ihaveavoice2
@ihaveavoice2
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Confusing scorpio man is back..
He sounds like a guy who engages in casual sex. Here one minute, gone the next. He probably distances himself so girls dont catch feelings.
Actually let me clarify since you prob didn’t see or recall my post 3 weeks ago same matter and guy…I knew what It was when I met him we would be intimate cause spoke of it prior of wanting one another in that way…. but even prior to that it is him that treats and refers to being more in his communicaton (hence confusing and said ppl should be upfront). Even when I was there for weekend, he cooked me, took me out, we watched Netflix together etc…I mean I guess staying in the same house for days you would do some those things normally, but we are cool and comfortable around one another, but still didn’t make sense to stop talking about things we always talked about anyway before sex,,that had nothing to do with sex at all for months. When we spoke it wasn’t all about no sex, we had intelligent convo sharing all time which is how we began speaking anyway belonging similar fitness groups and what not so I don’t know why that had to become distant or stop when that is how we began before even thinking to meet or anything like that.
Posted by busyeyes88
@OP.You met him for the first time and had engaged in sex... That's all it was 'sex' and if you are willing it seems as though he will obviously have sex with you again.. He has done nothing wrong. If you were in doubt you should have asked him. You had been talking to him 9 months prior to the meet so so barriers there so you would have been in a good position to simply ask him? Why can't people just communicate by being upfront, open and just Asking?! Maybe He thought it was obvious that it was just sex and nothing more...
hmm thats a way to look at it...tho i do miss the friend i had in him...we talked all time about stuff, that had nothing to do sex. I was fine letting that go and leaving him be but then he comes back out the blue after not speaking to me, in longest he ever went not speaking to me (2 weeks or so). I dont know just odd...i feel mature enough to be intimate with someone and maintain but guess not everyone can operate like that once sex becomes involved.
Posted by DMV
He sounds like a guy who engages in casual sex. Here one minute, gone the next. He probably distances himself so girls dont catch feelings.
ith everyone butI feel like if two adults why not? But I get it not for everyone and I totally get what you mean. when i it is just sex that would be obvious cause all you are talking about is sex, (ive seen this a ton of times in my younger years to know) but he is the one communicating in a way like down to giving me sweet nicknames and sending pics of aruba saying him and I should go… cause as a scorpio myself, I know sometimes we just like attention and maybe he isn’t getting that..(tho I find hard believe from a man who looks as handsome and fit as him, plus he is a flirt and charmer) Before that weekend I asked to break that barrior thinking would be full of sexual fun and that is all. I was looking fwd cause I cant give myself to just anyone and so without getting into detail – it had been awhile for me in that area. I had not other expectations really…and he said he couldn’t wait to have me and if weather was nice he wanted go beach and his brother was supposed to go to…we had a whole agenda planned out that had nothing to do with sex…we even worked out together that weekend besides dinners and all other stuff he planned... I went in already knowing a relationship with him isn’t possible we live miles apart, would be too hard and id prob wind up hurt so I did my scorpio withdraw on the idea…cause if not honsestly I would def prob pursue him in a serious way cause I feel comfortable with him and that is hard for me around men, but since I cant have that and know that, I am totally fine being friends and sharing our knowledge and interests like we always been before the sex. For 9 months. It wasn’t like all sex talk and just get to the point of the sex..we’ve had deep convos…he has shared real deep personal things with me in his life, and vice versa…we’ve been a ear to one another and that is what I didn’t want to lose more than anything. That is why the being distant bothered me when i left that weeknd, and just when I got used to it and dealing with it that he wanted nothing to do with me clearly…he texts me and brings up those feelings again of 'wtf does he want?' I am scared to ask.
Posted by busyeyes88Posted by ihaveavoice2
hmm thats a way to look at it...tho i do miss the friend i had in him...we talked all time about stuff, that had
If you are so upfront then why don’t you just ask him what his intentions are with you?? (Im not brave like that I have to warm up to it, but upfront people like yourself have no issues) If you don’t want casual sex, tell him. I’m in the same boat with the one I’m dating. Only we have a more going on than the two of you, however I don’t want to engage in sex with him anymore unless we are going to be exclusive. I’m not sure if that’s what you want with yours, but if it is be sure about it and then tell him. I’m sorry but this sign is a bit tricky. So be careful what you ask for. Plus I’ve heard this sign is pretty black and white, so if you ask he will most likely tell you.
