Do Scorpios cheat?

Hey all, I've been on a zodiac kick lately and mapping out the signs for the men et al. in my life. I thought that Scorpios were supposed to be loyal to their partners once committed, still waters run deep and all that. And though I only have two major points of reference, these guys I've known seem ready to cheat at the drop of hat. Here's my drama for your entertainment and feedback...what's your take?



Backstory Scorp #1:

We met as coworkers. He was older than me and already engaged to a Pisces woman at the time. They had a dramatic public fight in the workplace that ended their engagement. He moved on rapidly to another woman who was always traveling or gone or something. I never met her. While he was supposedly in a relationship with her he pursued me intensely. This dance went on for a year where I would only hang out with him as "friends" in a group because he already had a girlfriend. Eventually he ended it with her and we started dating.

We were fairly inseparable and spent a few nice holidays together. Then he abruptly broke up with me ("I need space") and broke my heart. We still ran in the same circles but I avoided him as much as possible.

A while later, I was living across the country for a prestigious internship. Near the end, he colluded with some mutual friends and they travelled two thousand miles to end up on my doorstep. It was intended to be a grand romantic gesture and it worked. We went home and the Scorp and I got back together.

Shortly after (less than three months, if I recall), this Scorp who seemed always at a loss for words declared I Love You And I Want To Get Married And Be With You Always. I was still hurting, and I told him, I want to be with you! But we need to slow down!

He went radio silent and within days had slept with someone else. An utterly obnoxious Taurus girl who had been fixated on him for years. And that was the end of that. (Technically, he tried again and I almost went for it and then I didn't). I eventually severed all ties. Years later he married a Capricorn.



Backstory Scorp #2:

I've known this guy for several years through college and now as coworkers, but we were never really close. I had an on-off crush on him back then, but so did practically everyone else. He was only ever friendly to me so nothing came of it. He ended up marrying a Sagittarius who went after him hard. I married a Virgo around the same time.

Now we're coworkers with some limited interaction on projects. Nearly every. single. time he has the opportunity he outright flirts to me publicly and privately. I say "to" instead of "with" because I truly do not respond with anything other than politeness, which he seems to take as a challenge. He'll blow cold for a while and then ramp up the intensity the next time.

I am happily married. Even if I was unhappy I wouldn't cheat–I couldn't live with myself. He seems happy with his wife. She's also hot as hell.

That said, the attention he gives me drives. me. up. a. wall. Maybe this is just a game that bored married people play, but I'm really incapable of playing along. And I thought these "loyal" Scorps weren't into that either.



So, what's the deal? Are Scorps the cheating kind? Or are my two guys just "unevolved"?



I'm a Cancer Sun / Gemini Moon / Capricorn Ascendant

Yes and No.

Best not to generalise here but I understand where you are coming from.

For a long time I only knew about the sun signs but this does not define us, there are other ruling planets and signs that come into the mix that may influence a person's integrity (but I also believe our upbringing and environment plays a part too).

My honest opinion on the matter is that some people do not have any self control. We could ALL cheat - physically/emotionally so for me it's about laying down YOUR boundary to ensure you protect yourself and your loved ones. I've been guilty of not making my boundary clear - for fear of confrontation if the person is genuinely just being friendly. I didn't want to come across as 'uppity' but for my own sanity and for the health of my marriage I've had to do this. Surprise surprise there are now tumble weeds from my so-called 'friend'.

So yeah, I've found myself in situations that could be deemed unloyal to some. It's never ever my intent to cheat, EVER! I'm too stubborn for my marriage to fail unless we genuinely stop loving one another, but some people mistake my friendliness for flirting - male AND female. I like to talk to people, and get to know them as I'm genuinely interested in them (as people!) but it has at times made me question whether my behaviour is acceptable. I've decided it is because my mind is clear from any sexual/emotional desire that I only seek from my husband. If the other person reads me wrong then that's on them.

Scorp #1 It didn't sound like he was committed to anyone at the time. He sounded very young and now you don't know him as a married man so can't really comment.

Scorp #2 Can you be a bit more specific in what he is saying that makes you feel he wants to 'cheat'?

