@tiki33
20 Years10,000+ Posts
DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOUR SCORPIO MAN!!!
Understanding Scorpio Men and Relationship Challenges
Scorpio men can be intense and sometimes difficult to read, leading to misunderstandings in relationships. Patience and clear boundaries are essential. Recognizing their emotional depth can help foster genuine connections. Avoid giving in to desperation or losing yourself in the process. Building trust takes time and understanding of Scorpio's complex nature.
OOh Tikki Have you been hurt? If so im very sorry. Like i said at 53 i have had some experience with the opposite sex. I know what is going on between us and i also know what personal demons that he has going around in his head. For most people a short/ long distance relationship is hard anyway to handle (notice i said most people) He hates separation and likens it to rejection and didnt even want to talk about when we are not together. So my friend i think you have got it wrong this time but i thank you for your input :0)
If you were up on it at 53 then you'd know that a man that gives freely of himself, love, attention and affection only to friend zone you which places you in the begging position does not have your best interest at heart.
You are in a relationship with yourself and that typically is what happens after being friend zoned, the woman can't accept the rejection so she works harder all the while he's doing nothing but shutting down and she's working harder.
Hang on as long as you like, he has nothing to lose since he's not putting in more work after dumping you. If he hated separations he would never have ensued a long distance situation with any woman.
This is all game to some extent to remain single. I've seen it too many times on DXP, rinse repeat, nothing unique about your situation. You're the perfect target, a woman that won't give up.
I wonder how much information gleaned out of you before he realized he could roll you over and you'd stay no matter what.
You'll be devastated when you wake up from the Scorpio spell and recognize you've invested in a guy that's playing Scorpio controlling mind games with you.
Scorpio energy has a way of focusing in on a lie in order to find out the truth. That means.. they will throw you some BS and see how you react to it.
Don't except the friend zone if it is not what you want. If you don't know what you want or how you want it to be, that is fine too... but don't fool yourself into thinking that hanging on and loving harder will change your position.
This will be taken as weakness by a Scorpio. Tell him to fuck off because you are worth more than 'friendship' and your feelings of rejection are just as important as his.
He'll probably love you for it, if not... at least he'll respect you 😉
Ok Tikki tok im not going to reply to anymore of your posts after this so id like to say I have just read some of your posts and my god you are one vindictive individual. You come on here just to spread your venom and yes it is venom and it is pouring out of you for everyone to see! Move on girl and get over the rejection that you once felt from someone who you obviously thought a lot of and obviously chased too because hey guess what you are hurting because you gave them the power to hurt ! Yep fraid so old bean. You need counseling my friend. You need to get rid of all that anger otherwise you are going to end up a even more bitter and lonely woman in your old age.
You do not have a clue on relationship problems and only throw out negative answers which by the way says a lot about your past relationships.
You need to be very careful about what you say in response to someone coming on here and asking for help because you need reminding that some of those poor people are going through heart break and are actually on the edge of the cliff and do not need you to come along and push them over!!
My update: He has rung as we are in constant contact and asked if i would go on holiday with him and can he book it online today. I thank god that i am old enough to just read your post (and i shared it with him Oh you are so wrong lol)and see it for what it was. A blatant attempt to bring me down to your level of despair like you do with everyone that you respond to (actually you are well known for it)
Wake up tomorrow morning with a smile my friend and thank the lord you are alive and i repeat please think before you post any more GOOD advice as it can do more damage then good!
Ok im done
Adios
Janar, sorry, but I'm in a happy relationship (with an Aqua, sure, but men are men), and I still have to agree with Tiki33 (who might also be in a happy relationship...so don't assume).
Seems pretty obvious to me that he's playing you and stringing you along.
Like I said, men are men. If a man really ever or ever will want you, there isn't bullshit, NO CONFUSION, NO debate...it is COMPLETELY obvious because they ask for the real deal and act like it.....if anything, they make an adorably big episode out of it. My Aqua asked me to be his girlfriend, we discussed the "ground rules" for the relationship, he ran around introducing me to everyone he knows, including family, changed his relationship status on Facebook, took me to his workplace, and never loses contact with me. If anything, he's always been clingy.
If a Scorp really wanted you for a real relationship, he'd do the same. Not toss you little frayed threads to string you along with.
