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Commitment phone Scorpio broke this Cancerian's heart
Why would you want to be with a coward ? A man who runs from his problems As you so put him...
Remember you've been hurt in the past and decided to give someone new a chance to experience your love in a positive way.
Why don't you feel the same. You deserve the same type of love and affection you're trying to give....don't discount yourself and your needs because of other people's past
Why don't you feel the same. You deserve the same type of love and affection you're trying to give....don't discount yourself and your needs because of other people's past
Did you tell him he's a coward? Scorpios, what would happen if a Cancer told a scorpio they're a fucking coward (when it's true and he knows it)?
Posted by ReincarnationWhy shouldnt you chase/give an ultimatum? Just curious.. Like what goes on on your mind when someone does this?
Never chase a Scorpio man.
Never give a Scorpio man an ultimatum.
You did both. Typical Cardinal trait.
Sadly, I was also guilty of not feeling worthy enough to be loved. Always chased the women who didn't want me. Never really felt loved either. Until my current relationship, that is.
Posted by GetMistedI suck at lying, too, and I hate doing it, so I just don't. It's easier that way. I wish everyone was truthful.Posted by MoonArtistMe personally?
Did you tell him he's a coward? Scorpios, what would happen if a Cancer told a scorpio they're a fucking coward (when it's true and he knows it)?
I'd give a shoulder shrug with a look of "Well shit.." and apologize.
I've never been one to lie when I'm in the wrong. To this day.. I can not lie to my parents. I'll be embarrassed of course, but to say that noone is a coward is ludicrous. I don't know many folks that won't lie in order to save face. It's just human natures.click to expand
Posted by GetMisted
Although.. A Cancer woman once called me a "pussy". She ended up bent over the counter with me grasping a hand full of her hair.
Posted by GetMistedSmooches, dahling!
MA too
Gotta love the lady crabs!
Posted by Arielle83A scorpio friend of mine picks fights with me because, as he says, "you're a scrapper and sometimes you need a good fight". He'll purposely play devils advocate and get into an argument, get my aries mars all hopping mad, and then get me to cool off after I've had a good argument. 😛Posted by GetMistedYa I kinda like it when he's angry at me too.Posted by Arielle83You love scorp men. Don't deny it 🙂Posted by GetMistedBiatch.Posted by Arielle83Speaking of Cancer women bent over the counter..
U can't tell a scorpio what to do ever.
They don't bend for any ultimatum.
Plus his heart is in another country. You got to respect that.click to expand
He's going back home to another country, does it really matter at this point— What makes you think you can do anything to make him stay and be with you, if he's not doing it now? Accept his polite rejection of you, hold your head high and move on with what dignity you have left inside. He's not a bad guy, just not the guy for you and vise verse.
Posted by tegonyWhy was she calling you a coward? I called my friend a coward because I caught him in a lie, so I asked him a very blunt question: did you lie to me? He refused to answer, so I called him a fucking coward. Later, like a couple of days later, he tried to cover tracks and say he never lied. My gut instincts say he was lying.Posted by MoonArtistI have been in this scorpio's shoes, two years ago, with a cancer girl. She was telling me pretty often that I was a coward. I didn't much care, I was only becoming passive aggressive. My thesis was "ok, let's say I am a coward, so what? You want to be with that coward". She was saying all the time that I was disappointing her all the time. Finally, after much effort, she walked away when I was serving my military service. Good for her.
Did you tell him he's a coward? Scorpios, what would happen if a Cancer told a scorpio they're a fucking coward (when it's true and he knows it)?click to expand
As for OP, sounds like there was chemistry, but he gave you plenty of warnings that he wasn't wanting an actual relationship, just someone to have hot sex with.
