ARE SCORPIO MEN

usually so Cruel?
lol a month ago hes confessing his love and syaing he wwants to see me, and syaing he misses me, and as soon as i reciprocate those feelings, hes back to being lazy, blunt, less talkative and kinda rude. lol
wtf?

I agree with IL...you reciprocated... now he has you right where he wants you..so why should he work hard?

yah, or maybe since i stopped chasing him, he felt the need to win my attention back, and once he did, got bored, and back to his normal self *sigh*

ALRITE SO ITS PROBABLY MY FAULT LOL.... i sent him an email confessing my feelings for him, but also confessed how i did not want to feel that way becuase i didnt believe that we could ever work.....and also told him i didnt wnat to tlak to him on the phone anymore becuase it makes htinsg more personal, and i didnt nwat to start imagining him as my bf.... AAHHHHH y i said that i do not know. he said he wasnt mad

i came on too strong even after the emial fishing for compliemnts, and trying to get him to say nice things or put me first all the time.... he became rude, i became restless.. we had alittle crash... he stopeed tlaing to me for a few hours.. then i returned, cool calm and collected, and now we are back to how we were before he told me he loved me....

hes tellin me about girls he likes at his work... and yes its hard for me to hear that, but what can i do about it? nothing! so im helping him out again.. 🙂 its okay... i think we were meant to just be friends.

i guess i wanted to kno why he had such a change in attitude towards me... but i guess the answer is pretty clear.

LI.ladie. taurus. I am going through the exact same thing with a scorp guy... He confesses his love, persues like a maniac, because unlike his ex, in order for him to spend time with me he has to do some things I like as well. We had a heart to heart and I guess he thinks I am on the same page, because he is now backing off with the persuing and I sent him an email today stating that I would rather not continue whatever this is.

queenscorpio.. how come u dont wnat to continue with it?

Because we will not work in the long run, but for now we were really having fun. Personality clashes. Recently he has been doing what yours is almost exactly. LOL!!!

yes it is :s lol

Okay, now im giving him relationship advice for a girl he likes?>— Im sorry,,,,, but why does he think its cool to talk to me for hours about a girl he likes?!?!?!

because he can spark your jealousy and find out if you really care about him.

Homework...is that what it was? More like a journey to hell and back on a tricycle...but I paid attention. 🙂

Parts of it, Bling...others I passionately hated.

Actually, LLT, this is what I said when I was in that situation: "Gosh, and here I was going to slowly undress you and lick you from head to toe, but I guess you're into this other chick. Ah, well. Guess I can't win 'em all."

Yeah. Never heard about the other chick again. Now, of course, we had known each other for quite some time by this point, so you might want to wait a bit if this is a new acquaintance.

lol nope not new, ive known him for a few years lol

haha thats niicee.... i should say someting liek that next time 😛
but i ahve this obligation to just continue giving him advice to be a good friend.
i mean he says he wnats ot buy her a necklace for her birthday, lol that sounds pretty serious to meee

He's not gonna buy her a damn thing. The scorps I've known have all been stingy with gifts because it implies some sort of commitment, so until it got serious, I never got jack crap. I still think he's saying all this to gauge your feelings. Take a leap.

how do i take a leap—

That's up to you. You need to show him that you care, but also that you'll walk away if he doesn't feel the same. I would suggest wearing something sexy also (but classy sexy, NOT trashy 😉

i call him.... lol does that show i care? lol

I recommend a face to face meeting in a low-lit restaurant with a good wine. A sweet red if possible.

"He's not gonna buy her a damn thing. The scorps I've known have all been stingy with gifts because it implies some sort of commitment, so until it got serious, I never got jack crap."

My longest relationship to date (7 years) has been with a Scorp man. He was nothing if not generous since day one. He bought me a microwave, blender and a DVD player on our first date (I'd just moved). Anyway, I've only been with 1 Scorp but based on that experience, once he decided that he wanted me it was full steam ahead. I wasn't so sure but he eventually won me over. I don't know about the playing games (trying to make someone jealous) it just doesn't seem right. Speaking for myself as a Scorp, I'm usually pretty straightforward. If I like you, no games. But then my age may have something to do with that as well. LLT I can only say back off until he comes for you. If you're what he wants, he will. Scorp people are not afraid to go after what they want. So if he's not coming after you than he either isn't really interested in an one on one (telling you about other women so that there's no misunderstanding you guys are not a couple) or maybe he just sees you as a friend.

Just my opinion, based off my relationship with a Scorp and things I've done myself.

I should clarify, by friend I mean potential bed buddy. A bed buddy (I know you know what word I'd like to use) doesn't necessarily mean that the only time we'll see you/talk to you is when we are doing the deed. It just means you're someone we like, have sex with and occassionally hang out with. But there's no expectation of a relationship. However, this is one person you can ask about this and he won't back down. If you're unsure of what's going on, ask him. We can appreciate directness, but remember how you come at him will be the way he responds. Do it in a way that asks what you want to know but be cool. The next time he starts speaking in a way that can be interpreted as he wants a relationship with you, you can say "oh please, like I want to be another of your bed buddies". This should open the conversation for you. He'll either say that's not what he wants from you or if it is then he'll back off because it's not what you want. But either way, you'll get your answer.

thankyou sexyscrop 🙂 you've helped alot

but if scorpio's are straight forward.. than y would he tell me he loves me, and to some degree is in love with me... and then go on to talk about this other girl to me.. thats the part i just dont understand... its sad that ppl can say those things, and then act the opposite

I would never try to make someone jealous UNLESS they've ticked me off and then I get this voice in my head that says..'I'll show you'!! LOL!!

As for buying gifts...I do that. It doesn't have to be with only someone who I am in a relationship with, heck I buy stuff for peeps just cuz I thought of them when I saw whatever it was.

As for telling someone you love them and then asking about another girl..I have to wonder if this isn't a test to see if the feelings are reciprocated. Or he could just be playing with you. Depends on where people are in the relationship, friends or otherwise.

"but if scorpio's are straight forward.. than y would he tell me he loves me, and to some degree is in love with me... and then go on to talk about this other girl to me.. thats the part i just dont understand... its sad that ppl can say those things, and then act the opposite"

That's a good question. To be honest, I don't know how old he is but this just seems like this person is immature or since he's a Scorp he could be manipulating you. If he's talking about other women, he does not love you. If this is a jealousy ploy, then it says alot about him and you may really want to reconsider whether or not this is a man you want to be with. Honestly, I'd really think about saving the wear and tear on your nerves, because it sounds like he's playing games. Which unfortunately is something that men of all signs do. You may really need to pull back with this one. Never settle for anything less than you deserve and this guy is not giving it to you. Remember we teach men how to treat us by what we are willing to accept.

We don't buy for the sake of buying..you need to actually mean something to us deeply and we will give you the world if you wanted it..

*** but if scorpio's are straight forward.. than y would he tell me he loves me, and to some degree is in love with me... and then go on to talk about this other girl to me.. thats the part i just dont understand... its sad that ppl can say those things, and then act the opposite***

It is a test, scorp men love to test you. You can never show them how dependant you are on their affections. It is fine to reciprocate, but keep a life outside of him and he will always remain interested.

I've never known a Scorp man who didn't try to me make me jealous as part of their testing process.

Here's a thread at yahoo where someone asked the same question, LLT. The first answer in particular lays it out pretty well:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070820185703AAD65IJ

thankyou everyone 🙂

aaahhh w.e its over.. he does not love me. we shared old memories, and i showe dhia picure i found... and i said: ahh i love u bob 🙂
and he said: sweet

sry for typos lol * i showed him a picture