I need some advice puhlease!!

Hey y?ll, i know, i know..ive got a cheek coming back here for more pelters, but i need some advice.

You know the bad scorp that didnt buy me a Christmas present, and then he did something else bad on top of that? Well, i told him never to phone or text me again because i wasnt interested in any of his crap. And he didnt, until recently..about 2 weeks ago. Since then he says he wants to see me again, and on Friday it was his mum?s birthday and he wanted me to join them. I didnt, but im thinking about him again. Do you think this means he likes me for real, or just like before?? No nasty comments please!!

haha - he probably really liked you all along or he wouldn't have invited you to the family party.

Does he like you more now? You can bet your ass he does.

Is he gonnna hurt your delicate sensibilities again? probably.

Will you be better able to deal with it now? Go find out.

Good luck you can always come back here for advise

Sola,

I vaguely remember your story. Something about a sweater?! Some people are not good in the gift giving department. You cannot put them down for that. A gift is not important. What is important is how they feel about you. BUT, most of us relate gifts to how much one cares about us. The more personal the gift, the more the person cares. Or so is the belief. (Which is the way I feel) I have a little story for you:

My mother has been married to her husband for 20 years. Every year for her birthday he takes her ice fishing. Romantic huh? He doesn't do anything for Valentine's day. I guess that holiday has no significance for him. But here's the best part. On Christmas, he gives her gifts HE wants. Last year she got a portrait of Abrahan Lincoln. She's not into art or presidents. But he is. The year before she got one of those things that goes into your car and help you find your destination. It ended up in his truck. She has never used it. Three years ago she got some kind of complicated calculator thing. She never saw it again after Christmas day. He uses it. So my point is, they are in love. But his gifts are not personal. (Except to him) Should she give up on the relationship? Is it worth getting upset over? She has learned to deal with it and understand his gifts aren't a reflection of his feelings. It's just that he is an IDIOT in the gift giving department. So, if you think he is more than just the gifts he gives (or doesn't give) go for it. Just DON'T be disappointed during holidays. You chose to be with someone who can't give presents. Just like my mother.

I know it does. Like I said, I vaguely remember the story. I just had to add my little story about gift giving.

So let me guess, your man gave you and IOU for a vacuum?

Well, that's understandable. I have asked for appliances before.

I try to buy her very personal gifts to make up for his stupidity. Something to make her feel special. Something to make her know I was thinking of HER.

It's hurtful, but I guess after you realize it's just the way that person is, you don't take it personal.

LOL EG! That's the way to go!

Yes, she realizes that. I still think he is an asshole!!!

Ha ha it like a Bad single

Band: Big Asshole

A side :Change
B side :make up for it in other ways

love the Bside, Aside is crap

Im with emeraldgem guys...thanks anyway!! I dont know what to do..nothing to with (lack of) presents!! My head says no,no no!! But the heart of a Libra is stronger..damnit!! Guess i just have to see where it goes.

p.s, emerald, i do need to sit down and have some tea (milk, no sugar)!!

Even money on Sola

2:1 for you notso

Thanks sweetie. Maybe point it at my head though, shoot some sense into my dumb head!!!

*giggles*

Sola please Please PLEASE!!! leave the scorpio alone...for good....forever....try, just try...one more please, please.

Advice given.

I hereby declare that I will no longer associate with the above mentioned Scorpio ever again, nor shall i encourage any romantic notions about him . In breaking this declaration i accept FULL responsibility for any loss of sanity and will not request help from Sorpio persons on DXP!!

Sola...sobs.

Sola we're here for you. Anytime, we're ALL your sponsors.

~Kicks Tanya in the shins~

Why rip the paper?

Thanks Lady M, you?re a sweetie!!

Im trying woman, im trying!! He?s like a bad drug, a baaaad drug...im addicted, i need help. But im not going to relapse, i decided, he?s not worth it!!

Use that libra charm on the aqua 😉

Yeah, im sure he?s a great guy (when he?s not shagging about in front of my face and using me)!!