I do believe us humans enjoy flirtations; sometimes it happens and you are unawareand it's completely harmless. It's whether you act that matters in my book but yeah there are some people who are completely pure in their mind and body and do absolutely no wrong and can judge freely 🙂

@JohnTheBaptist100

It might be obvious to you but for some people, particularly those that are new to astrology it's reasonable to question it. For example I make certain choices and put this down to me being a Scorpio. I chose to obsess, I chose to analyse, I chose to trust my intuition (well I'm starting to) - all traits that are supposedly signs of a scorpion.

I'm interested by astrology but also take some things as a grain of salt. It's not gospel and I agree we make decisions not based on planetary positions but just because of our values and morales (upbringing can help underpin this)

So I'm not disagreeing with you, I just understand why the OP is curious. It's like the poor libra's, general consensus on the web is that they are cheating womanisers with plenty of flowery words. Is it a testament to them being a libra, a lot of people believe so but I understand that doesn't mean all of them.

@JohnTheBaptiste100

Lol I agree but then this board would be incredibly boring and none of us would have anything to do.

Why are Taurus women so great? Lol!! Why am I a pychopathic Scorpio....lol

I'll get my coat 🙂

lol at Wonder Woman...

Like others have said, any sign is capable of cheating. And it doesn't always have to do with placements and all that jazz, saying you will be "this".

Monogamy is a moral choice, some adhere to, and some don't. It's that plain and simple.

Ok so my 2 cents is this. Scorpio is known for their intensity as well as their loyalty. However I will say that and this could depend on their other placements and also If they are inclined to dark sided tendencies which you will have to research a little more on your own to understand-- it is too much for me to explain. Scorpio will cheat on you at the drop of a hat if they have determined you are not "the one". we usually will try and end the relationship or squirm out of it first but if we feel trapped and develop and emotional bond with someone else unintentionally-- we are very prone to "explore the depths" of that bond. This may happen during some random encounter at the grocery store, a cocktail party or whatever. This could lead to cheating because scorpio has difficulty verbally expressing how they "feel" for someone so we prefer to show you in the hopes that you will fall madly in love and decide you cant live without us which is our goal. Some may disagree. When I am feeling someone there is nothing you can do to waiver my loyalty. I'd die first-- HOWEVER if you show me sides to you and hurt me in ways that impact what I think and feel for you-- I can NEVER forget I may hold on to that hurt and emotionally separate myself and even try to end the relationship to my own detriment. IF that doesn't work because it's too complicated to walk away, marriage, kids, the other persons desperate pleas begging you to stay... he or she may seek that intense emotional connection and bond elsewhere. We intend to live life to the fullest and deepest possible meaning.

Sometimes it boils down to that Scorpio just doesn't think you're the one anymore. Time to explore other options. They may even be ok for years and out of nowhere they are no longer fulfilled that intensity or connection has died and they will seek. They are constantly taking in outside energy and because we are extremely magnetic-- people are constantly drawn to us. If we're with someone we love no one else matters until that bond has been severed.

Core Values dictates behavior.

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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Yes they cheat especially if they're around a crab woman who can read them like a book. That probably turns them on. The affinity between water signs.

No offense but you failed miserably at trying to "read me" in a previous thread. I wouldn't take that whole "affinity between water signs" business too serious, or maybe you were just having an off day. Very much off. ??

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No, no. no. CC hates Scorpio women. Do not poke. DO NOT POKE!

Posted by Walkergrl
Core Values dictates behavior.

You've sumised my 10 paragraphs in one line. Virtual high five ✋

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Posted by Walkergrl
Core Values dictates behavior.

You've sumised my 10 paragraphs in one line. Virtual high five ✋

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I would say, scorpio cheats only when they dont know themself (= NOT READY AT ALL FOR CO

MMITMENT) otherwise they are pretty much loyal, also would want their relationship to be the best so unfaithfulness wouldnt be an option it would play with their ego..

find yourself a scorpio that is thoughtful toward you, knows themself, are ambitious and blablabla.

