Help with a Scorpio girl pleaseeee ☺

NMNR

NMNR

I met her 2 weeks ago, she went to my place, common friend invited her. My friend knew I had a crush on this scorpio girl so she kept giving hints to the group, asking me to pass the drink to her, or get SG something. At fist, I was just laughing and just trying to coolly shrug off my friends teasing. Eventually, I got a bit buzzed by drinking, so I started making them all laugh, and went out of my way to make sure SG knew I had a crush on her, I kept glancing at her and stuff. It came to a point wherein the whole group would talk about how she should give me a chance, they said I was funny and I knew how to cook (I cooked for them when they came), and that I was thoughtful for hosting a last minute drinking sesh. They wound up asking about my ex from the same office we work in, they even searched her through FB. I saw her like whisper or mumble to her friend next to her to show her what my ex looked like. And then that friend said, "Hey, you look just like her!!!" Then we all just laughed cause it was true, but she's prettier 😊 And they said I had a "type", but I know I don't, it's just a coincidence. The night ended with her semi-hugging me before she left and thanking me for a fun night.

Sooo, I see her at the office sometimes. We smoke outside, sometimes just the 2 of us, sometimes with our friends. But we never talk about meeting up or something. We had another drinking sesh a week after. She brought her boyfriend with her (yeah, she has a bf. She got broken up with by someone else last Feb 2018, and she started seeing this new dude around April I think. It obvs looks like a rebound, even my friend thinks so). Anyway, she kept looking at me the whole time. I tried my best to ignore her. I just kept cracking jokes with everyone and was a bit of a life of the party, and she was sitting in front if me, next to her bf, and she kept laughing so loudly at my jokes but I just went on without looking at her so much whenever I was being funny.

And so at the office just this afternoon, I dunno, our friend kind of pushed her to me cause a car was gonna pass so we had to like get near the wall to make room. I was facing them, they were facing me, and our friend pushed her to me. I just tensed up and I can literally feel her breasts on me. I was surprised she didn't tense up, she even placed her arm on my shoulder. I didn't know what to do anymore so I was trying to think of something funny to say but they were already laughing. She remained so chill the whole time and I don't know what to think of it. She's a Scorpio, I'm a Cancer. Our friends know I like her, and I think she knows I like her cause of the way I kept joking about it with everyone. Even my friends who were there at the party kind of sensed that she was also giving signals that she was fond of me, to put it very lightly.

I just don't know how to approach this woman. I've had one scorpio ex, but this one's much closer to my age. I get the vibe she's game. But she has a bf. But she talks more about her ex than her bf so I don't know. What do you guys think? I'm so sorry this was a long post. Thank you in advance to whoever reads it all. 😊

Seems like she's the office cocktease.

Dude if not married then she's single. Hooking up with a coworker should be an easy lay but last resort scenario. Scorps can sense weakness a mile away so being funny only takes you so far. I hope your outcome improve.

@SoftMachine, I don't think she is. I kinda thought she was. But she keeps to her circle of friends and I don't see her with anyone else but the group of people she usually is with, which has also become my friends 🙂

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@SoftMachine, I don't think she is. I kinda thought she was. But she keeps to her circle of friends and I don't see her with anyone else but the group of people she usually is with, which has also become my friends 🙂

Asking her out is a start, just be careful that you don't put all your eggs in one basket. Playfulness aside she is likely scouting the field. You'll end up feeling like a bozo for the holidays if you go out of your way when she could very well be a bear with wide canyon.

@SoftMachine I'm not worried about the holidays cause I have it booked half of December until next year overseas (with family of course). That's exactly how I feel about her, like she's checking the waters or something. I still don't feel like asking her out just yet. I don't want her to think I'm disrespecting her relationship with this other dude. Just recently, she had her birthday, and I gave her a note. I looked up this free trial for an online streaming app which had Big Bang Theory in it, and I just wrote down the account and the password. I'm trying to be genuinely playful with her. I don't know where this will take me. She even told our friend that she planned to break up with her bf the night we stayed up watching Big Bang Theory. And that she just cared for him (when she was asked if she loved him). But thus far, she hasn't really done it yet. So, I don't know. I don't wanna hurt anybody.

