Sag man distant for a few weeks

My sag and I have been together almost 5 months now.
He was incredible at the beginning, I fell so hard so fast. He was caring, considerate, passionate, reliable, dependable, gentle, etc.
Then one night I caught him flirting online with another woman.
We fought hard about it for days (that's when I first saw that sag temper). But he got really dirty, saying things deliberately to hurt me. But we moved past that and we haven't had any problem about him flirting since.
But he has grown more and more distant, spending less and less time with me. Conversations are bland, and sometimes if I am lucky I will get a 'yes babe' when trying to talk to him about something.
I've done our synastry, and we are supposed to be a good match other than the obvious incompatible sun signs.
At the beginning I gave him tons of space and he did most of the chasing and seducing. Even after our first big fight I gave him tons of space, but he spends less and less time with me. And we've fought about it. And now on occasion he will even ignore my messages. Yesterday for the first time he ignored me for about a day which is totally unusual, didn't even get a good morning text, which he sends every day first because he wakes up first. Before that I jokingly complained that our conversations were getting kind of dull and boring for me because of his robotic one word answers.
Asked him about it and he gave me some long winded excuse. I texted him that I needed a break till his holiday is over (he's on holiday for another day or so). I knew sags like lots of space so with him I toned down the usual pisces clinginess and it was easy because I felt so secure with him. But things have changed. He hasn't replied to my texts so I want to know do you think he is done for good or he also just needs the time off? And why has been getting so distant?
He is sag sun, gem moon, and aqua venus.

Posted by RainDancer88
Sagittarius will never do that to someone whom they want a future with. :/

Maybe he has something on the side? I dunno. That is not our style . Something is up.

I've been wondering that too...when I've tried to confront him about it he gets REALLY angry and tells me to leave him if I am going to treat him with suspicion and not trust him ~shrugs~

He just messaged me like nothing has happened...WTF

Posted by honeejr
I have had two sag's..the one who was cheating did this...the second one has and anger but goes nowwhere..he always was there. So yes I say something is up. Keep your head up.

Yeah I think he is cheating 😢

So while he was on holiday he told me he met up with a friend...the night he totally ignored my messages.
Then he reveals today that he was with a female friend...and asked me if I would mind if he posted the pictures on fb. I told him to go ahead (of course because I want to see these pictures and this 'friend').

He tried to be attentive and gave me some attention today, but this ignoring me while he is with a female friend has put me off him.

Are you guys in a serious committed relationship?

Posted by DMV
Are you guys in a serious committed relationship?

Yes we are 😢

Posted by RainDancer88
Sagittarius will never do that to someone whom they want a future with. :/

Maybe he has something on the side? I dunno. That is not our style . Something is up.

This ^ 😢

Posted by sole2

Posted by DMV
Are you guys in a serious committed relationship?

Yes we are 😢

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i dont think he's aware. cut your losses.

Posted by DMV

Posted by sole2

Posted by DMV
Are you guys in a serious committed relationship?

Yes we are 😢

i dont think he's aware. cut your losses.

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Hahahaha yeah 😢 sadly, he was the one who talked about marriage and having kids, he's starting his own business and asked me to wait for him to make some money before we can get married...met some of his family, etc. it was great while it lasted I guess...

Just alittle advice one see is a see so i think you have to let him chase after you if you do the chasing your breaking up;

Posted by Jenova

Posted by RainDancer88
Sagittarius will never do that to someone whom they want a future with. :/

Maybe he has something on the side? I dunno. That is not our style . Something is up.

This ^ 😢

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😢

Posted by Lidia
Just alittle advice one see is a see so i think you have to let him chase after you if you do the chasing your breaking up;

Yeah I read somewhere that sags get bored once the chase is over?

Thanks ladies...good to get some validation...he's tried hard to be nice and attentive today, but I've shut-down emotionally. One of my good friends told me to stay calm and see the pictures first...being pisces it's taking a lot out of me to control my emotions 😄 😄

I think at this point I'm waiting for the pictures for closure, but I'm done. Wish is sad for me really, he was really good to me until now.

Posted by sole2
Thanks ladies...good to get some validation...he's tried hard to be nice and attentive today, but I've shut-down emotionally. One of my good friends told me to stay calm and see the pictures first...being pisces it's taking a lot out of me to control my emotions 😄 😄

I think at this point I'm waiting for the pictures for closure, but I'm done. Wish is sad for me really, he was really good to me until now.

