@dramallama
9 Years
How to react when scorpio tries to make you jealous?
Why a Scorpio Man Tries to Make You Jealous
Many people notice that when a Scorpio man is jealous, he may not say it directly and instead tries to provoke a reaction. This can show up as testing you, acting distant, or making you feel replaced to see how you respond. In real situations, some see it as insecurity or control, while others feel it is a way he checks emotional loyalty without being vulnerable.
Was I right to not react? Or did my non-jealous response make him think I don't care? Should I have called him out on it? What is the goal in making the other person jealous, just personal satisfaction or does he want me to reassure him or something?
Could just be that he's testing the waters to see if you are the jealous type or not, not necessarily that he's trying to make you feel any kind of way.
Next time he does something like this, I would just playfully tease and call him out on it. That way, you can both laugh about it, and he'd be more likely to reveal his motivations without feeling embarrassed that you saw through his antics.
Personally, I think jealously has its place in every relationship (in healthy doses), but I have my Venus in Scorpio.
Posted by ScorpG
hahahahaha just ignore this shit, it's just to iritate you. Act as if you don't care.
I say Scorpios don't fall as low to make you jealous
My own opinion.
It's bogus...
Ignore the mongrel. They're not even animals in their instincts...they're insects...or crustaceans....theres nothing human about their hatred.
Posted by dramallama
I feel like he intentionally told me a story (that I question the truth of) in order to get a reaction from me or make me jealous. The last time I had seen him prior to this, I had been kind of distant with him. I feel like my aloofness might have made him insecure, so the story was his way of gaging my interest or seeing if I would react? I was admittedly caught off guard, but didn't really react to the story. I kind of just let him tell it and went along with it, with a "that's nice dear" type of attitude. Parts of it didn't even make sense, so I feel like there was zero reason for him to tell me unless he had an ulterior motive in doing so. To be honest, it didn't really work because I saw through it, so I'm not really jealous, just kind of annoyed at his immaturity. But I do still care about him.Was I right to not react? Or did my non-jealous response make him think I don't care? Should I have called him out on it? What is the goal in making the other person jealous, just personal satisfaction or does he want me to reassure him or something?
When a Scorp tried this with me I simply let him finish his story, looked him straight in the eye and said "Sweetie, I'm all in. You have me, so there are no need for games." Of course he tried to play it off like he didn't know what I was talking about and I simply stated "I don't like to be tested. I'm here until you do something to change that." and went back to the show I was watching. He didn't do it again.
You have to be direct with us when we try to manipulate a situation/reaction. Or you can keep playing aloof and he'll eventually float away because he doesn't think you're interested. Your aloofness probably confuses him. It can be off putting to a feeling sign.
Posted by bricklemark
Ignore the mongrel. They're not even animals in their instincts...they're insects...or crustaceans....theres nothing human about their hatred.
There is nothing human in your hatred posting this as well!
Posted by ScorpG
hahahahaha just ignore this shit, it's just to iritate you. Act as if you don't care.I say Scorpios don't fall as low to make you jealous
My own opinion.
It's bogus...
I know it's stupid, it's just for fun though
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How do you even do this?
Saying 'I had someone grabbed by butt'?
Example of fun please...
Posted by ScorpG
hahahahaha just ignore this shit, it's just to iritate you. Act as if you don't care.I say Scorpios don't fall as low to make you jealous
My own opinion.
It's bogus...
I know it's stupid, it's just for fun though
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How do you even do this?
Saying 'I had someone grabbed by butt'?
Example of fun please...
When a Scorp tried this with me I simply let him finish his story, looked him straight in the eye and said "Sweetie, I'm all in. You have me, so there are no need for games." Of course he tried to play it off like he didn't know what I was talking about and I simply stated "I don't like to be tested. I'm here until you do something to change that." and went back to the show I was watching. He didn't do it again.
You have to be direct with us when we try to manipulate a situation/reaction. Or you can keep playing aloof and he'll eventually float away because he doesn't think you're interested. Your aloofness probably confuses him. It can be off putting to a feeling sign.
click to expandYea I definitely feel like he was manipulating to get me to show that "I care" or something. I just don't really understand why or what exactly he wanted me to do in response. On the one hand I want to reassure him, but on the other, I don't want to play into his games and reward crappy behavior. Next time I'll be a lot more direct with him!
The next time he does it and he will ......
Hum a tune, pick up a book and ignore him (preferably be reading a booked called *how not to tolerate dick heads) lol
I would rather put red hot pokers in my eyes than be with a man with this mentality
So insecure
Oh just noticed your name.....drama.......
Carry on then 😛
What a turn off / Games ❌
....exhausting
When a Scorp tried this with me I simply let him finish his story, looked him straight in the eye and said "Sweetie, I'm all in. You have me, so there are no need for games." Of course he tried to play it off like he didn't know what I was talking about and I simply stated "I don't like to be tested. I'm here until you do something to change that." and went back to the show I was watching. He didn't do it again.
