Aversion to Obesity

i don't know about anyone else but i have a serious problem with really fat people. i'm not talking about a few extra kilos but really huge, lardy, fat people who roll rather than walk and take up more than a single human's allocation of just about everything. i dislike them because they usually have a 'fat mentality' and no self-respect and they're always bleating on about their thyroid problems and non-existent metabolism. i don't want to disrespect any underlying problems that have led to their obesity but i don't understand who could wish to be like that when they know they can just stop eating so much!!!

my question to fellow scorpios is:

if your partner put on a considerable amount of weight during your relationship, would you be disgusted? would you be so disgusted that you would issue an ultimatum - 'lose the kilos or i'm off!!' would you still find them attractive? i don't think it's just about being fat but it's the attitude that gets you there that is more unattractive and a person would have to have changed significantly if they suddenly ballooned up, so i don't think it's shallow to feel put off in these circumstances.

honest answer.

I start dropping comments to a s.o. at 10-15 lbs overweight, nips it right in the bud 😉 But no I don't have time to waste not liking people I don't know, besides if everyone was healthy and hot looking, competition would be stiffer.

A more serious answer; if your child, mother or father were to become seriously obese, would you stop loving them too?

My cousin is a Cancer. Her husband a Scorpio. He got turned off by her when she gained weight. He even got turned off by her sexually.

She doesn't try to lose weight though.

Shame on you Roxi. You hate more than half of all Americans.

"if your partner put on a considerable amount of weight during your relationship, would you be disgusted? would you be so disgusted that you would issue an ultimatum - 'lose the kilos or i'm off!!' would you still find them attractive?"

No ultimatums, but I would lose sexual interest in her and at that point, it's all over. That said, I do pay attention to these things when dating people. I recently dated this midwestern girl. Let's just say that in addition to some healthy European genes, she had a very disturbingly large appetite and loved to drink a lot. It's not a big deal when she's in her 20s and exercising vigorously, but it will be a big deal later. Things never got far between us.

There I said it.

I like the look of West Coast chicks myself. They're pretty hot. Even the above average ones have a way of increasing their appeal.

On the downside, they're some of the biggest tramps, at least the Kali girls are.

Said that too.

Hey, I've got a very hips on me 😉 I don't find anything wrong with being curvy, skinney, etc. If you are healthy and active, then there should be no problem.

scorpseekspisces: i have a daughter (aries sun/scorpio rising) who is exactly the same bodyshape that i was at her age (9). she has a little puppy fat i guess but i think she's perfect and i know she will lose it when she gets older just as i did, but only as long as it doesn't become an issue for her. it is BECAUSE i love her that i reinforce her confidence whatever shape she is because ultimately, that will make it less likely that she will become obese later on. the other girls at her school are like stick insects and yet their mother's are fat bitches and i suspect they pass down an unhealthy attitude to these girls. and when my daughter passes through puberty and has curves in all the right places - they will still be stick insects cos they've been brought up to be paranoid about their weight.

so. i clearly have an aversion to very thin people too. (the population of somalia excepted of course)

cappysweetie: i was referring to obese people? curves are great of course. i'm talking about MASSIVE LARD ASSES who take up too many seats on planes; consume too much in an 'all you can eat' buffet; sweat profusely; have spotty horrible skin and fat chops; piggy eyes.......that kinda fat.

there's a difference between 'love handles' and a 'spare tyre'.

SR: i dislike more than half of americans and you know it. fat ones, thin ones, gay ones, straight ones. infidels the lot of you!!!

and the hot tramp bitches of kali sound like a man's fantasy partner!

you're being mean, Rox. now you're going to jinx your kids. that's what happens when you make fun of ppl (happened to my grandma). some fat ppl have genetic disorders.

don't make light of s_r's ppl like that. they have feelings too, ya know.

cappysweetie: i was referring to obese people? curves are great of course. i'm talking about MASSIVE LARD ASSES who take up too many seats on planes; consume too much in an 'all you can eat' buffet; sweat profusely; have spotty horrible skin and fat chops; piggy eyes.......that kinda fat.

AHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SS: my mother is as huge as a rhinocerous actually. my attitude now is all her fault really cos she was perpetually on diets which would start on monday thus necessitating that she consume as many calories as possible in advance and would start this 'preparation' on friday. then she would get moody and difficult on the first diet day cos she was depriving her overfed body and so she would stuff herself to cheer herself up and end up fatter than before.

i don't want to be mean to those that have genetic disorders cos i know there are such conditions and these people are naturally not subjects of my zero-tolerance towards fatties. it's the one's that seem to celebrate their greed that make me feel unwell.

my mother was chronically unhappy. i realise that now. i don't want to go there as a result. happy people are generally not fat. it's a myth that all fat people are 'jolly' cos most are miserable bastards.

I also have an aversion to obese indivs. not so much the fat part, but what they eat, why they eat, it makes me sad. i used to feel completely disgusted, but now i want to rip the ranch dressing out of their hands and send them to rehab.

rox, i think you hurt nutso's feelings.

there, there notso, have a Krispy Kreme... or a dozen.

and imagine trying to be fashionable when you're the size of a bus!

Rok you are hilarious

talk about being lame and unoriginal. try again, s_r.

yeah. there are actually seriously overweight women who still manage to be really, really sexy. for example, there's a english tv presenter called fern britton who has a wicked sense of humour and is really funny. she's huge but she radiates sexiness imo:

she married a celebrity chef so it's not her FAULT!!!!!

LOL!!! yeah, i think it shows a lack or respect for the other person to let yourself go to that degree. having said that, it take enormous effort to get back to shape after having kids and that's when alot of women start to have problems.

"fat people are harder to kidnap"

LO FUCKING L

why hate on fat people? they need love too...

onesexygem: then they should go on a diet and maybe they would be a whole lot more loveable. 🙂

just seen the funniest thing involving a fat bloke. 'america's got talent' was on and one of the contestants is HUGE - a proper man-mountain. he is a singer and performed his rendition of 'you raise me up'.

excuse me fattie but when you say 'you raise me up', i take it you mean you aren't referring to just one person? it wouldn't be possible to raise him up more than he can stand on tiptoe LOL!!!

particularly funny was the line 'and i am strong when i am on your shoulder'.....so what about the poor bastard whose shoulder you're on—

oh LOL. wrong song choice methinks.

nah. i think he was dead before actually and this is an act of necrophilia in the picture. either that or he's had a bucket full of the 'date rape' drug rohypnol.

that is not a little meat IL. that is a couple of heffers!!!

you gotta wonder at what point these people are like " what the hell, I'll never be super skinny so I should just let myself go".

what i dislike more than obese adults are obese children. that should be categorised as child abuse imo.

but... but... on dr. phil, their Big Mama lurves them....

I find it very odd that you would start a thread, outlining your aversion to people with wieght issues and then suggest that other students mothers are bitches and likely handing down unhealthy attitudes, and causing them to be paranoid.

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the other girls at her school are like stick insects and yet their mother's are fat bitches and i suspect they pass down an unhealthy attitude to these girls. and when my daughter passes through puberty and has curves in all the right places - they will still be stick insects cos they've been brought up to be paranoid about their weight.

so. i clearly have an aversion to very thin people too.

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Aversion towards something is a very toxic attitude, Ro.

I think it depends. If the child is big-boned and slightly heavy, it's no big deal.

But the ones where the kids are developing chronic diabetes or the ones where the kids are already developing serious health problems, I'd have to think the parent's behavior is at least negligent.

The better question is:

...how do you even know all that about Roxi?...

LOL

Because I don't ever forget anything, or rarely .. I remember everything about everybody, usually.

I even know dates off the tip of my tongue, Notso ..

February 5, 1979 was on a Monday
Novemeber 3, 1962 was on a Saturday
March 25, 2001 was on a Sunday

Although, age is making me more forgetful, these days ... but, nearly everything Rox, or you, or anybody has said in here .. I remember.

""Because I don't ever forget anything, or rarely .. I remember everything about everybody, usually.""

I'm the same way. But, geeez, you're worse than me!

lol @ m&mgem

p-angel: if you check back, i said that my aversion obviously extends to very thin people too.

my feelings towards very large of very thin people do not rule my life. again, it is just something that i'm venting about here where it is possible to inject some venom without directly offending anybody.

real world - virtual world - not the same.

