controlling scorpio

Why does my scorpio husband try to control me? I need my freedom. He says he needs his. But I feel stuffed in a box!

Weve been married almost a year. And Im tired of being under him. I dont argue when he trys to because I dont like it. So Ive been giving him space so I can have some

Hes turned into a jealous madman. Hes going through my things. Questions me about wherabouts when I only leave for ten mins. I mean WTF? It was cute at firsf now its driving me crazy.

Ya, they are such pains in the ass. But I would not cheat on him.

He cheated on me a couple of times. So instead of me now begging for my husband to be faithful I pulled away. But he says he wanted his space. So now I have aquarius. And know he doesnt know of aqua

Arlesun . . . . U hit it on the nail. My scorpio is like that as well as the aquarius. I just makes me feel violated and trapped. Thanks yall for the responses.

he doesnt know. mayb has an idea because I dont care what he does anymore. He does more for me now. Wants to talk more spend time with me more. cleaning up. and oh the massages. Hes acting scared.

Oh my god, you rather be in a abusive relationship than be alone. Man your fucked up in the head. None of that you just described is love. He sounds insane. Do whatever you can to stay alive. Shit.

"Anyone know the compatibility of two Scorps??"

My mother has been dating another Scorp for about a year. It's been rocky on her end but then again she has a Cancer moon. She's really sensitive and she gets defensive quickly. They are still together. I think she really likes him and vise versa. She talked to him when she got divorced from my dad and then started dating a Virgo. That didn't work out and 9 years later she's back to the Scorp guy. She said she never could forget him.

Oh yeah and to the OP... Scorp knows you are cheating. Trust me. He knows. Either get a divorce or go to couple therapy. This tit for tat won't do you any good. Childish really. Why stay married at all if you are only going to hurt each other?

Ariessun really hits the hammer on the nail with this one. Practically describes everything I would of said and those would be my words coming from the mouth of a Scorpio Male. Believe me Aries is right, hes only digging through the trash and asking a million questions because he is looking for hard evidence of the fact, a little lie that doesn't add perhaps. That would be your biggest mistake would lie to him now cause he will know. People think they are just great liars but personally you'll never catch me lying to another Scorpio cause I know that they know I'm lying. Its probably one of the reasons people feel we are so scary cause they feel that we can see right through them. That is a Scary Thing indeed. Enough Rant, he might not have physical proof but in his heart he knows you been unfaithful he can see it in your eyes or through lies, either way he knows your cheating on him.

Its a good sign that he is gotten more controlling whether you like it or not, because it shows he still cares about you if he didn't care the minute his gut told him your being unfaithful he would of started to cut you out of his life. Instead he is doing the exact opposite. The REAL question is Do you still wanna be with him, your answer was no so my advice to you is this... One just leave your husband, don't try and get anything out of him just LEAVE, if you try and take anything from him your gonna piss him off and then hes going to go after you. On another note I can promise you that Aqua probably not really interested in being with you, to him your just a piece of ass. He might act like he cares but that's cause hes not the one you live with. All men will act like a perfect sweetheart when things are good (I.E. he doesn't have to work at hard and he is getting laid) Like Aries said If you leave your husband then try to hook up with Aqua hes gonna take flight. Your Just an Easy Lay and nothing more to him, He might even get off on the fact hes having sex with another man's wife. Sounds Like a Real Loser to me, And Don't let Your Scorpio ever find out who he is cause he might put him in hospital.

So if your unhappy Leave him, but don't expect to fall back on your Aqua. Women tend to romanticize these kind of relationships when they are unhappy with their current man, but don't kid yourself the Aqua doesn't love you and he doesn't wanna take care of you he just wants to F^^K you.

Damn King I feel stupid. I do love my husband. I wont leave him. U made aqua look like a jerk. I just feel noticed with aqua even if it is superficial. since my hus is trying harder mayb Ill try 2.

But knowing my husband once I start acting normal again he will b back to his old ways. So I will keep aqua around for a little lnger and if hubby finds out oh well. What goes around comes around.

Posted by capgurl81
But knowing my husband once I start acting normal again he will b back to his old ways. So I will keep aqua around for a little lnger and if hubby finds out oh well. What goes around comes around.

Do what you want, but I warn you you're playing with fire. In the end someone is going to get burned, you or that man and its not going to be pretty. Now I cannot say for sure what it will be, even if physical retaliation is out of the picture he still would what people here call "sting" you. So keep that man on the side and start acting "Normal" again but I guarantee its not going to be normal till the other man is gone. As long as you see him your going to have to run-off to see him, meaning your going to have to make lies and your husband is going to sense those lies and he will know you are still being unfaithful.

