Help with Scorpio male behavior!

I need help figuring out a Scorpio man??s behavior. We were together for about 15 months and then he broke up with me when we were on a trip together. He said he didn't feel —that spark?? for me anymore, but I was with him that whole week and the way he would look at me, the way he would touch me, hold my hand, kiss my hand & forehead, etc??_ he wanted me. He turned me down when I tried to sleep with him, because he said it would be too painful and confusing for both of us.

After we returned home, he has kept calling, texting. There is no sex. He's not getting anything from me other than talking to me. He keeps saying —our timing is off?? and we??re even planning to see each other in about 7 weeks (it was a long distance relationship), but just —as friends??. He still confides in me. He still calls me late at night. He still acts very much the same as before we broke up.
He has a lot of things to work out in his life. Work, custody of his kid, and some other things. He said to me —I can't be emotionally responsible for another person right now other than myself and my kid??.

He goes out of his way to tell me that he's not seeing anyone or sleeping with anyone. He talked to ME like 5 times on Valentine's Day.

I am so confused??_ is this normal/typical Scorpio behavior? How do I behave if I want a chance of getting him to come back to me? I am in no way desperate. I just feel in my gut that he is the one and I want to be smart about this.

He's playing with your emotions blatantly! LEAVE this man to deal with his stuff and move on!

ROTFLOL

Or how I learned to stop worrying and love the bomb.

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Posted by scorchedearth
this is not about him being a scorpio. someone who wants to be with you makes the effort to be with you because they don't want to lose you to anyone else, because they can't.

this guy is stringing you along. he's not wanting to be with anyone but he doesn't want you to be with anyone else either. because he was comfortable with where things were except for the commitment part.

you should feel grateful he wasn't a total snake. he could have had sex with you and you'd be even MORE confused. because you're convince yourself that he still "loves" you.

you need to decide if you can be his friend. if you can't. cut him off. if you can.. you should probably still take some time to get over the relationship before you try friends.

staying with him doing what you're doing is just hurting yourself. he can say "timing is wrong" until he's blue in the face. the truth is if he wanted you he'd move heaven and earth to be with you. which he's not doing.

right now he's giving you the bare minimum he can to keep you interested because he's not ready to drop you yet.

but if the right woman were to come along you'd see just how quickly he can commit.

spot on.

don't let him access to you after he just told you you're not the right woman for you. Men are pretty simple if they want you they would make sure they keep you and make YOU happy. He wants his cake and eat it to he is selfish and not concerned about your feelings. If you accept this behavior he will lose repost for you and you will find yourself putting up with the same things for years. Tell him " yes timing is wrong see you next life time!" . Calling you is to keep tabs on you so another man won't luck up and give you the world. Let him go and make him work twice as hard to get you back IF you want him after your healing process. I know this is hard since your feelings are involved but at this point you have to put that to the side and remember what you deserve.

Definitely agree with scorchedearth.

Broom him to the curb. Better cut him loose, because his mixed messages will constantly mess with your head, put you through the emotional ringer. He also sounds indecisive.

Don't waste time. Personally, being his friend right now is not realistic either. Don't kid yourself.

Posted by StraightforwardScorpio
Definitely agree with scorchedearth.

Broom him to the curb. Better cut him loose, because his mixed messages will constantly mess with your head, put you through the emotional ringer. He also sounds indecisive.

Don't waste time. Personally, being his friend right now is not realistic either. Don't kid yourself.

someone mentioned he sounds like he hates to be alone. now you mentioned indecisive. He might have astrological "signs"/energies in him very strongly, that make him fear of being alone and being indecisive. Most people around here say that's a libra trait.

what's the scorpio's placements, OP?

Sorry OP for not having an answer for as a scorpio male but this for the females who did have an answer, So if she had something positive to say about this young man than would it be about him being a scorpio? whats the point of all us even being in here if its not about his "sign"?

*for you as a scorpio male

Posted by ScorpiosHarmony

Posted by nov13thscorp
Sorry OP for not having an answer for as a scorpio male but this for the females who did have an answer, So if she had something positive to say about this young man than would it be about him being a scorpio? whats the point of all us even being in here if its not about his "sign"?

The foolish and immature act of stringing a woman (or man) along is not mutually exclusive to one sign. That's why.