Im having scrambled eggs and crepe and sausage...all made by moi 🙂

Mmmmm, its nearly dinner time here!!

I love scrambled eggs with cheese in it...divine and calorificYeah, re the Scorp, he?s the one doing the chasing, but i just lost interest, ooops!!

oh yes, 3 cheeses in mine.

Please sop, im starving!! I have to go and eat now, thanks guys. Later x x

mmmmm ketchup...

later sola

I MISS him too.

sheds a tear ::sigh::

hahahahha........SOLA - if you decide to take your chances with this guy again, you are forbidden to whine, complain or otherwise solicit this board for any further advice.

Don't listen to them Sola. They're not even Scorps.

Love is the drug - drink deep baby

*pan in on a calm blue ocean, Sola standing alone in a life raft, scorp is swimming the tow line, Sola lashes him with the other end*

She shouts*

Didn't I tell you not to mess with those Biches

He sent me thhis yesterday afternoon:

!Are you out? Im at home, tired after a hard week at work. I dont like this word, but you know i love you..kiss"

Ohmygod.

Watcha gonna do about it?

Dont know VAL can you help me?

Its so unexpected and random...he acts the opposite!!

Yeah JD is probably right-its probably why he blanked you when they were together.

Gotta sharpen up girl, have the courage to follow your heart.

that time may come - for now I'd just keep it casual.

I totally agree emeraldgem, and i also definately keeping it casual, he?s too late to come waltzing back with the "L" word.

Scorpio?s and mothers...i dont get that. I mean we all have mothers..i dont get the whole ode to motherhood crap..what about our fathers too. I have zero interest in her anyway. I?ll keep you posted coz i dont know what the hell im going to do..i think its too late for him.

final thoughts- words rarely match the actions regardless of how they appear after the fact.

you do what you want, you see what you want, and you remember it the way you want.

Well tonight i asked him if he wnted to come round after work and he said no. I just told him we can be friends because the time is just never right for him. He said ok, so i guess its ended better than it could have done!! I dont know how i feel, but his lack of effort has disappointed me. Never mind...some you win, some you lose.

some you win, some you lose.

and some you just don't know

What do you mean by that VAL? I know that he doesnt know what he wants and that?s he?s probably already sorry. We can be friends..i have no problem with that at all.

There is no "relationship" gem!! Well, not in a romantic sene anyway.

With you?!

He really didnt have to say the L-word. It sucks completely that he did, and yet allows his acionsto fall way short of it.

his actions to ...sorry, my tears have damaged the keyboard.

Scorps are evil....run sola...dont look back ....yet.....

oh ok, good job sola...now here's mr aqua 🙂

I mean if things seem to be working out for the best we think we are winning and the opposite for losing, but many times you just don't know.

I'm not sayin you should do this or that-it makes no difference to me. Like I already said you're gonna do what you want anyway. I'm just showing you how i see it.

Lady M, are you laughing at me missy?! You should...scorps, aqua?s...i should inally accept that the problen is ahem....me??

LOL @ bling
you always speak the truff 😛

Im not laughing at you, im congratulating on a job well done for ending things...for now...

Yes, I do think you too are the problem...leave men alone for awhile and understand your own self...

Feck off Bling..whats an easy lay? Doing once, twice, 20x. Cant people enjoy sex without a label being attached?? Sex doesnt even come into the problem..i?d be doing it with someone else anyway, with or without mr scorp on the scene.

P.s, i understand myself perfectly. Spanish men are queer, and im better off in Escocia where the men are decent. I love men, men love women..men love me anyway. So what, im full of it..experiance counts.

Its Spanish for Scotland..sorry!

No, Bling meant "easy" alright...he?s a bad man!! 🙂

I dont take what i get, im lucky i can choose. I just dont get the need to lie about feelings. If they?re arent any..go away. Like Beyonce says "I can have another you in a minute..."!