What I can't understand is if you wanna work things out with your husband, why you wanna keep this aqua man around. Either the sex with him must be really good and with your husband it is not, or you don't love your husband and wanna stay with him out of necessity. And if case number 2 is the reason than you might as well just leave him because he is going to sense that you no longer love him and he will just go cheat on you Again looking for a women who is going to provide him with the attention he craves. It's not just the sex he wants, he wants a women who is going to adore him and make him feel wanted.

It's really foolish to try and have "your cake and eat it too" in this scenario cause like I said the "sting" comes in many different forms and depending how mad you make,or how bad you hurt him depends on how bad he will hurt you. It might not be physical it very well could be emotional pain he will cause. After all emotional scars run deeper than physical ones and I've heard many people tell their horror stories of their previous ex- Scorpios.

Have said that I'll end with this note. You should have known when you married your Scorpio that you would have to remain loyal and also learn to follow. Cardinal signs like to be bossy leaders, while Fixed signs are stubborn leaders. The reason they are called fixed signs is because they will not change, our nature is "fixed" no matter how hard we try to change we cannot as the old saying goes a Zebra doesn't change his stripes.

Posted by ariessun
roflmao.....
seriously..you're married to a scorp man and you don't get that about him? i don't mean to sound snarky...but at what point did you not realize this about scorp men?
this has got to be a joke right?!

Ha! Exactly what I was thinking as I read the OP. Honey, this is what they do.

F.y.I - that aqua is a douche, any man that wants to cheat on another man's wife has moral code, and no honor. In my book that isn't a real man, he is a low life crumb of the earth playing on an unhappy married womens emotions for sex. If he loved you when got you to his apartment he wouldn't have tried to sleep with you right away, if anything he would of tried to get you to leave your husband so you could be with him. No to me it sounds like he had it all planned out in his mind before you guys even got to the apartment sway you with fine words, when he finally gets you alone out of the work environment give you a little kiss that leads to something else.

Don't be deceived by silver tongues, examine the situation for what it really is. The minute he got you alone he jumped your bones, everything else was just bullbutter.

Posted by capgurl81
But knowing my husband once I start acting normal again he will b back to his old ways. So I will keep aqua around for a little lnger and if hubby finds out oh well. What goes around comes around.

Oh well? Oh girl...those may just be your last words! He probably already knows so I'd watch the fuck out! You never never never want to be the catalyst for a Scorp's vengence.
You need to get out of this relationship pronto.

Posted by ariessun
^^morals don't matter to aquas...in fact they're non-existent in their book and cap does NOT get this..but in the end, she'll end up with neither of these dudes. guaranteed.
that scorp husband's will make sure of it..and she'll be non the wiser about how he goes about it. and frankly, a scorp's sense of justice is a head for an eye..

Yup that's how this things always end up. Like I said women tend to romanticize or have grandeur visions of how these type of scenarios would work out. In reality she isn't happy with her husband and doesn't love him, If she loved him she wouldn't want to hurt him, but obviously that's not an issue cause shes going to attempt to fool him and still cheat on him. Which is two mistakes in one, she isn't going to fool him and she isn't going to be able to hide the cheating forever.

To me this girl sounds like she is just trying to look out for her own emotional security needs which she probably can't properly express to her husband, Scorpio's are pretty oblivious to the emotional needs of others unless you tell them about it. You cannot just be upset and think he is going to know how to cater to you, you have to tell him WHY your upset before he will know how to fix the problem. I Think she Thinks the aqua is giving her the attention she needs, in reality he is only putting on a front so she will cock her legs open, crude? yes but that's life the truth isn't always pretty or sugar-coated. Lots of men get off on the fact they are boning another man's wife it makes them feel superior that man "oh look that man can't do his job so his women is coming to me for sex, im the Sh!t". Thats all is is and ever will be between you and that man infact he probably talks a bunch of sh1t behind your back and you don't even know it.



To the girl:
So just leave the man, you two have only been married for a year things aren't working out its obviously not meant to be. You and him are better off without each other, instead of cheating on each other all the time to get EVEN (which is very childish) save yourselves both the time and the resentment it will cost you. I guarantee you don't want a resentful Scorpio after your @ $ $ because when he comes hes going to bring thunder clouds with him and the only person going to get hurt is you.

