Is dating someone worth it these days?

I've dated a lot over the years but no one really the past year and I have had over the years close and regular male freinds. The last guy I dated however was last fall 2013.

But I do have several platonic male friends and mostly male coworkers that I happen to be around alot and dealing with them as freinds is frustrating at times to the point where its just a turn off and I don't wanna date if that's how they will always be.

I mean back in the day in high school/college, men were easier to be around. They weren't always so conflicting or conveyed mixed messages. They weren't harder to talk either at least that's how I remember.

Is it something I'm doing wrong or just one of those time periods that we all go through?

Posted by IAmMystified
I've dated a lot over the years but no one really the past year and I have had over the years close and regular male freinds. The last guy I dated however was last fall 2013.

But I do have several platonic male friends and mostly male coworkers that I happen to be around alot and dealing with them as freinds is frustrating at times to the point where its just a turn off and I don't wanna date if that's how they will always be.

I mean back in the day in high school/college, men were easier to be around. They weren't always so conflicting or conveyed mixed messages. They weren't harder to talk either at least that's how I remember.

Is it something I'm doing wrong or just one of those time periods that we all go through?

Pretty sure they think you're exciting and fun to be around, too.

Dating is non existent for me as well. One shitty boyfriend that ended in 2008. Im keeping hope alive for 2015. Lol. Im playing the odds.

"Is dating someone worth it these days?"

No, dating is not worth anymore.
It's currently only a displacement of frustration from A to B and from B to C and so forth.
Hence the bunch of sad stories in freind circle and in the Internet forums.


The actual issue is how can we come to children.

On the other hand Kaley Cuoco (sag sun/merc/uranus) is married now. She has
Mars in Libra,
Moon in Cancer and
Venus in Scorpio.

Everything would be all right if we could perform surgery on horoscope charts and implant some Libra and cancer into them.

Posted by jeannegrey
Two things.

1. I think the older one gets, what they need/desire from others in terms of relationships as well as general life's priorities and views change. What I mean is, partnership and even friendhsip takes on a new role as we get older. Needs change and so do priorities.

2. I also think the older we get the more stuck in our own ways we become, and the more baggage we OURSELVES are carrying. I think its important to be aware of what you yourself are contributing to others lives in addition to being aware of what you need from others.

Self-awareness is key, and unfortunately it is sorely lacking in most people...

Lastly, if you need a break from dating, take one!! There are no RULES regarding to matter. I myself am taking my first break from dating since HS now, and I turned 30 yesterday. Its been nice. I have no timeline, I am jsut tryign to work on other things...hobbies... friendhsips, get some money saved, travel a bit this year around the countries where I am posted. Its not a race--the dating scene. And that stuff happens when you least expect it. But it won't happen if, 1. you are not open to it, and 2. you are not aware of your own shortcomings and stregnths as a potential partner.

I'm doing the same things with my life right now...working out, trying to travel, obtain solid friendships, building career higher, financial stability. I just feel like with the dating I've done especially the recent couple of years hasn't really developed into anything substantial. I dated someone for around 6 months (fall of 2013) and we were with each other alot some days once a week other weeks 4x a week. But all it really amounted to was just doing activities together and talking about our lives but it never GREW into anything even though we were similar people and never really argued. It just felt like it was either a waste of time or dating / relationships have a new definition these days.

I even look at the male friends I have who are in relationships whether its LTR, Engagments or Marriage...even they are with their friends more than their significant others. I find the whole thing weird.

No but see, dating was never as worth it as focusing on becoming a legend was. Go out, do something monumental, and along the way you probably will find someone who doesn't get in the way of that.