@LibraSupreme, I know. And I try to switch it up sometimes as it gets tiring and boring for me too. I don't want to be just the funny guy. When I kind of switched to being serious and snobbish though, she started teasing me and stuff. There was this time our friends were teasing me with another girl (and she was seriously ignoring me before this), suddenly, she joined the convo and teased me and told me "How could you, so quickly, when you just knew her??" Of course, I was stunned by her reaction. I just made a joke out of it and then she just ignored me again. A lot has haopened since then and we had another drinking sesh at my place but I toned down on being funny. I just focused my attention to our friends. After that, she started FB messaging me about Big Bang Theory (cause we were the only two ones left awake and she showed me clips on Youtube). It was a wholesome night and I didn't do anything embarrassing. She kept prodding me to go sleep cause I wasn't teasing her the same way I did when we first met. I just want to be careful cause I'm beginning to like her.

Hmmz get real here, you like her. Don’t say you are beginning to like her. The problem is your intention, what is it? You lack of intention shows your lack of confidence, this is unattractive.

Not saying you need to ask her out, you are right in that if you disrespect her relationship, it makes it seem like you think it’s ok to see other people when you already have a relationship, again unattractive. You can ask her “so things are pretty serious with your boyfriend then, huh?” Or something of that nature, it shows you are asking about it, but still respectful. But then don’t direct her attention on her boyfriend, or you, draw it to herself, show you are an encourager, that you are good at listening, encourage her to talk about herself, casually.

I see a lot of emphasis on trying to be the funny guy, funny guys do not win women, women laugh at men they find attractive, remember this, I will say again, women laugh at men they find attractive, ever seen a women laugh at a dumb joke just cos they think the guy is hot? Happens all the time.

And you may see this as you get older, the clown does the work, but she doesn’t go home with the clown, she goes with the guy who shows confidence, like he doesn’t try to win her approval so much by overdoing it, that guy with confidence shows higher value.

Except, when we are attracted to someone, and something funny happens in a group, who is the first person you look at? It is usually and should be the one you are attracted you, so if something funny does happen in a group, look at her, see if she’s looking at you, and laugh together (ie with her, not the group, hope that makes sense, eye contact with each other, then laugh). Preferablly there should be another guy in the group, and you are laughing at him, together, secretively.

I think it feels too much about your friends, you need to distract them from you, not encourage it, the last thing a guy wants when he’s talking to a girl he likes, is a pack of stupid hyenas giggleing in the background. So discourage your friends as quick as possible. It needs to be about you and her. Don’t make it a running joke for your friends when they are drunk, it’s not attractive.

Be clear about your intention, your next goal (ie your intention) is to get her on a one to one, without your friends there. Focus on this objective, no nerves, just confidence. Show confidence and she will come to you.

@AriesJo, Wow!! I learned a lot from your comment. You are right about the eye contact in a group. But we've been alone or had one-on-one times as well. I just let her talk sometimes because I wanna know more about her. And she talks, like there's so much she wants to tell me about herself that our convos feel rushed at times. Sometimes it feels like we're squeezing a lot of conversation between the two of us in so little time because our friends are gonna be coming, or one of us has to come back to working, and we just happened to see each other at the smoking area. I am in no rush. I just wanna tread lightly too, for now. I just wanna know if she likes me and if there's a chance in hell for me in this.

@Uglygirlnextdoor, you're right. I haven't really made a big move yet, and I guess one of the biggest factors holding me back is that she's in a relationship. I'm usually kinda straightforward with these things. I wouldn't wanna be in that guys position if she's really entertaining me, when, ironically, that's exactly what I'm trying to work on, to be in his position, as her bf. I dunno. This is making me nuts.

But she’s had a bf since April. And she brought him to hang out. She drew the line in the sand.

But she’s had a bf since April. And she brought him to hang out. She drew the line in the sand.

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@Uglygirlnextdoor, you're right. I haven't really made a big move yet, and I guess one of the biggest factors holding me back is that she's in a relationship. I'm usually kinda straightforward with these things. I wouldn't wanna be in that guys position if she's really entertaining me, when, ironically, that's exactly what I'm trying to work on, to be in his position, as her bf. I dunno. This is making me nuts.

Think about it.

If she can do this to him, she can also do this to you.

Is it worth it?

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gotta agree with elle, your story is delusional.

