Guys of which sign should I look into?

Scorpio girl here.

Terrible luck in love, it would seem.

Not that I outright base my dating and love life decisions solely on it, but I do think our signs and our sign characteristics and compatibilities do play a role.

Sagittarius ...
They're not supposed to be for Scorpio, yet I still ended up in 2 long relationships with Sag guys.
Other Sag guys tend to like me, and on my own, I have been attracted to guys, only to learn after the fact that they were Sags.

Aquarius ...
Again, not supposed to be for Scorpio.
However, my longest and most serious relationship was with one.
He ended it, but we remain friends. (Side note: he's a lucky bastard in love ... Now happily engaged to a Gemini girl.)

Libra ...
A so-so match for Scorpio.
I had an on and off casual thing with a Libra guy.

Virgo ...
Again, a so-so match for Scorpio.
A few dates here and there with a nice enough guy. (Truthfully though, I'm fine with it just ending there ... I didn't really feel anything deep with him.)

Cancer ...
Supposed to be the best match for Scorpio.
Years back, I dated a Cancer guy, but he was a complete jerk to me and that ended badly. (Side note: Just a couple of years ago, he tried reaching out to me ... Apologizing and saying how he should've stayed with me. I had already moved on then, so, oh well, his loss.)

Most recently, I dated a Cancer guy back in the fall. He ended it saying he didn't know what he wanted (I suspect I may have come on a bit too strong and I got Scorpion-level intense.) Oddly enough, here and there, he has initiated contact and we've talked like old times. The old attraction flared up and we got together this past weekend. Whether this turns into a FWB situation or leads to something more, I don't know. His take: let's not force things and just see where they go.

My dating background is all over the place ...
Signs I should date, maybe date, and shouldn't date.

Whatever it's been, it hasn't been working.

So then, which signs should I look into instead?

Posted by DorkyScorpy
Scorpio girl here.

Terrible luck in love, it would seem.

Not that I outright base my dating and love life decisions solely on it, but I do think our signs and our sign characteristics and compatibilities do play a role.

Sagittarius ...
They're not supposed to be for Scorpio, yet I still ended up in 2 long relationships with Sag guys.
Other Sag guys tend to like me, and on my own, I have been attracted to guys, only to learn after the fact that they were Sags.

Aquarius ...
Again, not supposed to be for Scorpio.
However, my longest and most serious relationship was with one.
He ended it, but we remain friends. (Side note: he's a lucky bastard in love ... Now happily engaged to a Gemini girl.)

Libra ...
A so-so match for Scorpio.
I had an on and off casual thing with a Libra guy.

Virgo ...
Again, a so-so match for Scorpio.
A few dates here and there with a nice enough guy. (Truthfully though, I'm fine with it just ending there ... I didn't really feel anything deep with him.)

Cancer ...
Supposed to be the best match for Scorpio.
Years back, I dated a Cancer guy, but he was a complete jerk to me and that ended badly. (Side note: Just a couple of years ago, he tried reaching out to me ... Apologizing and saying how he should've stayed with me. I had already moved on then, so, oh well, his loss.)

Most recently, I dated a Cancer guy back in the fall. He ended it saying he didn't know what he wanted (I suspect I may have come on a bit too strong and I got Scorpion-level intense.) Oddly enough, here and there, he has initiated contact and we've talked like old times. The old attraction flared up and we got together this past weekend. Whether this turns into a FWB situation or leads to something more, I don't know. His take: let's not force things and just see where they go.

My dating background is all over the place ...
Signs I should date, maybe date, and shouldn't date.

Whatever it's been, it hasn't been working.

So then, which signs should I look into instead?

Try an earth sign maybe taurus or capricorn with a scorpio moon?

It doesn't seem to me that your bad luck is based on signs. It seems that you're unsure about what you want and/or are 'seeing what happens' thus when it doesn't happen or turns out to be what you don't want then it's a case of bad luck.

Your last section about the cancer guy and whether it turns into a FWB or something more is what I'm focusing on. Which do you want? A FWB or something more?

It's rare to have both or to have a FWB which leads to more a serious status.

You need to know what you want in order to get there. You wouldn't sign up for a course in brick laying if you didn't want to be a brick layer. You wouldn't go to the hair dresser if you really wanted to get a picture framed. You wouldn't get in your car and drive to place A and say 'oh I'll just see where it goes' if where you really wanted to go was to place B. You'd just drive to place B because that's what you want.

As soon as you decide what you want, and there's no right or wrong with that, then you will likely have a better outcome you're more happy with.

If you want a FWB right now and you can handle it then no problem. If you want a relationship with someone then you need to find someone who is also looking for a relationship. No point wasting time with someone who doesn't know what they want. Date them, get to know them, see if you match, and above all keep your legs closed until you're in an exclusive relationship. Jumping into bed too soon may work sometimes but more often than not it does not. Nothing wrong with being old school.

For the record, I'm Scorp and I'm not a fan of cancer men. I find them too emotionally manipulative (they're not even good at it) and whiny. That's from my experience but my cousin is a female cancer, lovely girl, she's been with her Scorp man for about 15 years so maybe it works that way round although she prods and he sulks!

As Anna1 said, maybe an earth sign would be more stable for you.

I'm Scorp Sun and Venus with Pisces Moon, Leo Mars, Sag Merc and Rising. I'm all Water and Fire, and also Fixed yet Mutable.

I'm with a Taurus Sun, Leo Moon and Rising, Aries Venus and Merc, Cap Mars. He's all Earth and Fire, and he's also Fixed and Cardinal. He's very stabilising for me. Not that I'm a retarded nut case or anything!

I have never been the initiator of the break up.
In all of my previous relationships, the guy broke up with me.

Yes, I would love to have an actual real-deal relationship (again) ... One where the guy actually does stick around!

I've actually done the FWB thing before. It was with the Libra. That started as one thing. We went our separate ways. He came back into the picture and I shocked and surprised him by suggesting instead of being in a serious relationship, we recognize that we worked best as a FWB deal. That went on for a bit ... Always with the understanding we could end it if we found somebody else that we wanted to pursue. In this case, he found somebody. (Side note: he's been happily with that girl ever since. He has my "blessing" too, if that matters!)

The current situation with the Cancer guy ...
He has clinical anxiety (to the point of medication now and then).
Between that and the fact that my Scorpion intensity did scare him off a bit the first time around ...
That is why if I need to step back a moment with my usual intense ways, I'm fine with that.

Yes, I am letting him set the tone of our current thing.

Perhaps that is completely wrong of me.

I'm looking at it as a potential second chance, so I'm trying to be a bit more "eyes open" to things.

Try a Capricorn,Pisces or Taurus or maybe your own sign.