Are Scorpio men usually abusive?

Ok I'm madly in-love with a scorpio man who I've been with for over 3 years. One minute he can be so sweet & nurturing, and then the next minute he's calling me every name under the sun... tells me to get the f*ck out of his house, even says he hates my gutts and wishes I was dead. I knew he had a temper but I didn't know it was that bad until I moved in with him in May. Now things have gotten quite physical! I mean like...he just snaps! We can be having a normal discussion and then at any given moment he'll just fly off the handle if I say something "stupid" or if offend him in some way. Then starts yelling like a tyrant while spit comes flying out of his mouth! He'll be mad for HOURS or even DAYS!! It can be sooo draining..

Like the other morning...he had woken me up out of my sleep while I was having a weird dream about my ex (I have no clue why!!) and I mentioned to him out of casual conversation (Like a Dumbass) that I had dreamed about my ex but he took it the wrong way ...called me an unappreciative b*tch and then hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head. He's 6'3" 215lbs and I'm 5'2" 128lbs...so I try to avoid arguments because it's impossible to calm him down once enraged. But when he's nice, he's extremely NICE and so affectionate & Our love-making is ridiculously passionate! But sometimes I question his love for me because he treats me like the enemy when I upset him. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH...WHAT TO DO??

damn, dafuq's wrong with him.. tell him to quit being an emotional little b!tch... you should have a serious talk with him and take a break from him, maybe that will calm him down. Otherwise, you should get the hell out of there before he bust a ray rice on your azz..

Seeming as you are both fixed, you will try to stick it through no matter how messy it gets..... wrong answer.... you may"love" him but think about when your family and friends ask how you two are doing and you tell them with a smile on your face that you are fine when just 15 minutes ago he told you he wished you died of gonorrhea and rot in hell.

your safety and self worth are valuable.... goodluck

run, just get out of there asap, love has nothing to do with you staying alive

You should leave him if he abuses you doesn't matter what sign he is. My friends a Scorpio and he can get bi***y sometimes and is a bit controlling but not that bad...no where near that bad.

You'd be surprised how many women are out there not in their right minds...It's amazing the power the idea of love has on people...

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
"hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head"

is this for real or are you a troll?

anyone in their right mind would have had that man arrested.

Is this for real?

if she tells him to quit being 'emotional bytch' be sure he'll beat her black and blue.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
"hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head"

is this for real or are you a troll?

anyone in their right mind would have had that man arrested.

yeah that closed fists comment is a red flag. is she playing or so nutty physical abuse isn't taken as seriously as it should be?

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
"hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head"

is this for real or are you a troll?

anyone in their right mind would have had that man arrested.

Apparently a troll.

Sorry, OP, you may lack of common sense. It is not middle age any more. At home there should be no fist at work.

Zodiac sign plays no role. How tall who is plays no role as well.

Copy your thread to each board for different signs. And you'll get the same answer.

If you don't like our lack of understanding for a real sado maso relationship, we will let your thread be moved in future. It is disturbing us to see that someone let herself be treated like animals.

in quite a few. Don't know any of their zodiac signs. Don't care. I'm supposed to be volunteering in one of those safe places next month. kutos for thinking awesome.

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Posted by sagatastic
You'd be surprised how many women are out there not in their right minds...It's amazing the power the idea of love has on people...

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
"hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head"

is this for real or are you a troll?

anyone in their right mind would have had that man arrested.

I was in an abusive relationship for 10 years....you don't have to tell me.

Fortunately, in today's world....there are places to go and ways to leave and plenty of support for situations like these.

The power of love is an absolute bullshit excuse *speaking from personal experience*

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Posted by Aquariusgold
Ok I'm madly in-love ... over 3 years. ... if I say something "stupid" ... yelling like a tyrant while spit comes flying out of his mouth! ... I mentioned ... (Like a Dumbass) ... hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head. ...so I try to avoid arguments ... when he's nice, he's extremely NICE and so affectionate & Our love-making is ridiculously passionate! sometimes I question his love ...

So you have read every book already written in the previous centries about real SM releationships? Even that part with "I-the-dumb-ass" is so stereotypical.

