He's hot and cold.

He goes from talking to me and seeming completely interested, asking me questions and being very very responsive....then all of a sudden he stops. He looks and I see it, but he ignores my texts. And like really plainly, it doesn't matter what I say, he just ignores it....the next day it happens again, he randomly texts me through the day and then gets very responsive....it's confusing and I HATE it. What the fuck is he doing? It's driving me mad!! Yes he's a scorpio. Not the same one, the other one went badly, this one is a friend that I admit I have a little crush on.

And he's not the most responsive person in the world, but he gets really talkative with me, and it's literally out of NOWHERE he just stops.

Because he's emotionally psychotic.

Sounds like he's playing games. My Scorp friend does this. He gets off on how much "power" it gives him having someone else at his mercy.

So what's rude and ill mannered, he sees as a way of manipulating someone into what he wants.

"I'm not going to respond because it'll make them want to help me/do what I want even more. I'll get back to them whenever."

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Because he's emotionally psychotic.

Sounds like he's playing games. My Scorp friend does this. He gets off on how much "power" it gives him having someone else at his mercy.

So what's rude and ill mannered, he sees as a way of manipulating someone into what he wants.

"I'm not going to respond because it'll make them want to help me/do what I want even more. I'll get back to them whenever."

It's what I thought too. That pisses me off. I mean, some games are fun to play and I like them, but manipulating me isn't cool. But I know that if I just start ignoring him he won't trust me anymore. But I hate this shit. It's very irritating, what do I do?

Posted by starlover
Uuughhh darker side of Scorpio...we are not always the best in r.ships ~ i don't envy you at all. Please don't tell me he has Venus in
Scorp too?

Actually I have no idea. I wouldnt be supirsed if he had a scorp moon tho. And a little Pisces in there too.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
*it actually

You'd think right? That's why I said randomly and that it was out of nowhere. In the very MIDDLE of the conversation he just ignores me. And I see he can see the texts, but he doesn't reply. Sometimes I'll send another like 'are you okay?" And something, but nope. Ignores that too.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Problem here is that you have an air sign trying to interpret a Pisces on the behavior of a Scorpio. That ain't nothing but trouble.

Excuse me, but are you referring to me as an Air sign? :/

There is a large probability here that he is playing with you because he can. Perhaps he's bored and using it for his own sick sense of humour and game/power play.

He could just be busy or not want to continue endless texts just like the other person stated above.

As a Scorpio sun, Scorpio Venus, and a moon in Pisces I can hold up my hands and say I've been guilty of the game/power play on occasion.

I'm not sure what you're looking for from him or why you're even texting him when you can actually see him??

If it is game/power play then know what reaction he is looking for and then don't give it to him. That will irritate him although don't expect him to show it.

If it is game/power play but he's not looking for a reaction then he's simply doing it for fun, to amuse himself. If this is the case he's probably having a little chuckle to himself at your expense. He will never show this though.

Yes it sounds sadistic but that's how we can sometimes be. It's immature and sad but that's the nature of the beast.

If he just doesnt respond doesnt mean he is playing games! In my point of view, he just has nothing else to talk anymore or got busy/distracted with other stuff and also are controlling the conversation so it doesnt go any far as he is maybe not comfortable talking to you yet 🙂 Take it easy and if you get like days without him contacting you, just send a hey message and ask how things are going. Just my 2 cents...

Posted by AgentP911
There is a large probability here that he is playing with you because he can. Perhaps he's bored and using it for his own sick sense of humour and game/power play.

He could just be busy or not want to continue endless texts just like the other person stated above.

As a Scorpio sun, Scorpio Venus, and a moon in Pisces I can hold up my hands and say I've been guilty of the game/power play on occasion.

I'm not sure what you're looking for from him or why you're even texting him when you can actually see him??

If it is game/power play then know what reaction he is looking for and then don't give it to him. That will irritate him although don't expect him to show it.

If it is game/power play but he's not looking for a reaction then he's simply doing it for fun, to amuse himself. If this is the case he's probably having a little chuckle to himself at your expense. He will never show this though.

Yes it sounds sadistic but that's how we can sometimes be. It's immature and sad but that's the nature of the beast.

+1

All this coddling bs is ridiculous because it's apparent he's gotten the text and seen it, but won't respond. That's just rude. If he gets busy, fine. But he can respond as soon as he's available. To not bother at all is a bit disrespectful and rude.

Posted by AgentP911
There is a large probability here that he is playing with you because he can. Perhaps he's bored and using it for his own sick sense of humour and game/power play.

He could just be busy or not want to continue endless texts just like the other person stated above.

