would end up resenting the fucker big time.
Sounds like he is young and still sowing his wild oats. After a few rounds of BS, he'll be ready for something stable.
Question is, do you want to be there waiting for him to see how he feels about other women? What exactly does that mean? How far is he allowed to go?
If this were me, I'd either leave or join (go out and see how I "feel" about other guys too). Otherwise, I would end up resenting the fucker big time.
First of all...you both are young. So let me put myself back in your place... (Although I'm not THAT much older... Haha
Anyway...Even when you are young and you both party or one does you should never feel disrespected in a relationship.
1. He's flirting with other girls. If it didn't bother you, it wouldn't be a big issue. But it does... And it will continue to bother you if he continues to do it. (Therefore, you will feel disrespected often). You need to be with someone who you can feel secure with OR be single and understand what makes you feel insecure first before putting someone in your life and never be able to trust them because they are different from you when it comes to friends/going out etc.
2. I'm glad you moved out. You need time to see if he is the right guy for you.
3. If you have to go through his stuff then that's an issue. My sag boyfriend and I have each others' passwords. We do not go through each others' phones. However, my Sag boyfriend could give a damn if I see what's on his phone and vice versa. We sincerely don't care. But we don't feel the need either, because honestly I don't like to feel like my partner doesn't trust me. However, my Taurus ex used to freak out if I even touched his phone to give it to him. (He was cheating though so that makes sense now.) Anyway, if you feel a need then you are worried/insecure etc. This guy is not a good fit for you then.
4. @libraqueen I have to disagree with you about this one. Your Sag guy plays video games when he has stuff on his mind, her Sag goes out and parties, ignores her/flirts, and doesn't come home/doesn't call her. Both of you may feel neglected, but OP's Sag is disrespecting her. This is not a SAG thing, this is a "I don't know how to deal with shit so I'm going to go out, party, and ignore you" crap. Op's sag needs to grow the hell up or stay single. Your Sag needed to see that you wanted to spend quality time.
OP my Taurus did the same thing in his 30's. It never stopped. I wish I would have known it wasn't... It definitely is not something I'd want anyone to go through. Again, it's not a sign thing, you have to be compatible in many aspects in life. You don't trust him and he doesn't trust you (for going through his phone.) That's a hard habit to break once it's been established.
People should be in a relationship where they feel secure, safe, and loved. It should be a conscience effort to help your partner feel this way. But you should always rely on yourself to make yourself happy, so that if you are not getting what you need, then you are strong enough to leave. Do what you feel is right for you girl..
Anyway...Even when you are young and you both party or one does you should never feel disrespected in a relationship.
1. He's flirting with other girls. If it didn't bother you, it wouldn't be a big issue. But it does... And it will continue to bother you if he continues to do it. (Therefore, you will feel disrespected often). You need to be with someone who you can feel secure with OR be single and understand what makes you feel insecure first before putting someone in your life and never be able to trust them because they are different from you when it comes to friends/going out etc.
2. I'm glad you moved out. You need time to see if he is the right guy for you.
3. If you have to go through his stuff then that's an issue. My sag boyfriend and I have each others' passwords. We do not go through each others' phones. However, my Sag boyfriend could give a damn if I see what's on his phone and vice versa. We sincerely don't care. But we don't feel the need either, because honestly I don't like to feel like my partner doesn't trust me. However, my Taurus ex used to freak out if I even touched his phone to give it to him. (He was cheating though so that makes sense now.) Anyway, if you feel a need then you are worried/insecure etc. This guy is not a good fit for you then.
4. @libraqueen I have to disagree with you about this one. Your Sag guy plays video games when he has stuff on his mind, her Sag goes out and parties, ignores her/flirts, and doesn't come home/doesn't call her. Both of you may feel neglected, but OP's Sag is disrespecting her. This is not a SAG thing, this is a "I don't know how to deal with shit so I'm going to go out, party, and ignore you" crap. Op's sag needs to grow the hell up or stay single. Your Sag needed to see that you wanted to spend quality time.
OP my Taurus did the same thing in his 30's. It never stopped. I wish I would have known it wasn't... It definitely is not something I'd want anyone to go through. Again, it's not a sign thing, you have to be compatible in many aspects in life. You don't trust him and he doesn't trust you (for going through his phone.) That's a hard habit to break once it's been established.
People should be in a relationship where they feel secure, safe, and loved. It should be a conscience effort to help your partner feel this way. But you should always rely on yourself to make yourself happy, so that if you are not getting what you need, then you are strong enough to leave. Do what you feel is right for you girl..
Posted by jane84Cosign to 1 and 2...too lazy to read the rest lol
First of all...you both are young. So let me put myself back in your place... (Although I'm not THAT much older... Haha
Anyway...Even when you are young and you both party or one does you should never feel disrespected in a relationship.