Bear in mind we can only give you a general overview... there could be a legit reason... there is someone very dear in my life who dropped off the the face of the earth for 4.5 months... we met the other day for coffee and everything just feels like it was only yesterday.... he had/has a lot of stress and crap in his life... and I didn't know because - Virgo and he bottled it all up... 😢
So get on with things... but with an open mind... *hugs*

Bear in mind we can only give you a general overview... there could be a legit reason... there is someone very dear in my life who dropped off the the face of the earth for 4.5 months... we met the other day for coffee and everything just feels like it was only yesterday.... he had/has a lot of stress and crap in his life... and I didn't know because - Virgo and he bottled it all up... 😢
So get on with things... but with an open mind... *hugs*




Sorry to hear about your friend...hope all his problems worked out? But glad you were able to pick up where you left off 🙂

My sag comes from a huge family, and he works full time 6 days a week, and helps with the family business on his off days. But that was never a problem before. I know he is unhappy with his career...so I try to be his biggest supporter. But he doesn't appreciate it based on how he has started treating me, not appreciating that I am willing to wait for him to get his feet on the ground. And obviously he doesn't really respect me if he thinks it's okay to go out with women and not tell me about it, and ignore me while he is doing it too. Sigh

Posted by sole2

Posted by Lidia
Just alittle advice one see is a see so i think you have to let him chase after you if you do the chasing your breaking up;

Yeah I read somewhere that sags get bored once the chase is over?

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thats not always true. Some sag men just arent ready to be with one person yet. They feel like theyre missing out on something else.

Pisces— Nope, this aint gonna work

Posted by sole2


Bear in mind we can only give you a general overview... there could be a legit reason... there is someone very dear in my life who dropped off the the face of the earth for 4.5 months... we met the other day for coffee and everything just feels like it was only yesterday.... he had/has a lot of stress and crap in his life... and I didn't know because - Virgo and he bottled it all up... 😢
So get on with things... but with an open mind... *hugs*

Sorry to hear about your friend...hope all his problems worked out? But glad you were able to pick up where you left off 🙂

My sag comes from a huge family, and he works full time 6 days a week, and helps with the family business on his off days. But that was never a problem before. I know he is unhappy with his career...so I try to be his biggest supporter. But he doesn't appreciate it based on how he has started treating me, not appreciating that I am willing to wait for him to get his feet on the ground. And obviously he doesn't really respect me if he thinks it's okay to go out with women and not tell me about it, and ignore me while he is doing it too. Sigh



He's the other half of my soul, in fact... and I know when he is unhappy anyway... but I was there for him and we reconnected deeply... I don't plan to allow the distance to happen again... he's far too important...

Sounds like he has a lot on... my Virgo is always rushing from one place to another and is a workaholic... he's incredible but it makes him moody and distant sometimes... but it also sounds like he is not really in a relationship space either... far better to protect your heart at this point... sorry 😢

Posted by DMV
Pisces— Nope, this aint gonna work

Hahahaha I think that sometimes, but other aspects of our synastry are amazing, we have some soul-mate indicators. Me and him have the best synastry I've had with other men I was dating/in relationships before :/

He's the other half of my soul, in fact... and I know when he is unhappy anyway... but I was there for him and we reconnected deeply... I don't plan to allow the distance to happen again... he's far too important...

Sounds like he has a lot on... my Virgo is always rushing from one place to another and is a workaholic... he's incredible but it makes him moody and distant sometimes... but it also sounds like he is not really in a relationship space either... far better to protect your heart at this point... sorry 😢

Yeah don't let him go again! I get what you mean about connecting deeply - so incredibly hard to find, with friends, family, lovers, etc.

You're right...that's what I'm doing right now. I just shared some good news with him about my work and he made a sarcastic remark - it's happened before where he gets passive aggressive with me if something in my life goes well because he is feeling so bad about his own life. He has Scorpio mars 😄

Lol scorpio mars huh. I'll have to watch out for that then. Dating a scorp (on cusp of sag) with MiS. I am also an MiS. I'm straight forward but I can be naughty if I feel that someone has really offended me.

That stinks he feels the need to compete. A partnership shouldn't be about competing but rather building and supporting one another. I am interested to hear how this turns out tho. Still in the early stages with my bf who has an MiS so reading about these experiences is always helpful. Especially because mine has mentioned he wants to get married and have kids with me.

What is your mans venus in?

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Posted by DMV
Pisces— Nope, this aint gonna work

Hahahaha I think that sometimes, but other aspects of our synastry are amazing, we have some soul-mate indicators. Me and him have the best synastry I've had with other men I was dating/in relationships before :/

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you also have squares n your personal planets. Trust, he needs the distance.

Any relationship can work out but he sounds like he's cheating. Pisces are good with intuition so if you feel like he's roaming then HE IS... sorry to say it bluntly, but Sagi men are known for roaming and having a roaming eye... they are so charming that he'll come back to play house, but he'll do it to others too. I had a Sagi boyfriend back in the day, and I'll never do it again lol He knows you're in his pocket so he'll keep you there. But it's up to you to want to stay. To each his own. Pisces women are known to stay in abusive relationships regardless if emotional, physical, or mental.