Thx Lyse. I am usually upfront but in this case I am chicken because knowing how I am as a scorpio, saying the wrong thing or wrong way can either make or break the friendship. If I come off like ‘’hey is it just sexual thing you want’’ I might offend him into him being like ‘’oh she thinks I am some guy that just goes around having sex ppl” esp if he values me as a person. I do know he is very picky on who he has sex with so I am flattered to be a chosen one. Lol. It may be opposite where maybe he will feel relieved I asked and be like ‘’yeah its just sex but I think you are cool person’’ but it’s a risk to me to inquire. And what is crazy more is he refers to me as ‘’baby’’ and ‘’sweetheart’’ and all kinds cute names but I don’t know why like if just sex do ppl usually do that with someone they just having sex with? Don’t get me wrong, I like the guy but I know I wont have him in that way unless we lived closer. He is mystery to figure out too. I am not with him and already feel like I am on a rollercoaster. I do want to preserve the closenesss we had in talking all time about life, our fears, our desires..that is what I don’t want to lose. I care about himand talking to him makes me feel better and inspires me to motivate on things I want or should be doing whether its with fitness or educating more by reading or learning new recipes etc. He is just a nice guy and he has confided many personal things to me but avoids talking about that weekend we had or anything concerning it at all cost.
Posted by Lyse
If you are so upfront then why don’t you just ask him what his intentions are with you?? (Im not brave like that I have to warm up to it, but upfront people like yourself have no issues) If you don’t want casual sex, tell him. I’m in the same boat with the one I’m dating. Only we have a more going on than the two of you, however I don’t want to engage in sex with him anymore unless we are going to be exclusive. I’m not sure if that’s what you want with yours, but if it is be sure about it and then tell him. I’m sorry but this sign is a bit tricky. So be careful what you ask for. Plus I’ve heard this sign is pretty black and white, so if you ask he will most likely tell you.
Oh I completely get that. That’s why I don’t advise you say it like that. I’m saying you should just say.
“I really like you, and I miss our long talks. I’m just wondering what your intentions are concerning me and you? Where would you like to see this go? I would like to make sure we are on the same page, that’s why im asking.”
The thing is though, before you go there with him you have to know what you want, because I can almost bet that he will reverse the question. I asked mines last night got the answer I want, and dropped out of the conversation. Now I just hopes he means it.
“I really like you, and I miss our long talks. I’m just wondering what your intentions are concerning me and you? Where would you like to see this go? I would like to make sure we are on the same page, that’s why im asking.”
The thing is though, before you go there with him you have to know what you want, because I can almost bet that he will reverse the question. I asked mines last night got the answer I want, and dropped out of the conversation. Now I just hopes he means it.
In a perfect world, I would live closer and we can hang out and at least date and see where it goes but like everything in my life, nothing is easy on that front so I am trying to preserve what I have…we linking up again next month so maybe I will have a glass of wine (when I am more open) and try talk to him even if its just about our friendship level and if the sex is making things complicated. I am sooo glad you got the answer you want and I hope things go great for you both ïŠ
Posted by Lyse
Oh I completely get that. That’s why I don’t advise you say it like that. I’m saying you should just say.
“I really like you, and I miss our long talks. I’m just wondering what your intentions are concerning me and you? Where would you like to see this go? I would like to make sure we are on the same page, that’s why im asking.”
The thing is though, before you go there with him you have to know what you want, because I can almost bet that he will reverse the question. I asked mines last night got the answer I want, and dropped out of the conversation. Now I just hopes he means it.
i understand. And thanks, but i'm still waiting on the actions to follow the answer.
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I still do feel a strong connection to him but as he grew distant, and I see him on social talking and flirting,… I just let it be. I stopped texting and making attempts. Let him live as he wants without me in his hair…I realized if he wants to talk to me he would and even if my feelings are hurt, i cant force someone to talk to me. So I post a after workout pic this morning, he liked it and three hours later I got a text including two very hot pics of him (we used to always do that with each other). I replied with love emojis on how great he looks. He implied after that like he wouldn’t mind having me again. Obviously I am left to assume that it’s a sexual thing he likes with me, maybe more than he has shown in his actions, but if so why so distant after sex first time? Made me think maybe it wasn’t as good as I thought it was to him, and I thought maybe that is why he was distant, from disappointment lol. . I am such an upfront person I don’t get why ppl cant just communicate their intentions and what they want…. I hate not knowin how to respond to things…unless I know the true intent of what is wanted.