Hi all scorps can you plzz plzz gice me advice on

the scorp im seeing..i wont make a paragraph, so long story short..hes an ex, of mine,we met back up, been seein each other now since november.he says we can do the relationship thing once hes straight.except he always is mixin up what we are doin, so we fwb BUT only when he is ready..says he wants me to make him chase me instead of me givn him all this attention ,says he wanted that from the girl he was dating but she wouldnt give it and he considers me to be a great friend he has a bond with and never wants that to break, says he doesnt mind bein my man but he wants me to calm down with all of the emotions and all...he says he isnt really able to focus on gettin his career together if he gets to deeply emotionally envolved with me right now. he says hed understand if i go out and get someone else because i dont wanna wait on this process, says i m someone from his past he sees a very very good vision with but let him do this first..hes told me to do these things you guys also have said in certain threads about only puttin in what he does, i told him that it is like a mirror, so what he does i do what i do i want him to do ..does anyone know how i could restructure this, because i thought about not hangin around him at all now, but , not sayin im a be a bitch , i will only let him around me here n there because he comes to my place and usually stays for a few days and help clean n watch after my kids helps with things i need a man for in other words..he says he shouldnt have let me go when he was on his feet and if he can ever get back to there that he will help regardless of weather or not i have a man or not, but he still also makes all of our friends think we are an item together then he turns indescisve about it when it starts to feel to right , he doesnt want me but he keeps comin back around cause he wants me but then i know that we have care there, so what should i do from here honsetly guys, because we are very very much alike say things to each other without even speakin to eachother,so if we pair so great why should it matter weather or not he has his career in order if im a woman who is willin to stand by his side and help him to do it—he says im established n he doesnt even wanna have help has to do it on his own, JUST LIKE my scorp daughter who iis just like me LOL...so I understand but do this really mean he cares or could this just be a form of a light hearthed put me down with out hurtin me as bad—?

sorry for the paragraph

Also I dont think you scorps are really confusing like that , I believe I read you like a book, but its just that scorp unpredictability that you guys try to hide behind which is exactly why i want advice straight from the source, since he has told me all of this and then what i see, I have calculated that he is in a bit of love but no man wants to be with a woman and they aint got no money to help their woman or do special things for and by him bein a deeply intense person he really wants to do romantic things for me but he does even have it, then he does not like to have sex with me so he will just give me oral sex in order to not feel like he is using me for anything at all. he also does hustle and bring me money when he has it so i found that to be the small things that count to make me say e does want me , he may be tellin the truth, he may just be one of these people who cant mutitask a career and relationship at the sametime so why turn someone one to turn them out to you only to turn back around and change even that because you knew you didnt and couldnt but your selfish and do anyway, which is exactly what happened here, so we each laid our hands out on the table at the beginnin of here but he ended up sayin regardless i just gotta know how this would turn out because he was dyin to know and it did so now he is like i really shouldnt have done that because it was way better than i even imagined it to be, so now i have to hope she stays and wait for me until i get finished with my mission should she choose to except then she will have exactly the type of relationship she dreamed uf because she treats me how i want to be and this is what i do when im with someone, so if im correct then why isnt it feeling so good the way we are back and forth but always around another..rephase that if i am correct then just why all of this—?Just like i tell my daughter she is a pure drama queen she has a way of doin things and if is good its awesome if bad its terrible no in betweens and he is just an older her but i deal with them both just swell because its like i just always know and i wanna have someone to help me sort through all this plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

one more thing is hes at my house now, i been handlin buisness with my class and payin off debts today , so if he just is so comfortable around me like this what should i even think like other than the second paragraph, because by me thinkin this way i always act on it and become flirty tryin to snuggle but then hes like down girl then im like but baby you know you just told me you gone do this then hes like im gonna be around you for xoxox amount of time so just chill itll come, then hes all like well maybe you just need to chill sum then im like maybe i need sum lovin he loves teasin but wants me to flip around to where he comes at me like this instead of me doin it but he was the one who flirted and came to me this time but now hes backin up askin for time and patients and understandin and tellin me im selfish but in all actuality he has been bein because i told him dont enter unless he ready to come in but he totally diregarded that lesson i was preachin so help guyssssss plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

Well I liked that advice there,seems like u hit that nail on the head,it is a pushpull situation.he does say he trusts me,so really I am. The one who trys to go with throwin out all the games to enjoy us but he wants to be buisness as of now,n a lil play when the rite time hits,sayin ill give it to u but just chill..elle, idk that I will be able to keep continuin the way we are,so the way we are with our bond could go somewhere,but,its at a pace that is slower than what I bargained for,i expected we would just handle buis,enjoy time everything would fall n place but your sayin this shit will be never endin until I just let him have his way like a spoiled lil child—cuz he wants things his way instead of it bein straight down the middle,with seperatin dominacy and submissive roles

Lol what happened to not making big paragraphs? I lost interest half way through the first paragraph, but that I'd ask since I was a little confused...

Are you guys friends with benefits right now?

idk..i eventually realized i was a typing maniac kmsl . but to answer the other question no ..just chillin

idk..i eventually realized i was a typing maniac kmsl . but to answer the other question no ..just chillin

What is...just chillin? Like you're just his friend and nothing more?

It is not a relationship, but it has never been just a friendship . we dated 4yrs ago, lost contact by movin, have crossed paths again, hooked up quite a few times ,have had sex ;which turned into him stoppin the sex, to only say lets take things slow, so we can do it the right way . so we havent been doin it, but we have been around eachother everyday (him spendin the nite at my place) talkin all nite n rappin . we open up to each other , he says he trusts me,n feels more comfortable around me than n e one else . im his special close friend that he wishes to continue bein close to n can c himself with once he gets hisself in order..I really wanna know a few answers to questions like.

1.When a scorp tells you stuff like this, should you take it to the heart?
2.Do he mean to leave him alone if he says let him come to me because of the way other girls throw themselves at him?
3.should i still do my thing?
4. Is this a test to see if Im loyal?
5.What does this shit look like to n e of you scorps Open honest opinions ?
asking casue this b/c of the history we have n it seems like my natural disstrust for people is in overtime since i have not got time for bull, neither do i have any more patients for the whole waiting game. I know I cant figure out or analyze love , or relationships, but I'd like to think of it as calculating the risks of a new found bond which is actually old.

kmsl, I am just overly analyzin every aspect, but i sat back last nite n actually thought that I do understand our situation , but I just didnt like it at first because I know I should be doin more important things in my life that is pertainin to my goals, so i decided that I amm just gonna enjoy the single life until someone does decide to label me but I dont know if I would wanna because of the career field Im in , it always makes me have to figure out who Im around ...I wanted to find these trustworthy people b4 I reach the level of the next plateau . He is pretty loyal so he is gucci . lol im a chill guys hit ya when shit gets wack lol