People like to think that player Scorps are just "strong and silent bubbling cauldrons of passion and loyalty"....it sounds so much like some sexy romance novel character...
But the truth is, that's BS wishful thinking. He's a man first, regardless of sign. If he was really into you, there'd be no mystery. He'd chase you like crazy, love you like a puppy, and never drift off...how could he? If he were in love, he couldn't!
I'm not trying to pry clinging crab claws off of a love fantasy, which is just asking for me to be beheaded, lol...but that's reality.
The guy already told you he wasn't looking for a relationship, and told you to run before you got hurt...believe him.
Mixed messages = a goodbye message
And booking a vacation with the Scorp means absolutely nothing. My Scorpio ex-FWB and I went on holiday all the time.
Yes I'm very much married. The only women that react to me this way are the ones in denial and living in la land land hoping the crumb will turn into a full plate.
So ask for a vacation to get more frolicks filled with good hot passionate sex, that doesn't say much about his intentions. Of but course I'm wrong, he's clearly not only rejected you but to continue to keep the sex flowing he's telling you what you want to here and you still wanting to be friends=fuck buddies. I wish you all the luck.
++++1 Crunchy
well irrespective of whether she agreed with tiki or not, she was rude whereas tiki wasn't. i happen to agree with what she had to say. i see a woman who is old enough to know better rolling herself out on the floor to be walked over.
@Jynja What Rigormortis said...
Jynja you are entitled to your thoughts, as I.
I have no problem with her reaction, if I was wrong there would be no lashing out IMHO. But for the most part I didn't say what I said for her to agree with me, the lashing out is not a problem for me at all.
You could be wrong too so exactly what the issue for you is I dunno but If it's that you don't see it my/our way well yeah that's okay, not sure why it has to be a discussion when this thread isn't about me.
Hi Janar 🙂
Please know that Real love CURES you. Real love is HEALING. You don't have to ENDURE anything.
You deserve the best.... Because you ARE the best! If your guy's love does not match the Love your friends & family can provide, leave him alone.
"@Janar, I say only you truly know what is going on, because you get to feel him out in a way we don't get to feel or understand. You were patient and now see an opening to get him to see you in a better light. It's great! And I'm happy for you.
Keep us posted on your journey "
Too bad you couldn't just post ^^^that. It keeps the hostility down a bit when you refrain from bashing other's opinions that were given to the op, not you. Just a thought and observation😢
Posted by tiki33
Jynja you are entitled to your thoughts, as I.I have no problem with her reaction, if I was wrong there would be no lashing out IMHO. But for the most part I didn't say what I said for her to agree with me, the lashing out is not a problem for me at all.
You could be wrong too so exactly what the issue for you is I dunno but If it's that you don't see it my/our way well yeah that's okay, not sure why it has to be a discussion when this thread isn't about me.
Same old bullshit that's what it is.
Posted by Jynja
And Rig could be wrong as well...I'm not saying I disagree with you, Tiki. Like you said, anyone who has been on DXP just a little while has seen these types of situations several times. BUT, ultimately she will know best for her own self.
I think by trying to make her see your point of view, she must have felt you were backing her into a corner she did not like and lashed out. Essentially though, I think you offered your advice and she refused to consider it... that should be the end.
But that's just me.
I think some of you may be getting a little oversensitive... It's a forum. People have different analyses. No one is responsible for how the OP chooses to feel. *shrug*
I'm sorry, I am one that believes if it's not working, it's not right.
Let that Eagle fly.
Posted by tiki33
Jynja you are entitled to your thoughts, as I.I have no problem with her reaction, if I was wrong there would be no lashing out IMHO. But for the most part I didn't say what I said for her to agree with me, the lashing out is not a problem for me at all.
You could be wrong too so exactly what the issue for you is I dunno but If it's that you don't see it my/our way well yeah that's okay, not sure why it has to be a discussion when this thread isn't about me.
Same old bullshit that's what it is.
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LMAO! Calling the kettle black. How the fuck you gone tell Jynja Too bad you couldn't just post ^^^that. It keeps the hostility down a bit when you refrain from bashing other's opinions that were given to the op, not you. Just a thought and observation"
And in the same breath YOU do the exact same damn thing create hostility and bash other's opinions. Dumb bitch learn to refrain your damn self LMAO!!
