Does scorpio male truly not care?

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I'm a Cancer woman.

I had been seeing a Scorpio man for about 4 months and the connection was great. I felt so comfortable around him and when we're together (or even in a group) he'd always stare and be affectionate. He told his friends several times (and twice to me) that he may end up dating me. However, he still said he wanted things to remain casual. I agreed to this because I felt that he just needed time/space even though I already told him how I felt about him (not a pleasant conversation).

I liked him enough to be patient and when I made this decision it was under the impression that I was the only girl because he did a good job of making me feel that way (even met his mom several times, which he admitted he doesn't do with just any girl. However, I now realize each time was after an argument so my Scorpio friend said he may not have had genuine intentions introducing me but instead was trying to manipulate me into feeling "special")

Fast forward, I recently found out he was sleeping with another girl so I ended things but did not use that as the reason. Instead, I told him that I couldn't keep things casual or I would get hurt. His response "okay I understand". That's it. Did he care about me at all or was he playing me the whole time? I'd be very surprised if he shares a similar connection with this other girl, but he seemed to so easily be willing to drop me.

I heard scorpios like to hide their feelings but I was hoping he'd realize he didn't want to lose me and dump the other girl. Does he need time to realize that or does he already think I'm old news?

I know Scorpios also like attention. I always made him feel special and cared for. He frequently commented on how happy it made him that I took such good care of him. Do scorpios just take advantage of Cancer's nurturing nature or did he truly value that in our relationship?

I should also add that he recently thought I was seeing someone else (because he saw me out w a male friend) and would joke around about it - I always thought he used the playfulness to mask his true emotions. I told him I wan't seeing someone else, but the jokes about "other guys" persisted. Was he just projecting since he was seeing other girls? Perhaps felt guilty about it? Or did he care when he thought there may be someone else in my life?

I really want this Scorpio male, but I need to know if it's worth giving space and trying to start things up again. If he will even want to, or if he played
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Posted by Impulsv
Why do you want to with someone who doesn't want to be with you the way you want to be with them. After four months he should know if you want something serious or not. And he said he doesn't
Is it not true that scorpios need time? He's told his friends/family about me and even mentioned wanting to date me and word got back to me, but he hasn't made that move
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Posted by frabel7131
I'm a Cancer woman.

I had been seeing a Scorpio man for about 4 months and the connection was great. I felt so comfortable around him and when we're together (or even in a group) he'd always stare and be affectionate. He told his friends several times (and twice to me) that he may end up dating me. However, he still said he wanted things to remain casual. I agreed to this because I felt that he just needed time/space even though I already told him how I felt about him (not a pleasant conversation).

I liked him enough to be patient and when I made this decision it was under the impression that I was the only girl because he did a good job of making me feel that way (even met his mom several times, which he admitted he doesn't do with just any girl. However, I now realize each time was after an argument so my Scorpio friend said he may not have had genuine intentions introducing me but instead was trying to manipulate me into feeling "special")

Fast forward, I recently found out he was sleeping with another girl so I ended things but did not use that as the reason. Instead, I told him that I couldn't keep things casual or I would get hurt. His response "okay I understand". That's it. Did he care about me at all or was he playing me the whole time? I'd be very surprised if he shares a similar connection with this other girl, but he seemed to so easily be willing to drop me.

I heard scorpios like to hide their feelings but I was hoping he'd realize he didn't want to lose me and dump the other girl. Does he need time to realize that or does he already think I'm old news?

I know Scorpios also like attention. I always made him feel special and cared for. He frequently commented on how happy it made him that I took such good care of him. Do scorpios just take advantage of Cancer's nurturing nature or did he truly value that in our relationship?

I should also add that he recently thought I was seeing someone else (because he saw me out w a male friend) and would joke around about it - I always thought he used the playfulness to mask his true emotions. I told him I wan't seeing someone else, but the jokes about "other guys" persisted.
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Are you physically attractive?
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new to this site, so not sure if my response came up, but yes.
I don't know what to tell you.
Well what effect does being attractive have? To answer your question, yes I am attractive. He's called me beautiful and gorgeous and has told me that I carry myself very well.
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Scorpio male likes attractive women. but Strength and Power is more attractive than physical. So it's double standard..

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I wouldn't call myself submissive simply because I was honest with my feelings for him and nurtured that scorpio. I think there is great strength in taking care of your man and he craved it. I don't play games, so I always made him feel special. I felt he deserved my trust and loyalty because of the way he made me feel - which for the longest time, he too made me feel special. I could be naive, but I think it's pretty damn hard to fake the little things. That's why I am confused.

The second I felt unappreciated with this new scorpio (finding out he was with another girl) I walked away. Simply because I'm seeking the opinions of others who are far more knowledgeable of Scorpio nature does not make me a weak woman.
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Posted by MrFirebird
Frabel,

I think you may stand a better chance with the RIGHT scorp, if not the scorp you are talking about.

What's his moon sign??
I agree. My first boyfriend was also a Scorpio and everything was perfect with him. Even now, he is my absolute best friend. It's funny that when I first met this new scorpio, he commented how true the personality traits of a scorpio were of him. It brought me back to my first boyfriend and how incredible that experience was, but new scorpio is COMPLETELY immature (especially emotionally) compared to my first boyfriend, 8 years ago...
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Frabel,

I think you may stand a better chance with the RIGHT scorp, if not the scorp you are talking about.

What's his moon sign??
I agree. My first boyfriend was also a Scorpio and everything was perfect with him. Even now, he is my absolute best friend. It's funny that when I first met this new scorpio, he commented how true the personality traits of a scorpio were of him. It brought me back to my first boyfriend and how incredible that experience was, but new scorpio is COMPLETELY immature (especially emotionally) compared to my first boyfriend, 8 years ago...
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Then don't compare the 2 of them.
I think you are way too mature than that new Scorpio in your life. However, I find him playing with you by sleeping another woman.
Choose your battle carefully.
Don't waste your time figuring his evolution when the answer is already clear.
Move on. You will be fine soon.
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Based on my last scorpio I can tell you the build is high but the let down is a crash.

My last Scorpio fed off of my feelings. I'm not saying the bond is insincere. I am saying when they are finished with you, they will only try to come back to get those feelings off of you. I had to curse out and block because he would send "reach out" texts every week. He said he didn't want a relationship so I left him alone. Then I would get these texts without substance. Just communicating to keep him in my mind. I kindly asked him to accept his decision and leave me alone.

Am I still hurt:yes
Do I miss him:yes
Do I wish things ended differently: yes
Am I dealing with the confusion: fuck no
Like they said. leave it alone and move on
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new to this site, so not sure if my response came up, but yes.
I don't know what to tell you.
Well what effect does being attractive have? To answer your question, yes I am attractive. He's called me beautiful and gorgeous and has told me that I carry myself very well.
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I don't care what anyone says, there has to be a certain level of sexual attraction for a relationship to work.
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Frabel,

I think you may stand a better chance with the RIGHT scorp, if not the scorp you are talking about.

What's his moon sign??
I agree. My first boyfriend was also a Scorpio and everything was perfect with him. Even now, he is my absolute best friend. It's funny that when I first met this new scorpio, he commented how true the personality traits of a scorpio were of him. It brought me back to my first boyfriend and how incredible that experience was, but new scorpio is COMPLETELY immature (especially emotionally) compared to my first boyfriend, 8 years ago...
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What is his moon sign, though?