The Freeze Out is over

My Scorp reappeared yesterday. Is the freeze out over? Nope. LOL He sent me an email saying he knows I'm mad cause he hasn't heard from me. He'd been arguing with a friend of mine and apparently a little disappointed I didn't get in the middle of it so he says he quits.

Ok!

My knee jerk reaction was to see that this whole note was an excuse to talk to me and let me know he's hurt and I wanted so badly to just forgive and forget. I didn't. Instead I sent him a note back saying none of his issues concerned me and that I was not upset, just tired of being in a relationship all by myself and wished him well. Took all of 3 sentences.

He is a good man. We all have baggage. Don't know what happened with the women before me. All I can do is be myself and stand my ground. This disappearing and waiting is getting old. You have to have communication in a relationship or you don't have one. I'm not being mean to him. I wouldn't do that. Still, these Scorps come into your life, they are wonderful people with amazingly tender hearts but very frustrating with the games and secrets.

I'm sorry guys. Libras might get accused of being shallow but you can only play in the waves for so long waiting for the rip tide to be over and them to open up. I'm packing up my sand bucket and heading home alone.

LOL Did you bet it wouldn't work, Evan?

No problem.

It was a cool expereience. I learned a lot. I see that men can be sensitive and romantic. I'm gonna miss that part. Still thinking about him... sort of like a song stuck in your head.

The haunting thing is that once you connect with Scorps, you're left with the feeling that someone finally gets you. That's the part that's hard to give up.

So sorry Libra Carrie!! I do think you have made the right decision.

Thanks GS!! It may have been the right thing to do but I gotta tell you....it doesn't feel so good.

I keep trying to refocus on a hot little Aries that jumps up and down to get my attention. He's pretty hot. Pun intended. Don't have a whole lot of patience with fire signs though. I dismiss that combo as hot air....and usually end up blowing out the flame. LOL

And there is a Taurus that is interesting. I can handle those men with my eyes shut. Wonderful bunch, those Tauruses...

*sighs* But I keep looking back over my shoulder at the Scorpio. I am such a sucker. LOL

"BUT...is it REALLY ova —?"

If he leaves LC alone then it probably is, but if he keeps sniffing around sounds like she will cave. LOL!!

As soon as I get this new Virgo guys b-day info I'm definitely having you read his chart this time Elena!!

LOL Elena and GS. I can't even pretend you're wrong!! I need my friggin head examined. LOL I am sorta proud of myself for not running right to him. Fighting that peacemaker urge is tough!!

I got news for him. It's over when I say it's over and not until. Now, damn it, that's just how it is. LOL

See, as long as I stay in that frame of mind, I'm good to go. It's when I look back that I feel sorry for him and the caving becomes a possibility. So I'm just not gonna think about his brown eyes or that way he tilts his head when's listening or the way his lips curl up when I am in the middle of throwing a hair raising, wake the dead, sort of fit.

Or his thighs.

Instead, I'm just gonna focus on the other two. The Aries has great thighs too. And the Taurus is just sexy to the power of one. I'm good. I swear... LOL

phew logged in at the wrong moment to catch Evan's drift ! gonna need an oxygen mask 😛

Please leave the past in the past Evan...

Ooooh Libra Carrie, can we build sand castles before you leave? 😉

Yes, zanalchemy, of course!!

FA...LMAO Since I am in the 30 something age bracket, don't know what that is in dog years, I am glad to see I finally made it to adulthood. Can I borrow the F'in part of your name? I'm thinking I wanna be F'ing Carrie LOL

"I wanna be F'ing Carrie LOL"

What a coincidence...😛

(sorry, I was channeling Evan there for a sec).

Oooh oooh thanks LC - *runs to get shovel and sand castle building crap*

*whispers to LC, 'watch out for those scorpstingers' *

"my Venus is in Gemini too. Should every guy just run away from me too? ~mopes~"

LOL my venus is in Gem too but I think it's defective. I'm proud to say, I've never cheated in a realtionship EVER, I've never broken up with a guy to get with another one....no shady business 🙂 I'm not even good at flirting really, too shy for that, I'm subtle with my firtations (lol is that a word?) maybe a little glance here, twirling the hair around my finger.....that type of goofy shit LOL

Ya know what I think is funny......They can freeze you out but do not even THINK about giving them the silent treatment! God forbid! LOL So mine did something last night that pissed me off, I confronted him about it but it wasn't really resolved last night. This morning he wants to act like its all over & blow shit off like its not a big deal. Well I'm not ready for that so I tell him I need time to think, this was early this a.m.

Why did he just text me & say..."well since your so fond of the silent treatment, I'LL get ahold of YOU on Wednesday"

Hold on just a minute here! I'm the one whose suppose to be in control of this shit! WTF just happened?! LOL

It is but it's not! LOL He just like swooped in & took that shit & ran with it before I could even do anything about it!

CanTaur: Why did he just text me & say..."well since your so fond of the silent treatment, I'LL get ahold of YOU on Wednesday"

Oh Lord....bring it honey. Those are like litte red blankets being waved in front of a bull. Is he stupid too? LOL YOu do what you want but girl...I'd teach his ass a lesson real quick.

First thing I'd do is redo my message on my cell. Something that would make men wonder and quiver, subtle hints about needing some time alone and then I would SHUT THE SOB OFF! Wednesday, my ASS!!

But...don't listen to me...I'm in the freezer! Or out. Hell, I don't know where I am at the moment. LOL

FA: LOL...CT,


I wish I could say mine was totally defective, although like you I'm not good at flirting either, and I haven't cheated on anyone or anything like that, but I do get anxious and need variety and intellectual stimulation. I also love being in social settings and kinda getting a taste of different people and settings. I can be a social butterfly in the right circumstances.