And there isn't a person in your story that comes off as having appropriate boundaries BESIDES her.

Your friends looking through your FB was the cringe part.

If you both didn't work together, would you even have the chance to cross each other's paths again after that? lets be real.

They weren't looking through my FB. They searched my ex on FB on their own phones.

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But she’s had a bf since April. And she brought him to hang out. She drew the line in the sand.

It’s her way of saying the two of them have to fight for her affection.

Or she wanted to make it perfectly clear that she is taken.

Maybe he isnt getting the hint?

Perhaps she isnt interested at all.

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Maybe you're right.

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I just kept cracking jokes with everyone and was a bit of a life of the party

do u have leo &/or libra in yr chart?

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My moon and ascending is Sagi.

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But she’s had a bf since April. And she brought him to hang out. She drew the line in the sand.

It’s her way of saying the two of them have to fight for her affection.

Or she wanted to make it perfectly clear that she is taken.

Maybe he isnt getting the hint?

Perhaps she isnt interested at all.

You really think so?

Remember Stihl? Yes.

We only have his perception to work with.

Nah way. This was a test. She wanted an Alpha. He just proved himself to be a beta. He obviously got outmogged.

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What test?

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I just kept cracking jokes with everyone and was a bit of a life of the party

do u have leo &/or libra in yr chart?

answer my question

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I checked online. I have Leo in Mars.

If it is a test, she talks about her boyfriend, then the way to pass it is to tell her to be with her boyfriend...

first women do the opposite of what guys tell them to do, second if she’s testing your interest level then it makes her wonder about it more, third you are happy for her (whatever she chooses) which is what she wants, fourth women want the guy they can’t have, five you are in control, you’re placing the obstacle for her (not the other way round) six you show you are not so easily controlled, seven it shows you would be loyal if you had a relationship, eight shows you are higher value, nine supposing you ask her to leave her boyfriend, you will end up looking like you are “waiting” for her to leave, never look like you are waiting for her, ten she already knows “the right thing” to do, she’s testing to see if you know (just cos it’s the right thing doesn’t mean she will do it)...

basically dude on all levels tell her to be with her boyfriend and then try to move to the next conversation topic. And then still act like you’re interested, it’s her choice, like I know people can say don’t try it on with a taken woman, but you’re single, and she has a brain, she can decide what’s best for her, might not even be serious with her guy, might be a test. Personally I wouldn’t sleep with a taken woman though (not knowingly), that seems too far.

But also, be careful, she could just be wanting attention. Her boyfriend doesn’t give her enough attention, she looks for attention wherever she can get it, from other guys, but at the end, she gets into bed with her boyfriend. hopefully you will notice if she’s doing this.

Try to meet other women though, you might end up meeting someone you like more and who is available.

she probably knows that you're into her and scorp women like it when men are interested in them whether they're ugly or not it doesnt matter they enjoy being liked by men, if she really likes her boyfriend she wont cheat on him, she will lead you on so that you will continue to like her but she wont ever actually give you what u want, she likes the attention, easy

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But she’s had a bf since April. And she brought him to hang out. She drew the line in the sand.

It’s her way of saying the two of them have to fight for her affection.

Or she wanted to make it perfectly clear that she is taken.

Maybe he isnt getting the hint?

Perhaps she isnt interested at all.

You really think so?

Remember Stihl? Yes.

We only have his perception to work with.

Nah way. This was a test. She wanted an Alpha. He just proved himself to be a beta. He obviously got outmogged.

What test?

You know bro......... ‘The Test’!

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Yeah the test. So, who got outmogged? Was it me?

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But she’s had a bf since April. And she brought him to hang out. She drew the line in the sand.

It’s her way of saying the two of them have to fight for her affection.

Or she wanted to make it perfectly clear that she is taken.

Maybe he isnt getting the hint?

Perhaps she isnt interested at all.

You really think so?

Remember Stihl? Yes.

We only have his perception to work with.

Nah way. This was a test. She wanted an Alpha. He just proved himself to be a beta. He obviously got outmogged.

What test?

You know bro......... ‘The Test’!

Yeah the test. So, who got outmogged? Was it me?

Yeah I think you were mate.....

Do you even lift bro?

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Okay bro if you say so 😁 Yeah I do 💪