Posted by ariessun
hey rft!!! 🙂 ((waves))

Hey sweet thang! Hope your day is well...

Posted by eden 3
hey as girl x's

ramfish hi u ! "Oh well? Oh girl...those may just be your last words! He probably already knows so I'd watch the treetrunk out! You never never never want to be the catalyst for a Scorp's vengence.
You need to get out of this relationship pronto."

yep and a scorps wrath has nothing on karma...😛

listen to kwas thats from a mans perspective too.

dont play ur hubby, u luv'd him enough once ... what happened for all this cheating to start girl?

Hey Eden!! Hope all is well with you...
Exactly Eden...you should be listening to all these fab scorps!

I think we have forgotten why this thread was made. Well I suppose she got the feedback she needed and that is why she is no longer checking on her thread.

She doesn't wanna leave her husband she'd rather just cheat on him. Poor girl its gonna be a sad day when she feels her husbands wrath. Then all us Scorpios are gonna get a bad reputation because she decided to cross him and how dare he retaliate with merciless vengeance.

Someone really ought to be guiding her through her confusion rather than bickering about moral ethics.

You guys are pretty much discussing sociopathic tendencies and ideals.

Im sure trying to be the "white knight" as you put it is unbecoming of me, but that doesn't stop me from trying. After all thats only 1 persons opinion.

Posted by eden 3
kwas- hey now my sociopathic tendencies were created by society...if people were not so messed up & greedy and i wouldnt be anti people.

fwiw, i'm a social butterfly in rl 🙂

just selective of my crew...

I'm selective of my friends too. But being a social butterfly and sociopathic tendencies don't correlate together. You can be one and still be the other. Take hitler for example he was a master of speechcraft he controlled an entire nation with his words but yet he was a sociopath, he felt no remorse for any of the jews he killed or the war he brought upon his people. infact he blamed the German people for losing not his poor decision making skills, right before he died he said the people of Germany didnt deserve a ruler like him.

lol, speaking on another note my birthday profile says my success will be due in part to women, so one I too maybe will have my own patented women army. It actually says alot about women helping me

Posted by eden 3
kwas we have already started... ;P

oh really? I'm still waiting for my women army to come forth then.

Posted by eden 3

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Posted by eden 3
kwas we have already started... ;P

oh really? I'm still waiting for my women army to come forth then.

ur a scorp u have to appreciate subtlety there r a few cute scorp chicks that may fit the harem bill...

i'm in management myself 😄

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what are you talking about? last i checked Scorpio girls weren't into flings. unless they appreciate the nature of their male counterparts and have an animal instinct to lust for them.

Then i wouldn't mind having a harem of scorpio women, so long as i knew the sex was clean. I mean clean from stds, but very dirty and raw and animal like it when it comes down to it.

WHY is everyone comming down at this women ...when she clearly stated he was the one who has cheated not ONCE but many times before. Two wrongs don't make a right but enough with when she feels his wrath. It seems she felt him, his wrath & his controlling nature ALREADY. I'm sure you don't want to just end your marriage with the snap of a finger, However i'd seriously try and take some YOU time without the aqua or scorp if you could and just find what's going to make YOU happy. I'm sure being the victim & being in the wrong at the same time don't work well with you....and don't believe all the scorpio bullbutter bc the females have been known to be alot tougher then the men actually, so if it's anyone you should be worried about it's maybe them.

Posted by JuiCy*
WHY is everyone comming down at this women ...when she clearly stated he was the one who has cheated not ONCE but many times before. Two wrongs don't make a right but enough with when she feels his wrath. It seems she felt him, his wrath & his controlling nature ALREADY. I'm sure you don't want to just end your marriage with the snap of a finger, However i'd seriously try and take some YOU time without the aqua or scorp if you could and just find what's going to make YOU happy. I'm sure being the victim & being in the wrong at the same time don't work well with you....and don't believe all the scorpio bullbutter bc the females have been known to be alot tougher then the men actually, so if it's anyone you should be worried about it's maybe them.

I don't know what rock you crawled out from under, your practically saying its ok for the girl to cheat because he husband has cheated, well that isn't right but an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. She already said she doesn't want to leave him and wants to continue to sleep with this other man in order to manipulate her husband. She specifically said "I know once things get back to normal then he will just go back to his old ways, So im gonna keep aqua around for awhile and if i get caught oh well what goes around comes around".

