HALP! With scorpio man...

I need some perspective. I am friends with a Scorpio man - mid-30s, smart, successful, cute. We met about six months ago and spent time together as friends (no flirting, no funny business...). We got together at the beginning of December and he kissed me. Was very unexpected but great. I spent the night at his house (nothing serious happened) and things were a little awkward in the morning. We've been traveling for the holidays, but he hasn't made much effort to contact me or make plans for the new year. I texted him and he responded immediately but no effort to get together again. What gives? Im trying to figure him out... Is Scorpio man notorious for acting like this? How should I proceed with him? I like him but don't want to chase him around... 🙂

also, I'm a virgo with venus in virgo and Mars in scorpio. He has a venus in scorpio...

^^^Sorry, typo.

Posted by ConfusedVirgoHeart
I need some perspective. I am friends with a Scorpio man - mid-30s, smart, successful, cute. We met about six months ago and spent time together as friends (no flirting, no funny business...). We got together at the beginning of December and he kissed me. Was very unexpected but great. I spent the night at his house (nothing serious happened) and things were a little awkward in the morning. We've been traveling for the holidays, but he hasn't made much effort to contact me or make plans for the new year. I texted him and he responded immediately but no effort to get together again. What gives? Im trying to figure him out... Is Scorpio man notorious for acting like this? How should I proceed with him? I like him but don't want to chase him around... 🙂

From what you've stated, you're not "chasing" him. Tell him you are attracted to him and you would like to know what his thoughts are regarding you. Simple. If he hums and haws about it, let it be. At that point you are chasing him. You have a got d*mn Scorp in Mars. Act like it 😛.

I should have asked, when you wrote things were akward the next morning, how so? Did he give you weird vibe or did you feel uncomfortable for some reason?

Also, why were you traveling together? Work related or more?

Ha! I love that you called me out on my scorpio Mars! I Tend to be very direct, which can scare guys away. Trying to temper that a little bit to let things happen naturally. 🙂

We weren't traveling together - we both spent time with our families for the holidays. I guess I just expected him to make some effort to keep things moving if he was interested, but that might be my impatient scorpio Mars speaking.

It was awkward in the morning because... I don't know. we were both a bit hungover and I had to leave early. We had always spent time as just friends, so the previous night was a departure. I'm just worried that he feels like it might have been an accident. That's why I'm hesitant to put myself out there...

Posted by ConfusedVirgoHeart

....I guess I just expected him to make some effort to keep things moving if he was interested, but that might be my impatient scorpio Mars speaking.

Yeah, learning to temper that Scorp Mars isn't too hard, but it requires a conscious effort---at least for me. It is direct and to the point when it wants something though, which is what I meant.

The make out session would have been better to gauge had the situation happened while you were both sober. You're right to some extent, about his interest, however Scorps are not as clear cut some times. It all depends on the other bits stuffed into that chart.

Overall, yes Scorps are direct and assertive, but I've encoutered some less than assertive, laid back Scorps because they were loaded with Leeb bits. Given the fact that Scorps keep a lot to themselves, you rarely know what is rattling around in that mind unless they let you in. It sounds like he may be cooling off for whatever reason and may have nothing to do with interest, so let the thoughts continue to rattle up there. Interest alone doesn't always dictate my actions. This is not to give you false hope, just something to consider. "It's isnt always as simple as if he's interested he would do xyz".

You can simply see the experience for what it is and leave it there, or chill as you get to know him more as friends and see where it goes---don't wait around for him though---live your life.

There is also the original plan of simply asking him how he felt about the situation and where he might like it to go. Yes, you're taking a risk and putting yourself out there, but you won't die from the experience if the man says "I want to just stay friends".

Better to ask then assume and be left wondering what's going on imo. Just set the dial to 4.5 on that Scorp Mars before you ask 😄.

what are both your birthdates?