I mean which type of woman would still live such a life?

And for what do you let it happen to you? For sex? For his house? For drugs? For money? For marriage? For children?
No matter what comes, it will be even worse. You are already living an animal life. And I'm sure you have already heard it from your friends and family if you have a folk of your own at all.

Let us hope you are just making fun of us. That'd be easier to digest.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I was in an abusive relationship for 10 years...

Did the harshest part begin before you had a child with him?

check this poem out shawty

I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night and he said a lot of cruel things
that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean to say the
things he said - because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night he threw me into a wall and then started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare but you wake up from nightmares to find
that they aren't real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry - because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. And it wasn't Valentines Day or any other special
day. Last night he beat me and threatened to kill me.
Makeup and long sleeves didn't hide the cuts and bruises this time.
I couldn't go to work because I didn't want anyone to know
But I know he is sorry - because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today and it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day.
Last night he beat me again and it was much worse than all the other
times. If I leave him what will I do? How will I take care of the kids?
What about money? I'm afraid of him and too scared to leave him!
But he must be sorry - because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night he finally killed me. I was beaten to death.
If only I would have gathered enough courage and strength to leave him.
So I got flowers today - for the very last time.
~Author Unknown

why would you even stick to a relationship that is abusive in the first place.

I'm trying to get over the fact you can come on here and state this and say you love him yet he beats the crap out of you. Love doesn't hurt. His fists do. But love has nothing to do with that at all. So instead of getting here you need to call the police and report his sorry bitch ass and then leave. No if's and's or but's..leave. This will get worse...and you will regret all this but I love him mess.

He does not love you...He does not like you....Leave...and get yourself together.

Posted by UnderOath92

Pluto, thank you a lot. That was spot on.

Here we have all the typical justifications victims usually make:

... I know that he is sorry and didn't mean to say the
things he said...
I know he must be sorry - because he sent me flowers today.
...
I couldn't go to work because I didn't want anyone to know
But I know he is sorry
... If I leave him what will I do? How will I take care of the kids?
What about money? I'm afraid of him and too scared to leave him!
...

I'm so mad at this so-called golden Aqua (troll).

I called BS when she claimed she was still "madly in love" after 3 years. Pfft

guys even if this here might be vs, things like these do exist. it's hard to explain to someone who was lucky enough to never go through it. I grew up IN IT. it took my mother 25 years to get out of it. there are still so many out there going through the same or even worse. and just like in that poem in the end, some don't get out alive...

*bs not vs

I'm sorry u guys....I'm just as confused as u are! I've never tolerated this type of treatment from anyone! My ex never hit me or yelled at me, so I wasn't used to this behavior. I didn't have a dad around as a kid, nor an adult male figure in my life as a child or teenager, except for my only uncle who would come visit once every 5 years on a military leave....so maybe I have low esteem..who knows? I've been told by many people that I'm very attractive/beautiful/stunning/etc...people even compliment me in front of my bf which makes him uncomfortable at times.

I'm an artist/painter/sculptor and live in my head a lot. I just can't find the strength to leave him. I always search for a solution first.

I keep reading so many threads about how Scorpio males need someone who has lots of patience and I'm trying to BE that person for him. It seems Scorpios do tend to have tempers and hate when people walk out on them for their flaws. That's why I posted in this forum to find out how to go about being patient with him.

Moon Blue?

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
"hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head"

is this for real or are you a troll?

anyone in their right mind would have had that man arrested.

I'm new to this city and I have no where else to go just yet. I have animals too and they would be on the street as well if I moved out. I'm in between jobs right now and I need him at the moment. I attempted to file a police report but I decided not to because the police said they would have contact him and possibly arrest him which would anger him beyond no return and I would definitely live outdoors!

"find out how to go about being patient with him"

what you gonna do? now?
cause they all say you should leave him.
nobody told you how to be patient.
now what you gonna do (,troll)?

