@Shagattarius
14 Years
Is it too late?
Oh and when he asked if I was staying he meant staying the night, forgot to type that.
God I really need to proof read. His birthday is wednesday so if anything I will send him a happy birthday text that day.
::::: shakes head :::::
You were supposed to do what came natural .. not partake in something that makes you uncomfortable .
For christ sake ........
Posted by P-Angel
::::: shakes head :::::You were supposed to do what came natural .. not partake in something that makes you uncomfortable .
For christ sake ........
Believe me I am shaking my head too! First person I've been with since getting out of a marriage.
I hate when guys act like an octopus and move so fast that it's hard to say stop
The fact that you can't say stop, isn't directly related to the other persons movement .. it's related to your inability to control yourself.
If you, or any woman, wants to not go that far, and you do because you are unable to control your own self ... then in essence, by your avoidance in telling him no, or stoppping it .. you give the suggestion of "go" by means of signals.
You may blame what happens after that on yourself .... and not the guy for acting upon the sign you give him.
This guy has his Moon, mercury, and sun (all in scorpio) in his seventh house. But his longest relationship was 9 months and he's about to be 38. UGH! I'm so confused and too top it off I feel like I'm in high school! 😢
Posted by Shagattarius
This guy has his Moon, mercury, and sun (all in scorpio) in his seventh house. But his longest relationship was 9 months and he's about to be 38. UGH! I'm so confused and too top it off I feel like I'm in high school! 😢His longest relationship was 9 months and he's 38??
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HUGE red flag right?? He gave me two reason why his relationship don't last. 1.Because he's always got something going on, something he's working towards I'm guessing and just doesn't have the time to put in to a relationship. 2. Because they always want something more and he can't give it to them.
Yeah I know, what am I thinking? I like the challenge.
like an idiot, I said that I wanted to have sex with him but have a tendency to become attached once I do that, hence the waiting part. WH DID I SAY THAT?!?!?! He laughed and said "oh". No big deal. But it was weird.
wow, i can't believe you said that. you must have felt so nervous. or was that sag foot in mouth disease? 😛
err yeah he might actually respond to your honesty, as a scorp. as a venus sag, he should know all about impulsiveness 😛 but as a guy? it sends panic waves of 'oh no, she might be a clinger'. which i'm not saying you are. it just could come off that way. guys tend to take much longer to get emotionally attached than us. and a woman moving at or appearing to move at a fast pace will freak him out.
sounds like dude just needs a bit of breathing space, i doubt you've blown it.
like an idiot, I said that I wanted to have sex with him but have a tendency to become attached once I do that, hence the waiting part. WH DID I SAY THAT?!?!?! He laughed and said "oh". No big deal. But it was weird.
wow, i can't believe you said that. you must have felt so nervous. or was that sag foot in mouth disease? 😛
err yeah he might actually respond to your honesty, as a scorp. as a venus sag, he should know all about impulsiveness 😛 but as a guy? it sends panic waves of 'oh no, she might be a clinger'. which i'm not saying you are. it just could come off that way. guys tend to take much longer to get emotionally attached than us. and a woman moving at or appearing to move at a fast pace will freak him out.
sounds like dude just needs a bit of breathing space, i doubt you've blown it.
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haha At least once a day I put my foot in my mouth. I AM clingy, very, well until I trust someone. I've been playing it very cool since we started talking. Not texting a whole lot. Never calling or facebooking. But that night I think something just didn't feel right. I tend to do the opposite when I feel like something thinks I'm really in to them. I go cold and act very aloof. Typical I suppose. I really hope I didn't blow it.
like an idiot, I said that I wanted to have sex with him but have a tendency to become attached once I do that, hence the waiting part. WH DID I SAY THAT?!?!?! He laughed and said "oh". No big deal. But it was weird.
wow, i can't believe you said that. you must have felt so nervous. or was that sag foot in mouth disease? 😛
err yeah he might actually respond to your honesty, as a scorp. as a venus sag, he should know all about impulsiveness 😛 but as a guy? it sends panic waves of 'oh no, she might be a clinger'. which i'm not saying you are. it just could come off that way. guys tend to take much longer to get emotionally attached than us. and a woman moving at or appearing to move at a fast pace will freak him out.
sounds like dude just needs a bit of breathing space, i doubt you've blown it.
haha At least once a day I put my foot in my mouth. I AM clingy, very, well until I trust someone. I've been playing it very cool since we started talking. Not texting a whole lot. Never calling or facebooking. But that night I think something just didn't feel right. I tend to do the opposite when I feel like something thinks I'm really in to them. I go cold and act very aloof. Typical I suppose. I really hope I didn't blow it.
