HELP! Will my Scorpio come back?

So I've been with a Scorpio , today it would have been 10months. He recently just broke up with my last Tuesday. Around the 21st he started telling me he was sad and wanted to see me more often than usual. He almost metioned he felt really stressed and could feel himself getting depressed. He would always tell me that he didn't wanna feel like that and I always tried to assure him things will be okay and reminded him I was here for him . The weekend of the 26th comes around and he starts getting short and distant with me . I didn't pay much a attention to it or let it get to me cause I usually notice this happens when he gets stressed so I just continued to be there for him when ever he felt like talking . Monday night comes around and he starts being really cruel , even tells me to stop being so boring and make conversation with him.. next day (Tuesday) he asks when can he see me again. I tell him Wednesday and asks him if he'd like to go with me to church after I get off of work. He replies " no I don't like being told how to live my life" I replied "okay that's fine" BOOM! That was it , he blew up from that one reply and said we needed to end things around , that this relationship was too much . For the rest of the day it was like a volcano erupted , said the most fucked up shit I've ever heard come out of his mouth.. including he wanted nothing to do with this and insisted he needed to move on with his life . I begged and after a while just didn't even reply anymore the next day . He texted saying sorry that he has been super stressed and irritated with everything . And says if I wanna talk we can do this the right way. I didn't reply . I haven't heard anything since Wednesday and it is now Monday .. I'm freaking out . I feel like I lost him and I'm serious going insane. He's been trying to make me jealous on social media acting like he's over me . I'm so hurt where did all this come from? Please someone give me advice . I love this man . We never cheated or ruined our trust . So what's going on? I'm so confused and hurt and can't stop thinking about him! Will he come back!?

You said you didn't respond to him though?

the rest of the day it was like a volcano erupted , said the most fucked up shit I've ever heard come out of his mouth.. including he wanted nothing to do with this and insisted he needed to move on with his life .

Why do you even want him back? And why are you begging?

To answer your question, yes he will be back and if I were you, I wouldn't answer again.

Posted by Lilmomma
I begged...

Posted by Lilmomma
...He texted saying sorry that he has been super stressed and irritated with everything . And says if I wanna talk we can do this the right way. I didn't reply . I haven't heard anything since Wednesday and it is now Monday .. I'm freaking out...

I'm a little confused as to why you're freaking out. He sent you a message and you ignored it. This reads like you wanted him to beg you to talk. Given the dynamics of what you explained above I don't see that happening.

Posted by Lilmomma
...I'm so hurt where did all this come from?...

Based on what you wrote it was inevitable. He clearly doesn't manage things well and someone like that is bound to self-destruct and possibly take you along with them. The "sudden" break up was simply an extension of that.

Posted by Lilmomma
...Please someone give me advice ....

Before you proceed ask yourself if you want to be with someone that treats you this way just because they are "super stressed". He needs to address how he deals with things and you need to make it clear that he needs to actively work on that if he hopes to keep you in his life. You've ignored clear signs of poor behaviour as it highlights below...

Posted by Lilmomma
The weekend of the 26th comes around and he starts getting short and distant with me . I didn't pay much a attention to it or let it get to me cause I usually notice this happens when he gets stressed so I just continued to be there for him when ever he felt like talking .

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Why, I have no idea and that is for you to sort out. Not letting something get to you is one thing, ignoring rude behaviour (with a Scorp anyway) is another. It's the same as condoning it and it will continue unless you call him/her out on it. It's not hard. Be clear about how you will and will not be treated/spoken to, speak up and adhere to it.

Girl you don't need to beg.

There's a million guys waiting for their chance to be your prince.

Go check 'em out.

And screw this guy.

He's been wanting attention and you weren't giving it to him so he created a little drama cause he was freaking out (probably that you were becoming uninterested in him)

If you want him back, you're gonna have to reassure him and tell him that you miss him and you want to spend time with him. He will still act like an ass for a couple of days but he will come around. You have to mean what you say and spend quality time with him though.