I would think twice before letting him back into your life. Look for someone who won't grow distant and play mind games with you. Pisces needs a lot of emotional security... Sagi's can't give that to you no matter what placements they have in their chart... I have two Scorpio's in my chart... but like I said, it's up to you to deal with it... I wouldn't let any guy play on me, esp. if I caught him... he can dine in h-e-l-l alone lol

hope this helps

I'm sorry, but there's a lot of details that have been left of the story. Contrary to popular opinion we don't just bounce and start talking to or flirting with other women unless the situation has become too overwhelming...negatively.

Most likely, you two have been arguing for a lot longer than you realize and he's distancing himself because he's emotionally drained. If this situation is typical of the pairing, there has been a lot of drama. When that happens and we've had enough, we just start to back out.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
I'm sorry, but there's a lot of details that have been left of the story. Contrary to popular opinion we don't just bounce and start talking to or flirting with other women unless the situation has become too overwhelming...negatively.

Most likely, you two have been arguing for a lot longer than you realize and he's distancing himself because he's emotionally drained. If this situation is typical of the pairing, there has been a lot of drama. When that happens and we've had enough, we just start to back out.

QFT yup

he's insensitive your emotions and you nag him to death. case closed, go find a nice scorpio.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
I'm sorry, but there's a lot of details that have been left of the story. Contrary to popular opinion we don't just bounce and start talking to or flirting with other women unless the situation has become too overwhelming...negatively.

Most likely, you two have been arguing for a lot longer than you realize and he's distancing himself because he's emotionally drained. If this situation is typical of the pairing, there has been a lot of drama. When that happens and we've had enough, we just start to back out.

You are absolutely right...it has been extreme highs and extreme lows...anyway he explained the situation with the woman calmly to me, and I understand what happened...he didn't intentionally ignore me...it was a rough evening for them (details are long). My intuition told me he was telling me the truth, so I accepted it. Problem was poor communication from him, and assumptions from me which led to me telling him I've had enough. Since then he has been really attentive and affectionate.

Posted by JoanieSagi707
Any relationship can work out but he sounds like he's cheating. Pisces are good with intuition so if you feel like he's roaming then HE IS... sorry to say it bluntly, but Sagi men are known for roaming and having a roaming eye... they are so charming that he'll come back to play house, but he'll do it to others too. I had a Sagi boyfriend back in the day, and I'll never do it again lol He knows you're in his pocket so he'll keep you there. But it's up to you to want to stay. To each his own. Pisces women are known to stay in abusive relationships regardless if emotional, physical, or mental.

I would think twice before letting him back into your life. Look for someone who won't grow distant and play mind games with you. Pisces needs a lot of emotional security... Sagi's can't give that to you no matter what placements they have in their chart... I have two Scorpio's in my chart... but like I said, it's up to you to deal with it... I wouldn't let any guy play on me, esp. if I caught him... he can dine in h-e-l-l alone lol

hope this helps

Thanks for your feedback - I think you are spot on. I have been known to stay in bad relationships, for years even. I've gotten better at it as I've grown older...now it will take a few months instead 😄

I no longer think he is cheating...he just sucked at communicating that day which made my imagination go wild. Since then things have been fine, I still hung out with him and his brothers (in his culture it's a big deal to involve family members in relationships) and we are still on the same page re future plans, and he still talks about a future with me. I'm going through rough financial times and he has promised to help me out once he has some extra money coming in a few months...so I think if he was cheating or has lost interest these things wouldn't be happening.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
I'm sorry, but there's a lot of details that have been left of the story. Contrary to popular opinion we don't just bounce and start talking to or flirting with other women unless the situation has become too overwhelming...negatively.

Most likely, you two have been arguing for a lot longer than you realize and he's distancing himself because he's emotionally drained. If this situation is typical of the pairing, there has been a lot of drama. When that happens and we've had enough, we just start to back out.

I just want to add...I never did figure out why he started to roam and flirt with another woman online. When it happened we were still in the honeymoon stages, hadn't even had a single argument or disagreement. For me at least - I was so secure and in love that I had never felt any of the typical pisces neediness and clinginess with him - I gave him tons of space, never questioned him, etc. Maybe he feels different, but at that time things were great for me, and I can't figure out what he might have felt was missing. But he gets angry if I try to bring up old issues (even calmly), so since that issue is over I don't even want to ask.

During that fight and this last one when I thought he was ignoring me I was really about to walk out on the relationship, but he never lets me go - so maybe he was drained - but he never seems ready to give up, even when I tell him I'm exhausted and don't want to live like this. Right now we are back in a good space though so fingers crossed.