You're the one who is full of bullbutter "don't believe all this Scorpio crap" you better keep your uneducated opinionated opinions to yourself Missy. Also I don't know what you define tough as but that was a pretty moronic statement you made "the women are known to be tougher than the men" you might consider a Scorpio female tougher than say a Pisces female but that doesn't make them tougher than a Scorpio male, maybe the Scorpio men you met were some weenie ones, but there are weenie men of all signs. That also doesn't mean they aren't any weak Scorpio females they might seem tougher cause of the front they put on but inside the crack deep that's also why they are known to be more vindictive, because they are hurting worse and that's why they say "hell's wrath has no no fear compared to a woman's scorn."

As for your "uneducated opinion" statement. You should know u don't step on your own kind just to try & make a point. Number 2 don't trying to make my opinion look foolish and yours better just to feed ur huge ego is a big sign of immaturity. I clearly said why is everyone...NOT YOUR user name blaming only her when he is at fault to. So get a dog if u seek that much attention. Also lets not speak about anything when you are a 20 yr old BOY obviously.

Posted by JuiCy*
As for your "uneducated opinion" statement. You should know u don't step on your own kind just to try & make a point. Number 2 don't trying to make my opinion look foolish and yours better just to feed ur huge ego is a big sign of immaturity. I clearly said why is everyone...NOT YOUR user name blaming only her when he is at fault to. So get a dog if u seek that much attention. Also lets not speak about anything when you are a 20 yr old BOY obviously.

Well how old are you? if your not fifty then be quiet about age, I've seen forty-year olds that are more immature than younger people. you were talking condescending about Scorpio men, therefore you were addressing me as well. Speaking of Ego's if your ego wasn't equally as big you wouldn't have been bothered by what I said and took the time to respond with your own bulls!ht. Also what do mean step on my own kind to make a point? isn't that what you did? "oh don't listen to all these scorpio men bullbutter, the women have known to be stronger than the men anyways" that's exactly what you did "don't listen to everyone else who said the same thing, listen to me, I'm right im a Scorpio female and we are stronger than the men"

By the way I have 6 dogs. I couldn't use a 7th.

You this whole thing with my scorp husband is crazy. I have to do whatever he wants or he is mad. It I am sad he gets mad. If he messes up I support him and help fix it. If I mess up hes mad.

If I show emotion hes mad. If I need time to myself to think hes mad. Its a double standard. His way or the highway. He pushes me away. If Im happy he trys to make me upset. But how can u say u love

me and want to grow old with me, then try and push me away. Then u push me away and now you act scared of losing me. Conversations turn into arguments b/c he will never see my side. He has to always b

right. But I do love him and cant be without him. So I sit and wait for things to change. Hes so moody and somedays I dont know if I should stop and hug and kiss him or just keep it moving.

And its not just my imagination. I did his birth chart and read it to him. He even had to ask if he was really that mean. He birth chart basically called him an a**hole!

And it seems like everyone is justifying my scorpio husband. He crossed me first! You all are saying I should b scared. I didnt hurt him. He hurt me. Hes going to get revenge on me? Well Im getting

He might not love you ..anymore. And I'm sorry to say that. But what you describe sounds like he gets mad all the time over anything and to me that tells me that there is something deeply disturbing him inside that he doesn't know how to express. He might very well still love you and fear he is losing you because he has this inner tension he doesn't know how to deal with and that causes him to become even more angry. More or less if that is the case then he isn't really mad at you he is mad at himself, it comes off on you but inside he is really mad at himself.

You might wanna try and get to the route of the problem before just deciding that he doesn't love you and you should be with this other man. Don't be very upfront about it cause that's gonna piss him off because your forcing him into a corner where he is going to have to express what essentially he doesn't know how too then your gonna see another flare up.

Scorpio men are very stubborn as you very well know it has to be there way or the highway, but that's not to say they don't bend their own rules sometimes it just depends we're we are at in our lives. To me he doesn't sound like a very happy Scorpio so your going to see amplified negative traits of him such as Stubbornness, Anger, Resentment, Vindictiveness, Jealously and such. My guess to what could be troubling him is maybe he isn't happy with his career, the way things life in general are heading, maybe he wanted a family at this point or Ext era Ext era. I can't really help you predict what his problem is but when you try and find out don't just do it forcefully; be nonchalant and coaxing with your questions don't make it seem like you just WANNA know make it seem like your CURIOUS to know. Remember you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

Also I just thought of this im not sure if you guys are intimate or not, but usually after sex he might be more willing to tell his feelings. Cause his feelings were just at their peak and hes calm relaxed and feeling good after that.

my revenge first. I gave him chance after chance. No more chances. I told him what goes around comes around. I wasnt talkin for my health. How can yall justify his actions as opposed to mine?

