How rare is the spark? Did you marry it?

I was reading another thread and the poster mentioned that in her 34 years of life, she's only felt the spark 3 times. I've only felt the spark once in my life and I'm 31.

I'm curious how rare the spark is for other Scorps. Is it a general thing or a Scorp thing? How many times have you felt the spark and did you end up marrying that person?

I plan to.

I've felt a spark for most of my relationships..long or short. One stands out more than the others. Spark is all I know and I thought it was what was needed for a relationship to feel exciting and right.

I'm over it. I've learned that spark doesn't mean shit, if anything it means less stability and more infatuation.

Bookmarked a meme:

"If a man makes your heartbeat fast, and you're giddy and exited, walk away. He is not the man for you, it's fools gold..."

just once..last year.

it blew up in my face.

i still dream of her almost every night.

hopefully, i won't alway feel this way.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
just once..last year.

it blew up in my face.

i still dream of her almost every night.

hopefully, i won't alway feel this way.

You won't, but you will have to work on it yourself. It won't just go away on its own.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
just once..last year.

it blew up in my face.

i still dream of her almost every night.

hopefully, i won't alway feel this way.

You won't, but you will have to work on it yourself. It won't just go away on its own.

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I've never really been good at that I've always prayed for divine intervention.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
just once..last year.

it blew up in my face.

i still dream of her almost every night.

hopefully, i won't alway feel this way.

You won't, but you will have to work on it yourself. It won't just go away on its own.

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I think what's hardest for me to understand is why would I meet someone

who fulfills everything that I asked for in person....like what was the point?

A few years ago I made a list of what I wanted in a partner during the time I was trying to get over my ex.

I set my intention and really believed that this person existed somewhere.....

a few years later this girl stumbles across my path and I immediately felt things I never felt with anyone else.

I don't know.

I felt a spark 3x... I love the spark ?

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
just once..last year.

it blew up in my face.

i still dream of her almost every night.

hopefully, i won't alway feel this way.

You won't, but you will have to work on it yourself. It won't just go away on its own.

I think what's hardest for me to understand is why would I meet someone

who fulfills everything that I asked for in person....like what was the point?

A few years ago I made a list of what I wanted in a partner during the time I was trying to get over my ex.

I set my intention and really believed that this person existed somewhere.....

a few years later this girl stumbles across my path and I immediately felt things I never felt with anyone else.

I don't know.

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I'm sorry, that does sound hard. Obviously I don't know much - whether it can be repaired or if you or the other person wants to repair.

It sounds like you are still in the dealing with the pain part and so not really letting it go. I know this all too well. Being a fixed dominant can be a bih when it comes to that.

Maybe you just don't want to. Once or if you decide you are actually done you actually have to work on it. Trust me, i was waiting for time.. time heals all wounds...thats what everyone says. Everyone is different and some get over things quicker. Divine intervention is actually waiting for you to also do the work. Thats how I learned life works.

And for what its worth, I have become a firm believer of we get what we need, not what we want. Maybe there is a better, more suited person for you out there.

I felt the spark once in 27 years. Four years ago. It has transformed into a continuous wildfire and I have been friendzoned (even worse, best-friendzoned). All the people here who say Scorps need to decide it is time to deal with this by yourself are absolutely right. Just that the question that remains is: how?

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
just once..last year.

it blew up in my face.

i still dream of her almost every night.

hopefully, i won't alway feel this way.

You won't, but you will have to work on it yourself. It won't just go away on its own.

I think what's hardest for me to understand is why would I meet someone

who fulfills everything that I asked for in person....like what was the point?

A few years ago I made a list of what I wanted in a partner during the time I was trying to get over my ex.

I set my intention and really believed that this person existed somewhere.....

a few years later this girl stumbles across my path and I immediately felt things I never felt with anyone else.

I don't know.

Maybe there is a better, more suited person for you out there.

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I hope so.

I've felt the spark three times. The biggest spark was with another scorp.