Posted by Aquariusgold
I'm sorry u guys....I'm just as confused as u are! I've never tolerated this type of treatment from anyone! My ex never hit me or yelled at me, so I wasn't used to this behavior. I didn't have a dad around as a kid, nor an adult male figure in my life as a child or teenager, except for my only uncle who would come visit once every 5 years on a military leave....so maybe I have low esteem..who knows? I've been told by many people that I'm very attractive/beautiful/stunning/etc...people even compliment me in front of my bf which makes him uncomfortable at times.

I'm an artist/painter/sculptor and live in my head a lot. I just can't find the strength to leave him. I always search for a solution first.

I keep reading so many threads about how Scorpio males need someone who has lots of patience and I'm trying to BE that person for him. It seems Scorpios do tend to have tempers and hate when people walk out on them for their flaws. That's why I posted in this forum to find out how to go about being patient with him.

Why not just cut to the chase and petition to have all us Scorpio Men killed?
Seriously.

Like smoking, we should be banned.

I AM NOT A TROLL PEOPLE! This is my life!

Posted by Dajjal
run, just get out of there asap, love has nothing to do with you staying alive

Agree. Save yourself and life

Posted by UnderOath92
check this poem out shawty

I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night he threw me into a wall and then started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare but you wake up from nightmares to find
that they aren't real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry - because he sent me flowers today.

Last night he finally killed me. I was beaten to death.
If only I would have gathered enough courage and strength to leave him.
So I got flowers today - for the very last time.
~Author Unknown

So sad...

He's an abuser! This has nothing to do with his sign! Burn the love to ashes and leave. Go to a battered woman's shelter. Call the police and file reports, get a restraining order. Don't even give him a heads up. Do you know how many women end up dead because of an abusive man? Too many. Get out before he puts you in the hospital or worse. Do t believe his promises, they are empty lies to suck you back in.

Why did it say like a donkey- I said dumb-ass.
Treetrunk? what is that? lol I guess my words are sensored

Posted by MoonArtist
He's an abuser! This has nothing to do with his sign! Burn the love to ashes and leave. Go to a battered woman's shelter. Call the police and file reports, get a restraining order. Don't even give him a heads up. Do you know how many women end up dead because of an abusive man? Too many. Get out before he puts you in the hospital or worse. Do t believe his promises, they are empty lies to suck you back in.

I'm planning to....I just need a little more time. I'm getting housing through the VA but that's a few more weeks.

lmao this is the dumpest thread ever....and I cant believe my fellow scorps replied...if this was real you would of either A) went to the cops or B) asked personal friends or family for advice...I feel like hitting u just for wasting our time....aqua girls have that affect on me

ns shelter. Google it wherever you city is and womens shelter. Don't procrastinate or think it will get better. He doesn't love you. Your smart enough and good enough to make it on your own. I'm not sure what your family situation is but even if you don't have one, you can do it on your. Also take this as a learning experience never put yourself at a disadvantage for a man. Ever

Posted by Aquariusgold

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
"hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head"

is this for real or are you a troll?

anyone in their right mind would have had that man arrested.

I'm new to this city and I have no where else to go just yet. I have animals too and they would be on the street as well if I moved out. I'm in between jobs right now and I need him at the moment. I attempted to file a police report but I decided not to because the police said they would have contact him and possibly arrest him which would anger him beyond no return and I would definitely live outdoors!

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Why does everyone say: "be patient with a scorpio...they are sooo sensitive...they are soo passionate, be gentle with him"" I mean I dont get it. This is what I'm trying to do. I know I may say things to piss him off. He's so secretive, but everyone ALWAYS says that's a scorpio's nature. So when I ask him about loyalty (due to the fact that he's so secretive) that usually angers him beyond belief! Like questioning a scorpio's loyalty is like questioning a Marine's loyalty! Like how dare I doubt him! I just don't get it.

Posted by nov13thscorp
lmao this is the dumpest thread ever....and I cant believe my fellow scorps replied...if this was real you would of either A) went to the cops or B) asked personal friends or family for advice...I feel like hitting u just for wasting our time....aqua girls have that affect on me

Ummm...I went to the police station the other day but decided not to file at that moment...and I'm too embarrassed to tell friends. Does that answer your question?