Why is one way the best way and the other way is not so good?
+1
Posted by tiki33
Jynja you are entitled to your thoughts, as I.I have no problem with her reaction, if I was wrong there would be no lashing out IMHO. But for the most part I didn't say what I said for her to agree with me, the lashing out is not a problem for me at all.
You could be wrong too so exactly what the issue for you is I dunno but If it's that you don't see it my/our way well yeah that's okay, not sure why it has to be a discussion when this thread isn't about me.
Same old bullshit that's what it is.
LMAO! Calling the kettle black. How the fuck you gone tell Jynja Too bad you couldn't just post ^^^that. It keeps the hostility down a bit when you refrain from bashing other's opinions that were given to the op, not you. Just a thought and observation"
And in the same breath YOU do the exact same damn thing create hostility and bash other's opinions. Dumb bitch learn to refrain your damn self LMAO!!
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Out of pain killers again tiki? What am I going to do with you kids? tsk, tsk😢
Posted by msmarilynmanson
i think the op was mad because she wanted a candy coated answer and not the truth.
lol...yep, that too. 😉
Posted by LonelyVirgo
peace and love chicas,peace and love!! 😄
(to cover the week)
Posted by tiki33
Jynja you are entitled to your thoughts, as I.I have no problem with her reaction, if I was wrong there would be no lashing out IMHO. But for the most part I didn't say what I said for her to agree with me, the lashing out is not a problem for me at all.
You could be wrong too so exactly what the issue for you is I dunno but If it's that you don't see it my/our way well yeah that's okay, not sure why it has to be a discussion when this thread isn't about me.
Same old bullshit that's what it is.
LMAO! Calling the kettle black. How the fuck you gone tell Jynja Too bad you couldn't just post ^^^that. It keeps the hostility down a bit when you refrain from bashing other's opinions that were given to the op, not you. Just a thought and observation"
And in the same breath YOU do the exact same damn thing create hostility and bash other's opinions. Dumb bitch learn to refrain your damn self LMAO!!
Out of pain killers again tiki? What am I going to do with you kids? tsk, tsk😢
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LMAO! Oh the stupid doormat is making shit up now. DUMB DUMB keep it moving, go find a man to wipe his feet on your back.
Patience is very important but there are exceptions and one of those exceptions is when a man has sex with a woman, spends time with her and then after testing the goodies friend zone her, that's the queue to exit unless of course the woman is okay with being a mans fuck buddy. It's completely okay to stay given the expectations are reasonable towards being his FWB.
Posted by tiki33
Patience is very important but there are exceptions and one of those exceptions is when a man has sex with a woman, spends time with her and then after testing the goodies friend zone her, that's the queue to exit unless of course the woman is okay with being a mans fuck buddy. It's completely okay to stay given the expectations are reasonable towards being his FWB.Does it matter when your 53 years old. If she's getting laid. I say Kudos.
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Does it matter? Depends. Women her age aren't dried up, they still get married, have sex, some even have babies and want what everyone else wants a fulfilling life which includes "love". 53 year old women still want love in connection with sex. If getting laid is her goal, she's reached it.
"the only thing that drives me these days is my dying eggs...I need a replica of my beauty in this world..."
Now that was a cute and positive thing to say! Some women save their eggs just in case.. If it's meant to happen, it will. 😉
Patience is the key!!
"Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
Jean-Jacques Rousseau
🙂
i hope i'm still doin' it at 53!!!
i might wanna shut my eyes and do it in the dark by then though LOL!!!
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Oh no not the infamous "can we be friends" so sorry you got friend zoned. Of course you don't have to give up but I aslo want to caution you about meeting men online that do this. Actually there are lots of women on DXP that experience similar situations.
I encourage you to go back to your own boundaries which were/are you are an introverted person and you have been single for 12 years and quite happy being so. Remember that woman! You're losing yourself.
Not only do you have to have patience in your situation, you have to have a bit of la la land thinking, neediness and lack of dignity & pride going on as well to be friend zoned and working so hard to keep a man that rejects you when you initially had him at hello, this is common game among some men.