As a Scorpio sun, Scorpio Venus, and a moon in Pisces I can hold up my hands and say I've been guilty of the game/power play on occasion.

I'm not sure what you're looking for from him or why you're even texting him when you can actually see him??

If it is game/power play then know what reaction he is looking for and then don't give it to him. That will irritate him although don't expect him to show it.

If it is game/power play but he's not looking for a reaction then he's simply doing it for fun, to amuse himself. If this is the case he's probably having a little chuckle to himself at your expense. He will never show this though.

Yes it sounds sadistic but that's how we can sometimes be. It's immature and sad but that's the nature of the beast.

I mean, I can understand, I have my sadistic tendencies too when it comes to emotions, but not ignoring someone, more like saying things I know will hurt most, but I hate being ignored and he was the one who wanted to hang out and write a song with me just a few days ago. I really don't get it but I'm done. He's only a friend, I don't actually have strong feelings for him, but still it was a tad bit of a piss of.

Perhaps he knows you hate being ignored... So he ignores you. Perhaps he just can't be arsed to answer all your texts.

My Scorpio sun, venus, and moon man friend would do either of these especially if he's not too interested or doesn't know you well enough. My friend doesn't try that crap with me anymore as I just call him out on it and see through it all. He's nearly 50 and should know better!!

Posted by IrresistableScorp

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Problem here is that you have an air sign trying to interpret a Pisces on the behavior of a Scorpio. That ain't nothing but trouble.

Excuse me, but are you referring to me as an Air sign? :/

Your name is an Aqua reference and you have a Libra avi. Yeah I thought you were an air sign. Lol

You mean you're not— Jeebus I've always thought you were!

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*facepalm*

How is my name an aqua reference? It's icecream? And the avi is a running joke on the Libra forum since that particular topic comes up at least once a week.

If you mean my old username, that was just a random username made from the name of a body spray on my desk when I made the username. It's that random, haha.

I'm a friggen watery Aries. Haha my posts don't make it that obvious?? :o

Posted by AgentP911
Perhaps he knows you hate being ignored... So he ignores you. Perhaps he just can't be arsed to answer all your texts.

My Scorpio sun, venus, and moon man friend would do either of these especially if he's not too interested or doesn't know you well enough. My friend doesn't try that crap with me anymore as I just call him out on it and see through it all. He's nearly 50 and should know better!!

My Pisces friend does similar shit. I either call him out on it, or will not give him the responses he wants. If it gets bad enough, I just avoid talking to him all together until his moods pass and he decides to be a mature individual again.

Ain't nobody got time for shit like that.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Because he's emotionally psychotic.

Sounds like he's playing games. My Scorp friend does this. He gets off on how much "power" it gives him having someone else at his mercy.

So what's rude and ill mannered, he sees as a way of manipulating someone into what he wants.

"I'm not going to respond because it'll make them want to help me/do what I want even more. I'll get back to them whenever."

Pretty much.............

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by AgentP911
There is a large probability here that he is playing with you because he can. Perhaps he's bored and using it for his own sick sense of humour and game/power play.

He could just be busy or not want to continue endless texts just like the other person stated above.

As a Scorpio sun, Scorpio Venus, and a moon in Pisces I can hold up my hands and say I've been guilty of the game/power play on occasion.

I'm not sure what you're looking for from him or why you're even texting him when you can actually see him??

If it is game/power play then know what reaction he is looking for and then don't give it to him. That will irritate him although don't expect him to show it.

If it is game/power play but he's not looking for a reaction then he's simply doing it for fun, to amuse himself. If this is the case he's probably having a little chuckle to himself at your expense. He will never show this though.

Yes it sounds sadistic but that's how we can sometimes be. It's immature and sad but that's the nature of the beast.

+1

All this coddling bs is ridiculous because it's apparent he's gotten the text and seen it, but won't respond. Tohat's just rude. If he gets busy, fine. But he can respond as soon as he's available. To not bother at all is a bit disrespectful and rude.

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+1 exactly. I woundnt mind one bit if he were busy all day every day as long as he said it. But blatantly ignoring someone isn't okay.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Possibility 3-- little Miss is talking gibberish to this Scorp and he's annoyed. It could be true?

Miss what do you guys talk about? Do you ask him a thousand questions or what?

Not saying this is bad but you seem the very curious sort.

Very curious, but for every question I ask we have a whole conversation. Exp: I asked him if he wants to move out of this town when he's older, and we had a whole topic of it, he told me how, and when, where stuff like that. So I do ask questions, it's something I love to do, but they generally turn into our conversations.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by IrresistableScorp

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Problem here is that you have an air sign trying to interpret a Pisces on the behavior of a Scorpio. That ain't nothing but trouble.

