Leo man [me] Scorpio woman [her]

Ok, so before I begin, let me tell you why I've decided to venture into this dark realm of the Scorpio forum. I need some damn answers because it's not easy to understand my Scorpio woman. So I guess I'm hoping for a ray of light within your mystical world.

I've been with her for almost a year now and it's not been easy. As a Leo, I don't demand attention - I expect it. I'm direct, literal and expressive. Everything she isn't. But I can't help but feel my soul gravitate toward her. My ego tells me "it's not worth it, her aura will put out your flame and you'll lead a miserable life" by my faith says "give it time and you will work things out".

You can guess by now that I'm torn between how I feel and what I believe. I wish it was easy for her to communicate with me so that we can work things out. Unfortunately however, this platform of communication is so freakin fragile that I gotta be careful of the words I use to express myself, even if they have no malicious intent - somehow everything I say is interpreted the wrong way - even if I take extra precaution to avoid a misunderstanding.

I've never ever been the one to chase someone - when I was single, I had upto 90 girls after me, I've lived that life style of being free and having fun. But I got bored of it all because I wanted someone who could compel me with real substance. And now that I've found it, I feel like it's drowning me. How do I get her to be as transparent as I am? Without clear communication, you're bound to have misunderstandings which inevitably lead to arguments. The more frequent arguments are, the closer we get to killing this relationship.

If you have a solution - please enlighten me.

Thank you.

Start courting her again. Real dates with real substance.

You're connection is superficial, imo.

I have to court her for her to abide a fundamental law of a relationship that is communication?

Yea that sounds like an issue.

Have you spoken to her about this?

I would tell her- that because she places such a high value words, you've consistently censored yourself as a means to not offend her.

They can't handle lack of transparency from there partners, so if you tell them that you've been holding back from saying things- She should adjust her behavior.

Um- So about her being more open- I don't really have a solution. She either is going to be- Or not going to be. A technique i use to really get to know someone is to respond to any questions with ridiculously broad and short answers- people can't handle silence, so they will tend to talk and share more about themselves.

You certainly can try- She might suspect something is up since you've known each for so long- but meh, its's worth a shot.

GL 🙂

Let's see if it were me...

I'd probably feel like I couldnt express myself, since miscommunication leads to arguments Id probably assume you'd be judgmental and resort to silence is cd the conflict isn't worth it. I tend to compare mentalist and figure if GE other party is no good at coming to a solution, I can reach one alone, internally. Obviously no good when in a relationship with someone who is really interested in fixing stuff.

She is ultimately declining to open up to you, which is a real issue. Idk about the other placements, but I absolutely cannot open up to someone I don't feel comfortable with even if we're family. But if i can trust them, I can communicate fine. Maybe something about yall is putting her off. Maybe she's immature. Or maybe you guys weren't ever really that deep to begin with. Is this a new issue?

You should tell her how you feel without mentioning her faults. So instead of "you make me feel like i can't communicate with you" try "I feel like it's hard to express how I feel peacefully, and I'd really like to do that so we can clarify" or "I'm interested in knowing how you really feel so we can be better" instead of "why can't you just tell me what's wrong with you?"