He likes to fight (Page 2)

“Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” — Aristotle

the guy who quoted this has Scorp Stellium. Read it here:

http://planetwaves.net/2014/featured-articles/anger-and-motivation-the-good-the-bad-and-the-lilith.html

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Posted by shaymaci

Posted by GC02
.....I broke up with a Gemini for acting like this. It's unpleasant & didn't want to have people come for me because he likes to act crazy.

You must have a lot of patience to deal with that.

Anyone who has a problem with him has no knowledge of me.

I am patient. Very.

But he's private.

That's good ?

The Gemini sent me a friend request on fb this week. It's still pending....that guy was so cool its like I don't understand how he got in fights when he came off so sweet and collected to me.

He wanted to fight my ex and I'm like why and he's like because he's your ex and I don't like him.

I probably won't accept his friend request because he might wanna fight the bf I have now & then I'd have to kill him because Leo Venus does not play around —

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That man sounds crazy. Tbh.

Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees

Posted by shaymaci

Posted by tiziani
No offence since it's your man and you're going to present him in the best light, but you asked for advice and people are pointing out something that seems correct to me. It's just a lack of belief in himself. Can't change if you don't confront things as they are.

We see it in the gym with the new guys all the time. If you just fight people you know you can beat, then you don't really believe in yourself enough to acknowledge how much risk you're inviting in every other sense - injuring someone fatally, or catching a charge that hangs on you for life.

The strongest fighters we have, (key thing: they believe in themselves) train for self defence only. They don't need the headaches otherwise. He should join a gym/group/community where the organizers have a good rep, catch a few losses and he will see the bigger picture.

Then let me elaborate as to reduce the number of assumptions here, as none of you see him or his chart.

He has NO self esteem problems. He USED to be arrogant and conceited, he has been humbled through hard experience.

He is not huge, he's got maybe an inch or two on me, and I'm 5'7. They guys he's fighting are a hell of a lot bigger. He feels like he will hurt someone his size, granted, he probably would.

This is not a ego or self esteem thing.

This is not a "fighting weaker guys" thing.

He's very blunt, he's very honest.

He takes a lot off of people, surprisingly.

He just does NOT tolerate disrespect.

To him, or his loved ones.

Please do not turn this into something it's not.

This isn't a macho thing, his view of himself is fine (again, I say humble, he is very respectful until you disrespect him).

And again. I want to show him how to walk away.

Regardless of how disrespectful they were.

His scorpio Mars is in the 1St house, conjunct his ascendant and his sun.

I PROMISE, he thinks highly of himself and it used to be higher!

People push and push and push, and when he finally snaps, it's bad because he has the real ability to hurt someone.

If you knew him, you'd understand how this is a problem. He's VERY sweet, nice, respectful, and honest.

It's when other people keep poking that he snaps. And you do have to poke a hell of a lot.

Maybe what he needs is a better way to hold his temper?

Does this color it better for you guys?

Please elaborate on the meaning of disrespect. You are making him sound likes hes the Godfather ??

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You would think he was ??

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Just pushing him by repeatedly doing disrespectful shit.

Whether physical or verbal.

Especially when towards family or myself.

He's protective asf.

Posted by GC02

Posted by shaymaci

Posted by GC02

Posted by shaymaci

Posted by GC02
.....I broke up with a Gemini for acting like this. It's unpleasant & didn't want to have people come for me because he likes to act crazy.

You must have a lot of patience to deal with that.

Anyone who has a problem with him has no knowledge of me.

I am patient. Very.

But he's private.

That's good ?

The Gemini sent me a friend request on fb this week. It's still pending....that guy was so cool its like I don't understand how he got in fights when he came off so sweet and collected to me.

He wanted to fight my ex and I'm like why and he's like because he's your ex and I don't like him.

I probably won't accept his friend request because he might wanna fight the bf I have now & then I'd have to kill him because Leo Venus does not play around —

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That man sounds crazy. Tbh.

He really is but he was such a good friend to me. He was always looking out for me and stuff, when his sister tried to steal my shoes he confronted her, when we smoked weed he'd make me promise to never break up the weed incase the police caught us so he could take the full blame, he was super smart and would help me with my homework so my parents would let me see him, when I broke up with him he cried and begged to stay together, then he switched schools because he says I broke his heart, but HE HATES ANYONE THAT DATES ME and automatically wants to fight them & he told me about two years ago he's mean to girls now and acts like an ass because I broke his heart and it changed him lmao....stupiiidddddd?

He also says I stole his virginity, which I think is a DAMN LIE!!

Idk why I'm so protective of him, when people talk bad about him I get mad. Idk what it is.

Why does your bf like to fight? Has he ever sent you pics of his face after a fight? I notice guys like to do that.

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You should run your synastry and investigate that ??

And no, he doesn't show me pictures. He doesn't brag about it. The only way I find out is when he is relaxed and tells me, or when I massage his hands and get a small pain reaction to which he then tells me why he's hurting.

He's humble, I'll give him that. He doesn't act proud about fighting.

Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Sorry im about to ignore ur request for advice on how to change that boy your dating and instead imma just tell it how i see it cause I feel you need something different than what you want, and thats a reality check.

Hes a hot mess. Youre a hot mess. This is going to end in disaster.

I hate to see what might happen to his children who may ever disrespect him which happens quite often in life.

He is a problem maker not a problem solver and dont nobody got time for that.

One day when you become a stronger femme you will be able to say, "remember that one time i went out with that jackass who thought he was the Godfather??" And laugh.

Till then please for the love of God dont get pregnant.

And this is why I like you ??

Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees

Posted by shaymaci

Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Sorry im about to ignore ur request for advice on how to change that boy your dating and instead imma just tell it how i see it cause I feel you need something different than what you want, and thats a reality check.

Hes a hot mess. Youre a hot mess. This is going to end in disaster.

I hate to see what might happen to his children who may ever disrespect him which happens quite often in life.

He is a problem maker not a problem solver and dont nobody got time for that.

One day when you become a stronger femme you will be able to say, "remember that one time i went out with that jackass who thought he was the Godfather??" And laugh.

Till then please for the love of God dont get pregnant.

And this is why I like you ??

Lamayo ?

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Didn't read whole thread so not sure if already pointed out, but he's got a lot of 1st house (Aries) energy. Never met an Aries male that isn't aggressive and scrappy.

Posted by Jayceon
@shaymaci I once was that way but my ex used to talk me out of wanting to fight all the time. What we did was exercise, meditate and some yoga poses. At first I wasn't keen on trying any poses but after I did it, I felt relieved and my anger subsided. The moral of what I'm getting at is steer him away from that nonsense. I get the whole respect thing because I want that the most but fighting always goes left due to dreaded violence,etc. And fighting never proves nothing anyways, respect is earned not given.

Thank you ❤