You have to be direct with us when we try to manipulate a situation/reaction. Or you can keep playing aloof and he'll eventually float away because he doesn't think you're interested. Your aloofness probably confuses him. It can be off putting to a feeling sign.
Yea I definitely feel like he was manipulating to get me to show that "I care" or something. I just don't really understand why or what exactly he wanted me to do in response. On the one hand I want to reassure him, but on the other, I don't want to play into his games and reward crappy behavior. Next time I'll be a lot more direct with him!
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Addressing it directly and letting him know where you stand isn't "rewarding" crappy behaviour. Acting jealous and playing into his approach would have been. He's not a 2 year old throwing a tantrum, he's being passive. Scorp is a passive sign. Depending on the placement it looks different, but it is still passive. Think of what he did as the dark version of flirting. The goal was to get your attention and gauge your interest without having to put himself out there too much. I'm not suggesting it's the most mature approach, but it's sadly how some Scorps communicate desire and need.
For some reason he questions your interest level. It may be because he's insecure, or you may lack the level of affection/attention he requires to feel like you're into him or on the same page. Or perhaps it's a combination of both. Despite what has been stated here, ignoring him will only incorrectly confirm that you're not into him. If you are, state it plainly to reassure him, state your position on his approach in a gentle way and that should be the end of it. Hopefully.
If it continues after you've addressed it, move on. One can only have so much patience for that.
I just dont..he who angers"controls"
lol no o fence but Scorpio guy are starting to sound like real jerks.... at lest from what I've herd...
but who all I to judge never met a Scorpio male before...
When a Scorp tried this with me I simply let him finish his story, looked him straight in the eye and said "Sweetie, I'm all in. You have me, so there are no need for games." Of course he tried to play it off like he didn't know what I was talking about and I simply stated "I don't like to be tested. I'm here until you do something to change that." and went back to the show I was watching. He didn't do it again.
You have to be direct with us when we try to manipulate a situation/reaction. Or you can keep playing aloof and he'll eventually float away because he doesn't think you're interested. Your aloofness probably confuses him. It can be off putting to a feeling sign.
Yea I definitely feel like he was manipulating to get me to show that "I care" or something. I just don't really understand why or what exactly he wanted me to do in response. On the one hand I want to reassure him, but on the other, I don't want to play into his games and reward crappy behavior. Next time I'll be a lot more direct with him!
Addressing it directly and letting him know where you stand isn't "rewarding" crappy behaviour. Acting jealous and playing into his approach would have been. He's not a 2 year old throwing a tantrum, he's being passive. Scorp is a passive sign. Depending on the placement it looks different, but it is still passive. Think of what he did as the dark version of flirting. The goal was to get your attention and gauge your interest without having to put himself out there too much. I'm not suggesting it's the most mature approach, but it's sadly how some Scorps communicate desire and need.
For some reason he questions your interest level. It may be because he's insecure, or you may lack the level of affection/attention he requires to feel like you're into him or on the same page. Or perhaps it's a combination of both. Despite what has been stated here, ignoring him will only incorrectly confirm that you're not into him. If you are, state it plainly to reassure him, state your position on his approach in a gentle way and that should be the end of it. Hopefully.
If it continues after you've addressed it, move on. One can only have so much patience for that.
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This ^^^
All of this and more of this with cherries on top.
Sometimes Scorpios are just like this. Not everyone grows up instantly knowing how best to communicate and conduct themselves. It's a learning curve and you're learning about him. In your original post I felt you would be a good match with this guy because your intuition and sense of his motive was spot on. It can be hard to navigate the waters and know how to handle and respond to anyone, not just Scorpio. The dating world and relationships can be tough especially knowing what behaviour to accept and which not to accept.
If you like him then handle it in the way Phoenix said. You're not playing games. Certainly not his game. You're setting the ground rules and boundaries with him. It will reassure him. You're in a relationship with him. Why would you not want to reassure him? What would be achieved by withholding that and making him more insecure or making him question your interest? On the other hand, if you're not interested in him or this type of behaviour is not right for you then you need to move on to a less emotional sign otherwise you're just not going to match.
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I feel like he intentionally told me a story (that I question the truth of) in order to get a reaction from me or make me jealous. The last time I had seen him prior to this, I had been kind of distant with him. I feel like my aloofness might have made him insecure, so the story was his way of gaging my interest or seeing if I would react? I was admittedly caught off guard, but didn't really react to the story. I kind of just let him tell it and went along with it, with a "that's nice dear" type of attitude. Parts of it didn't even make sense, so I feel like there was zero reason for him to tell me unless he had an ulterior motive in doing so. To be honest, it didn't really work because I saw through it, so I'm not really jealous, just kind of annoyed at his immaturity. But I do still care about him.
Was I right to not react? Or did my non-jealous response make him think I don't care? Should I have called him out on it? What is the goal in making the other person jealous, just personal satisfaction or does he want me to reassure him or something?