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lol awww! maybe subconsciously you dropped that line to stop things going too far...knowing it would put him off a bit? just take your time, you don't sound 100% sure about him. if there's red flags or you need to know more about him, don't hit the bedroom. you don't want to end up getting attached too soon without knowing where things might be going.
oh, and i caught he's 38? with his longest relationship being 9mths...hmm. could be a committment phobe. in which case, go even slower. and he's a scorp, he could have major trust issues. again, i would take full sex off the menu till you're more sure about him and what you both want 🙂
Thanks for all the tips! I also told him I did his chart and knew about his 7th house cluster treetrunk of scorpio in there. Then when I asked him about his longest relationship he got nervous and said, "oh your asking me because of my chart huh". I told him no, just making conversation. I feel like I may be a bit too forward for him. I tend to speak freely, not enough reserve. Who knows, clearly I have no game. lol
so you like em older huh? 🙂
theres like a 10 year ago difference or something right? hes pluto in libra, 38 and your pluto in scorpiom saturn in scorpio, so that would put you at 27 or even younger.
Posted by DMV
so you like em older huh? 🙂theres like a 10 year ago difference or something right? hes pluto in libra, 38 and your pluto in scorpiom saturn in scorpio, so that would put you at 27 or even iyounger.
its cool, do ya thing.
I think it's just that first time sex thing where you both are waiting on the other to say something.
When I was dealing with the scorp with those placements I forgot how things went but he pretty much txt me every morning and I remember the first yr i meet him my birthday came and he sent me a txt to call him that morning so I did and he had a ring tones that was singing happy birthday to me. He was and still is very sweet but I think I was giving him a lot of energy back that I really like him so he mirror that same feeling to me if you come off like you might ignored him one day or don't want to spend the night he might think you are not that into him.
Posted by scorpdiva
I think it's just that first time sex thing where you both are waiting on the other to say something.When I was dealing with the scorp with those placements I forgot how things went but he pretty much txt me every morning and I remember the first yr i meet him my birthday came and he sent me a txt to call him that morning so I did and he had a ring tones that was singing happy birthday to me. He was and still is very sweet but I think I was giving him a lot of energy back that I really like him so he mirror that same feeling to me if you come off like you might ignored him one day or don't want to spend the night he might think you are not that into him.
What a clever thing to do with the birthday ringtone. Good point with it being akward but I'm pretty sure I treetrunked it up. I'm ok with it for now though. I would think that because he's the guy he should call first. Dating is so silly, but I like the roller coaster. In order to appreciate the highs I have to go through the lows. It beats being bored...
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This is a follow up to my post about "sex on the second date".
Well we had our date, I didn't sleep with him but we did fool around. It was SO AKWARD! I just wasn't able to let go, he moves so fast. We were kissing than before I knew it he was naked. haha So like I said we did other things. After we were done, like an idiot, I said that I wanted to have sex with him but have a tendency to become attached once I do that, hence the waiting part. WH DID I SAY THAT?!?!?! He laughed and said "oh". No big deal. But it was weird. He asked me if I was staying I said no and left about 30 minutes later. He gave me a quick peck (usually kisses me a little longer) and I left. I have no heard from him at all. It's monday morning now and I left his house at like 1a.m. on friday. Did I blow it with him?? I knows he's a venus in Sag but he's still a total scorpio. I met him at his work place and we would talk all the time. Well one day I didn't feel like saying hi, ignored him, and for the next few times after that you could tell he was mad about it. Would make it pretty clear that he was ignoring me after that. Then we would get cornered somewhere and everything would be fine again. I'm not playing a game this time but I haven't gone out of my way to text him since friday either. I don't want to come off as clingy, which I was that night. All I wanted to do was cuddle. I'm such an idiot. Any advice??