Posted by capgurl81
And it seems like everyone is justifying my scorpio husband. He crossed me first! You all are saying I should b scared. I didnt hurt him. He hurt me. Hes going to get revenge on me? Well Im getting

I'm not justifying his cheating as right, intact I told you it was wrong. I also said two wrongs don't make a right, and eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, remember?. You said you still loved him and didn't wanna leave him then why are you purposefully still cheating on him, he cheated on you, you cheated on him? is he still cheating on you? or are you just cheating on him. Your justifying yourself for being able to cheat without it being wrong. I'm sorry but that is flawed thinking cheating is wrong no matter how you look at it or who did it first.

At first I told you just to leave him, and you said you didn't want too, now I was trying to give you advice on how to deal with the situation. You wanna have your husband but you wanna cheat on him, your trying to have your cake and eat it too, Sorry life doesn't work that way. It may work out for you for awhile but eventually one or both of two things will happen. 1) Your husband is going to find out who this guy is and he is going to hurt him. 2) Your husband will be fed up and leave you, and then your gonna wanna be with aqua man and I can almost guarantee he doesn't want a serious commitment with you and then he is going to take flight; thus leaving with you with neither of them.

Sorry you can see how selfish your being of your own emotional needs. I'm not saying what your husband does to you is right but I only know so much of the situation and can only form my opinion on what you tell me, which also means there is much more going in the background which you're not telling.

Posted by eden 3
He birth chart basically called him an a**hole!

^ i know how he feels ;P

pls cap break it off with the aqua for u...clear ur energy be strong... in case u do move on.... no one can be strong for u.

if u love him give him another chance but dont keep having sex with another man out of expectations of more infidelity from hubby... work on ur marriage if u want it, if not walk away now.

its an ugly situation

was the scorp always a cheater?

she sounds like a confused individual to me, the other day I told her leave him. "no I love my husband, I don't wanna leave him but I know once things go back to normal he will just go back to his old ways, so I'll keep aqua man around and if I get caught who cares what goes around comes around"

she is attempting to manipulate the situation. First its OK to cheat on her husband because he starts becoming creepily possessive. And then not as angry at her? I'm not so sure about that one. But essentially he has changed his act.
Also It is OK to cheat on her husband because he cheated first, this reminds me of the children of kinder garden who are explaining the teacher why they got in a fight with each other "well he spit on me so I spit in his eye".

Remember BLOODSHED only leads to more BLOODSHED, in this case Bloodshed is replaced with infidelity.

I also sense there is a lot to the story that is not being told to us. Such as the reason maybe he husband cheated on her. A few things I would like to know are:

1. how long did he cheat with these women, were they one night stands or carried-on over the course of XXX
2. how did you find out he was cheating, did he feel guilty and come forth and apologize or did you snoop on him and find out.
3. has he ever done it again since he has last been caught? and how long has that been.

to me it just sounds like you wanna justify having an affair on your husband and you are not hearing what you wanna hear. No one is going to tell you what you wanna hear, unless their a moron.

First let me say I did snoop? He hated me for that but how would I gave ever known if he was really faithful. His ex girlfriend. I told him I didnt want him to deal with her anymore.

It was like be couldnt leave her alone. I found out from a text message they were still intimate after he told me it was over. Theres been about 3 that I know definately. A few 'friends'.

I was trying to trust him but I couldnt get this nagging feeling there was someone else. His phone rang 5 in the morning. blocked number. They hung up. So I called back chick on answering machine.

So I checked his call details for his cell phone. Three months. Its been going on for three months. One month they talked 22 pages worth with about 20 calls on each page. From am to pm. Everyday.

When I go to sleep they talk. But of course shes a friend from work. I just couldnt deal with it anymore. Dont get wrong, I hate it when people cheat. I hate lyin and being decietful. But I love

getting even in my heart although I know its wrong. The drive to aqua is the hardest. When Im there I feel like me. The drive home is even harder. Because deep down I dont want to hurt him.

Damn I feel so dysfunctional and confused. Thanks yall for your responses. I have to dwell on this.

Oh god divorce/separate and move the fuck out. What's the problem?

I think the wise option is a divorce.....unless these little games does make you feel happy which is pretty sick