I think we're twins!! LOL Are you a Libra too— I can flirt all night long...unless I want him. Then I go brain dead...which is NOT helping me at the moment.

Hmm the weird thing is, I'm not even mad, I'm more amused that sneaky little bastard! I'm the one thats suppose to be pissed off here & dishin out punishment LOL wtf!

It's that control thing. Trouble is...I've got one too!! LOL That gets real entertaining.

"First thing I'd do is redo my message on my cell. Something that would make men wonder and quiver, subtle hints about needing some time alone and then I would SHUT THE SOB OFF! Wednesday, my ASS!!"

My little bit of scorp in my chart sniffs out that bullbutter a mile away. I read people's motives so easily. I used to doubt myself a lot and didn't cherish this gift, but now I know better.

SO if he appreciates her caring enough to do such a thing....thats a great move. It will make him tingle inside to see this ounce of drama ur stiring up over how you feel about him. BUT if he has a horrible ego, it will backfire. Because it will be more of an ego blow for him to know you feel you have that much power over him. If it sounds silly...make me elaborate. I'll try, but its hard to explain.


When I said that it was tongue in cheek but you did hit upon an important part and that is the massive ego fo a Scorpion male. Of course he would think that move was all about him. Aren't they all? Don't we live to be with them? Of course. NOT.

If I get to the point where I would do exactly what I said...I don't give a shit what he thinks or cares or does.

Hey Arianlatay..thanks for steppin up to help. I appreciate it 🙂

No he got me talking. Grrrr 1st of all, I don't do the silent treatment thing, that's his bag not mine. I think it's extremely immature. My silence was just to compose myself because I have a tendancy to react & think later. I'm trying to break myself of that. I was just getting ready to send him a e-mail explaining my side of the situation when he sent that text. My lord he drives me insane! 🙂

I'm tired of talking about crappy relationships too. I'm with you Arianlatay let's talk about new possibilities. I have 2 sexy new possibilities. I have a virgo and a pisces that I am going out with this week. I'm excited about dating a pisces. I have never went out with a pisces before and know nothing about them but I have heard thay are supposed to be the most compatible sign for a Scorp.

FA: LMAO....Yes I do the same thing. Instead of being all cute and flirty with a guy I actually do like, I try to play it cool, or I just stare at him when he's not looking, and then I'll look away if he looks over in that direction, and I look everywhere else except at him. And good lord, I can't ever smile either because what happens if he thinks I'm not attractive or he's not interested? So I try to look like I'm concentrating on something else.

I think for the first time last week, I actually smiled at a guy I thought was cute. He said "good morning" to me, and I actually...smiled. I felt happy after that because I was hoping maybe I can do that again.



Exactly!! I'm with you all the way on this one.

Well, it's almost 2:30 here and so far I have managed to hold off emailing him and trying to smooth over troubled waters. I really do hate it he has his panties in a wad. BUT thanks to all the fun I've had here, I've been strong. Thank you all so much.

I so wish I was better at that too!! I'm always kicking myself for not making a move when I feel a connection with someone. In the book "The Celestine Prophecies" it says that you can walk by a 1000 people a day and not even notice them, but then you can feel that connection very intensely with someone and that's when you should make sure you make an effort to talk to that person because they have something to offer to your life or you to theirs. This goes for anyone. Not just someone you are sexually attracted to.

"LOL so so sooo true! Look at Scorpioseekspisces.... -.- he really believes i got "rejected" even know its really not all about him. What makes him think id have him?! lol funny scorps 😄"

I almost missed this little thread.

Nope, what I really believe is that you can't stop mentioning me or following me around dxp. Take some archery lessons girl, your quiver is almost empty 🙂

Your response says it all, (and rather quickly too) I love it when a plan comes together.

Haha, Ms. Elena, you're wicked. I'd tell you that I like that but your ego would be too much for even me to handle 😉

Didn't notice the time....putting my tin foil hat on now....

"Yea, thats what they say but it isn't true for me. I've never been a fling girl. It gives us the ability to keep things spicy in a long term relationship. I get bored with monotony/routine, so I guess it makes me spontaneous.

Only bad thing is sometimes I can be distant in relationships. I've often been accused of that."

This is all true for me, too, MsP. I bet the Pisces and water rising chills out some of that Venus in Aries "short-attention span".

"I don't get bored with who I love though. I give it my all there, maybe too much (??)"

Ferdy, you do seem very open and sweet to me. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's just, unfortunately, some men (and women) will take advantage of that.

"I confront person (him) and in turn I am being punished"

Most Scorpio men (and particularly younger ones) don't deal well with confrontation. They'll avoid it, especially if they know they are in the wrong. The will also avoid you if they know you have a fully justifiable reason to be angry. So, it's less you're being punished...and more that he's a chicken shit. 😉

Now Scorpio women on the other hand...look the fuck out! LOL They are not afraid of confrontation in the slightest.

"It just always cracks me up that with all these tests Scorps put you through to
see if you're worthy and trusting, but then they're not."

It is. That's why I put THEM through my own tests. 😉 I'm not very trusting either...lol So...found you a hot Cancer yet? Preferably one with a deceased mother (God rest her soul).

That was bad wasn't it... 🙂

"Tips on tests??"

LOL! Well, it's less "testing" than that they earn my trust, Ferdy. I can usually just tell how much someone cares by how often they are in contact with me, how interested they are in what's going on in my life...if they're there for me when I need them (which really isn't that often..I'm a loner type). And if someone does these basic things for me, I then feel comfortable doing the same for them. If there's a severe slacking off in those areas, I don't hang around for more. The key for me is letting the man set the pace. I don't pursue. If he wants me, he can come and get me, or someone else will. 😉