Excuse me, but are you referring to me as an Air sign? :/

Your name is an Aqua reference and you have a Libra avi. Yeah I thought you were an air sign. Lol

You mean you're not— Jeebus I've always thought you were!

*facepalm*

How is my name an aqua reference? It's icecream? And the avi is a running joke on the Libra forum since that particular topic comes up at least once a week.

If you mean my old username, that was just a random username made from the name of a body spray on my desk when I made the username. It's that random, haha.

I'm a friggen watery Aries. Haha my posts don't make it that obvious?? :o

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Whoop!! And I'm a friggin fiery pisces!!!

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by AgentP911
Perhaps he knows you hate being ignored... So he ignores you. Perhaps he just can't be arsed to answer all your texts.

My Scorpio sun, venus, and moon man friend would do either of these especially if he's not too interested or doesn't know you well enough. My friend doesn't try that crap with me anymore as I just call him out on it and see through it all. He's nearly 50 and should know better!!

My Pisces friend does similar shit. I either call him out on it, or will not give him the responses he wants. If it gets bad enough, I just avoid talking to him all together until his moods pass and he decides to be a mature individual again.

Ain't nobody got time for shit like that.

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+1 you're damn straight.

Posted by GetMisted
I'll use my own behavior as a lesson:

1. I'm extremely fickle
2. I'm completely focused on one activity.. At a time.. For a certain duration.

This doesn't mean I can't multitask. It simply means that one of those activities will be set on the back burner while the other gets 100% of my focus.

It could be texting you, a project at work, video game marathon.. What ever. It doesn't matter. The problem is that my fickle nature does not allow me to maintain that focus for more than a set amount of time.

The activities differ, as does the time spent focusing on them. But the level of focus will always be 100% . Anything less leads to imperfection.

So, no. I do not think he's playing a game, nor do I believe him to be emotionally psychotic. He's just focused on another task at the moment.

If it helps you, think about it this way..

You may not have him 100% of the time, but when you do.. You get 110% of his focus.

I called him out on it. I said "thanks for ignoring me" and I saw he saw it...he still ignored It. This was two days ago. No response and I'm not going to give him any more of my time. No no no. 🙂

Posted by SuperMissMan

Posted by rockyroadicecream

+1

All this coddling bs is ridiculous because it's apparent he's gotten the text and seen it, but won't respond. Tohat's just rude. If he gets busy, fine. But he can respond as soon as he's available. To not bother at all is a bit disrespectful and rude.

+1 exactly. I woundnt mind one bit if he were busy all day every day as long as he said it. But blatantly ignoring someone isn't okay.

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Does he even apologize for going MIA or something along the lines of "oh hay been busy, my bad?"

Or is it more, drops out in the middle of convos and eventually gets back in touch with no mention of rudely dropping out of convo/not answering in a timely fashion as he did before?

If it's the latter, you have every right to be at least a bit peeved as it's rude and disrespectful, no matter what the coddling crowd here wants to portray it as. People really lack any sort of common decency toward others anymore. They're too busy thinking about themselves and if you have a problem with it, you're the bad guy.

Posted by Whatu

Posted by SuperMissMan

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Possibility 3-- little Miss is talking gibberish to this Scorp and he's annoyed. It could be true?

Miss what do you guys talk about? Do you ask him a thousand questions or what?

Not saying this is bad but you seem the very curious sort.

Very curious, but for every question I ask we have a whole conversation. Exp: I asked him if he wants to move out of this town when he's older, and we had a whole topic of it, he told me how, and when, where stuff like that. So I do ask questions, it's something I love to do, but they generally turn into our conversations.

Find me a man that hasn't played the treat em mean to keep em keen card on the odd occasion. Its tried and tested and sometimes you girls need it. It probably hurts your feelings a little bit but if you understood why he's doing it. he knows if he just lets you go on and on then you will eventually get bored of him. Just because a man has game does not mean he is a player.

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You must be young as well since this makes no freaking sense. "Need" to be treated mean?

Go fuck yourself, asshole. 🙂

Well said SuperMissMan.

Nobody but him knows what he's playing at or what his reasons are. Time will tell.

Just have a break from him for a while and see what happens. Sometimes doing nothing... is actually doing something!

Don't expect him to acknowledge you or show he's put out. Equally, for you, don't make a big thing about ignoring him or that this is your intention, now or in the future.

Just play it cool and see how it flows...

There are some good points in Whatu's first statement.

So I second that!