Weight of Moon? (A Sag & Virgo relationship)

I've known someone for a few years online. A few months ago, things somehow REALLY clicked with us. He had gone through this almost rapidfire processing of our compatibility/potential. We live on opposite sides of the country but I am going to be relocating to where he lives later this year. He had some issues at a certain point because we hadn't met and I had issues because he had moved fast otherwise. In a week's time, I'll be visiting there (not to stay with him!) for a couple of months.

Here's the problem... a month ago a big personal problem came up for him. He did not want to let me in. He's shut down emotionally almost entirely. I kept wanting to reschedule the trip and end things but he has assured me that nothing has changed for him as far as I go. But he's gone from this sweet, caring man to a total jerk most of the time. He's become excessively critical. He doesn't seem to want me to have a life yet will disappear himself and offer no explanation. A few days ago - with my departure looming - he said once this personal crisis has passed, we can figure things out and asked for me to have patience. He also apologized profusely for his behavior.

He is a Virgo and from my understanding of Virgo/Sag relationships, much of what I'm seeing match.

I truly do have strong feelings for him but the Virgo thing had been making me question whether or not I should wait or if it's inevitable things work out.

All of my successful previous relationships (both romantic and platonic) have always been either Aries or Leo. Both signs have shown themselves to be wonderful mixes.

Now I discovered he is Aries moon which makes perfect sense given how things were with us before this crisis hit.

How much weight does the moon sign have on someone?

Appreciate any comments/insight on this!

P.S. Although I don't know the specifics of the crisis, I know enough now to understand it is a huge thing. It's a family issue that will get settled at some point.

Forgot to mention - I am Sag moon.

Thanks... I guess just given how long we've been friends and have openly shared about life things, this came as a surprise that he'd shut down about something going on in the present day like this. Not to Virgo bash, but I've found Virgos tend to be rather closed with me and we are literally like water and oil. His past behavior did not show he was typical which is why I'm wondering about this being a situational thing.

my virgo friend is like that 2, she gets quiet when talking about deeply personal issues. i can respect that. with trust comes openness.

Cool!