...go read the pm I sent you. it'll clear a few things. it's not about astrology but psychology. just read the pm

ts-I bet you 'fell' a lot of times...

Posted by Dajjal
...go read the pm I sent you. it'll clear a few things. it's not about astrology but psychology. just read the pm

ok

You have GOT to quit asking how to deal with Scorpios! You are dealing with an ABUSER. It makes ZERO difference what his sign is. It makes ZERO difference how many great qualities he has when he's not bashing you in the head...THE HEAD BASHING NEGATES EVERYTHING!!!

Decide whether it's worse to be embarrassed when you ask your friends for help or to be in the hospital...or dead. Google a shelter, then go there! Do you really want this to be your life?

Posted by AL4813
damn, dafuq's wrong with him.. tell him to quit being an emotional little b!tch... you should have a serious talk with him and take a break from him, maybe that will calm him down. Otherwise, you should get the hell out of there before he bust a ray rice on your azz..

Seeming as you are both fixed, you will try to stick it through no matter how messy it gets..... wrong answer.... you may"love" him but think about when your family and friends ask how you two are doing and you tell them with a smile on your face that you are fine when just 15 minutes ago he told you he wished you died of gonorrhea and rot in hell.

your safety and self worth are valuable.... goodluck

You're right...

I feel so stupid...I swear all this time and after reading so many threads and forums on the internet, I just thought it was a Scorpio's nature to have a really bad short temper. I almost felt like it was my duty to stick it out and be patient. I've never been in a relationship with a scorpio so I was searching for as much advice as possible. The Aquarius in me causes me to be persistent and obsessive (in a sense) in finding ways to cure the relationship I have left.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
...and speaking as a scorpio, I imagine he's probably better than most at emotional manipulation.

Emotional manipulation, emotional roller-coaster, you name it! Sometimes I don't know whether I'm coming or going. This is not a way to live.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
read this....

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cycle_of_abuse

how many times has this happened?

any more than one....and you've stuck yourself in the cycle like a merry go round you can't get off of.

Ok

feeling a headache coming.....aqua read the second pm please. no need to reply to it

Wait, you stuck it out in a CLEARLY abusive relationship because somehow you thought astrology said that it's okay because he's a Scorpio?

...I can't.

If you are going to try to get out, you need backup. You need police first, and you need your friends and family. This can be dangerous, trying to escape, an abuser is very likely to go terrorize your loved ones if you try to leave, and that is, if you make it out the door. Hopefully you do make it out the door, but this guy is Military, and they often become psycho abusers.

If he has guns and weapons around his house, I wouldn't be surprised if he'd try to use one on you some day. Get out as soon as you can, and do it without him around or knowing. Don't leave anything behind you might have to retrieve later, either.

Call your local women's shelter first, they should have resources for you to help you figure this out.

Posted by Dajjal
feeling a headache coming.....aqua read the second pm please. no need to reply to it

Most people who are in abusive relationships don't want to get help. They usually stay. Sad but statistically true. Somehow they believe they can actually change the person. Ridiculous way to think.

Posted by Aquariusgold
Ok I'm madly in-love with a scorpio man who I've been with for over 3 years. One minute he can be so sweet & nurturing, and then the next minute he's calling me every name under the sun... tells me to get the f*ck out of his house, even says he hates my gutts and wishes I was dead. I knew he had a temper but I didn't know it was that bad until I moved in with him in May. Now things have gotten quite physical! I mean like...he just snaps! We can be having a normal discussion and then at any given moment he'll just fly off the handle if I say something "stupid" or if offend him in some way. Then starts yelling like a tyrant while spit comes flying out of his mouth! He'll be mad for HOURS or even DAYS!! It can be sooo draining..

Like the other morning...he had woken me up out of my sleep while I was having a weird dream about my ex (I have no clue why!!) and I mentioned to him out of casual conversation (Like a Dumbass) that I had dreamed about my ex but he took it the wrong way ...called me an unappreciative b*tch and then hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head. He's 6'3" 215lbs and I'm 5'2" 128lbs...so I try to avoid arguments because it's impossible to calm him down once enraged. But when he's nice, he's extremely NICE and so affectionate & Our love-making is ridiculously passionate! But sometimes I question his love for me because he treats me like the enemy when I upset him. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH...WHAT TO DO??