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yes I agree BUT every sign does it in its own way...A immature scorpio male doesnt act like a immature aries male or a cancer male, pisces male etc...thats why the OP is asking us in this board cause she's dealing with a scorpio male...you are just putting all immature men in one big bowl.....the way u say she might as well head over to the Leo and see what they think

*way u see it *to the Leo forum

I totally agree, this has less to do with astrological placements and much more to do with games. On the one hand, he's being pretty honest with you in regards to his feelings. That is good for you ... he is giving you an opportunity to decide if you will accept "the connection" at his level. Every time you answer a text or a call you are indirectly communicating to him that you accept his terms. You could argue with him about it but why would you want to? Wouldn't you rather a Man be in your life on terms that make you both happy and satisfied?
Like so many have done before you (including myself) don't think you can change or fix him. Take his word, as it is, without analyzing it or wondering how it might change. Decide if being used as a bouncing board, ego booster, and in-the-meantime connection is something you really want because that's what it is.

*I totally agree "with scorched" that this isn't about astrological placements .... Etc ... Lol

@elle, it was refreshing to hear someone being honest about their emotional welfare before sex, for once.
I considered that and thought he is either trying to have integrity or he is just being blatantly disrespectful. I couldn't decide which ...

Posted by pisces35

He said to me —I can't be emotionally responsible for another person right now other than myself and my kid??.

The man told you what's up. If you choose not to listen, then that's on you. I'm not sure what others have written, but before we get into blaming him for giving you mixed messages, no one is strapping you down and forcing you to talk to him late at night, 5 times a day on Valentine's Day. You have power here. Exercise it.

If you don't like mixed messages say so. "dude you told me you don't have time for me, so I would appreciate it if you kept your distance" and stop answering his calls. However, you haven't said that and you continue to take his calls. You will simply give your power away by accepting the half ass'd stuff you're reciving and then blame him for stringing you along....read that too often over here.

The man's not even saying he doesn't want to be with you, he's saying he can't be emotionally responsible for you. Really take that in.

Move on is my advice. It may hurt, but he's not for you at this point in his life.

Posted by e11e
this is why most scorpios have a hard time remaining friends with exes.

people can't seem to maintain that boundary and it's easier for the scorp to just leave.

which sucks for the scorpio because we not only lost a partner, but we also lost a friend.

but if a person can't show the respect and be our friend......that also shows a lack of integrity.

it's such a tangled messed up web!

+1 females dont know what they want.....

Posted by FixedWater
...he's being pretty honest with you in regards to his feelings.... he is giving you an opportunity to decide if you will accept "the connection" at his level. Every time you answer a text or a call you are indirectly communicating to him that you accept his terms.....don't think you can change or fix him. Take his word, as it is...

Agreed with most of this....

Posted by e11e
am I reading the OP wrong?

he's not sleeping with her anymore and has made it clear that they should remain as friends only.

he's calling, texting and having conversation with her....which she said is "talking" only.

is that not holding up to his end of the conversation? just friends?

what part did I miss where he was being an asshole?

*She* can't do the 'friends only' part because she has feelings. Therefore she needs to be honest with herself and him and let him know she can't do it. Yes, that means he will probably not be a part of her life anymore, that's how this works if you can't be friends with an ex.

Nope. That's exactly how I read it as well.

And +1.

Posted by nov13thscorp

Posted by e11e
this is why most scorpios have a hard time remaining friends with exes.

people can't seem to maintain that boundary and it's easier for the scorp to just leave.

which sucks for the scorpio because we not only lost a partner, but we also lost a friend.

but if a person can't show the respect and be our friend......that also shows a lack of integrity.

it's such a tangled messed up web!

+1 females dont know what they want.....

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I don't know if that's a fair statement given the generalization, However you're not too far off in some respect.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by e11e
am I reading the OP wrong?

he's not sleeping with her anymore and has made it clear that they should remain as friends only.

he's calling, texting and having conversation with her....which she said is "talking" only.

is that not holding up to his end of the conversation? just friends?

what part did I miss where he was being an asshole?

*She* can't do the 'friends only' part because she has feelings. Therefore she needs to be honest with herself and him and let him know she can't do it. Yes, that means he will probably not be a part of her life anymore, that's how this works if you can't be friends with an ex.

Nope. That's exactly how I read it as well.

And +1.

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With you two completely on this.

Well they are good and bad in every sign...just depends on the person. I dated a scorpio once and it was a disaster...nasty immature guy...Another guy is one of my best friends and he is a scorpio...believe it or not they share they exact same birthday. They are like day and night...I think it boils down on their level of maturity etc...but I'm a Virgo and got a quick temper and a no nonsense attitude and cuss you out if provoked lol...not typical Virgo traits. So a lot depends on other things but your sign usually is just a part of it but we do have certain traits...I would just move on from him if it was me...I finally did mine because he made me crazy and that's not good.