How do you guys deal with anger?

I never considered myself to be an angry person...but this weekend I was feeling really weird. I knew my anxiety was really high but when I took time to stop and FEEL what I was feeling I realised that I was actually really, really angry!

Usually I can only get angry to a certain point and then I have no choice but to cry...but this time it was like I was beyond that point. It felt like the anger was slowly filling my body until bursting point. I tried to cry and I couldn't...I was stuck in that feeling. I wanted to yell, throw things, hit things...anything...but all I could do was just be silent.

I was wondering how other scorpios deal with their anger or if it just kinda sits there like mine seemed to this weekend.

By the way, something actually happened to make me angry, it's not like I was just all of a sudden angry for no reason 😛

I'm not scorp either but when I get angry, I make huge vats of homemade salsa, can them, and then give them out wrapped in Christmas wrapping. Why? Because I use a lot of onions and they make me cry which in turn, releases the anger.

I don't talk I get quiet and scorp hates that lol I can't help it cause if I open my mouth somethin mean might come out that I'll end up paying for later. As scoria never forget anything.. Ah

I'm mostly like exo. I only tend to lose control when the anger is also mixed with intense frustration.

I get quiet. lock myself in my room then cry scream and throw my pillows at the wall .

then i just act like nothing happened. and I make sure no one saw or heard.

it feels good to get it out. It feels even better to take it out on the person who pissed u off.. but then after u say what u really mean and u see how hurt the person is... it kinda doesnt feel better anymore.

Angry sex?

A trick I learned from a Scorpio...instead of losing it all in the crashing waves of over reaction, it channels to a very pure form inside me and then beams or trickles from my eyes as it is released back into the universe around me. The eye thing with Scorpios is incredible...the focus of such pure intensity... Otherwise if I am annoyed, it just a bit of "piss and moan".

Posted by QueenCaLi
I get quiet. lock myself in my room then cry scream and throw my pillows at the wall .

then i just act like nothing happened. and I make sure no one saw or heard.

it feels good to get it out. It feels even better to take it out on the person who pissed u off.. but then after u say what u really mean and u see how hurt the person is... it kinda doesnt feel better anymore.

This would be how I am,

I get quiet and go to my room and close the door and cry if I feel the need to but I ponder about what or who has made me mad and I try to think about how to make it better and make it worse for them if it is a person who has made me angry.

Yesterday I was angry at my child father for not doing what he told me he would do and I was so tempted to call or text and just let him have him, I mean I was so upset I was ready to snap on him if he would have any tried to contact me yesterday. Today I have calm down but I hate when people make false promises to those I love the most, they have to pay ofcourse and his day is coming very soon 🙂

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Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
I'm not scorp either but when I get angry, I make huge vats of homemade salsa, can them, and then give them out wrapped in Christmas wrapping. Why? Because I use a lot of onions and they make me cry which in turn, releases the anger.

LOL! I love that. I'm sorry. I'm not laughing at your pain. It's just that that's SUCH an adorably Virgo-y thing to do. 😄

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Hahahaha!

the scorpio i know deals with her anger by taking it all in. she usually stares at me all the time and i never miss a day without watching my every move, but when she's mad, she doesn't. she ignores and avoids eye contact. but i could see the anger in her eyes. i feel the energy that's about to explode. when she can't take it anymore, she speaks to everyone at work, but i feel that it's really directed towards me. she takes shots like that.

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Posted by QueenCaLi
I get quiet. lock myself in my room then cry scream and throw my pillows at the wall .

then i just act like nothing happened. and I make sure no one saw or heard.

it feels good to get it out. It feels even better to take it out on the person who pissed u off.. but then after u say what u really mean and u see how hurt the person is... it kinda doesnt feel better anymore.

This would be how I am,

I get quiet and go to my room and close the door and cry if I feel the need to but I ponder about what or who has made me mad and I try to think about how to make it better and make it worse for them if it is a person who has made me angry.

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I usually do exactly this too. This weekend was so different though, it was like a whole different kind of angry and I couldn't do anything but sit where I was sitting (which to be honest could be absolutely anywhere) and it was almost like I was waiting for some kind of explosion.

I really didn't know what a heightened form of anger was until I had my first serious relationship. That was probably the first time that I threw an opened bag of skittles at the wall. I've never gotten THAT angry again.

it ?
or 'hold shit in' ?

My brother is a Scorpio, and boyyyy does he have a temper. Him and I used to fight all of the time, he still throws things, screams, curses. When he is done, he shuts down and ignores everything or everyone for a couple of hours.

I seem to be close with many of the Scorpios that are like that though, they are normally the ones I can put up with.

🙂

meditate-rough sex-sparring-work out-isolate myself- go for an hour walk-punch stuff-take a nap-brood, then brood some more-become quite but polite for a few days (it takes me a few days to cool down sometimes)🙂

Opps that's when I'm enraged. Just normal anger>>> turn into a comical joke inside my head and usually let it roll of my back. I have a pretty thick skin, so I let a lot slide and shrug it off. As blatant stupidity is always a human resource that's readily abundant.

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Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
I really didn't know what a heightened form of anger was until I had my first serious relationship. That was probably the first time that I threw an opened bag of skittles at the wall. I've never gotten THAT angry again.

I had to do it -.-.

I was dying laughing at this!!! LoL Caught me off gaurd.

Like I said, I've never gotten that angry again. People tell me that I'm way to calm. Almost to the point that it scares them because they don't know what I'm thinking.

i control it, yes there are things sometimes that get you out of yourself but you should catch urself on that and control it otherwise people go crazy

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its interesting reading the scorpio method of anger management

i deal with anger indirectly - directly address the source of frustration to prevent anger developing. its probably too highly confrontational for some people - especially passive aggressive people but if they are deliberately trying to piss me off then sometimes you dont care how uncomfortable the aggressor feels. i'm a virgo

obviously if they are in a superior position to you, you have to be tactful

dont let frustration develop into anger

there are some ways i vent energy - physical exercise like physical conditioning or boxing. mentally solve problems or use strategy - if i can overcome problems on a regular basis or problems that are greater than the source of frustration, the source of frustration seems like nothing to solve. egotistically, it reinforces domination and control over your dilemmas

but be discreet about it otherwise people will falsely accuse you of wanting to be regarded as the alpha male/female because of their own insecurities

just dont let a challenge develop into a mountain of anger that will eventually be too difficult for you to climb - or knock down to dust

I wonder if they were the sour speckled kind....my favorite.^^^

that is the best way, deal with the reason

My scorp gets quiet, gives "I could kill you" slanty eyed stares, and becomes critical of everything I do...then after a few days (yes it takes that long usually), there is a cool down, and we have a "talk".

I take a deep breath, take a walk, and hold everything back that I might be thinking, knowing that my words can do too much damage if I just blurt out stuff. I try to wait till I cool down and can rationally speak of why I am angry. When I deal with it in the wrong way, there is usually a 6-pack involved 😛

The only time I get upset to a point where i feel like I'm going to explode is when I'm arguing my point and the other person doesn't get it. I'm not going to lie, I always have this feeling like I'm so logical..how can you not get what I'm saying? I don't know..weird huh? But most times, if I know i was wrong..I'll come back and admit it in my own time but if you're wrong..we're bout to duke it out every time I think our conversation is heading that direction until its settled. I'm going to either get the truth or I'm going to do what i gotta do to make sure I at least break even in this situation. I refuse to lose...