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Silent Treatment
Posted by exoskeleton
lol.
in some instances it can be quite effective and deafening.
though if you're just being a passive-aggressive, attention-starved twat and/or coward afraid to confront an issue, nah.
i will wear both hats 🙂
i agree capmoon, the silent treatment is a harmful way to get what i want.
Yeah, haha. I used to be a lot more confrontational...but as I'm getting older I've noticed I'm becoming more avoidant.
I resort to giving people the silent treatment now a lot as well.
(I think I posted about this in the Mars in Scorp thread too.)
It's not because I'm afraid to confront the issue...or want the other person to notice I'm ignoring them and confront me...I'm far from passive aggressive. It's usually for one of two reasons:
1. I'm over the person and don't care to preserve a relationship with them. There's nothing they could even say to change how I feel, so in my mind there is no point in confronting them. It would basically result in me telling them what a shitbag they are and then severing ties. Why not just sever ties? Do I really need to hurt their feelings?
or 2. I know I will get over it shortly, so it's best I don't say what I want to say, as it could potentially hurt someone I care about and/or destroy a relationship I value. I'm well aware the shit that comes out of my mouth and the damage it can do.
I won't give them the complete silent treatment in this case...just be sort of stand offish I guess until I get over it.
(this drives my Leo friends fucking insane I'm learning.)
I resort to giving people the silent treatment now a lot as well.
(I think I posted about this in the Mars in Scorp thread too.)
It's not because I'm afraid to confront the issue...or want the other person to notice I'm ignoring them and confront me...I'm far from passive aggressive. It's usually for one of two reasons:
1. I'm over the person and don't care to preserve a relationship with them. There's nothing they could even say to change how I feel, so in my mind there is no point in confronting them. It would basically result in me telling them what a shitbag they are and then severing ties. Why not just sever ties? Do I really need to hurt their feelings?
or 2. I know I will get over it shortly, so it's best I don't say what I want to say, as it could potentially hurt someone I care about and/or destroy a relationship I value. I'm well aware the shit that comes out of my mouth and the damage it can do.
I won't give them the complete silent treatment in this case...just be sort of stand offish I guess until I get over it.
(this drives my Leo friends fucking insane I'm learning.)
It's not about the other person, it is about myself.
So when I talk.. tell all shit the moment I want to say -- it's seriously bliss!
My silence is for those I deleted. Not that I wanted to.. but it is my closure.
My silence means.. I felt for you deeply...
unless
you want to make drastic changes. Else, don't bother.
I don't like sitting on a Merry Go Round. Makes me dizzy and stupid after a while.
So.. my dearest dxp friend, DMV: Well done! Whatever works...
So when I talk.. tell all shit the moment I want to say -- it's seriously bliss!
My silence is for those I deleted. Not that I wanted to.. but it is my closure.
My silence means.. I felt for you deeply...
unless
you want to make drastic changes. Else, don't bother.
I don't like sitting on a Merry Go Round. Makes me dizzy and stupid after a while.
So.. my dearest dxp friend, DMV: Well done! Whatever works...
Posted by FUM
It's not about the other person, it is about myself.
So when I talk.. tell all shit the moment I want to say -- it's seriously bliss!
My silence is for those I deleted. Not that I wanted to.. but it is my closure.
My silence means.. I felt for you deeply...
unless
you want to make drastic changes. Else, don't bother.
I don't like sitting on a Merry Go Round. Makes me dizzy and stupid after a while.
So.. my dearest dxp friend, DMV: Well done! Whatever works...
My silence means.. I felt for you deeply...
this is so dead on. i wouldnt do the silent treatment if i didnt have extraordinary feelings for you. your so right about making drastic changes. after a while, i just get sick of repeating myself, the merry go round you speak of. its like the definition of insanity.
Posted by Ligeia
In the words of Confucius.
"Silence is a true friend who never betrays". 🙂
It's just second nature for me to employ this method of "punishment"
being a water Moon and all on occasion. There is a sick satisfaction in
falling back and watching someone squirm. Keeping it 100. Hasn't failed
me yet. It's just knowing when, where and who it would be a spear to the
side to. Just to be clear it's not always done from a malicious place.
I'm a Lunarian and I'm sensitive about my shit 😛
i dont think its from a malicious place either. imo, its done from a place of hurt. i am just soo hurt that the only thing i can do is to be silent.
*nods* Better to be silent than to shoot arrows at him.
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