I honestly have no words for you. Please seek support outside of this astrology forum.

Posted by Aquariusgold
Ok I'm ...called me an unappreciative b*tch and then hit me with a closed fist about 3-4 times in my head. He's 6'3" 215lbs and I'm 5'2" 128lbs...so I try to avoid arguments because it's impossible to calm him down once enraged. But when he's nice, he's extremely NICE and so affectionate & Our love-making is ridiculously passionate! But sometimes I question his love for me because he treats me like the enemy when I upset him. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH...WHAT TO DO??

Okay, soooooo....is this Scorpio dude still amongst the living and are you posting this thread from prison? because those are the only two realistic options I have for you. If this thread is really genuine, I sure hope you're not still with this guy. I would hate to see your life story on lifetime...seriously. And obviously his bad behavior didn't just start. If you're already 3 years in, he must have started showing his azz shortly after you started dating. Question...WHY DIDN'T YOU GET OUT SOONER. There ain't a sign on planet earth that will make me believe that ABUSE is a part of someone's astrological character. That doesn't even sound normal. As a Scorpio rising, my temper can get out of control too, but it would take more than a simple statement to make me fly off the handle, and never to the point where I'm abusive to anyone,and especially to someone that I supposedly love. Your dude is a certified SLEESTACK!!!!

Posted by Aquariusgold
I'm sorry u guys....I'm just as confused as u are! I've never tolerated this type of treatment from anyone! My ex never hit me or yelled at me, so I wasn't used to this behavior. I didn't have a dad around as a kid, nor an adult male figure in my life as a child or teenager, except for my only uncle who would come visit once every 5 years on a military leave....so maybe I have low esteem..who knows? I've been told by many people that I'm very attractive/beautiful/stunning/etc...people even compliment me in front of my bf which makes him uncomfortable at times.

I'm an artist/painter/sculptor and live in my head a lot. I just can't find the strength to leave him. I always search for a solution first.

I keep reading so many threads about how Scorpio males need someone who has lots of patience and I'm trying to BE that person for him. It seems Scorpios do tend to have tempers and hate when people walk out on them for their flaws. That's why I posted in this forum to find out how to go about being patient with him.

Okay I'm calling bullsh*t now. Peace troll.

@OP No, this isnt about him being a scorpio. This is just a very abusive person and you don't deserve this. Please leave and find a safe place. I hope you have some family or friend that can help you. Don't procrastinate or bide your time. Today might be your last day if you don't act fast.

I too was in an abusive relationship with a taurus ex and it lasted a year. He was verbally and physically abusive. The physical abuse was very cold and calculating. He'd punch my back and usually my spine because I have a back piece tattoo so the bruises wont ever show. He'd punch my legs too, squish my boobs so hard that it becomes sore for weeks. Whenever I'd try to leave him, he'd pin me to the wall or throw me to the bed then he'd get a towel and continue hitting me with it. If I try to get up, he'll throw whatever he's holding towards me. Sometimes, he'd attempt to commit suicide. I get scared he'd die and it'd be my fault so I try to pacify him. He's an alcoholic and that's our main problem. The next day he'd be so apologetic, promise it won't happen again. It became a cycle.

I told my family and all they said was I shouldnt annoy him or anger him when he's drunk. I should just STFU and do whatever hevwanted me to do. He kept me away from friends, I couldnt talk to my friends unsuprrvised by him. He had to know everything. Heknew my family wasn't so supportive so he took advantage of that too by making it seem like I always start the fight. He was very manipulative.

I felt completely alone. I had nothing and nobody to turn to. Luckily, I found one friend who let me stay for free in exchange for doing all the house chores and tutoring and babysitting her siblings. It took me 2 months to get myself back on my feet.

A lot more nightmarish scenarios happened but I can't bring myself to talk about it. It's just hard to talk about. My only point in sharing is so you know you are not alone and if I was able to leave that nightmare, you can too. Just dont procrastinate or it might be too late for you.