P-angel: thank you for listing with such detail what things i don't like. you have a few items wrong though and one in particular offends me. i have never said i don't like my in-laws - my kids grandparents EVER. i WORSHIP my mother in law actually and my father in law passed away just last year.

if you insist on collecting data on people - at least get it right.

and for your information, i got the idea for the thread from a 'debate' on the same issue on telly. i don't know any obese people and i certainly don't hurl abuse at anyone if they are obese. i just don't like it and i'm not alone it seems. that 'list' you made of my dislikes span over a period of almost two years - so i don't like much - SO——??

p-angel - you are hardly a barrel of laughs yourself.

ctoun: i was talking about obesity. obesity is neither healthy or attractive just as a size 0 isn't healthy or attractive. that's all.

i find the female latina figure very attractive (in a non-lesbian way). they are magnificently curvy with big butts but they don't wobble or waddle like ducks. they are 100% woman and look as a woman should.

i'm skinny and have boy's hips - i would love a nice big firm arse you could park a bicycle in but it aint ever gonna happen 😢

"Maybe you're scared of getting fat, because you're getting older? I don't know. I don't think it's contagious or anything."

Hahaha...I just love aquas. I thank God each and everyday for allowing me to be a part of the aqua experience.

I find the female latina figure very attractive (in a non-lesbian way). they are magnificently curvy with big butts but they don't wobble or waddle like ducks. they are 100% woman and look as a woman should.

HAHAHAHA!!!! Rox you are funny 😄

I have a curvy figure but I don't know what you call it 😛

I use to be skinney, like 125 lbs at my lowest. Hahaha, that was for about two years. I think I matured into a woman 😛 My rare is bigger, my hips are rounder, my thigns have meat on them and I'm no longer an A cup LOL!!!! I'm glad I'm not a D cup, thats too big.

I remember a conversation I was having with Aquaaqi and GL about two years ago. We were talking about chest sizes, that convo was intereting 😛

*interesting*

i'm not scared of getting fat but i tell you one thing that i am scared of and that is waking up one day with an 'older' woman's body - it FREAKS me completely actually. you know, when the butt just goes flat and your hips start from your waist and you have 'granny wings' under your forearms. this is the same day that you have to resign yourself to wearing 'slacks' and smocky tops that disguise even your gender, let alone the revolting shape underneath it. all that remains is to have your hair cut to the regulation granny style involving a soft perm every four weeks and praying that the products won't remove what's left of what used to be lustrous locks.

yep. i'm scared of that, i confess. i entered the botox years some time ago and i'm not ashamed to admit it. i have yet to succumb to having botulism injected into my face but if it's that or the granny business - fill me up to the top! then, i will move onto facelifts and bodylifts, if they exist. i will get a surgeon to cut a hole in the skin at the top of my head (the scalp of course) and then get him to hold on to it and shake me down a little so it's tighter all over and then he can trim off the excess and stitch it all back again.

i don't like the fact that i feel like this but i don't mind admitting it but as i was just saying to my cancerian friend whose birthday is this week, it's horrible getting older but the alternative is much much worse 🙂

i'm not scared of getting fat but i tell you one thing that i am scared of and that is waking up one day with an 'older' woman's body - it FREAKS me completely actually. you know, when the butt just goes flat and your hips start from your waist and you have 'granny wings' under your forearms.

🙂 but that comes with progression Roxi. As time goes by, we can't stay the same forever. No way can we stay the same forever. Even the ones who have plastic surgery don't really look any better then they did before ... they just look different LOL! Either tighter or puffer, whatever the case maybe, that person still looks their age ... just diffrent.

I feel bad for those fat people, who FINALLY lose weight, but after all that, they're still ugly LOL.

Thats so mean!!!!!

Well I have an ass and thats okay with me 😛

Rok-z you're a Scorpio woman.

Those women look hot no matter how old they get.

damnit p-angel. you're right i guess. it's just a little bit personal to have splashed around the boards in my current situation that's all. my daughter's name is in there and now we have even more detail. i obviously said these things in the past but those profiles have been deleted along with any issues that could cause me embarrassment at this present point in time. these are issues that i felt comfortable bringing to dxp where we are not judged in quite the same way as by those more involved in our lives. i just request a little discretion please.

Certainly .. no problem, Ro .. I will hide.

Still, though, I would like to know ... why do Scorpios focus on what they hate, or dislike, more than what they do like?

Why do they dedicate whole threads to bitching?

Yes it is fun 🙂