1. He's flirting with other girls. If it didn't bother you, it wouldn't be a big issue. But it does... And it will continue to bother you if he continues to do it. (Therefore, you will feel disrespected often). You need to be with someone who you can feel secure with OR be single and understand what makes you feel insecure first before putting someone in your life and never be able to trust them because they are different from you when it comes to friends/going out etc.
2. I'm glad you moved out. You need time to see if he is the right guy for you.
3. If you have to go through his stuff then that's an issue. My sag boyfriend and I have each others' passwords. We do not go through each others' phones. However, my Sag boyfriend could give a damn if I see what's on his phone and vice versa. We sincerely don't care. But we don't feel the need either, because honestly I don't like to feel like my partner doesn't trust me. However, my Taurus ex used to freak out if I even touched his phone to give it to him. (He was cheating though so that makes sense now.) Anyway, if you feel a need then you are worried/insecure etc. This guy is not a good fit for you then.
4. @libraqueen I have to disagree with you about this one. Your Sag guy plays video games when he has stuff on his mind, her Sag goes out and parties, ignores her/flirts, and doesn't come home/doesn't call her. Both of you may feel neglected, but OP's Sag is disrespecting her. This is not a SAG thing, this is a "I don't know how to deal with shit so I'm going to go out, party, and ignore you" crap. Op's sag needs to grow the hell up or stay single. Your Sag needed to see that you wanted to spend quality time.
OP my Taurus did the same thing in his 30's. It never stopped. I wish I would have known it wasn't... It definitely is not something I'd want anyone to go through. Again, it's not a sign thing, you have to be compatible in many aspects in life. You don't trust him and he doesn't trust you (for going through his phone.) That's a hard habit to break once it's been established.
People should be in a relationship where they feel secure, safe, and loved. It should be a conscience effort to help your partner feel this way. But you should always rely on yourself to make yourself happy, so that if you are not getting what you need, then you are strong enough to leave. Do what you feel is right for you girl..
OP this is ultimately about what you can take. You could stay in the relationship longer than necessary, then loo
Posted by libraqueenI've put it down to just needing space (we've been together for 9 months and since we met we've seen each other almost everyday ..most of it his initiation).. This is his longest relationship and he's never had to deal with this before so I think he's also trying to figure out what he's going through. He's also only 22 so still young..
I think it's ludacris to leave a relationship on problems that aren't even happening. You say he's good deep down and you know he loves you, so what's the problem? Your problem is your jealousy. First of all I hope he dropped these girls on his own term and not you asking him to. He would happily comply until he feels like it. The trick is to have him drop everything to win YOU. You have to make it feel like unless he does all these things he can't keep you..but the moment you ASK him it's pointless.
He asked you to come over so make sure you say these thin..that you're sorry for snooping, and a gut feeling led you there. ask him "was what I saw harmless?" And say you won't do it again. And mean it.
My boyfriend is a Sag and I understand him enough and trust him just like you do, minus the crazy partying. It could be a stress relief like I said because when my boyfriend is stressed about finances or family, he resorts to hours and hours of video games which led me to feeling neglected HOWEVER I didn't care, I noticed straight away it was his way of "running away" so I gave him the space without mentioning a thing. He eventually stopped and starting giving me so much attention saying he "missed me" (we live together) and feels we are distant lately. I pointed out his video game habits and that's when he realized it was his fault.
So anyway, female attention is the same as playing games or sports or whatever. It gives them a rush. It doesn't mean they don't love you. It really doesn't. Just let him have his space. However if he cheats run as fast as you can. Anything but intimacy is cheating, don't let flirting make you sad. it doesn't mean anything.
I've just decided to give him as much space as I can.. The only issue arises If he asks me to hang out, do I say yes or do I act busy? I don't want to play games but I don't want to be needy
In future I will definitely just play it more cool, my best friend is a sag and has done similar things in his relationship however I know he deeply loves his gf
Posted by jane84We are both very young! To be honest I really don't know what it is.. I don't wanna give up and run if if its just needing space but I'm also worried it could just b
First of all...you both are young. So let me put myself back in your place... (Although I'm not THAT much older... Haha
Anyway...Even when you are young and you both party or one does you should never feel disrespected in a relationship.
1. He's flirting with other girls. If it didn't bother you, it wouldn't be a big issue. But it does... And it will continue to bother you if he continues to do it. (Therefore, you will feel disrespected often). You need to be with someone who you can feel secure with OR be single and understand what makes you feel insecure first before putting someone in your life and never be able to trust them because they are different from you when it comes to friends/going out etc.
