Was I a DIRTY manipulative Aqua

Because I knew exactly what I was doing.
Ok I know I been holding out but I have been in a sweet romance with a Sagittarius for the last 6 months. He ran down on me, told me he wanted to date me exclusively, courted me real hard and made me tell him that we were more than just friends.
I fell he fell we were both in love. Until two weeks ago he told me he may have a baby on the way with one of his old flings that he fell back to. He says it was only once.... I don't know.

What I do know this fling never stopped calling and he's been in continued contact with her because he doesn't want to burn any bridges and figured she would just fade out. I was frustrated with him for not handling this with not just her but another one that he has had very long term flings with at least ten years.
In the meanwhile I handled my loose strings like he demanded!

I talked to the fling and she had plenty to tell me how he would always be back and that she would always be screwing him. I believed him when he said he was tryin to be monogomous and cut her off. But I also told him before I knew about the baby that if he didnt handle her I would.

Fast forward to today...he is pissed and so mad to the point he's ready to end our relationship because I gave a 3rd party loud mouth aries info to share with the fling(without her knowledge). And it didnt fail. The gossiping aries told everything she knew.
And now the fling feels stupid and feelings are hurt, he's mad at me cuz I knew the aries would carry the info. And he's tryin to make me feel fkd up about it. I dont.

I'm still hurt, mad and angry for him cheatin and tryin to defend his relations with her. I know he loves me, but why he cant stand with me?

So was I dirty?

Are my actions forgivable?

Either way I've experienced every emotion with him possible. Good and bad and I'm still willing to fight for our relationship.

Am I crazy!?!

This is just my 2 cents, but if they are having a baby together, this woman, whether he decides to stay with you or not WILL ALWAYS be a part of his life. There will always be communication there.

It's justifiable to be upset about the situation, but at your boyfriend. He's the bad guy here.

And if you can't control your emotions towards the baby mama, you should think about leaving the situation. She will always be there, for 18 years at least. Showing your anger towards her will just make things worse for your boyfriend, which will just make things worse for you. It's kind of like trying to piss on someone while facing a breeze. You end up with the mess.

Good luck.

I think it's out in the open now and that is what counts. Perhaps it is not the best solution in dealing with this kind of situation -- because it is not the other party's fault -- it is fault of 'your?? guy who went back to her.

Easier said than done, DITCH HIM!

If he cared about you, he wouldn't go behind your back seeing 'exes'. Not just one but more than one.

Naturally, we seem to believe that sex with an ex is OK. It's not! When you believe you love someone, you don't want to be in someone else's arms, neither touched, nor kissed, nor anything else. You intuitively will know that you will hurt not only your partner, but also the ex if you continue giving hope to that person.

Your man is not only a cheater, but he is someone who cannot be monogamous. He may have a wishful thinking about it, but I don't think he believes in it.

With couples who continuously go back and forth with each other, there usually is some weird destructive energy in between them. They think of each other more than they think of the people they are with. Your guy loves the other girl. It is just their energy is not constructive enough to keep them together. I think he may have cheated even on this other (?currently pregnant?) ex gf.

My suggestion is, REMOVE yourself out of this situation as fast as possible. Let them deal with each other or whatever. He is not for you.

In the future, when you have any argument or a falling out with this man, he will run back to the other woman.

LOL .. humorous way of putting it, I agree with cookie.

All the advice here is really good.

One last piece of advice for dealing with any Sag in a relationship, NEVER give them an ultimatum. It's like Sagittarius kryptonite. It's the sure fire way to get them to do the exact opposite of what you want. Saying "Deal with it, or I will" means they will never deal with it. Depending on what else is thrown in, they may be impulsed to do the exact opposite of your request.

Me and the sag has decided to slow it down and give each other some space. I do notice the difference. He doesnt call, text or come by as often. So now I sit alone. I'm looking for a second job to keep myself and mind busy and he told me not to be too unavailable for him. We both love each other and are both giving second chances. If its meant to be we will be. Thanks for all the advice.