This is the crap that drains me about Scorpios, They create so much drama when they don't get attention. He ain't going anywhere, he is just throwing a fit. So if you love him, give in and show him you care.

You sound like the perfect girl. The kind that we dream of having. I did the same thing with my girl around the 10 month mark as well. Freaked and left.. I know i had this overwhelming feeling of always having to prove yourself.. with the right girl you don't have to. They love you for who you are.

From experience.. I feel some need to self sabotage sometimes... I was gone for 3 months and I really hurt my girl in doing so and was just plain selfish..

Sometimes we get in a funk.. I did this.. and I have regretted it ever since. I recently lost my girl I did this to.. and I have never felt such pain in my life knowing I fucked up so bad..

I am a scorp female and can tell you what i think. If you screw around with the scorp when he tells you that he wants to see you more, then be sure to assume responsibilities ...

Scorps get emotionally invested and they give you 150% of their heart and soul. If they started getting a sense that you are pulling back and for no obvious reason, they can only interpret it in two ways:

1) you are manipulating them/screwing with their feelings

2) you are a flake and not worth their time

They will pine and mope around for a while but will cut you loose and it will not be pretty.

So, the fact that he is being emotional right now, is a good sign for you, But not for long.

So, talk to him (and NO GAMES). Scorps know when you screw around with them . They almost have a sixth sense about it. Apologize and correct your behaviour. if this relationship is too suffocating/stuffy for you, then make tracks, it will not improve. that's how scorps are...

I would also disagree with people posting here that scorps are creating drama. Scorps actually wear their feelings on the sleeve. By "making drama" perhaps people are refferring to the short "grace period" that you have to correct your behaviour and that can be easily interpreted by "drama".

In my opinion, scorps can be MORE desparate when they are being dumped especially if they don't see it coming. I have been the desparate/blind-sided.

But when i dump, I usually warn, but when i make up my mind, it is a done deal.

A nice thing about a scorp is that actually give you warning before it "stings"...

Posted by TaurusinTexas
the rest of the day it was like a volcano erupted , said the most fucked up shit I've ever heard come out of his mouth.. including he wanted nothing to do with this and insisted he needed to move on with his life .

Why do you even want him back? And why are you begging?

To answer your question, yes he will be back and if I were you, I wouldn't answer again.

If there is a volcano erupting, it means he still cares. So, i would say you have a good chance at getting him back. But you have to apologize and correct your behaviour.

When scorps don't care, they usually drop you and there is not even a "sting".

Thank you for all the advice . I still can't figure out what I did wrong. Believe me I give this guy a lot of attention. I see him 3-4 times a week sometimes more if we go to the gym to work out . I text him good morning everyday and goodnight and through my day I always try to cheer him up or remind him I love him. Now we are good when we hang out and he's very affectionate but the minute we aren't together he acts like a jerk . Pushing and pulling . Sometimes says love don't exist . doesnt try as much with me and tells me what's the point if no one cares — Like what ?? I care!!! I'm dying for your attention!!

I was like that.. my girl is a very positive thinker and I was not. But she taught me that negative thoughts lead to negative things actually happening. Nothing good will ever happen with negative thoughts simply because I as a scorpio wouldn't let anything good happen to myself. Tough love worked for me. I don't know if it'll work the same for him.

Posted by Ace2009
I was like that.. my girl is a very positive thinker and I was not. But she taught me that negative thoughts lead to negative things actually happening. Nothing good will ever happen with negative thoughts simply because I as a scorpio wouldn't let anything good happen to myself. Tough love worked for me. I don't know if it'll work the same for him.

Yeah like I'm always positive things will hangs he'll snap out of it . I always tell him things will be okay when he's stressed. We're back together now.. and now he takes like two hours to text back or acts like I'm no body and keeps it kinda short with me . And when we're hanging out he's all lovable and sweet??!! What's going on? I can't take this! This is torture !!!