2. I'm glad you moved out. You need time to see if he is the right guy for you.
3. If you have to go through his stuff then that's an issue. My sag boyfriend and I have each others' passwords. We do not go through each others' phones. However, my Sag boyfriend could give a damn if I see what's on his phone and vice versa. We sincerely don't care. But we don't feel the need either, because honestly I don't like to feel like my partner doesn't trust me. However, my Taurus ex used to freak out if I even touched his phone to give it to him. (He was cheating though so that makes sense now.) Anyway, if you feel a need then you are worried/insecure etc. This guy is not a good fit for you then.
4. @libraqueen I have to disagree with you about this one. Your Sag guy plays video games when he has stuff on his mind, her Sag goes out and parties, ignores her/flirts, and doesn't come home/doesn't call her. Both of you may feel neglected, but OP's Sag is disrespecting her. This is not a SAG thing, this is a "I don't know how to deal with shit so I'm going to go out, party, and ignore you" crap. Op's sag needs to grow the hell up or stay single. Your Sag needed to see that you wanted to spend quality time.
OP my Taurus did the same thing in his 30's. It never stopped. I wish I would have known it wasn't... It definitely is not something I'd want anyone to go through. Again, it's not a sign thing, you have to be compatible in many aspects in life. You don't trust him and he doesn't trust you (for going through his phone.) That's a hard habit to break once it's been established.
People should be in a relationship where they feel secure, safe, and loved. It should be a conscience effort to help your partner feel this way. But you should always rely on yourself to make yourself happy, so that if you are not getting what you need, then you are strong enough to leave. Do what you feel is right for you girl..
How much do Sagittarius mean what they say? Also do they play games? I have a feeling he might be doing some of this just to see how I react (especially after I went through his things)
Posted by busyeyes88Yeah I see how you can relate to it since you had a relationship with a sag...just like I can relate to being with a cheating. lying Taurus man. Plus I have several Taurus in my life who cheat very badly on their wives/gfs and brag about it to me (one who is a Taurus woman.) All but one, my cousin who does not cheat on his Sag wife. That seems to work. But anyway. We can tell you have issues with Sag men, sorry you went through that. No one deserves to be treated badly in a relationship. And I sincerely believe it's not a sun sign thing. I love the sag people in my life. But again the OP's is definitely not respecting her. I left my Taurus ex for doing that crap to me, I wouldn't expect any woman to put up with it. No matter what sign they are.Posted by jane84Sure, all men have a tendency to do that which is not based just on a sun sign! Being strung along by a fire sign especially sag... I can relate to that.. But to be strung along by a taurus... I struggle with that!! They are very timid and mild... Still! It happens obviously!Posted by busyeyes88Apparently so do Taurus men... I thought I was alone until I came to this site. Lol
Sorry OP, but sag men have a reputation of being "whores"!! I have a sag male aqauaintance who is cheating on his long term partner ; and the woman whom he is having an affair with (who he claims to be in love with you the way), he can't even be "faithful" to her as he also had a fuck buddy he was having sex with once a week! So I managed to persuade him to give up the fuck buddy but I'm having difficulty getting him to give up his mistress and to give his relaxa chance as he.has two small children!!
I'm sorry OP, but longer you stay with him the more unsure and insecure you will become. If there was any trust in the first place you would not have looked in his fb account (not that that is a good excuse - it's wrong to snoop into someone else personal affairs).
He is stringing you along and keeping his options open which is what sags do all the time!click to expand
@busyeyes88 I know this Sag you speak of is a friend. I thought I read something from you on another thread that said you were married to or in a long term with a Sag? Which is what I was referring to. But if I'm completely wrong, I apologize.
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now i know this isn't such a big deal but he has a bit of a past with girls, he's slept with most girls he speaks to or is 'friends" and had generally no respect for females and therefore would always hop from one to the next. so seeing all that got me really worried and i called and asked why he hadn't contacted me. he made a bunch of excuses about reception and battery dying even though he was still active on social media as well as excuses for searching up girls and asking them to hang out. one of them was he needed to be sure he really loves me depending on how he feels when he's with other girls which really threw me off guard because he's always told me I'm his soul mate and that theres no one else like me anyways i let it go but a bit of trust was gone.
fast forward to a about a week ago, he saw id logged onto his fb etc while he was at that party and he was really upset by it because it showed i didnt trust him.. i explained that i did trust him but with the signs he's been showing i freaked out (I'm a leo so i tend to overthink especially if its something I've never seen hm done before).. i said sorry for going through his things because i genuinely felt bad but it affected him alot to the point where he didnt know how to move forward with the relationship. we decided to "start from scratch" and see how it goes deep deep down i still felt bit of distrust due to what id seen on his fb cause i felt like his old self was coming back. anyways I've now moved out of his place we are still working on things slowly but I'm worried he's might be keeping me around until he finds someone else. when I'm with him everything feels normal, its only when we're apart that things feel weird.
sorry its SO long but have any of you sags experienced this while in a relationship?? I'm just not sure what to do or say.. i still care but I'm afraid he might be playing me