Posted by tegonyThat's just weak and petty on her part. Yuck.Posted by MoonArtistShe called me a coward because I was prefering another girl over her,every time 😛Posted by tegonyWhy was she calling you a coward? I called my friend a coward because I caught him in a lie, so I asked him a very blunt question: did you lie to me? He refused to answer, so I called him a fucking coward. Later, like a couple of days later, he tried to cover tracks and say he never lied. My gut instincts say he was lying.Posted by MoonArtistI have been in this scorpio's shoes, two years ago, with a cancer girl. She was telling me pretty often that I was a coward. I didn't much care, I was only becoming passive aggressive. My thesis was "ok, let's say I am a coward, so what? You want to be with that coward". She was saying all the time that I was disappointing her all the time. Finally, after much effort, she walked away when I was serving my military service. Good for her.
Did you tell him he's a coward? Scorpios, what would happen if a Cancer told a scorpio they're a fucking coward (when it's true and he knows it)?click to expand
Posted by YellowSubmarineI thought it was funny as hell when he admitted what he had done. We had an hr long argument, and he was feeling pretty smug the whole time. Well played, Scorpio, well played.Posted by MoonArtistfucking Scorpios, honestly... that’s my job! They’re the only ones that can manage to turn that shit around.. makes me wanna punch them and fuck them at the same time.Posted by Arielle83A scorpio friend of mine picks fights with me because, as he says, "you're a scrapper and sometimes you need a good fight". He'll purposely play devils advocate and get into an argument, get my aries mars all hopping mad, and then get me to cool off after I've had a good argument. 😛Posted by GetMistedYa I kinda like it when he's angry at me too.Posted by Arielle83You love scorp men. Don't deny it 🙂Posted by GetMistedBiatch.Posted by Arielle83Speaking of Cancer women bent over the counter..
U can't tell a scorpio what to do ever.
They don't bend for any ultimatum.
Plus his heart is in another country. You got to respect that.click to expand
Posted by Reincarnation+1
Never chase a Scorpio man.
Never give a Scorpio man an ultimatum.
.
its not worth it when dealing with fixed signs. They dig in their heels even more or they go to war with you.
Aries do this 2.
Posted by YellowSubmarineI can admit he out-smugs me most of the time. I can be smug when he thinks he's hiding himself, but I already know what's going on in his head, but it goes both ways, and he's a much better game player than I am, and I don't mean the immature mean games, just strategy in general. I'm too rogue to have strategy. 😛
@MoonArtist
That's the thing! It's the smugness, like don't out smug me, you ass
They play very well, yes.. I like the power dynamic with my Aries bits, so it's all in good fun honestly, but one of these days.. straight to the moon!
Posted by YellowSubmarineBut I do know! And that's what makes the smug crack a wee bit. BWAHAHAHAHA!! All of my loads of cardinal bits enjoys the whole thing. Or maybe my cardinal bits are brats. Either way...... 😄Posted by MoonArtistMost of the time, not always.. livin for those wins lol 😛Posted by YellowSubmarineI can admit he out-smugs me most of the time. I can be smug when he thinks he's hiding himself, but I already know what's going on in his head, but it goes both ways, and he's a much better game player than I am, and I don't mean the immature mean games, just strategy in general. I'm too rogue to have strategy. 😛
@MoonArtist
That's the thing! It's the smugness, like don't out smug me, you ass
They play very well, yes.. I like the power dynamic with my Aries bits, so it's all in good fun honestly, but one of these days.. straight to the moon!
They can hold out way longer than me, I’ll give them that.. and even if I think I know, I don’t really know, and they know that, and they love it.. so annoying. Loyal tho, so I let it slide..click to expand
Posted by YellowSubmarineI'm cardinal dominant with fixed coming in second....and very little mutable. My cardinalness loves poking and nudging at the fixedness, and my fixedness won't let me stop. 😛Posted by MoonArtistlmaoPosted by YellowSubmarineBut I do know! And that's what makes the smug crack a wee bit. BWAHAHAHAHA!! All of my loads of cardinal bits enjoys the whole thing. Or maybe my cardinal bits are brats. Either way...... 😄Posted by MoonArtistMost of the time, not always.. livin for those wins lol 😛Posted by YellowSubmarineI can admit he out-smugs me most of the time. I can be smug when he thinks he's hiding himself, but I already know what's going on in his head, but it goes both ways, and he's a much better game player than I am, and I don't mean the immature mean games, just strategy in general. I'm too rogue to have strategy. 😛
@MoonArtist
That's the thing! It's the smugness, like don't out smug me, you ass
They play very well, yes.. I like the power dynamic with my Aries bits, so it's all in good fun honestly, but one of these days.. straight to the moon!