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Posted by SCORPIOGYRL
Ok so my 2 cents is this. Scorpio is known for their intensity as well as their loyalty. However I will say that and this could depend on their other placements and also If they are inclined to dark sided tendencies which you will have to research a little more on your own to understand-- it is too much for me to explain. Scorpio will cheat on you at the drop of a hat if they have determined you are not "the one". we usually will try and end the relationship or squirm out of it first but if we feel trapped and develop and emotional bond with someone else unintentionally-- we are very prone to "explore the depths" of that bond. This may happen during some random encounter at the grocery store, a cocktail party or whatever. This could lead to cheating because scorpio has difficulty verbally expressing how they "feel" for someone so we prefer to show you in the hopes that you will fall madly in love and decide you cant live without us which is our goal. Some may disagree. When I am feeling someone there is nothing you can do to waiver my loyalty. I'd die first-- HOWEVER if you show me sides to you and hurt me in ways that impact what I think and feel for you-- I can NEVER forget I may hold on to that hurt and emotionally separate myself and even try to end the relationship to my own detriment. IF that doesn't work because it's too complicated to walk away, marriage, kids, the other persons desperate pleas begging you to stay... he or she may seek that intense emotional connection and bond elsewhere. We intend to live life to the fullest and deepest possible meaning.

Sometimes it boils down to that Scorpio just doesn't think you're the one anymore. Time to explore other options. They may even be ok for years and out of nowhere they are no longer fulfilled that intensity or connection has died and they will seek. They are constantly taking in outside energy and because we are extremely magnetic-- people are constantly drawn to us. If we're with someone we love no one else matters until that bond has been severed.

This sounds insanely accurate. Do Scorpios ever think there's just "only one" at any point? Or are they always ready & willing to move on for the next best thing?

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id say they believe in true love, soulmates. so they do believe in THE ONE and it not so complicated to be THE ONE as long as your real with them, fun, willing to go on adventures and kindly recognizing their loving.

This sounds insanely accurate. Do Scorpios ever think there's just "only one" at any point? Or are they always ready & willing to move on for the next best thing?



So... yes we do believe in the one. We are always looking for our soulmates. Many may disagree. Whether that soulmate is our closest friend, or family member we are looking for soul mate connections with those closest to us; the ones we allow to enter our world. Some of us have convinced ourselves that this unicorn sighting is unrealistic. But intentionally or unintentionally we will seek that connection and may be satisfied simply finding it in a best friend, sibling, pet. etc

Someone mentioned you need to know yourself first and that is true. So scorpio of all signs should really think twice before entering a committed relationship. We hold high expectations of others, and Unfortunately we think we know ourselves and others so well that sometimes we don't know what we don't know. An evolved scorp will know him/herself enough to know what they need in a partner and will wait a lifetime to find "the one". Most of the time we make mistakes in love and those mistakes often turn into opportunities for death and transformation.

Yes, am new to astrology, I guess I should have rephrased the question since it became a black and white ordeal about Core Values...

Certainly cheaters happen everywhere. Not knowing anything other than Sun sign, however, it was odd that a sign described as extremely loyal and committed to "the one" anecdotally manifested itself as the opposite.

To answer the first responder's question, I guess I'm not sure where the line is between flirting and wanting to cheat etc. If I were acting the way he's acting...but then again, I'm a Crab. By typical standards I am incapable of flirting in any situation so it all feels like a lot. His attention towards me seems different even in groups of women who are younger and more physically attractive. I could be wrong, but my gut tells me I'm accurate. That if I reciprocated just a smidgen, things would happen.

Why the shock at a Crab and a Virgo? Most of the descriptions I've read describe us as a happy if somewhat boring couple.

To clarify, the attention is a little bit...controlling / dominating. Which feels familiar to me from Scorp #1. I've seen this movie before.

Since my original post he sort of grabbed / stroked my face in public. It wouldn't make sense no matter how I explained it. It was in context of telling a story and maybe didn't seem odd to others, but it was really weird for me.

Now I feel like I'm in a Jane Austen novel. He stroked my cheek! The ungodly horror!