How to get a Scorpio man interested again? (Page 2)

Posted by ellessque
there seems to be a theme with cancers.......you sit and try to build yourself up and during that time you "look" for defects in the person you are interested in so you don't have to act.

dazed laid it out for you, why did you wait?

I know I'm a woman, not a man....but I've completely ignored, looked past, avoided, didn't make eye contact, completely pretended someone didn't exist.........people I've been interested in out of fear of rejection because some vibe they gave off told me they WERE NOT interested in me....so I shouldn't even be bothered.

Why did I wait? He's not there every day, sometimes 10 days go by before we cross paths again. That's why things have moved so slow. There's nothing to be done now, I lost. Can someone kindly explain to me how to remove this thread?

Posted by ChildOftheMoon

Posted by LunarMaiden
Let's calm down and take a deep breath.
Did you speak to him, or were you waiting for him to speak to you first?

I just wanted him to look at me so I could get the "Ok" to talk to him but he didn't. I did this twice, I went looking for him as soon as I got the chance. I felt bad after that, then another co-worker was giving me and this lady a hard time, he reminded me of my father who was really abusive and I almost cried! He then said it was all a big joke and that he was joking...I'm very vulnerable right now, things have been going down hill for me since 2009 and I have a history of depression and I also have AvPD (Avoidant Personality Disorder) which is like Social Anxiety but worse! I'm a total mess, I think the best thing for me right now is to take some time off from work to recover and get over this. I feel real embarrassed about sharing these things but I thought that it would give you some insight into my actions. I just feel like a big NOTHING right now 😢

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Don't ever think you are nothing. You are special in your own way, and if someone doesn't recognize that then that is their loss.

If this guy is ignoring you like this, he clearly has some issues of his own.
That was pretty rude.
I think it's best to use this situation as a teaching too.
There are other men out there. And some day you will meet the right one.

If you think it will calm your nerves, I agree take some time off and work on your mental and emotional health.

Good Luck to you. 🙂

Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by ChildOftheMoon

Posted by LunarMaiden
Let's calm down and take a deep breath.
Did you speak to him, or were you waiting for him to speak to you first?

I just wanted him to look at me so I could get the "Ok" to talk to him but he didn't. I did this twice, I went looking for him as soon as I got the chance. I felt bad after that, then another co-worker was giving me and this lady a hard time, he reminded me of my father who was really abusive and I almost cried! He then said it was all a big joke and that he was joking...I'm very vulnerable right now, things have been going down hill for me since 2009 and I have a history of depression and I also have AvPD (Avoidant Personality Disorder) which is like Social Anxiety but worse! I'm a total mess, I think the best thing for me right now is to take some time off from work to recover and get over this. I feel real embarrassed about sharing these things but I thought that it would give you some insight into my actions. I just feel like a big NOTHING right now 😢

Don't ever think you are nothing. You are special in your own way, and if someone doesn't recognize that then that is their loss.

If this guy is ignoring you like this, he clearly has some issues of his own.
That was pretty rude.
I think it's best to use this situation as a teaching too.
There are other men out there. And some day you will meet the right one.

If you think it will calm your nerves, I agree take some time off and work on your mental and emotional health.

Good Luck to you. 🙂

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Thanks! I was being a bit melodramatic LOL And I now see what I've done wrong so yeah it definitely is a learning experience 🙂

Saw him again today and he acknowledge me! Then every time he passed by where I was working we looked at each other, so not everything is lost after all! 🙂

Posted by leoliza

Posted by DazedScorp
I told her that she rejected him, and that he was going to do 1 of 3 things...

1. Walk away and never look back.
2. Beg for her and her attention.
3. Wait for her to approach him (because his ego is hurt, and wants to feel wanted by her).

Obviously, it's not option 2.

It could be option 1. It could be option 3.

Either way, if she waits... she has a 0% chance of them being together, or even talking to one another. If she doesn't wait, and approaches him, she has a 50% chance of them talking or being together.

0% vs 50%

Just like I said earlier in this thread.

This is very very smart and precise!

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It was number 3 and we're talking again 😄 He still likes me yay!

good. is the subject finally closed then?