They can hold out way longer than me, I’ll give them that.. and even if I think I know, I don’t really know, and they know that, and they love it.. so annoying. Loyal tho, so I let it slide..
Takes them bloody forever to just admit their stand, and it is usually what I was thinking in the first place.. Why they gotta be so difficult for?
I’m Fixed dominant, with Mutable second.. I suspect DMVs post above holds weight for me… *runs away with my Fix-ed-ness*click to expand
Posted by BlackMambagot to say I don;t agre with this. I think most men, when they pick a wife, were at least in part mostly "ready" to be looking for that. if you meet someone who is NOT looking for that (especially a moody and dark Scorp) then they are not likely to give the relationship enough of a chance to even discover what might be because they decided before you began. Of course there are exceptions, but timing is everything.
no man is a commitment phobe, they just didnt want to commit to you.
That said...being "scared" of commitment is one thing...but to say this is an excuse for treating a woman badly and having her running around pitying him is bull shit. I've never seen a man "too scared of intimacy" that was "too scared for sex" - and that's as intimate as stuff gets. What they are saying really is that they don't want a relationship right now an they are happy with being anti-ccommitment.
If someone is seriously scared of intimacy (and some people are genuinely due to past pain or childhood) then it is not good enough to say "I am a commitment phobe, you can have half a relationship". What is correct is to see it as a problem and go get therapy and stay the hck out of someone's life untl you can treat them like they deserve!
the trouble with commitment shy people is that they feat closeness, being tied down or choosing the wrong mate- but they miss intimacy - so they in effect use people
Posted by Arielle83Hopefully that's a "go to bed" for a romp in the sheets, not a "go to bed" because he's had too much of the aries bits arguing 😆Posted by MoonArtistYa I guess my aries bits like a bit of passion here and there.Posted by Arielle83A scorpio friend of mine picks fights with me because, as he says, "you're a scrapper and sometimes you need a good fight". He'll purposely play devils advocate and get into an argument, get my aries mars all hopping mad, and then get me to cool off after I've had a good argument. 😛Posted by GetMistedYa I kinda like it when he's angry at me too.Posted by Arielle83You love scorp men. Don't deny it 🙂Posted by GetMistedBiatch.Posted by Arielle83Speaking of Cancer women bent over the counter..
U can't tell a scorpio what to do ever.
They don't bend for any ultimatum.
Plus his heart is in another country. You got to respect that.
Sometimes when we argue he tells me to go to bed right after. Hahaclick to expand
Posted by ReincarnationI think a lot of Cancer women have a hard time figuring out how to deal with their feminine mystic and how to use their sexual allure on a man.
Never chase a Scorpio man.
Never give a Scorpio man an ultimatum.
You did both. Typical Cardinal trait.
Sadly, I was also guilty of not feeling worthy enough to be loved. Always chased the women who didn't want me. Never really felt loved either. Until my current relationship, that is.
Usually if a woman chases a man it's because she wants what is not into her on the same level.
This could mean she has a lot of masculine placements in her chart to not understand the feminine aspects of her nature.
If a man is INTO you, he would become the ultimate bugaboo.
Calling, texting, showing up on your doorstep when you have curlers in your hair.
I don't recall ever giving an ultimatum.
Logic would suggest it's offensive, selfish and confrontational.
But chasing or initiating definitely yes.
And that is for two reasons, Cancer is Cardinal and my Mars is in Aries.
Even though I can be very shy with the men I like; I would find a way to get his attention.
Now that I am older, wiser and slower; I am not chasing ANYONE!
Chasing men reverses the gender role, which would make things very uncomfortable for a Cancer woman.
I need to be the feminine energy and him to be the masculine energy.
Men have more muscle for a reason, they are built to chase.
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