judgemental scorpio men

are you all like this? would you, for example, completely stop speaking to someone over something you heard about them in a bar? without even checking with that person if there was any truth in the rumour? this happened to me a couple of times recently with a scorp. first time, he grovelled and scraped and i gave him a second chance. 2nd time, he's not getting a chance to ATTEMPT grovelling and scraping.

worse thing is that this man lives near me. his car was parked outside the store i wanted to go to on saturday and i sat in my car for a few minutes having a debate with myself as to whether i should brazen it out, strut into the store and at least get a deathstare in...or if i should rise above it, not scrape my keys down the length of his shiney ostentatious "i'm superior to you" jaguar and drive to another store instead.

can't believe it but i did the latter. not sure if it was classy or gutless, lol but whatever.

personally, if i hear something about someone i know...i go immediately to that person and ask them about it (only if it's something that's relevant between me and that person) cos i always assume gossip is just that and you never know at what stage of hyperbole you're at when your getting told it.

i've noticed this judgemental streak before in scorp males. any girls like this too? what's your view on gossip. could it be that perhaps just the fact there is gossip out there about someone makes them someone you don't want to 'associate' with...doesn't matter if it's true or not?

surely if you care about someone or at least want to care for someone, their word has greater weight than that of others or is it just me?

well, it was a few weeks back he stopped talking to me and i won't stand for that crap so i told him that he'd better respond to my call or i would just turn up at his office and he could tell me about it there. i got an instant response unsurprisingly. said he would call but chickened out and sent an email not detailing the gossip but just saying he had heard things about me that he felt uncomfortable with and that i use people and have no sense of decency.

absolutely ridiculous. he was told this in a bar i've never been to by someone i've never spoken to. i've ignored the email and have no intention of speaking to him again.

so anyway...i did tell him to grow up, he did talk about it and just emphasised how much of a dick he really is!

i thought it was quite scorpionic..particularly for the guys. how many zillions of threads are there on here about guys just cutting a girl dead without reason. at least with us girls, there's been an incident before the silence and so everyone knows why it's happening.

it's the thought of this scorp looking down his nose at me that i hate the most. 'you have many of the qualities i look for in a woman but are tarnished by so many things'....oh PLEASE!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW—

i tell you, that guy couldn't believe his luck when i said i would go out with him after 2 years of him trying. now he hides behind this superior bullshit??

i call a spade a spade personally. sometimes call a spade a diamond by mistake but i'm still direct about it. wtf is all this skirting around issues with you scorp boys?

and while i'm on full throttle..........

it's like the little snidey remarks scorp men make too which actually should be a huge red flag. for example, rather than ask if i had been seeing someone he had been told i had been seeing, he answered some random question i asked with...well, what would your last boyfriend say?

it was someone i barely knew in any case but you know what i mean? it's like they make assumptions about you based on what they've been told and go straight to snide remarks and generally making twats of themselves in the process.

Posted by Nemesis

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surely if you care about someone or at least want to care for someone, their word has greater weight than that of others or is it just me?

this is a mistake.

this is where problemos begin.

(false) expectations are the downfall of humankind. your values differ from 10 other people in here for e.g.

no. some people do not act according to how you would (or expect) them to act.

are we not just a divine bunch of monkeys?

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very true. it's a bummer though when people don't live up to expectations...and in this case, he created a different expectation after the first time he threw a wobbly over gossip about me...he said he'd been childish and that he didn't give a fuck what people said and then he went and did it all over again. so whereas i was surprised the first time, i was pretty livid the second time.

there's a difference between someone not living up to your expectations to them creating false ones.

Posted by Nemesis
c??est la vie i suppose, it's a matter of perspective 🙂

if i look at somebody/myself from a different angle; will it change things? 😉

yes, i believe it does change things if you take a different perspective on someone/yourself. seeing is believing and so changing your view can change your beliefs, n'est pas?

no i have no clue if they are warrantable things he's heard or not. he's only told me what he's DEDUCED from what he's heard and not the detail. he can come crawling back as much as he likes. i have no interest in a man like that.

to give you an example of the kind of gossip there is where i live which is mostly circulated by the kids on their blackberrys after listening in to their parents in the bars (i'm talking english people living in spain...dregs of society)..my 13 year old daughter was told that a friend of mine's husband has been fucking boys and that another friend of mine's bf has cheated on her 4 times and is talking about proposing to her.

proper sick stuff. i can't even imagine what the scorp was told about me. i am an extremely private person and therefore a top target for speculation and gossip. i don't give a crap to be honest, unless it slips out of someone's mouth when i'm in earshot or my kids hear anything about me. then i give a fucking crap for sure! and even in that situation, i don't retaliate by saying what i think through any fucking grapevine cos like i said, i prefer the direct approach.

i have absolutely no expectations any more. like shakespeare said: "expectation is at the root of all heartache"....and so it is.

no i don't think i'm resigned in a bad way to having no expectations. it's more that i accept it's wiser not to have them. one thing i can say for sure is that i am always myself..even on here...too lazy to be anything else truth be known, lol. besides, i like me. someone has to 😄

someone did it to my car once and i wouldn't do it cos i love cars too much. they have feelings too, even a stuck up jaguar.

i had a really flashy TVR when it was keyed by a some drunken knobhead with issues with me....but the thing that really piised me off was that he also stubbed his cigarette out on the perspex rear window of the soft top. TreVoR was humiliated by that experience and was never the same car again.

it's just a step too low for me to stoop to, tempting as it was to see his face, lol.

the trouble where i live is that the chances of bumping into the very people you want to avoid are ridiculous. today i was late going to meet my daughter at the school bus stop and so i had only thrown something over my bikini, as i chose to 'work' al fresco considering it's scorchio 😛

i was helping my friend take the roof down of her convertible and saw his car coming past. he didn't realise that i knew he was there and so i watched him out of the corner of my eye as he drove slooooooooowly past with his fucking eyes on stalks.

felt like waving my booty around yelling how he didn't want to be associated with it, lol. fucker.